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mind the walrus posted:loving Boomer. "I'm a giant manbaby who pretends being a workaholic is a substitute for a personality and was competent/lucky enough to avoid needing to challenge this assumption in any way for decades. I'm absolutely going to have a mid-life crisis when I realize my kids see me as a stranger, my wife has resented me the entire time, and my societal conditioning has me believe flashing cash at a teenager is a substitute for vitality." The issue wasn't even the regular arrangement! If he's just said "oh I'm so sorry you're sick honey" and then muddled through and showed up to work late with a sloppy tie he'd have been fine. "Oh yeah I was pretty lost without you, I really appreciate you honey". Call from work to check on her, pick up some flowers on the way home. If you're going to substitute work and money for a personality then use that money to help the people you claim to care about and make them feel appreciated. Buy her some jewelry or some poo poo and refrain from complaining because she was sick.
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Uncle Enzo posted:The issue wasn't even the regular arrangement! If he's just said "oh I'm so sorry you're sick honey" and then muddled through and showed up to work late with a sloppy tie he'd have been fine. "Oh yeah I was pretty lost without you, I really appreciate you honey". Call from work to check on her, pick up some flowers on the way home.
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Uncle Enzo posted:The issue wasn't even the regular arrangement! If he's just said "oh I'm so sorry you're sick honey" and then muddled through and showed up to work late with a sloppy tie he'd have been fine. "Oh yeah I was pretty lost without you, I really appreciate you honey". Call from work to check on her, pick up some flowers on the way home. This reminds me of my dad a good deal. When I was a kid, I would pack his lunch for him while mom made him breakfast and his lunch sandwich. And when he got home, he'd toss his lunch bag in the kitchen, and I'd have to run over and unpack whatever was left. Then I graduated to making his sandwich and packing his lunch. No, I never got thanked for it. No, my brother was never expected to do the same. Yes, my dad tried to "incentivize" me to learn to drive by making me iron all of his laundry. Somehow I was the only teen not insanely eager to drive, after ironing skid marks in the 20th pair of tighty whities. Oh gently caress I hate math. AITA for yelling at my MIL in front of our family when she tried to convince me to have a gender reveal party even when I explicitly said I didn't want one? quote:The other day I (27F) had a horrible fight with my husband a (41M) and he decided that we should work things out and he left our three kids (4f, 1f, 2 month old) with his parents. Fortunately we were able to talk and now we are on good terms so today we decided to pick them up from their home.
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Dik Hz posted:You literally just did that. Someone: You never hear about poly relationships going well Him: mine is fine, which is boring so nobody writes about it You: First hand experience is a perfectly fine argument against a "never".
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# ? Nov 19, 2021 02:51 |
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mllaneza posted:If the husband doesn't have seven hills to die on, he isn't serious. Halloween Jack posted:You can't win this, he's got seven of 'em. I see you and appreciate you.
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One of my sisters is in a poly relationship. She has her partner and then the other boyfriend, who has a wife of his own. Her partner dates other women sometimes, but I don't think he has any single person he's become as attached to. But I also know that in her case, she had decided to embrace being poly before she met her partner, rather than it being something they decided on after being in a relationship for a while. It was always just how they were, and they've been together for, jeez, maybe close to a decade now? She says it's about communication and honesty above all. If you want it to work, you really have to be able to sit down and talk about your feelings openly. She's good at that. So is my brother in law. So it works for them. She's suggested to me that since I'm more or less asexual but not aromantic I might consider dating in the poly community, if the idea of my significant other having sex with someone else doesn't bother me. It doesn't, but also the whole thing seems like way too much work to me and I think I just like being single. Anyway yeah, healthy poly relationships are out there, they can work, but you're also not going to hear about it on reddit.
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# ? Nov 19, 2021 03:13 |
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It's like Demon Cores. You only hear about the mess it makes if the screwdrivering goes wrong.
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All I know is that you never attend a party thrown by swingers, even if they promise you beforehand it's not that kind of party. Because they will invite all their swinger friends who can no longer appreciate the distinction.
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# ? Nov 19, 2021 03:43 |
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Cowslips Warren posted:Oh gently caress I hate math. Search engines are absolutely refusing to find this hit so I can't look it up myself, but how exactly does the family know about a pregnancy that fast? Even if you assume the absolute worst about everything the timing doesn't make much sense. And referring to the infant as X months instead of Y weeks makes me question its validity tbqh
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cumshitter posted:AITA for potentially ruining my classmate’s career. Good news! Here's one more career you can loving torch right there. Arsenic Lupin posted:FTFY. For an undergrad to make trouble for a senior professor in her department while she's still in his department is extremely dangerous. Academia is vicious. There was a story just last week that the woman who created the mRNA virus pissed off her research supervisor by taking another job, so he called the INS to try to get her deported. all too true, sadly. Academia and STEM is just a festering swamp of misogyny and bigotry all wrapped up in a blanket of power tripping arseholes. Megillah Gorilla fucked around with this message at 03:59 on Nov 19, 2021 |
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Nameless Pete posted:All I know is that you never attend a party thrown by swingers, even if they promise you beforehand it's not that kind of party. Because they will invite all their swinger friends who can no longer appreciate the distinction.
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Serephina posted:Search engines are absolutely refusing to find this hit so I can't look it up myself, but how exactly does the family know about a pregnancy that fast? Even if you assume the absolute worst about everything the timing doesn't make much sense. And referring to the infant as X months instead of Y weeks makes me question its validity tbqh it's still up, google just takes a bit to crawl reddit: https://old.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/qx4hxl/aita_for_yelling_at_my_mil_in_front_of_our_family/
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# ? Nov 19, 2021 04:03 |
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Ah yea they're calling that out in the comments too, looks like it got punted off of the various first pages via downvotes. She clarifies that the 2mo is closer to 3mo... except that 16 days ago she refers to the infant as 1mo. Lol how hard is it to keep your story straight, drat.
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Mx. posted:WIBTA if I have a mom’s wheelchair accessible van towed? She can get hosed. The smart thing would've been to have it towed before flashing a neon sign for her of who to retaliate against, but the second-smartest is to solve the problem now. AITA for refusing to drink a destroyed drink? quote:This happened this morning and sorta builds on an on going problem but this is the icing on the cake. For reference I (22) still live with my parents (70, 61) and they have a very “my house my rules” outlook on everything.
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Invisible Clergy posted:AITA for refusing to drink a destroyed drink?
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Arsenic Lupin posted:FTFY. For an undergrad to make trouble for a senior professor in her department while she's still in his department is extremely dangerous. Academia is vicious. There was a story just last week that the woman who created the mRNA virus pissed off her research supervisor by taking another job, so he called the INS to try to get her deported. Do you have a link where I can read more on this? Maybe I'm just sheltered but that sounds absolutely wild.
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Street Horrrsing posted:Do you have a link where I can read more on this? Maybe I'm just sheltered but that sounds absolutely wild. I mean in the old days, starting in the 1950s and going until 2021, big farm employers would routinely call up INS (now ICE) to have their workers deported before they had to pay them their last paycheck.
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# ? Nov 19, 2021 05:37 |
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I have a really close friend who just died from an asthma attack alone in her apartment. She was married but divorced because her sack of poo poo fat nerd ex-husband decided one day, "Hey, we're polyamorous! This is my girlfriend, she's gonna move in with us. Why are you upset? You're being selfish. You can date other guys too you know. We need to talk about boundaries." Just the worst guy. I'm glad his health will fail before forty as well.
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Mx. posted:WIBTA if I have a mom’s wheelchair accessible van towed? sell your car
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# ? Nov 19, 2021 06:11 |
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I bet the wife wanted to go to the bbq place the next day and OP refused.
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# ? Nov 19, 2021 06:20 |
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quote:AITA for jokingly offering to give my youngest child up for adoption?
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Cobalt-60 posted:AITA for jokingly offering to give my youngest child up for adoption? Why would you continue to associate with these people? Hopefully someday a cure for chronic doormatism is discovered.
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# ? Nov 19, 2021 06:44 |
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my "here's a carefully detailed plan to follow for us giving up our child" t shirt is getting me a lot of questions about why I won't give up my child
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# ? Nov 19, 2021 06:45 |
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yta for ever letting these loons be around your children you knew the score you let this happen
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# ? Nov 19, 2021 06:46 |
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AITA for not wanting to pay for a “gift”?quote:My husband and I purchased a home earlier in the year. It’s less than five years old so it really didn’t need any work. However, we decided to paint walls, remove the carpet, and add a bar in the basement.
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# ? Nov 19, 2021 06:58 |
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I wonder how much that lady has already made off their mother in law's completely spineless social circle
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# ? Nov 19, 2021 07:10 |
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Sunk cost invoicing. I've heard of doing that to big companies, hoping they auto-pay bills, but never personally. Extra guilt trip because she DID the work, what so you MEAN you "didn't ask for anything"?
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I thought this was posted but didn't see it, the edits/updates are ongoing... AITA for being a downer at my husband's grad celebration? quote:My (30sF) husband (30sM) is graduating college. His class decided to go out to celebrate with drinks after their exams. He said significant others weren't invited.
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Evil Willow posted:AITA for not wanting to pay for a “gift”? If MIL wants to keep the peace, how about she foots the bill for that attempt at extortion.
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ghost emoji posted:I don’t have kids but I sure think I would be horrified if I heard them imitating sex noises at a young age, let alone my own. Not writing a cutesy letter to an advice columnist bragging about how awww shucks we are just so in love!! I really hope the advice columnist explained to him that this is legally and ethically considered sexual abuse of a child and that willfully exposing a child to sexual behaviors will absolutely put you in jail Nameless Pete posted:All I know is that you never attend a party thrown by swingers, even if they promise you beforehand it's not that kind of party. Because they will invite all their swinger friends who can no longer appreciate the distinction. All the polyamorous and/or kinky people I know won’t even talk to swingers because their entire culture is so terrible about consent. Worse than unicorn hunters and somehow more pathetic. I’d infinitely rather hang out with relationship anarchists who are honest with their partners about their disinterest in monogamy than I would with boomers who want to get you drunk and then guilt trip you into sleeping through some wrinkly old man dick.
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Evil Willow posted:AITA for not wanting to pay for a “gift”? The balls on that women are epic, rivaling our favourite smiling man's swine.
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PancakeTransmission posted:I remember that at 11 I had already stopped believing in God by myself. I don't have any memory of believing in Santa, or rather, no memory of the point in where I realised he wasn't real. Lone Goat posted:12 is a year before high school, and absolutely not marginal to still believe in Santa its a quote, from when he asked a little kid if they still believed in Santa because at their age, it’s marginal, right?
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# ? Nov 19, 2021 08:01 |
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Megillah Gorilla posted:
You know why fights and politics in academia are so bitter and dirty? It's because the stakes are so low.
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AITA for demanding the copy of my car key back, or else I'll involve police?quote:My partner and I purchased our jeep a few months ago. We have 0 payments on it, title is in my partners name, and it is insured under us. classic lazy police "theft of a vehicle? uhhhh
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WIBTA For asking my brother for a new Christmas gift?quote:So my brother has a lot of kids with his partner but they've always been super good at saving, they have a decent savings account and are saving up for a house as they don't want to worry about keeping up with a loan. Personally, I am single and of course, have plenty to spare so when it came to getting them a Christmas gift I got them some decent items. A kindle for my brother, some non-stick pots and pans and a nice knife set for his partner, and one of those blue epoxy and timber dining tables and that's not including what I got for their children. I was so excited for them to receive their presents that I couldn't wait till Christmas and just told them to open them immediately, they, of course, love everything.
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# ? Nov 19, 2021 10:59 |
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Lmao, even if you felt that way privately being entirely comfortable revealing you're a fuckin monster is just
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# ? Nov 19, 2021 11:04 |
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Whatever OP is thinking will 100% cost less than the time and money for canvases and supplies brother put into the paintings. Doing an art ain't cheap. Also "He's saving for a house for his family, so I know he has a lot of savings to afford exxy gifts for me" is a fuckin WILD thing to say/type out loud though. Ooft
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# ? Nov 19, 2021 11:27 |
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Evil Willow posted:WIBTA For asking my brother for a new Christmas gift? r/relationships: I don't want to sound greedy, but
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# ? Nov 19, 2021 11:29 |
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Invisible Clergy posted:She can get hosed. The smart thing would've been to have it towed before flashing a neon sign for her of who to retaliate against, but the second-smartest is to solve the problem now. So I’ll be completely honest with this thread and say I think I know this person IRL-ish, and if it is, this is the least of what their parents have done (think enforced dependency, emotional abuse, a therapist who narced to their parents etc)
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Hughlander posted:I thought this was posted but didn't see it, the edits/updates are ongoing... This poor woman. She should take the deep sea fishing trip and drink cocktails the entire time and cheer on the dudes. Just to gently caress up her hopefully ex husband. Take lots and lots of pictures of the fish and send them to him. gently caress him.
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