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carry on then posted:There is though. Incels prove it. Obviously aside from those who were abused, or those who are dealing with gender or sexuality issues, or those who are physically disabled, among others, there is something very very deeply wrong with a man who isn't attractive enough to have had at least one partner by 20. Because that's always what it comes down to: you just aren't a good person. When the person who you have most in common with is Elliot-loving-Rodger, you don't really deserve love. AITA for supporting my ex husband to sue my current husband for using my son's emergency fund money for his golfing trip? quote:My F35 son (13) passed away from cancer 3 months ago. It was so devastating to me and his dad (my ex husband). And grief has been tense in those months. We were left with an emergency fund my ex husband and I saved for our son and recently I discovered that my current husband M34 used it to go on a golfing trip in another country that he just returned from. I found out via checking fianancial records and I blew up at him and asked why he used my son's money to go on a trip while I was grieving.
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sugar free jazz posted:lol what do u think an outlier is I know that there can be only one.
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I (27F) lost my virginity to my now bf (29M) 5 months ago haven’t told him I’d never had sex before thatquote:Edit:
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Dazerbeams posted:I (27F) lost my virginity to my now bf (29M) 5 months ago haven’t told him I’d never had sex before that Sorry buddy shes damaged goods
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# ? Nov 20, 2021 20:31 |
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Like, there's nothing wrong with being an older virgin, carry on then is a god drat psycho. But it's still unusual and because people question things that are unusual, welp. Some are going to be god drat psychos, but most are just going to have a "But....why?" reaction.
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# ? Nov 20, 2021 20:32 |
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titty_baby_ posted:Sorry buddy shes damaged goods I'll have to clarify, this is sarcasm based on the opinion of another poster in this thread. This is actually wholesome and it sounds like he'll accept it and be fine
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# ? Nov 20, 2021 20:32 |
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titty_baby_ posted:Sorry buddy shes damaged goods No, she isn't. I have been very clear on viewing this issue through the lens of a patriarchical society. My statements apply to cishet men.
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carry on then posted:No, she isn't. I have been very clear on viewing this issue through the lens of a patriarchical society. My statements apply to cishet men. you’ve been banned a lot lol
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# ? Nov 20, 2021 20:34 |
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titty_baby_ posted:Sorry buddy shes damaged goods I am not saying you are damaged, I am just saying something is probably wrong if you are a virgin in your 20s. And something was wrong in this case, (she lost 50 pounds).
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carry on then posted:No, she isn't. I have been very clear on viewing this issue through the lens of a patriarchical society. My statements apply to cishet men. To be fair I didnt pay much attention to your posts
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# ? Nov 20, 2021 20:35 |
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"Virginity" is a patriarchal and outdated term. The modern term is sexual debut. "Virginity" is something you lose or take, sexual debut is something you are an active participant in. It's also not limited to or associated with PIV sex like "virginity". Get with the times, goons. https://www.bbc.com/worklife/article/20210921-should-we-re-brand-virginity
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Dazerbeams posted:I (27F) lost my virginity to my now bf (29M) 5 months ago haven’t told him I’d never had sex before that Dude needs to run before she becomes a violent, uncontrollable rapist/stalker. Disappointing but thems the rules.
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Dazerbeams posted:I (27F) lost my virginity to my now bf (29M) 5 months ago haven’t told him I’d never had sex before that She should thank her boyfriend for saving her from becoming a mass shooter.
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EIDE Van Hagar posted:I am not saying you are damaged, I am just saying something is probably wrong if you are a virgin in your 20s. Oh man, Teen Witch is gonna LOVE you saying being heavyset is wrong.
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Should I (19m) keep my stuffed animals on my bed when I have girls over?quote:I’ve been at college for a couple months, and in my dorm I keep two stuffed animals. One’s a big bear, (the size of a small child) and ones’s a little penguin (small enough to hold in one hand). While I love my stuffed animals and they help me a lot with my stress and anxiety, they do present a bit of a conundrum whenever I have girls over: should I hide them? On the once hand, I don’t want girls to think I’m weird, and a straight college aged guy having stuffed animals might seem pretty strange. On the other hand though, I think authenticity is important, and having stuffed animals is a part of who I am as a person. What do y’all think? How to tell my boyfriend to stop buying me stuffed animals quote:We’re together for almos 4 months and basically he(M27) once asked me if I(F20) like plushies and well, I fon’t despise them so I said yes. I do have some stuffed animals in my room but only a couple ones which have a special meaning to me. So he gifted me the first one, a ≈30 cm kitty. I was content since I found it cute. Then after like a month he gave me another small one and said “I’ll help you start a collection of these” to which i replied jokingly that he will drown me if he continues since I don’t have much space in my room for them. I tried to give him the hint that it was enough in the most lightweight way possible and after that i thought he understood. I THOUGHT. About 2 months passed and the other day he messaged me something like “I got you a BIG gift at the flea market today. It’s something you like you’ll love it for sure” (we’re both passionate about flea markets) And I was like :0 wow maybe he found a functioning polaroid or something like that since i like photography,, or maybe idk something that had to do with my hobbies (art, movies, books etc..) I went to his home the day later and when giving me the gift he made me enter his room with my eyes closed,, all of that- and I was so so excited. Then I opened them. And there it was. An enormous stuffed Toothless from Dragon Trainer looking directly at me. Basically he saw my brother’s dragon trainer dvd in my living room when he came to my home once, and not knowing whose dvd was he assumed I’m a HUGE fan of dragon trainer. Which I’m not. Plus honestly plushies in general are the last thing I would get at a flea market for sanitary reasons. I don’t think he will be upset if I tell him I don’t want stuffed animals anymore but I don’t want to make him sad so I’m looking for the nicest way possible to tell him-and make him comprehend once and for all-That I don’t want stuffed animals anymore. Also if someone knows how to tactfully get rid of the huge dragon trainer thing I would very much appreciate your advice lol My (20F) boyfriend (19M) wants a giant stuffed goat in our apartment. quote:So, for context, we live in a 650sqft 1 bedroom apartment.
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Batterypowered7 posted:Oh man, Teen Witch is gonna LOVE you saying being heavyset is wrong. They aren’t saying it’s wrong they are saying it was the barrier to them willing to be sexual with someone. Which is pretty common tbh
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Woodchip posted:My (20F) boyfriend (19M) wants a giant stuffed goat in our apartment. Giant Mareep and 7-meter lamia dakimakura inc. MarcusSA posted:They aren’t saying it’s wrong they are saying it was the barrier to them willing to be sexual with someone. Which is pretty common tbh I was purposefully taking the least generous interpretation of their post. 'cause of all the other poo poo they've said.
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# ? Nov 20, 2021 20:42 |
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A nuanced take would be something likeelise the great posted:Virginity in an adult, like an Ayn Rand book on the shelf, is a big red flag. It’s not a dealbreaker. Context is critical: do they have the book because they’re a student of economic ethics who studies the ills of capitalist society and the fallacies that draw people into libertarian individualism? Are they a virgin at 25 because they escaped a terrible family and spent years focusing on therapy and building their own life? quote:something is wrong Also the original post was Invisible Clergy posted:AITA for not wanting to date a virgin? where the OP stated they wanted to gently caress but preferred having an experienced sexual partner and it was unclear if the guy even wanted to take physical intimacy to that level. Consent is real important and kinda complicated but it also isn't really what the post was about, y'all.
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carry on then posted:There is though. Incels prove it. Obviously aside from those who were abused, or those who are dealing with gender or sexuality issues, or those who are physically disabled, among others, there is something very very deeply wrong with a man who isn't attractive enough to have had at least one partner by 20. Because that's always what it comes down to: you just aren't a good person. When the person who you have most in common with is Elliot-loving-Rodger, you don't really deserve love. please do not spread literal incel propaganda. tia
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# ? Nov 20, 2021 20:53 |
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A Wizard of Goatse posted:extremely um *flips through twitter catchphrase glossary* colonialist of you to not understand that male virgins are virgins because they're rapists. Nice gaslighting, narcissist The Virgin Rapist/The Chad Sexhaver
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the holy poopacy posted:please do not spread literal incel propaganda. tia I hate incels, if you can't tell. Not really sure what incel propaganda dunks on Rodger.
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carry on then posted:I hate incels, if you can't tell. Not really sure what incel propaganda dunks on Rodger. You aren’t dunking on Rodger, you’re enforcing patriarchal stereotyping onto men.
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# ? Nov 20, 2021 20:59 |
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Incel propaganda is basically fuelled by them dunking on themselves and wallowing in misery. Gotta build that self loathing anger before you can deploy it.
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Batterypowered7 posted:Oh man, Teen Witch is gonna LOVE you saying being heavyset is wrong. teen witch can weather the blow I’m sure
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I participated in the virginity bet from American Pie and it has made me the well-adjusted and successful person you see today
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Dazerbeams posted:On one hand, I'm annoyed goons still haven't learned not to touch the poop. On the other hand, it's hilarious how sensitive goons are about sex-having. I mean you know it’s bad when they bust out the charts
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Woodchip posted:Should I (19m) keep my stuffed animals on my bed when I have girls over? "Stuffed" could be a good search term for completely different stories as well.
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I also get touchy about it because there is in fact, literally something physically wrong with me and my sex parts and it sucks to have some goon burst in to say there’s something unlovable about people who are virgins at older ages because I worry enough about never finding someone.
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Carry on then has absolutely bizarre takes on things and is probably best ignored tbh
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Funky Valentine posted:AITA for supporting my ex husband to sue my current husband for using my son's emergency fund money for his golfing trip? This woman really knows how to pick 'em.
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It’s not a moral judgment, it’s just that there is an age when most people start adding romantic relationships to their lives and it can be harder to catch up if you are late to get that experience. If you make it to your mid 20s you are starting to miss the boat, and you make it to 35 you are probably statistically unlikely to change that situation ever. Anything can happen for an individual, people grow and learn and try new things at different paces, but on average there is a pretty clear timeline. People can wait longer for whatever reason they choose, but on average there is probably some obstacle if they do, and most people who have no obstacles just don’t wait that long. I was originally responding to the poster who was implying it was more normal to be a 21 year old virgin than to have sex in your teens. In reality having sex for the first time as a teenager is pretty normal and if you are in your 20s you are solidly in the last decile.
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# ? Nov 20, 2021 21:29 |
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hopeandjoy posted:I also get touchy about it because there is in fact, literally something physically wrong with me and my sex parts and it sucks to have some goon burst in to say there’s something unlovable about people who are virgins at older ages because I worry enough about never finding someone. That’s really just one whacko saying that poo poo though Like yeah it’s gonna raise some eyebrows and be something that needs to be worked through a little more carefully, but if you’re with the right person it’ll probably work out fine
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EIDE Van Hagar posted:Adults who gently caress teenagers are weird, but teenagers wanting to gently caress each other is extremely normal, and not being able to seal the deal with at least one other teenager before you turn 20 is a red flag. EIDE Van Hagar posted:Boom, 90% laid before 22. This annoys me greatly. I mean, besides the whole moving goalposts thing (5% @ 20 is a red flag (when it's actually a 3:1 split, oh whooooops) to 22 is the red flag, when its still 9:1) , there's the whole comical thing of trying to label 1/10th of a population's curve as outliers. 10% Does not make you an outlier for *anything* pop-metrics related. Blood types B+ and O- are each 10% locally, home owners-by-age, marriage rates, multifamilial homes, cultural norms, the list goes on forever. I've pinged a family member who's a professional in the field for her opinion on it, I'm willing to wager that its much less than 1:20. Meantime, who the gently caress is shaming people in this day and age for being 'leftovers'? Clearly, there must be something wrong with them! That was sarcasm, by the way. edit: Goddamn this thread moves fast, I really need to scroll forward a lot before responding to things. Good to see multiple people dunking on him. Serephina fucked around with this message at 21:47 on Nov 20, 2021 |
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Woodchip posted:My (20F) boyfriend (19M) wants a giant stuffed goat in our apartment. From the comments, (A) this is not a plush. This is an actual dead goat, taxidermied. And (B)... quote:He brought it home because he thinks it’s funny to have those kinda things in the house. He gets a kick out of how annoyed I get. Him, his mom, his brother, and his sister all make fun of me for not liking the 6ft tall giraffe statue. I did get a little upset when the goat came home because I knew it was the same situation. He reacted poorly to me calling it “childish” because he is insecure about me having to “take care of him”. That’s kinda a separate issue and I tell him all the time that I don’t feel like I’m taking care of him. But yeah that’s an insecurity of his, but it’s also not what I was referring to. I was talking about all the giant animals in the house lol
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# ? Nov 20, 2021 21:43 |
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This is the absolute worst thread to be arguing about whether 20+ year old virgins are losers, damaged goods, automatic red flags, immature, more likely to be a bad partner, dangerous, actually totally normal and fine, etc. Obviously this thread is possibly the worst sample, but still. Clearly it needs to become standard practice for the titles to have not just the age and gender of the relevant characters, but also when they lost their virginity. And the age and gender of who they lost it to, just to be sure. Then we'll really be able to get to the bottom of this.
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EIDE Van Hagar posted:It’s not a moral judgment, it’s just that there is an age when most people start adding romantic relationships to their lives and it can be harder to catch up if you are late to get that experience. If you make it to your mid 20s you are starting to miss the boat, and you make it to 35 you are probably statistically unlikely to change that situation ever. For future reference, saying there's "something wrong" with someone for not loving as a teenager doesn't convey literally any of this. It conveys a moral judgement from which this feels like aggressive backpedaling.
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# ? Nov 20, 2021 21:48 |
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This thread is goddamned unreadable for the last however many pages. Content, new flavor: AITA For quitting on the spot even though we were understaff and it made my manager cry? quote:I worked at a retail store in the mall. The store is divided into men’s, women’s and children’s clothes. I always worked women’s and on the weekdays I was always the only employee in that entire section.
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# ? Nov 20, 2021 21:54 |
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Mormon Nailer posted:She kept apologizing and even burst into tears because they were understaffed. Yeah, OP is definitely the dramatic one.
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Mormon Nailer posted:This thread is goddamned unreadable for the last however many pages. Did the strange stalker man who kept calling the store first have sex before or after age 20? This is important to determine whether he is dangerous or not.
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I think what gets my goat is that wasn’t the couple in the original post having like… 2 hour “cuddle sessions”? It just sounds like the guy doesn’t know how to make a move (because he’s inexperienced) and she’s not initiating either (ETA: lol just checked and yeah, it’s a 20F and 22M in the story). Maybe if instead of posting on reddit and the two sat down and had an open and honest conversation about sex and expectations everything would be fine. Honestly people are really loving bad about consent and discussing expectations about sex & physical contact. Pressuring and judging people to gently caress before they’re old enough to understand their own autonomy and personal boundaries sucks, and we should really be encouraging people to communicate better. Crocobile fucked around with this message at 22:13 on Nov 20, 2021 |
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