Mx. posted:

AITA FOR TELLING MY MOM MY SISTER WAS SECRETLY MOVING OUT?

Propaniac posted:

AITA for always purposefully putting the grocery carts far from the cart area?

Piell posted:

AITA for not making my (32f) boyfriend (27m) adhere to a dress code my mother requested for my birthday dinner?

RoboRodent posted:

When I worked at a grocery store, carts were definitely not everyone's favourite. I never minded it, because yeah, you're outside, mostly you don't have to deal with customers, and you also didn't have to wear a face mask which was a nice break.

It is also very physical even if you limit how many carts you're pushing, and if the weather is bad you're going to be wet, or cold, or pushing through a couple inches of snow or slush, or a weird dirty slush that had the consistency of wet sand so you can only do three carts at a time. If it's hot, you're going to be sweating bullets in the middle of concrete. Carts abandoned on the far side of the shopping centre never filled me with happiness, but tired resignation, and possibly "gently caress, I don't have time to get that right now." I had indoor duties too, and sometimes I was the only clerk because it was early. On busy days the flow of carts was so steady that you'd be out there for three hours, then go in, find your partner lazily bagging, and have to force them to go take your place so you could have the lunch you were supposed to have an hour ago. And they'd argue with you.

This person's heart is in the right place, but in practice they're just making someone's job more difficult.

Ziv Zulander posted:

https://guides.brit.co/guides/make-cold-mashed-potato-and-raisins-salad

Ziv Zulander posted:

If you’re an American wishing to visit Morocco or a Moroccan wishing to visit America, you don’t even need a passport.

feedmegin posted:

Looking at that site, I don't think either the site itself or the author of that article are actually British. :P I get the impression it's Brit(tany) & Company or something.

sugar mouse posted:

I'm British and I've never come across this as a dish.

Also,

feedmegin posted:

I find this EXTREMELY unlikely and would quite like a cite.

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My (25F) husband (29M) and I are planning to have kids and are having a lot of important conversations before even attempting to conceive. Two big ones have been, who will be in the delivery room, and who will be helping us if we need help once I give birth (baby sitting, etc.).

I told him I was only comfortable with him and my mother in the delivery room. He told me that wasn’t fair because he doesn’t have a mom or dad (both passed away) and he wanted someone there for him. I asked him if he was the one pushing a baby out and then reiterated that this was my decision and mine alone as I’m the one doing the dirty work. That his only concern should be to support me.

Then I told him I didn’t want his sister taking care of my child alone because she’d racist, sexist, and just overall an idiot. She’s verbally abusive to her own daughters (making fun of their weight and depression) and that I didn’t want unnecessary confrontation when she eventually says something racist in front of my child and I have to reprimand her for it. I am non confrontational but some things require a kick in the rear end. She also keeps trying to name my un-produced child. And that my mother will be able to help whenever needed, IF needed.

He got upset over both.

Am I the rear end in a top hat?

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My husband is turning 30 next month. It's a big deal for him clearly and he wanted to rightfully be "pampered" and feel special on this ocassion.

But the thing is that he came up with a list and called it "birthday month expectations" I didn't know what that meant til he started reading the list out loud which consists of things he expects from throughout the entire month.

To give few examples: A. He is not to be asked to do any type of chores or clean or cook for a month.

B. He gets to play with his xbox for hours on end without me interrupting or nagging him about it.

C. He is not to pay his part of rent this month.

D. He gets to go out with his friends whenever he wants.

C. He gets to skip any given workday and sleep in without being bothered to wake up to drive our son to school or do any emergency fixes.

In other words he wants a month long vacation and time off from his responsibilities as a partner and as a father. I said are you being serious right now and he made a face and said " oh no worries this will only last for a month ["my birthday month"]. I called him ridiculous and said absolutely not I do not agree on anyhing on that list and said that his expectations for his birthday month was out of line. Now I have to mention that we both work but I do the majority of household chores and the majority of our son's care as well as the majority of rent, bills and internet payments and I can not afford to do what he's expecting me to do because we're struggling already and I need his help especially now. Not for him to make demands. He pitched a fit giving me grieve about how I'm being selfish towards his wants and that in my place he would've agreed to do all he could to make my ...["Birthday Month"] the happiest month of the year for me. I argued that birthday month is unheard of and just flatout ridiculous but he said that I don't understand because his parents did this for him for years and so did his friends [he never told me] so as his wife I should be happy to do it as well but I declined and refused to take it and keep arguing about it but he hasn't stopped talking about how disappointed he was that I treat his birthday like that and has been avoiding being near me making me feel like maybe I went too far here. AITA?

Arsenic Lupin posted:

AITA for calling my husband ridiculous and refusing to take the list of expectations he gave me for his ["birthday month"]?

Note that he barely does poo poo anyway.

Runcible Cat posted:

Sis's "it's for the kids I'm saving them from possible ~evil stepmother~" has a definite smell of a guilty conscience making excuses about it to me, but whether it's guilt about comforting the widower's dick before he was actually a widower or just guilt for getting with her sister's husband after she died there's no way of telling.

But OP's "oh no those poor confused children" without, apparently, ever talking to the kids is pure she is not handling her grief well in the slightest.

Mr. Lobe posted:

wala

Arsenic Lupin posted:

AITA for calling my husband ridiculous and refusing to take the list of expectations he gave me for his ["birthday month"]?

Note that he barely does poo poo anyway.

Seth Pecksniff posted:

no wonder the British had to invade half the world if this is the poo poo they produce as "food"

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I got engaged about a month ago, and my fiancé and I recently set a date for late 2023. Everyone is excited, especially my mom, and in my opinion she’s using her excitement as an excuse to ignore boundaries, but everyone (other than my fiancé) is insisting I’m in the wrong here, so I’ve come to Reddit for help.

My mom’s friend is a hairdresser. My mom has been going to her for at least 25 years, and I grew up having this woman (I’ll call her Stacy) do my hair. Stacy was great when I was a kid, but as an adult woman, Stacy is… well, she’s very nice, but sometime in the past few years she’s been incapable of doing my hair. A few examples have been:

I asked for curtain bangs and left with straight across seven-year-old bangs

I asked Stacy not to use heat on my hair (trying to protect my natural curls), and Stacy told me I didn’t have curly hair and straightened it anyway

“Jokes” about checking in with my parents to make sure they “approved” what I was doing to my hair (this lasted until I stopped seeing Stacy at 22)

The last straw was asking for a caramel balayage and leaving with level 7 or 8 highlights with a money piece because “this looks better, trust me”. She didn’t say anything to me about changing the color to look better, she just did it

So, when my mom asked if I wanted Stacy to do everyone’s hair and makeup, I said no. However, my mom kept asking. I’m not exaggerating when I say she asked almost fifteen times in two weeks, and each time I said no. Eventually my mother and I came to the consensus that the wedding would be too far away from Stacy to even ask. I thought that was that.

The next day, my mom called. She had asked Stacy to do everyone’s makeup and hair, and Stacy had accepted! Wasn’t I excited? I reminded her that I had said no, and that even though she had asked Stacy, my answer was still no. My mom just hung up, and I haven’t heard from her since.

My dad and brother, however, are blowing up my phone. They say mom has been consoling Stacy this whole time, and I’m acting like a cold-hearted brat. They think once mom asked Stacy I should have just sucked it up, because Stacy is Mom’s friend, and I’ve really hurt her by excluding her. Who cares if she screws up hair/makeup? It’s just hair, and it’s just one day. Im being a bridezilla, and it’s only a month in.

Am I being an rear end in a top hat about this?

Arsenic Lupin posted:

Comes out in the comments that the father was spending all the income from all three trusts every year, and argued that he was owed the rest because his second wife and he needed it to retire on. Glad OP listened to wives and lawyers.

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In order:

I don’t know whether he has retirement savings, but he has (well, had) a good career and access to plenty of extra cash every year. My step-mom also has a good career.

His money, just like mine, was still there and at roughly the same value as what was originally awarded.

You make a very similar point to the one my wife made, regarding our family.

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A number of people have asked what my dad needed the money for, so:

His reasons as told to me were:

He’s been a good steward for 20+ years and I have no reason not to trust him

He and my step-mom (of 20+ years, most of my life) counted on this money for retirement. Also, they are not destitute. They have an extra, just for fun sports car and a riding lawnmower worth more than my car.

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Throwaway account for obvious reasons.

I'm a 25f who recently decided to go for a look change. I damaged my hair to beyond repair the last few years and decided to shave it all off and start fresh.

My friends suggested I get a pixie cut but I figured I wouldn't mind trying the bald thing for a while. I mean it's only a few months from bald to pixie so who cares. Besides the world is still in some level of lockdown so its not like I have a huge amount of parties to attend etc.

I booked my appointment and told a couple friends. They unbeknownst to me told the hairdresser I had cancer and was shaving my head because of it.

When I get there the hairdresser shop is quiet and has her phone on the trolley thing. I think it's a bit weird but don't give it too much consideration. She starts shaving my head. Then half way through stops and starts shaving hers. Her hair was short already so it's not like long locks we're being lopped off. I was speechless and asked her what she was doing.

Apparently...shaving hers in solidarity with me. The phone was recording it. I told her to stop.

A couple things didn't sit right with me.

Obviously the first being that I didn't have cancer. So shaving in solidarity didn't mean anything. She was just shaving her head.

Why was she recording it? I mean even if I did have cancer why was she recording it? What would have been a private moment for me and she's trying to get some sort of instafame on it.

I didn't even really know her. She's cut my hair twice before. If it's your best friend then fine but a she doesn't even know me apart from random few hairdressing conversations.

I was probably a bit meaner than I should have been. I told her that she shouldn't have been shaving my head for tiktok or whatever platform she intended to put it up on. That I didn't have cancer and she looks like she's trying to use my supposed cancer to get likes. She apologised profusely and said that my friends told her about it. Now I'm annoyed at my friends. I called them up and gave them a tongue lashing.

Apparently I'm the AH because it was just a joke. I shouldn't have been so mean to the hairdresser and just stayed quiet and gone alone with it because now I've embarrassed her, and even ruined a video. They even asked me to try get them the video because apparently it makes it funnier. But I'm annoyed at both because 1. Who records a cancer hair shaving of a stranger and in solidarity. 2. Who pulls that kind of joke.

I'm sure I'm not but reddit AITAH? I feel like I'm going crazy.

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I(24f) moved out of home when I was 16 so I never experienced this "you must pay rent at 18" that my younger siblings did but I did experience my dad's assholishness and that's why I left.

My 2 younger siblings have been told they must pay $300/week in rent each for their rooms in my parents house as well as paying half the bills. (For reference we live in nz, my parents house is in the wairarapa, average rent for a room in a flat is around $180-200 tops). My sister (19f) has been paying this since she turned 18 and my younger has been paying it for the last month. I think it's ridiculous and unfair considering they're both full time uni students who travel to Wellington every day for classes and have very high transport costs already not to mention the over priced rent.

My youngest sister reached out to me after seeing that my partner(27m) who owns (half with his parents) our 2 bedroom flat in wellington wellington was advertising the spare bedroom for $200/week plus expenses. She asked to move in with us and told us how badly she was struggling to afford rent, travel, bills, food, etc. Of course we accepted and she gave 2 weeks notice to our parents. My other sister found out and asked if she could move in too. They are now both moving into the spare room in Jan when our current flatmate moves out.

Turns out our dad was in a work accident 2 years ago and hasn't been able to work full time since and mum doesn't want to return to work after being a sahm for 24 years and they were struggling to afford their expenses which is why they were charging my sisters such high rent. Frankly I think it's appalling that they were letting my sisters overwork themselves so that they didn't have to change their life style but now they might have to sell their mcmansion (8bedrooms, 4 bathrooms, 2 kitchens, pool, etc) and buy a smaller house. My mums sister (who I can't stand as she's a rich snob that looks down on everyone in the service industry) has been slagging me all over social media for making my parents homeless. I'm pretty sure that I'm not TA but my partner(who has a great relationship with his family) is convinced that I'm doing the wrong thing here. AITA?

Arsenic Lupin posted:

AITA for moving my 2 younger siblings out of home and potentially making my parents sell their house?

Arsenic Lupin posted:

AITA for moving my 2 younger siblings out of home and potentially making my parents sell their house?

Soylent Pudding posted:

AITA for hurting my mom’s friend’s feelings?

LanceHunter posted:

On the other hand, I am curious if op actually ever said "no" when asked if this hairdresser could work their wedding.

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So, when my mom asked if I wanted Stacy to do everyone’s hair and makeup, I said no. However, my mom kept asking. I’m not exaggerating when I say she asked almost fifteen times in two weeks, and each time I said no. Eventually my mother and I came to the consensus that the wedding would be too far away from Stacy to even ask. I thought that was that.

Arsenic Lupin posted:

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Eventually my mother and I came to the consensus that the wedding would be too far away from Stacy [...]

Dr. Video Games 0135 posted:

It's not spelled 'wala', persay

Dr. Video Games 0135 posted:

It's not spelled 'wala', persay