Cthulu Carl posted:

The kids should stop asking and just consume massive amounts of food that gives them the shits, then leave the bathroom door open while taking the loudest, greasiest shits humanly possible. If anyone closes the door, they open it right back up - even if it means getting up mid-chocolate fountain - and scream through the farts and the pain "WE FOLLOW THE RULES IN THIS HOUSE."

Nazattack posted:

Just go apeshit on every closed door in the house anytime you see one. Demonstrate that the lessons have been learned, WITH ENTHUSEASM. Dad pooping? MOM pooping? They have adult time?

RULES ARE RULES DAD.

Nazattack posted:

Just go apeshit on every closed door in the house anytime you see one. Demonstrate that the lessons have been learned, WITH ENTHUSEASM. Dad pooping? MOM pooping? They have adult time?

RULES ARE RULES DAD.

El Spamo posted:

They have the mentality of a Kender, "I'm just borrowing it" or some bs

kimbo305 posted:

Need the thread mugging expert to tell me if getting hugged by a stranger is a prelude to pickpocketing / purse snatching.

Piell posted:

AITA for not allowing my kids to close the room door

The_Franz posted:

that they call the living/dining room the "common study area" indicates that these people are uptight dicks. unless, of course, they live in an old mansion with an *actual* study, which is 99.9999% likely to not be the case here

Alchenar posted:

I'm reading that 'no closed doors' story closely and it sounds like the only issue is the main office room in the house and he's done the thing of phrasing the issue ambiguously but 'keep the office door open so I can be sure you aren't slacking off in study time' isn't the worst view in the world.

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whether reading, studying, gaming etc.

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I was blessed with three beautiful children and unfortunately, my eldest, Brooke, passed away when she was 5 years old. It rocked my world and I know I haven’t been the same since. I went through therapy and still attend to this day, but a part of me died too.

I will never let my daughter be forgotten. I bring pictures of her to events such as holiday celebrations and birthdays. I talk about her all the time. Every year on my living children’s birthdays, I think of her and how her once younger siblings are now older than her.

My daughter, Marnie, is getting married next month. I asked her if she was having a memorial table and she said no. I asked her about creating a seat for her sister who passed, as she should be a part of the day. Marnie told me no, for once she wants a day about her. She says she couldn’t have one event that wasn’t about Brooke. Even her graduation, I had put a picture of her on the seat. She said I needed to stop making my grief “front stage”.

I told her she was being incredibly selfish and until she goes through a loss like this, she’ll never understand. Marnie asked me if her kids would have to live under the shadow of Brooke too. I told her she should be ashamed and to get over herself.

My son says I’m being terrible and I need to re-evaluate my life. AITA?

Alchenar posted:

I'm reading that 'no closed doors' story closely and it sounds like the only issue is the main office room in the house and he's done the thing of phrasing the issue ambiguously but 'keep the office door open so I can be sure you aren't slacking off in study time' isn't the worst view in the world.

Soylent Pudding posted:

AITA for telling my daughter to get over herself?

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I feel the resentment is a two way street. My living children were too young to get their sister’s death and I had to ignore my pain a few years as they acted as though nothing was wrong. I don’t see why I should continue to hide my grief now that they can understand.

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They should miss her. Pain leads to happy memories. Why would they want to forget their sister?

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I love Marnie and my son. But I do feel I was forced to silence my grief to care for them. I eventually sent them to live with their dad for a bit, so I could focus on my grief and mourn the loss. I had partial custody after that and it’s for the best. I’m not in the position to be the mom they need.

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Even if they don’t remember her, they could humor me. Watch home movies. Look at photos. Have a drat memorial table.

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Vitruvian Manic posted:

Is the mother of the bride paying for the wedding? If so, the memorial table is lovely but absolutely something she can do. That said, it is considered best practice to make the bride the focus of the wedding day not a massive gaping open wound of a psyche.

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They were 3. She was 5.

Brooke has been gone 26 years.

I tried, but as stupid as it sounds, in grief, their issues seemed minor. “Your toy broke? At least you’re alive to play with it.” It wasn’t rational or sane, they deserved a better parent.

I love Marnie and my son. But I do feel I was forced to silence my grief to care for them. I eventually sent them to live with their dad for a bit, so I could focus on my grief and mourn the loss. I had partial custody after that and it’s for the best. I’m not in the position to be the mom they need.

It’s like they don’t want to remember her. They change the subject when I bring her up, refuse to look at old photos. I just don’t get how they can feel this way, ya know?

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Do you even want to continue to have a relationship with your living children?

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Honestly, if they refuse to honor Brooke’d memory, no.

Soylent Pudding posted:

AITA for telling my daughter to get over herself?

My living children were too young to get their sister’s death

Why would they want to forget their sister?

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They were 3. She was 5.

Brooke has been gone 26 years.

Vitruvian Manic posted:

Is the mother of the bride paying for the wedding? If so, the memorial table is lovely but absolutely something she can do. That said, it is considered best practice to make the bride the focus of the wedding day not a massive gaping open wound of a psyche.

StrangersInTheNight posted:

Brooke's ghost hanging out there like, gently caress mom I just wanna go let me gooooooo

Midnight Voyager posted:

You missed the part where it's not just studying, they can only computer in this one room where all their separate computers are, facing the open door no matter what they're doing.

Also all the waffling about SECRETS THEY COULD BE KEEPING, that isn't the relatively normal thing you have come up with.

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They were 3 when she died, lived with their dad full time ages 4 to 11. Moved back in with me for a year when I felt I was stable then they chose to return to dad.

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That year after Brooke passed was difficult. A lot happened in it and everyone kept saying “stay strong”. I didn’t want to. I wanted to fall apart but couldn’t.

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My kids were born before Brooke got sick and passed away. I wouldn’t have chosen to have more after her, trust me.