Virigoth posted:

Feeling stuck and unfulfilled in my romantic relationship of 8 year

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I [27F] and SO [44M]

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we’ve been together for about 8 years now and have a 7 year old boy together.

a podcast for cats posted:

This sounds a bit like a setup for a weird comedy movie or sitcom episode, but I really wonder what the older sister's endgame here is.

Mx. posted:

AITA for telling my new co worker it was misleading of him to be wearing his wedding band when he's a widower?

some people have fascinating minds

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While this isn't the subject or field I teach, I think a good comparison would be a 1900's European History course with the insta-fail questions being something like:

What components led up to WW1 after Franz Ferdinand's assassination?

How did the end of WW1 setup for the start of WW2?

How was Hitler able to raise to power?

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I've been using the example of a biology course, so a learning goal might be "understand the differences between prokaryotic and eukaryotic cells" and a insta-fail question might be something like "What is the main difference between prokaryotic and eukaryotic cells"

lumpentroll posted:

AITA for thinking of leaving my bf because of Danny Devito

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Okay, so my daughter is 17, though she still lives at home and doesn't have a job (she's currently enrolled in online classes until the world calms the heck down). So, obviously she's almost an adult and in normal circumstances I wouldn't dictate what she wears.

Now, the garment in question is thong underwear. I got her her first pair, I dunno, 2 years ago? I didn't think much of it. I know they aren't for everybody, but I've always been in the "it's only as sexual as you make it" camp since thongs are my daily wear.

However, since she turned 17, she's been going through a major "phase". Shirts become lower, skirts became higher, etc etc. I didn't think it was that big of a deal at first, I can remember being 17, way back in the late Paleolithic era, and I know that experimentation is a normal part of development. However, my worst nightmares have been confirmed. Apparently, defying all odds, whale tail is back in style?? I didn't believe it myself, but that's what the internet tells me and boy howdy has she taken it to heart.

A few weeks ago, I watched her leave the house with normal pants on, and 'adjust' herself so her thong is sticking out by the time she reaches her friends car. For me, this is just too much.

I told her originally that she wasn't allowed to wear thongs at all. After talking with her a little bit I decided that it is important she be able to make her own choices as she is 17 (I'm still adjusting to this reality if I'm being honest). But I made it clear to her that there was going to be some punishment in order for her flaunting her butt floss. She shrugged it off, said it was her body and that was that. She said she likes the aesthetic, something about how it frames her body, and that she'd wear it anywhere or anytime since it doesn't matter. Needless to say, it wasn't a particulalry productive discussion. Hopefully you all can see my quandary. I don't want to deny her agency. But, like, cmon. Whale tail??

And then the perfect idea hit me: If she wants to wear her thong showing, then fine ,I can't stop her. But I can show her what it's like to be on the other end.

So here's what I'm thinking. In exchange for her flaunting her thong, she is about to rock that whale tail with me in public. Her, Me, and the Walmart that's two towns over so I don't need to worry about being recognized. (if there's one place on earth that it's acceptable to have your thong showing, it's a rural Walmart after 8pm).

And me personally? I'm kind of past the point of what anybody thinks of me, I don't care about walking around with some whale tail like it's 2001 if it gets the point across to my daughter.

On the other hand, I worry about the detrimental effects of using humilation as a punishment. I want to prove a point, maybe even have a funny story to tell when she's out the other side of this phase. not scar her.

What do ya'll think? Is it a fitting punishment?

tl;dr: Do two thongs make a right?

a podcast for cats posted:

This sounds a bit like a setup for a weird comedy movie or sitcom episode, but I really wonder what the older sister's endgame here is.

NO gently caress YOU DAD posted:

The DeVito cutout is irrelevant. The issue is the guy's boss is blowing up at him for not letting the company decide how he decorates his house. Nothing in the OP says he's client facing, so his boss is just using that guy working from home as a way to take over more of his life because he (the boss) is an rear end in a top hat.

StrangersInTheNight posted:

I'm presuming if he was about to be inheriting the business from the big boss in a small business setting, he's client-facing.

But again, there's blur functions. Maybe that would be worse bc then it's just a blurry guy hanging out in the BG?

webmeister posted:

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Our story is surely an odd one, our age gap is pretty large and he has a daughter that is one year younger than I. Of course I was foolish when I was young and he was charming. My mother never really helped set her kids up for success as she was concerned about other things and I ended up dropping out of college and quitting my job because I became pregnant at the age of 19.

This situation isn’t enough to force me to decide to leave at this moment, but it makes me realize that this relationship isn’t going to work out in the end. At some point, I do plan on having a life without him as my romantic partner. But for now, I’m just waiting to get accepted into the nursing program...

Motronic posted:

You can't buy a handgun legally "off craigslist" or with a "gun show loophole" (FYI, this doesn't exist) without doing the federal paperwork. Which you do not qualify for if you are not 21 or older.

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My 2, almost 3 year old, is completely obsessed with mulan. She loves how she is tough and strong. I asked her what kind of birthday party she wants for her third birthday in February and she responded Mulan. I’ve asked her a few times and her answer is always Mulan. I’m white and her father is Mexican and Salvadoran. I don’t want to offend anyone or any culture. I’m continually working on teaching my daughter to be anti-racist.

Would it be appropriate for her to have a (strictly Disney cartoon movie) Mulan party? Obviously we would NOT use any traditional clothing, decorations or themes. Just mushu, Mulan and other characters on Disney products probably bought from party city or something.

I was told that I’m doing the wrong thing by even entertaining this idea. AITA for letting her have a mulan party?

Sisal Two-Step posted:

AITA for letting my almost 3 year old have a Mulan birthday party?

AnoHito posted:

It never said anything about it being a small business setting, and he's taking over for his current boss (probably some lower-middle management type position), not the entire company.

StrangersInTheNight posted:

I'm assuming bc those are usually the only places where 'Bob has worked here for over 10 years and is set to inherit the company from the boss' even exists anymore in TYOOL 2021. Unless you think 12 years in a corp gulag is somehow enough to become CEO?

AreWeDrunkYet posted:

Odds are it was someone's fantasy written one handed, but the funnier interpretation is that the older sister is trying to get herself out of the marriage without anyone noticing.

Rescue Toaster posted:

How the poo poo does "It's unprofessional to constantly have a cardboard cutout of a recognizable celebrity in your background in every Zoom meeting." get parsed as "The MAN is trying to dictate how I decorate in my own home!"

FFS, he could commission a giant mural of a naked Danny Devito crawling out of the couch and put it above his monitor out of the camera shot and nobody would give a gently caress, obviously. If your skill-set is in demand go ahead shop around for a job where you can force your coworkers to look at Danny throughout every meeting I guess. But a company is perfectly reasonable to tell someone they're not going to advance in a leadership roll doing that.

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Hello.

So in every holiday celebration (Christmas in this case) I make a list of the people I'm buying gifts for and what type of gifts I'm buying. I struggled with mistreatment in my previous job but got fortunate enough to now be working in a very friendly envirnment with amazing co workers and an amazing boss. My boss has stood by my side in many many instances and I decided to include him in my gift list. I got a tie which was within average price nothing fancy, still keeping it professional and he liked it so much.

The issue started when my husband recieved the christmas gift I bought him which was a pair of sunglasses that I thought he liked. He didn't say he didn't like it but he has a bit of a passive attitude and he doesn't say his honest opinions.

Monday (yesterday) he showed up to my workplace and told my boss to trade the gift I gave him with his, my husband clearly found out what I got for my boss by looking at my list. My boss notified me while I was out and I couldn't believe it. I went home and just blew up at him for going to my workplace and bullying my boss into trading gifts with him. He said it was between him and my boss and I should stay out of it and not be sych an over-reactor. I told him I've always maintained a good and professional relationship with my boss and what he did damaged that professional relationship. He doesn't know my boss at all nor met him personally to be this comfortable with him. He said that my boss is "human" and I should stop walking on eggshels just to keep my job but it's not like that at all. That is just not my point. We had a huge argument over that and he said that unlike us women, "them" men don't see it as big issue and are a lot more chill than us when it comes to "etiquette" and that kind of stuff us women obssess over though my boss was obviousy weirded out and upset and it WAS a big deal since he wants to speak to me asap. My husband also said it's basically my fault he didn't like the original gift I bought for him so that's on me.

We're both mad and have basically been arguing with each other eversince.

Rescue Toaster posted:

How the poo poo does "It's unprofessional to constantly have a cardboard cutout of a recognizable celebrity in your background in every Zoom meeting." get parsed as "The MAN is trying to dictate how I decorate in my own home!"

FFS, he could commission a giant mural of a naked Danny Devito crawling out of the couch and put it above his monitor out of the camera shot and nobody would give a gently caress, obviously. If your skill-set is in demand go ahead shop around for a job where you can force your coworkers to look at Danny throughout every meeting I guess. But a company is perfectly reasonable to tell someone they're not going to advance in a leadership roll doing that.

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Throwaway.

On Christmas morning our coffee machine was down. Wasn’t working because we needed to change the filter so every cup of coffee we tried to make was GROSS. Obviously the family was completely disappointed. I offered to go get everyone a Starbucks since I knew it was open, which isn’t normal because normally on Christmas I stay in the house all day but I’d make an acceptation. My fiancés mom was so happy and thanked me, and so was his grandma.

I ordered about $30 worth of Starbucks, explained to them I was sorry to be one of those people to come on Christmas and tipped $100.

My friend found out today and started lecturing me about what an entitled rear end in a top hat I was and how me and my fiancés family could of gone one day without coffee. How we ruined their Christmas by going there and how we are disgusting for using people on a holiday. She has now decided I’m a bad person and doesn’t want anything to do with us. AITA?

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So we have come to the conclusion this is not about coffee. She never liked my fiancé because for a couple of months he was jobless and I paid all the bills. But what she didn’t know was I let him take a couple months to take a break because he was literally working himself to death, and when I got into an accident he immediately got a job so I could take a couple months off and heal. He and I have always taken care of each other but she said what he did was financial abuse. She didn’t like his family either and called them enablers of a manipulator (???). She and I also got into a fight because our friend is pregnant, she didn’t have the emotional strength to go through with an abortion and decided to give it up for adoption. I was fully supportive on whatever she decided, my friend decided to bring stats on abuse and neglect for adopted children and tried to shame her into keeping it. Our friend has always said she didn’t want children, and had been using protection but you know… life happens. She has blocked that friend (she didn’t even know until I talked to her about what happened) and obviously used this as her excuse to block me.

Thanks for all the love!!

Shwoo posted:

The insta-fail teacher gave something example questions in the comments of that post.

Those are incredibly vague questions that shouldn't be pass/fail. Also, I'm not sure what the first one is trying to ask.

Mx. posted:

AITA for telling my new co worker it was misleading of him to be wearing his wedding band when he's a widower?

some people have fascinating minds

Soylent Pudding posted:

AITA for blowing up at my husband after he showed up to my workplace to trade the gift I gave him with the one I gave my boss?.

Soylent Pudding posted:

AITA for blowing up at my husband after he showed up to my workplace to trade the gift I gave him with the one I gave my boss?.

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He didn't say he didn't like it but he has a bit of a passive attitude and he doesn't say his honest opinions.

bird with big dick posted:

Toobin made his coworkers look at his dick and he didn’t get fired it seems like making your coworkers look at Danny Devito shouldn’t be that big a deal.

Seth Pecksniff posted:

just have that scene where Frank Reynolds crawls out of the couch buck rear end naked playing in a loop on a tv in the background