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Cool Dad posted:r/relationships: I stood up, stared him in the eye, and poo poo my pants I love the buried lede about the time and place of the incident. quote:Well everything went banana's after that. My brother in law and his wife were disgusted and started yelling for me and my wife to leave, saying I was "hosed up" and could never come back, the kids at the party were crying, and all the other family and friends there were ganging up on me too. You could say he was a... Party Pooper
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OhAreThey posted:Geez, damned if you do, damned if you don't. Yeah, the inconsistency here really sours me on the friends group. If they'd been cool with him not drinking, then he'd have hung out with them not drinking, which is patently not choosing alcohol over them. They forced that dynamic at that point by making it clear that an arbitrary boundary of "excusable" drunk exists and the OP will be forever wary of crossing it with them.
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# ? Jan 5, 2022 15:00 |
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I'm getting extreme calm hitler vibes from the drinker. Audible crying from the "private room at the end of the house" is not really normal drinking behaviour. The next night would have been a better time to lay off, but using the excuse of "well I still have 4 beers so I better drink them all" is a pretty obvious crutch. OhAreThey posted:Geez, damned if you do, damned if you don't. The lack of any supportive responses also makes me think that they had a little babby meltdown and got called out for it.
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AITA for telling my BIL I don't want to pretend to be his kids' mother?quote:I (34F) have a pretty successful career in France and I'm doing pretty well for myself. I also have a twin sister and younger brother (34F & 28M) who I thought were also doing well. With my busy life, I don't get to come to the States and see my family often, but when I do we have a good time since we have a good relationship.
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greazeball posted:I'm getting extreme calm hitler vibes from the drinker. Audible crying from the "private room at the end of the house" is not really normal drinking behaviour. The next night would have been a better time to lay off, but using the excuse of "well I still have 4 beers so I better drink them all" is a pretty obvious crutch. Definitely. If this person does indeed have a drinking problem (sounds possible!), then I can totally imagine him making a huge stink about "choosing" not to drink around his pals. People without drinking problems can choose not to drink without making a spectacle of it.
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# ? Jan 5, 2022 15:24 |
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OhAreThey posted:Wait, are you referring to the sister who is saying things like "why are you whispering about a pride flag?" as using "weapons-grade decorum"? I think she's just doing what people recommend you to do bring bigots down a peg: ask them to explain their bigotry. Yes. Decorum dictates that you never pick a fight no matter how lovely someone else is being, and OP makes it quite clear they've always sided with their racist homophobic parents against the sister, so she just started pointedly not picking fights and engaging them in entirely good faith, which only pisses off the OP more because they suddenly have nothing to hide behind and have to pick at weak-rear end threads like "condescending" and "pretentious" which they can't even make look good in a reddit post where they entirely control the narrative.
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# ? Jan 5, 2022 15:27 |
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Found this on the r/bestof sub and thought it made for a nice break from pants making GBS threads and head pissing. Original: Posted 5 Days ago on r/offmychest quote:She had me when she was FOURTEEN. And I (24M) was given up for adoption. My parents told me about her growing up. I still have the letter she wrote me that she asked if they could give it to me if they wanted. Update: quote:Well… I did it I told her. And yeah it was pretty heavy. My heart was even beating fast. i kept trying to think how to tell her. Many of the comments on my last post here mentioned writing her a letter just how she wrote a letter for me. Originally that was the plan but for me it felt like I needed to say it.
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Soylent Pudding posted:AITA for not drinking around my largely sober friends? But if you don't drink at parties around us anymore, who do we get to make fun of and judge in order to make us feel better?? Found out that my(f22) boyfriend(m23) who recently graduated with his master's in teacher has been cyberbullying a friend for not going to college quote:My boyfriend (Eric) graduated with his master's in the spring, and his parents threw him a big party to celebrate. He's hoping to become a teacher and is currently working as a substitute. We've been dating for almost three years after meeting in college, but when I stumbled upon something that I bought to his attention, he made me out to be the enemy while accusing me of "not being on his side" quote:Update:
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Soylent Pudding posted:AITA for telling my BIL I don't want to pretend to be his kids' mother? OP has an awfully laissez-faire attitude about where her identical twin sister is and has been since November. Apparently, nobody has been in touch with her twin and the BIL can only say one of his friends may have seen her a few towns over. If this isn't BS, her twin is probably dead.
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Zulily Zoetrope posted:Yes. Decorum dictates that you never pick a fight no matter how lovely someone else is being, and OP makes it quite clear they've always sided with their racist homophobic parents against the sister, so she just started pointedly not picking fights and engaging them in entirely good faith, which only pisses off the OP more because they suddenly have nothing to hide behind and have to pick at weak-rear end threads like "condescending" and "pretentious" which they can't even make look good in a reddit post where they entirely control the narrative. Thanks for explaining! Yeah, the sister who made the post is HILARIOUSLY showing her whole rear end in a top hat in the comments. I really hope she learns something from this (she probably won't).
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The last thing I want to do when being with family is engaging their backwards-rear end politics. It's so loving tiring and pointless as it's impossible to change people so just fantasize about guillotines next time uncle Cletus starts ranting about the drat vegetarians. The only effect engaging has is that you'll have to hear more of their poo poo.
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# ? Jan 5, 2022 15:49 |
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Obviously the best way to engage with bigots is not at all, telling them to piss off and/or ignoring them altogether, but when that’s not an option, just asking them to elaborate in aggressively unwarranted good faith puts them in the defensive without allowing them to invoke decorum and call you the bad guy for being “aggressive.”
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# ? Jan 5, 2022 16:10 |
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rednecks don't invoke decorum, they love fighting. it's the goobers on reddit who invoke decorum on behalf of the rednecks I think it's dumb to argue with them, not because of decorum, but because they are too stupid to be reasoned with and cannot be changed
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OhAreThey posted:Definitely. If this person does indeed have a drinking problem (sounds possible!), then I can totally imagine him making a huge stink about "choosing" not to drink around his pals. People without drinking problems can choose not to drink without making a spectacle of it. who the gently caress sees a problem drinker raise a fuss about not wanting to drink and then goes "jeez, relax and have a beer already" though? the reading that makes the most sense to me is that 1) everybody in the story is obnoxious and 2) OP's assessment of their drinking is mostly accurate and they're a social drinker who overdoes it on very rare occasions.
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Btw, the heavy NYE drinker was a woman. It colored my perception somewhat of how much the 8 drinks was doing. teen witch posted:Bingo! And yes, that’s the default on iOS, which that might be good for someone to know about (even though you can get to the other types of apostrophes by holding down the key).
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if you multiply the beer drinker's number of beers by 10 he clearly has a drinking problem, but if you divide his number of beers by 10 then his friends are being very rude. it really makes you think
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sugar free jazz posted:if you multiply the beer drinker's number of beers by 10 he clearly has a drinking problem, but if you divide his number of beers by 10 then his friends are being very rude. it really makes you think Not quite sure what point you're trying to make here? Alcohol notably affects women differently than men. Unless I missed something?
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CannonFodder posted:I love the buried lede about the time and place of the incident. I'll poo poo my pants sitting on that robot rat's lap right now, I don't give a FUUUUUUUUCK Like, I know a full-grown adult that basically asked people to dare him to eat a live crawfish at a crawfish boil for a quarter. At least my guy ended up $0.25 richer.
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The Bramble posted:Found out that my(f22) boyfriend(m23) who recently graduated with his master's in teacher has been cyberbullying a friend for not going to college gently caress anyone who used their problems as an excuse to hurt others.
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OhAreThey posted:Definitely. If this person does indeed have a drinking problem (sounds possible!), then I can totally imagine him making a huge stink about "choosing" not to drink around his pals. People without drinking problems can choose not to drink without making a spectacle of it. yeah, years ago i got overly drunk at a party and got sick, making a fool of myself. I just...didn't drink much with that group for a while and never made a big deal out of it, and since it was a one off, its now a thing we joke about. I'm betting this person was huffing and puffing and making a big show of refusing offered drinks since instead of just not drinking so much they get wasted, they can only be 100% sober. btw never decide to have a "Summer of Gin" with your friends when you are not actually a heavy drinker and thus can get roaring drunk without intending to.
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kimbo305 posted:Is having some punctuation not allowed in thread titles impossible to fix? "r/relationships'); DROP TABLE Threads;--"
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kimbo305 posted:Is having some punctuation not allowed in thread titles impossible to fix? I think the problem is that editing thread titles is being done directly to the database via a poorly coded form the mods have to do it isn't properly escaped so they'd have to do something like "r/relationships: I’m sorry why are you marrying a man that pissed on your head\?" Same thing (\) for weird apple apostrophes might work too. Depends on what the form is allowing. And knowing some of the leftover code on here, that could also just break the forums.
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Agents are GO! posted:"r/relationships'); DROP TABLE Threads;--" Oh, ye of small imagination. Think unicode. Now think FYAD gaining the ability to drop threads with titles made with unicode onto the other forums.
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The Bramble posted:Found out that my(f22) boyfriend(m23) who recently graduated with his master's in teacher has been cyberbullying a friend for not going to college I've decided I no longer really believe in "venting." I mean, everyone does it, and it's usually fine, I don't look down on anyone for doing it, and it's sometimes better for them than denying or "pushing down" the feeling in question, but in general i think that we are what we repeatedly do, and that when you repeatedly act on your anger, you aren't somehow "getting it out" of you, you're indulging in it, feeding and growing it.
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endlessmonotony posted:Oh, ye of small imagination. For a short time in 2003 or so there was a FYAD 2.0 that had HTML enabled from within posts. This ended shortly after someone proved they could set up a hidden script that found the username and password of anyone who loaded the page.
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CannonFodder posted:For a short time in 2003 or so there was a FYAD 2.0 that had HTML enabled from within posts. This ended shortly after someone proved they could set up a hidden script that found the username and password of anyone who loaded the page. The script being able to figure out the password is just that extra magic touch we've grown so used to.
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AITA for telling my brother to stop spoiling my daughterquote:I recently left a bad relationship and my kids (Tessa 17, Kaylie 7, Matt 5, Ava 2) and I are staying with my brother.
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Soylent Pudding posted:AITA for telling my brother to stop spoiling my daughter Maybe it's just me but situations like that make me wonder if there's more going nefarious on between the brother and Tessa or that the brother has designs on her.
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Yeah I got major creep vibes from that one, but I also recognize that probably says more on me then the brother.
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AITA for refusing to leave my boyfriend's birthday party that I arranged for because his doctor friends wanted to discuss "Medical stuff"?quote:So for context my f29 boyfriend m34 is a doctor, Most of his friends are from work and they all seem to dislike me and act distant maybe cause I'm not a doctor too? Idk and don't care honestly, since we started dating they've been asking to hang out without me and they leave any event I'm at. My boyfriend said they're just taking their time to get used to me.
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Tarkus posted:Maybe it's just me but situations like that make me wonder if there's more going nefarious on between the brother and Tessa or that the brother has designs on her. quote:David ended up mistreating Tessa and I didn’t notice until recently when he started treating Ava and Kaylie similarly Remember 3 from one father, older kid from another. The poster only "noticed" abuse when it was directed at the children she cares about, even though the ex was acting the same to all the kids. No idea about the brother in general but his statement of evening out how she's been treated over the years at least tracks.
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Grooming can look like an adult in your life actively trying to make it better and make up for your poor treatment in the past, it's why it's so insidious. If everything is above board it's great this kid has an adult in her life in a semi parental role who isn't an rear end in a top hat. If not uncle/niece incest may be illegal in the US in some parts, but I'm sure Americans will come out with the list of where it is/isn't legal and attack/defend their proud traditions. (USER WAS PUT ON PROBATION FOR THIS POST) (USER WAS PUT ON PROBATION FOR THIS POST)
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Tarkus posted:Maybe it's just me but situations like that make me wonder if there's more going nefarious on between the brother and Tessa or that the brother has designs on her. It seemed pretty clear to me that David abused Tessa while the mother looked the other way and that the mother was still trying to abuse Tessa actively through parentificaion and negligently by refusing to actually help Tessa process and recover. Brother is the good uncle looking out for her and the mom is right that Tessa is gonna use this support to bail when she turns 18.
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The Bee posted:AITA for refusing to leave my boyfriend's birthday party that I arranged for because his doctor friends wanted to discuss "Medical stuff"? Taking them at that word means they either think she's too stupid to be involved in the conversation (she doesn't have to be), or they're discussing PII in the middle of a restaurant. Thundercloud posted:If not uncle/niece incest may be illegal in the US in some parts, but I'm sure Americans will come out with the list of where it is/isn't legal and attack/defend their proud traditions. I don't think it's legal anywhere in the US. Regardless, its morality is independent of its legality. Good job with the jingoism, though.
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I get the odd feeling that mom wouldn't give a gently caress what her brother was(is/might be) up to if she was also getting swag.
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Thundercloud posted:If not uncle/niece incest may be illegal in the US in some parts, but I'm sure Americans will come out with the list of where it is/isn't legal and attack/defend their proud traditions. Would you agree that this was unnecessary?
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Thundercloud posted:If not uncle/niece incest may be illegal in the US in some parts, but I'm sure Americans will come out with the list of where it is/isn't legal and attack/defend their proud traditions.
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He's secretly hoping to find out where it's legal for ...reasons.
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Thundercloud posted:If not uncle/niece incest may be illegal in the US in some parts, but I'm sure Americans will come out with the list of where it is/isn't legal and attack/defend their proud traditions. very normal post here
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Variable 5 posted:He's secretly hoping to find out where it's legal for ...reasons. It's legal in the great state of Pornhubia
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