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the Spain Virus posted:Are there specific parts of the country where HOAs are common, because I've literally never seen one. Enforcement of codes and whatnot here are the purview of the town. where there is a lot of land for suburban developments how suburban developments get built is a whole nother can of corrupt worms with fun stuff like tax breaks and absolutely no long term planning
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Hobnob posted:Another thing about HOAs is that they are very much pushed by local (e.g. city) government because it falls to the HOA to maintain roads, common area landscaping, etc. out of fees, and so the government doesn't look like they are raising taxes. Many cities require HOAs on all new residential developments. My understanding was that it had to do with how much unincorporated land was in some states; since the town doesn't *technically* provide services to such land it's the responsability of those who build there to? IDK both unincorporated land and HOA's are a mystery to me, we have neither up here in Massachusetts.
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I don't think they're really related. The HOA might provide some services but that's not really the primary function. I've lived in an HOA property that was not unincorporated.
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Jan 31, 2022 21:32
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Condo blocks in cities are HOAs, you need a collective entity to manage the public areas and the building's overall structure. Co-ops are similar but not legally HOAs as far as I understand it
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Jan 31, 2022 21:35
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Batterypowered7 posted:He's not fixing poo poo. He's just gonna hide it better while you're around. Bonus is he's going to call her all those words behind her back when she's not around!
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Hellblazer187 posted:I don't think they're really related. The HOA might provide some services but that's not really the primary function. I've lived in an HOA property that was not unincorporated. And my mom lives one block outside city limits but not in an HOA. For her it's mostly just an extra hurdle with places that are quick to say "we only operate in <city>" until she gets them to look up the address. Only time it really matters is local elections.
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Jan 31, 2022 21:55
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Still laughing someone is mad at Anne for besmirching the honor of Henry VIII. The guy who somehow managed to persecute Catholics and Protestants depending on the mood he was in. And treated his daughters like poo poo
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Jan 31, 2022 21:57
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Also remember that Henry was on a date on the day of Anne’s execution
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Jan 31, 2022 22:15
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I feel bad for everyone involved in The Tudors trying to make Jonathan Rhys Meyers as repulsively unsympathetic as the real Henry VIII. Just slathered in old age makeup and prosthetic leg ulcers, constantly dipping his hands into meat pies and sounding like Mr. Creosote
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someone is dissing anne? she grew up in the french court! oui oui bonjour life was a chore so she set sail they're just bitter because she's fitter
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haveblue posted:Condo blocks in cities are HOAs, you need a collective entity to manage the public areas and the building's overall structure. Co-ops are similar but not legally HOAs as far as I understand it In a co-op, you own your unit and have that much of a share in making decisions when it comes to things that must be done on a building wide level. When it comes to things done inside your own unit, you can do whatever you want as long as it complies with building codes. For example, if you and I live in a building with 10 units and I want to knock out a wall in my unit and install a batcave, I don't have to talk to you about it and as long as it is up to code and I update my blueprints on file with city hall (so if there's a fire in my apartment and I was in the batcave playing with toys, the firefighters know to look for me) and it does not affect you or the other apartment dwellers in any way. If I would like for the building to hire a doorman to sign for packages and deter breakins/door to door sales/etc, this is something the entire building could benefit from and I'm probably not willing to pay the guy's wages all by myself. What I'll do is at the next co-op board meeting say "Hey, I'd like to hire a doorman for xyz reasons. I've found an agency and he will cost $x. I think this is a good thing to spend some of our collective co-op board fees on." Depending on how exactly our board is set up, I might need 6/10 units to agree with me when the issue is brought up for a vote, then the motion is passed and we get a doorman. Everyone might not be interested in attending co-op meetings, so I might just need a majority of people who did choose to show up to the vote, or I might need to knock on 5 other peoples' doors and give them lemon squares to get them to sign the form. For some issues, like selling the building if a developer offered to buy it so it could be razed and replaced with a parking garage, passing that motion might need 2/3 majority or be unanimous. If someone owns 1 unit, they get 1 vote, if they own 2 units they get 2 votes, etc. In this way, individual people may be able to form voting blocs. It is not unknown for someone to own, in my example, 6/10 units in the building, let friends or family live in the other 5 units (or sublet them to strangers if the co-op's terms allow for such things) and be able to pass or block whatever policies he wants. Co-ops do not have the power to use liens to punish and terrorize their members, because in a co-op, you own your unit(s). Socially, very similar kinds of annoying bullshit to HOAs often happens. Basically imagine if your neighbors were all your landlord and you needed to win over half the members of your PTA before you could get your mailbox fixed. This article about someone trying to get their neighbors to subsidize their air conditioning goes into further depth about these issues. While in real life, co-op board negotiations sounds tedious and horrible, it seems like fertile sitcom territory. EDIT: fixed broken link Invisible Clergy fucked around with this message at 22:26 on Jan 31, 2022 |
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Also it should be said there is no evidence that Anne cheated on Henry. There was accusations, but most of those were incestious and obviously not actually true. Catherine Howard is the only one of Henry’s wives that we know engaged in an affair
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ponzicar posted:Am I missing something? I just assumed it was same father, different mothers. Her husband had a kid from a previous relationship, and they had another one together. God yes of course. Something about how it was written did something to my brain, I think. That and I am a very stupid person.
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From Dear Prudencequote:Q. Man-flu gone wild: A week ago, my sister-in-law asked if I could babysit for a day when she had to go into the office. I’m a self-employed florist, so it was a bit awkward, but she’s family. So I grabbed my laptop so I could at least do some admin and headed over.
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CharlestheHammer posted:Also remember that Henry was on a date on the day of Anne’s execution That's fine because he wasn't spending ENGLISH MONEY on it. According to the actual guy in question, he was fine with Henry whoring around but not with him spending money on Anne the GOLD DIGGER.
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Jan 31, 2022 22:54
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coronatae posted:From Dear Prudence You know guys, while I appreciate the hatred of the /r/AITA mods, I have, in the past, kinda agreed with them that the phrase "man-child" is used too liberally sometimes. But not in this case. This human being is a man-child.
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Midnight Voyager posted:That's fine because he wasn't spending ENGLISH MONEY on it. According to the actual guy in question, he was fine with Henry whoring around but not with him spending money on Anne the GOLD DIGGER. It’s actually really sad as Anne thought to the end Henry wasn’t going to let them kill her. Her death and later Cromwells death are probably the saddest of Henry’s many sins. That or basically shunning Mary until she disowned her mother
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Neito posted:You know guys, while I appreciate the hatred of the /r/AITA mods, I have, in the past, kinda agreed with them that the phrase "man-child" is used too liberally sometimes. I mean, the SIL literally asked her to babysit
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the Spain Virus posted:Are there specific parts of the country where HOAs are common, because I've literally never seen one. Enforcement of codes and whatnot here are the purview of the town. Better question would be "Where do you live?" And I can probably drop a ton of zillow links with houses for sale with an HOA. I'll start with, "Every condo ever."
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coronatae posted:From Dear Prudence what the gently caress
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AITA for how I reacted to my boyfriend’s game character?quote:My boyfriend (23m) of 7 years recently started playing a new game called Black Desert. I’d like to preface with the fact that he’s not addicted to playing video games, and we both have a healthy, balanced routine. Guess the relationship time!
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Evil Willow posted:AITA for how I reacted to my boyfriend’s game character? This would be almost heartwarming through a slightly different lens. OP is definitely overreacting, but then again look at those ages.
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wait, girlfriend of 7 years is mad that her boyfriend thinks she's so good looking he made his character look just like her? like, if they weren't romantic partners that would be deeply creepy, but as it is... it's mildly strange? and kinda cute?
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coronatae posted:From Dear Prudence Lol this was pretty much my brother in law a few months ago. Hurt his foot and pretty much ignored everything my medical professional wife told him to do and he kept trying to have her come over to the house to take care of him. Eventually his wife's mother came down to wait on him hand and foot. Meanwhile two years prior while my wife was hospitalized due to what later turned out to be covid/complications from chemo, he and his wife pretty much kept saying they were too tired to even come over and watch the kids for like 30 minutes so I could nap/bring some stuff to my wife. It's cool though cause he did visit her at the hospital and bought her food. Not the food she had asked him to bring but a cold cheeseburger from burger King and half a thing of fries (he got hungry he said)
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Kenshin posted:wait, girlfriend of 7 years is mad that her boyfriend thinks she's so good looking he made his character look just like her? It would have been cute if he showed it to her when he made it, ask her opinion on it, etc. "Surprise, I made you" is considerably less cute. Also, I'm willing to bet his "If I have to look at a character they have to be hot" logic doesn't apply to male characters.
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Evil Willow posted:AITA for how I reacted to my boyfriend’s game character? They got together at 15 and 16? That seems pretty normal, and its more shocking they're still together.
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AITA for tipping our waitress 20 dollars despite her poor service, because my date was playing a "game" with her tips?quote:I met a guy on a dating app, we hit it off and we arranged for our first date. Things were going well, we had sat down and had started some small chat. Our waitress comes over asking us what we want to order.
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Soylent Pudding posted:AITA for tipping our waitress 20 dollars despite her poor service, because my date was playing a "game" with her tips? quote:she did spill some drinks on our table that night, gave us the wrong food, and overall just seemed lost. quote:He said it was the best way to ensure "good service". how's that working out for you buddy
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I think the game avatar choice might be an egg thing. Either way, it's still somewhat creepy. Possibly extremely creepy, depending on what BF does in the game.
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Soylent Pudding posted:AITA for tipping our waitress 20 dollars despite her poor service, because my date was playing a "game" with her tips? I didn't think people actually did that
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As someone who worked in bars and restaurants for most of my 20s and early 30s, I’d have told him to get the gently caress out and not come back.
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Hughlander posted:Better question would be "Where do you live?" And I can probably drop a ton of zillow links with houses for sale with an HOA. I'll start with, "Every condo ever." Edit: Seriously, though, it sounds like HOAs are development-dealieies? There's very little new construction here. Most houses are Victorian or older. HOAs just sound so utterly foreign to me. It's the town's job to enforce codes. Ortho fucked around with this message at 00:16 on Feb 1, 2022 |
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Tobermory posted:I think the game avatar choice might be an egg thing. Either way, it's still somewhat creepy. Possibly extremely creepy, depending on what BF does in the game. Not everybody who picks an avatar that doesn't look like them is an egg
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Soylent Pudding posted:AITA for tipping our waitress 20 dollars despite her poor service, because my date was playing a "game" with her tips? 
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Tobermory posted:I think the game avatar choice might be an egg thing. Either way, it's still somewhat creepy. Possibly extremely creepy, depending on what BF does in the game. It's a Korean MMO so it's a massive grindfest, even within the context of MMOs. He's probably AFK fishing.
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Sisal Two-Step posted:AITA for my response when asked "why are you still single"? I have only ever heard this question in the context of flirting or as a sarcastic put down. Who the gently caress says that as a way of making conversation? What is an acceptable answer to that question? I'm gonna guess sharing your personal traumas or deep-seated issues will not go over well, and it sounds like a crowd that'd call you a stuck-up bitch if you dared suggest that a woman in her thirties is allowed to have priorities other than locking down a man and getting started on pumpin out the little ones. What do these people want her to say; "I know, right? Any man would be better than none, so if you have a deadbeat cousin or nephew whose parents are dying to get him out of the house, can you send him my way please?"
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sephiRoth IRA posted:Not everybody who picks an avatar that doesn't look like them is an egg Obviously not. But picking an avatar of a different gender and then spending hours tweaking your appearance to be super-hot in your new form? That's a thing.
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AITA for getting a supermarket employee fired after he left a note with his phone number on my wife's windshield?quote:context: wife and I were out shopping at the supermarket yesterday morning, I noticed a guy (he works/ed there) "following" us from spot to spot sort of like checking out my wife? I wasn't sure but he kept trying to start conversations with her by offering to get her xyz products. I felt annoyed plus the guy was roughly 21-22 so 10 years younger then me the spelling though
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Hellblazer187 posted:AITA for telling my boss I’m not going to shovel snow for the store? Anyway, I found it because I sew. The cashier/snow shoveling comparison would be like if I took a summer job flipping burgers for minimum wage and then was told that my job included sewing. The last time I sewed for money I made almost twice the minimum wage. I mean, I'll do some quick and lovely hand sewing repairs if needed, but if you need my sewing skills, you PAY for my sewing skills. The Maroon Hawk posted:It seriously warms my heart to see labor finally having the leverage to tell our collective bosses to shove it https://slate.com/human-interest/20...LPCQyDzL8GU-IXg quote:“I had a client rant to me recently about how they weren’t getting ‘good’ candidates for their positions. I suggested that they consider focusing the job description a bit more on the skills they most want, and he got really defensive and just said again how much they needed all this work done. Then YOU HAVE TO PAY FOR IT. There is just utter disbelief that they no longer hold 100% of the cards.”
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