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rotinaj posted:I’m unsure why so many folk in this thread think I was arguing otherwise, but I’m not arguing that what the guy did was good.
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AITA for "making" my grandmother give me her house after my stepbrother thought he'd get it and had already renovated it?quote:I've been mostly estranged from my father since I was 15. I've only ever maintained a relationship with my grandmother.
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Feb 1, 2022 23:49
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Anybody dumb enough to renovate a house they don’t own deserves to be out the money if it gets willed to someone else.
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Feb 1, 2022 23:58
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AITA for being Hawaiian and having my dad talk to the principal.quote:I (17m) do not believe i am TA but my gf (18f) broke up with me over everything. quote:I do know the history, but celebrating people getting bombed just because they roughed up your grandpa or "stole your house" is mad ugly
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Feb 2, 2022 00:05
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Mx. posted:AITA for being Hawaiian and having my dad talk to the principal. Strong 'Elon Musk is African-American' energy. Dude picked the wrong island to play that game on. Suspect the dad isn't gonna get a whole lot of buy-in from the principal.
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Feb 2, 2022 00:13
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Mx. posted:AITA for "making" my grandmother give me her house after my stepbrother thought he'd get it and had already renovated it? Well that is going to be ugly. Especially if they have anything in writing about her giving the house to someone else.
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Feb 2, 2022 00:14
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exmachina posted:If a PC was being killed, a GM must have been there too. The GM was literally part of the murder. OP explained that their mods are allowed to PvP just as much as anybody else is.
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Feb 2, 2022 00:15
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Mx. posted:AITA for being Hawaiian and having my dad talk to the principal. This reminds me of when my grandma shared some old home piano sheet music her mom had brought over from Ireland when she immigrated in 1920. It was a bunch of songs to sing with the family about British soldiers being pulped in WW1 lmao.
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Feb 2, 2022 00:16
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therobit posted:Anybody dumb enough to renovate a house they don’t own deserves to be out the money if it gets willed to someone else. Yeah but this is 'pay your stepbro or pay a lawyer' territory. Either way you are going to have to part with some cash.
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Feb 2, 2022 00:19
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Mx. posted:AITA for being Hawaiian and having my dad talk to the principal. LOL get hosed haole.
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Feb 2, 2022 00:24
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They should probably just take the deal, tbh. Even the OP kind of understands they probably shouldn’t have gotten the house, and 150k when you were expecting nothing ain’t half bad. Could maybe even snag a house with it. I really have no idea what the grandmother was thinking, though. She really should have at least told them not to do the renovations or something... E: nevermind, wasn’t expecting it to be some big super fancy place like that, lol AnoHito fucked around with this message at 00:42 on Feb 2, 2022 |
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Feb 2, 2022 00:25
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muscles like this! posted:Probably doesn't want to be their next target. Honestly, this is fair. See: The butterfly sanctuary that had to shut down for a while because assholes like this decided their dock was being used for some Pizzagate illegal sex trafficking.
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Feb 2, 2022 00:27
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Mx. posted:AITA for "making" my grandmother give me her house after my stepbrother thought he'd get it and had already renovated it? quote:It's a three storey Victorian. Can we have a 100k - 250k discount on your inheritance please?
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Feb 2, 2022 00:28
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Grape posted:This reminds me of when my grandma shared some old home piano sheet music her mom had brought over from Ireland when she immigrated in 1920. that sounds hilarious, please post copies if you can find any
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Feb 2, 2022 00:28
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Mx. posted:AITA for "making" my grandmother give me her house after my stepbrother thought he'd get it and had already renovated it? Is there any reason she can't find a realtor, sell the house to them at fair market value, than take 90k off as a peace offering? Assuming they have documentation proving the actual amount they spent on renovations.
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Feb 2, 2022 00:33
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Grape posted:This reminds me of when my grandma shared some old home piano sheet music her mom had brought over from Ireland when she immigrated in 1920. Years ago a friend had some Eastern European friends visit, and when they found out my family used to be from the same area they asked if I had any stories from back then and ever considered going back to see my roots. Pointing out that pogrom stories don't end well kinda killed the mood.
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limp_cheese posted:Is there any reason she can't find a realtor, sell the house to them at fair market value, than take 90k off as a peace offering? Going to guess the house is worth a lot more than they're willing or able to outright pay for if the stepbrother was fine with dumping 90k into it. In fairness the OP should work towards paying the stepbrother back but I wouldn't roll over for my dad just because he wants to play favorites and the urge to spite everyone in this situation would be pretty appealing.
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Feb 2, 2022 00:38
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limp_cheese posted:Is there any reason she can't find a realtor, sell the house to them at fair market value, than take 90k off as a peace offering? They presumably also don't have the money for a market value process. A fair offer would be 100-120k. You get the cost of renovating the place, plus some of the consequential increased market value as a measure of goodwill and so they aren't back to square one. But it sounds like the problem isn't so much that stepbro is out 90k as it is that stepbro and family are now out of a home. They don't want cash back, they want a house to own. To which: tough, but maybe Grandma could have been a bit more even handed with the inheritence. On the other hand 'estranged at 15' is a quite a bit of hidden backstory.
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Feb 2, 2022 00:42
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Hughlander posted:Can we have a 100k - 250k discount on your inheritance please? Yeah at that point I’d probably take out a loan for the $90k they spent and give it to them but require that they waive all others claims.
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Feb 2, 2022 00:44
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AnoHito posted:
Yeah, I wonder if there's room for a lawyer to argue that the OP took advantage of grandma's mental state after she had already promised the house, in front of many witnesses, to someone else. What am I saying, of course a lawyer can argue that.
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Feb 2, 2022 00:46
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spacetoaster posted:Yeah, I wonder if there's room for a lawyer to argue that the OP took advantage of grandma's mental state after she had already promised the house, in front of many witnesses, to someone else. Unless Grandma was totally senile when she made the last will, which would be strange because the notary isn’t supposed to stamp anything unless the person is with it enough to know what they are signing, what is written matters a lot more than what they say. My grandfather promised to will the farm to several different people but in the end it was split between his kids because that’s what the will said. Also if they want to argue she was too senile to know what she was doing, then why would her telling them verbally that they could have the house be any mor valid than a written document?
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Feb 2, 2022 00:50
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Mx. posted:AITA for being Hawaiian and having my dad talk to the principal. Suddenly i'm having terrible flashbacks to that one animator (who identified as a white Hawaiian) who really hated Lilo and Stitch because it was too racist against white people and didn't acknowledge the history of "white genocide done by native Hawaiians"
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DemoneeHo posted:Suddenly i'm having terrible flashbacks to that one animator (who identified as a white Hawaiian) who really hated Lilo and Stitch because it was too racist against white people and didn't acknowledge the history of "white genocide done by native Hawaiians" “They are destroying us by having consensual sex with us! HELP!”
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DemoneeHo posted:Suddenly i'm having terrible flashbacks to that one animator (who identified as a white Hawaiian) who really hated Lilo and Stitch because it was too racist against white people and didn't acknowledge the history of "white genocide done by native Hawaiians" lmao i forgot about that interesting human
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Slo-Tek posted:Strong 'Elon Musk is African-American' energy. Dude picked the wrong island to play that game on. Maybe the principal is racist too. Kenshin posted:that sounds hilarious, please post copies if you can find any Seconding this. DemoneeHo posted:Suddenly i'm having terrible flashbacks to that one animator (who identified as a white Hawaiian) who really hated Lilo and Stitch because it was too racist against white people and didn't acknowledge the history of "white genocide done by native Hawaiians" Was this the woman who was the main character of twitter for a day and whined about how Lilo was "too childish" or is this a different person?
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The more I think about it, the most remarkable thing about that story is a high school senior with such a childlike reaction to such a basic concept as "mistreatment can create bitter feelings of schadenfreude regarding death and destruction of those associated with it" THAT BAD, IT IS BAD TO FEEL THAT WAY, IT NOT NICE TO LIKE A BOMB
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if the OP supposedly has no ill will towards their stepbrother, that sure is a funny way of showing it. Take the money, hell argue for a bigger payout, but come the gently caress on, you were living your life knowing that your stepbrother and family were working on that house and intending to live in it. It is not stupid to assume one's grandmother and father could be trusted to make good on the promise of the home, especially given the extensive time and labor and money put into the renovations, so i do not blame the stepbrother. Yeah technically the OP is right that it is their house, but they are indeed an rear end in a top hat. I would not just take an offer of a house if it meant putting a family on the street, and anyone that would make that choice is likely a dick.
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DemoneeHo posted:Suddenly i'm having terrible flashbacks to that one animator (who identified as a white Hawaiian) who really hated Lilo and Stitch because it was too racist against white people and didn't acknowledge the history of "white genocide done by native Hawaiians" You mean like when they killed James Cook?
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Invisible Clergy posted:Was this the woman who was the main character of twitter for a day and whined about how Lilo was "too childish" or is this a different person? Same person, although i do recall she had a friend with the same opinions on Lilo and Hawaiian history. I could be conflating some details.
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Grape posted:The more I think about it, the most remarkable thing about that story is a high school senior with such a childlike reaction to such a basic concept as "mistreatment can create bitter feelings of schadenfreude regarding death and destruction of those associated with it" It is stupid and evil, but unfortunately, chuds/shitlibs are not especially rare. see also "it's not NICE to celebrate when antivaxxers die of covid! I'm telling mommy!" I saw a good article on this kind of bullshit a little while ago.
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WoodrowSkillson posted:if the OP supposedly has no ill will towards their stepbrother, that sure is a funny way of showing it. Take the money, hell argue for a bigger payout, but come the gently caress on, you were living your life knowing that your stepbrother and family were working on that house and intending to live in it. It is not stupid to assume one's grandmother and father could be trusted to make good on the promise of the home, especially given the extensive time and labor and money put into the renovations, so i do not blame the stepbrother. Counterpoint: gently caress em. Don't put your eggs in one basket and maybe dad can pony up a bit more dough as an rear end in a top hat tax
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sephiRoth IRA posted:Counterpoint: gently caress em. Don't put your eggs in one basket and maybe dad can pony up a bit more dough as an rear end in a top hat tax No one forced the stepbrother to do any of that stuff. If you're spending almost 100k on a house, make sure you own it first.
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I would say it actually is pretty stupid to spend $100k of your own money renovating someone else's house based solely on them saying they were going to give it to someone who would then later give it to you. Doesn't make the stepbrother wrong or anything, that's just a whole lot of money to spend on something that is definitely not a sure thing. I do wonder how much time there was between the OP bringing it up to grandma and grandma's death. Sounds like it was probably years based on the amount they've already spent.
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Step bro was also living rent free in the house for years according to the comments. OP deffo needs a lawyer right away because this is going to get contested and who knows if he handled the eviction properly.
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sephiRoth IRA posted:Counterpoint: gently caress em. Don't put your eggs in one basket and maybe dad can pony up a bit more dough as an rear end in a top hat tax Agreed, cash out the equity they can prove if you're feeling nice but that's it. When he complains feel free to reference how stepbrother had no plan to cut OP in. Alternatively the family can live there rent free but stepbrother has to be OPs butler.
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AITA for wanting to bring my girlfriend as a date to my sister's wedding instead of one of the groomsmen?quote:TL;DR: I'm openly gay and have a girlfriend. I'm a bridesmaid in my sister's wedding but she denied me a plus one and gave me one of the groomsmen as a date. I asked her to allow my girlfriend to come and she said no and got mad.
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Mx. posted:AITA for wanting to bring my girlfriend as a date to my sister's wedding instead of one of the groomsmen? Please grow a spine and duck out of that wedding
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They don't like Lilo in Japan, but love stitch, so she gets written out of all their EU content. Mx. posted:AITA for wanting to bring my girlfriend as a date to my sister's wedding instead of one of the groomsmen? No gay on MY day
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Arsenic Lupin posted:The GM was literally part of the murder. OP explained that their mods are allowed to PvP just as much as anybody else is. That seems like a bad way to run a game!
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Barudak posted:They don't like Lilo in Japan, but love stitch, so she gets written out of all their EU content. I hear they had a similar reaction to Snoopy vs Charlie Brown
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