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Midnight Voyager posted:Trying to snuggle your 16 year old that you've barely seen for six years like he's still ten is also really just kinda weird. Not just pretending nothing went bad, but pretending even your kid is exactly like he was before everything changed. Seriously, what 16 year old wants to snuggle in bed with their mother? My kid is 7 and I'm getting all that stuff in now because I know in a few short years he's going to hate my guts and that's ok.
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Captain Hygiene posted:I saw that one too, it sucks.
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InsertPotPun posted:it's never the "be a good and kind person challenge" but always "annoy the living poo poo out of someone challenge" Having worked service my experience behind that register would have been: "Cool! Singing" "Okay, gotta keep up here" "What size vanilla? I need the loving size here before I can do anything!" "Cone or cup, CONE OR CUP!?" Then I'd gently caress off to my internet hovel to make some effort post about how annoying customers are and now they're wasting me time ordering nonsense for internet clout.
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# ? Mar 2, 2022 23:11 |
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Geez, I seem to have tripped over Massive Issues in the cuddle mom comments. Apparently his dad won't take him to see a psychologist because of some past trauma of his own with psychologists, which is bad, but now some people in the comments decided that means he is a horrible abuser and his mom is a wonderful person who just wanted to get away from his horrible abuse. Apparently showing up for big events and nothing else without her new family "respecting his boundaries" somehow, ignoring the part where she barges into his bed while he crumples in on himself in tears. This person also admits they would kill to have a parent who loves them and that their dad was an abuser, so they are projecting like an IMAX. They're getting really insistent that the dad must the the abuser.
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AITA For Telling My Ex-Fiancé's Best Friend That He Needs To Live Negative Impact He Played In Ex-Fiancé's Misery?quote:Throwaway Account
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Soylent Pudding posted:AITA For Telling My Ex-Fiancé's Best Friend That He Needs To Live Negative Impact He Played In Ex-Fiancé's Misery? The story is surprisingly clear compared to whatever the gently caress the title is saying
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Uncle Enzo posted:The story is surprisingly clear compared to whatever the gently caress the title is saying I think it's "Live with the negative impact" but they skipped some word there
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You don't have to stay in a relationship or marry someone you don't want, but where was the part where they broke up? Some dick ruins their wedding and then ... ?
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Combo posted:My kid is 7 and I'm getting all that stuff in now because I know in a few short years he's going to hate my guts and that's ok. Our sons (18M and 13M) still say "I love you both" every time they leave our room. Our oldest son used to blow kisses to us individually as he left, but he's stopped doing that in the last few months. I guess he hates us now. It's the luck of the draw. Soylent Pudding posted:AITA For Telling My Ex-Fiancé's Best Friend That He Needs To Live Negative Impact He Played In Ex-Fiancé's Misery? drat I guess his spineless rear end chose his idiot friend over his wife to be sucks to be him. Live that negative Impact bitch
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odiv posted:You don't have to stay in a relationship or marry someone you don't want, but where was the part where they broke up? Some dick ruins their wedding and then ... ? quote:I called my parents and grandparents apologizing for the whole scene and told them that the wedding was off and I planned to never speak to him again either. She literally fought over making him the best man, he wore her down, and then the guy did exactly what she feared. And her ex is still friends with the guy. Sounds like she realized her life was gonna be ruined by this rear end in a top hat friend forever if she stayed with the ex.
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odiv posted:You don't have to stay in a relationship or marry someone you don't want, but where was the part where they broke up? Some dick ruins their wedding and then ... ? It’s not gone into detail, but it seems like when Mike wanted David as best man, OP and Mike had a massive fight, that probably went something like ‘I don’t want him to be your best man, he’s going to do some stupid prank to ruin the day’ vs ‘listen he would never do that, I promise he’ll behave’. When the she got run over in the fight, and exactly what said would happen did happen, she decided to get the gently caress out.
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Combo posted:My kid is 7 and I'm getting all that stuff in now because I know in a few short years he's going to hate my guts and that's ok. captainOrbital posted:Our sons (18M and 13M) still say "I love you both" every time they leave our room. Our oldest son used to blow kisses to us individually as he left, but he's stopped doing that in the last few months. I guess he hates us now. It's the luck of the draw. Oh no, I've only got about a decade left of sweetness if this trend holds!
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odiv posted:You don't have to stay in a relationship or marry someone you don't want, but where was the part where they broke up? Some dick ruins their wedding and then ... ? It seems like it was during the wedding? She doesn't clarify extremely, but she says quote:During the objections part which to me sounded like it was in the middle of the wedding ceremony. No Cormac McCarthy this one
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Cthulu Carl posted:This is loving disgusting.
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captainOrbital posted:which to me sounded like it was in the middle of the wedding ceremony. No Cormac McCarthy this one The whole "if anybody objects to this wedding speak now or forever hold your peace" happens literally seconds after the couple says "I do". He was the best man too se he was standing a few feet away from the couple when he did this. To make it worse quote:He even went as far as to hire someone to be a fake AP. So this dude, right after they said "I do", while up there with the couple, loudly accused her of cheating before an actor he paid for walked down the aisle and loudly proclaimed to be the person she was cheating with. Its loving bonkers and that her ex is still friends with him is a damning indictment of her ex. It terms of pranks pulled in this thread this is someone on a whole other level and will be tough to beat.
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captainOrbital posted:Our sons (18M and 13M) still say "I love you both" every time they leave our room. Our oldest son used to blow kisses to us individually as he left, but he's stopped doing that in the last few months. I guess he hates us now. It's the luck of the draw. Yeah I'm hoping this continues to be the case with mine but who knows. He's the sweetest kid ever and my little buddy but at some point he's going to be a teenager and then all bets are off. Then again, teenage me never disliked my mom, so who knows. I just relish it while I have it!
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I used to work with this lady (55F) who would always say "oh, just waaait, they're going to grow up and hate youuu!" I was like lady I already hate you and I haven't known you for fifteen years
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limp_cheese posted:The whole "if anybody objects to this wedding speak now or forever hold your peace" happens literally seconds after the couple says "I do". He was the best man too se he was standing a few feet away from the couple when he did this. To make it worse Yeah, she should have cut David's tongue out for that.
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My family isn't physically affectionate, so I hugged my mom last when my grandma died in 2010. The time before that was when I was like 8, so 20 years before then? Hell, I don't hug or touch people very often now that I think about it. Handshakes during interviews are basically it. Man my life is sad.
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I blow kisses to my folks when we're done video chatting. In person we hug a lot. I miss them.
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edgeman83 posted:My family isn't physically affectionate, so I hugged my mom last when my grandma died in 2010. The time before that was when I was like 8, so 20 years before then? Hell, I don't hug or touch people very often now that I think about it. Handshakes during interviews are basically it. Man my life is sad. I'm pretty sure I've never hugged my dad, and he was around most of my life. I still talk to him but he's a drat vampire and sucks the fun and energy out of everything, so we barely talk. However, he gave me a blueprint of exactly what not to do as a father, so I'm a pretty great dad to my son. I tell him I love him multiple times a day, let him know how proud I am of him, give him plenty of hugs, spend as much time as possible with him, etc. Funny thing is, my dad and I not being close never really bothered me until I had my own kid. Now that I have my own and see how just effortless it is to be interested, and present, and how much I just want the best for him all the time, made me sit back and wonder why my dad could/would never act that way toward me. I know it's mostly just generation thing, still though.
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I hate touching other people in basically any context. Sometimes I wonder if I wouldn't have hated it if I wasn't forced into it so much by adults when I was a kid. (don't take that the wrong way, I mean having to hug near strangers because they're Family, saying I didn't want to hug people but being pushed to do it anyway) It's amazing how many ways you can gently caress up a kid re: physical affection!
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edgeman83 posted:My family isn't physically affectionate, so I hugged my mom last when my grandma died in 2010. The time before that was when I was like 8, so 20 years before then? Hell, I don't hug or touch people very often now that I think about it. Handshakes during interviews are basically it. Man my life is sad. I get and give probably ten or fifteen hugs a week, not including family. I would recommend hugging more as a strategy to make you less sad.
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Midnight Voyager posted:I hate touching other people in basically any context. Sometimes I wonder if I wouldn't have hated it if I wasn't forced into it so much by adults when I was a kid. (don't take that the wrong way, I mean having to hug near strangers because they're Family, saying I didn't want to hug people but being pushed to do it anyway) I'm the same way for the same reasons. It sucks sometimes because while I know how to comfort someone with physical touch and that the person even wants a hug from me I still feel weird invading their personal space and will be hesitant to do so. I've had a few friends describe giving me a hug, feeling me back away from them, and that makes them want to hug me harder. They were friends of many years I've hugged many times and I wasn't upset with them for doing that, its just my natural reaction to a hug is "back away".
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limp_cheese posted:I'm the same way for the same reasons. It sucks sometimes because while I know how to comfort someone with physical touch and that the person even wants a hug from me I still feel weird invading their personal space and will be hesitant to do so. Yeah, same. I'm super touch averse, I don't really get it when people are just wired the opposite way. I have wrapped back around over the years on telling my folks I love them whenever we finish up chatting though
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limp_cheese posted:So this dude, right after they said "I do", while up there with the couple, loudly accused her of cheating before an actor he paid for walked down the aisle and loudly proclaimed to be the person she was cheating with. I want to know about the actor Dave paid to help ruin their wedding. A slimebag, obviously, but how do you even get that gig?
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Halloween Jack posted:I want to know about the actor Dave paid to help ruin their wedding. A slimebag, obviously, but how do you even get that gig? Craigslist post and tell them the bride is in on it and asked you to set it up.
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Cthulu Carl posted:This is loving disgusting. "He's been hung." "People are hanged, meat is hung." "Well then, he's been hung."
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I have no idea why, but that's like one of the only word misuses that really gets to me. The past tense is 'hung'... UNLESS you mean someone who was killed by hanging, then it's 'hanged'!
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Soylent Pudding posted:AITA For Telling My Ex-Fiancé's Best Friend That He Needs To Live Negative Impact He Played In Ex-Fiancé's Misery? OP added some stuff: quote:David went through Jane's phone without her knowledge and that's how he got my new number and texted me. And comment: quote:It was like a light bulb went off when I was crying my eyes out in the bathroom I did not want this to be my life. Honestly, nothing short of Mike banning David from his life permanently would've made me even consider continuing the relationship. He eventually did stop talking to Mike but it was too little too late to me by then. After a while they patched up the friendship. So I guess after it became clear that OP wasn't coming back, Mike decided to cut his losses?
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Cthulu Carl posted:I have no idea why, but that's like one of the only word misuses that really gets to me. hunged?
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Kurieg posted:AITA for refusing to go to the hospital to visit my sister? hosed that OPs best option is to say "just pretend I died on the way home like my sister wished"
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fish and chips and dip posted:A loofah is a vegetable, or is that Yes. A lot of people think loofah is a sea sponge for some reason.
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Combo posted:I'm pretty sure I've never hugged my dad, and he was around most of my life. I still talk to him but he's a drat vampire and sucks the fun and energy out of everything, so we barely talk. My parents are both really self-involved and I was pretty messed up by it. I liked this book which helped me understand how they think and how to deal with them Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents by Lindsay C Gibson. https://www.amazon.co.uk/Adult-Children-Emotionally-Immature-Parents/dp/1626251703 It’s really sad that they weren’t given what they needed emotionally by their parents, so they didn’t know what to do with you. Well done for breaking the cycle
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nonathlon posted:On one hand, there are some men that have never had to do any cooking at all and so are totally bewildered by it. They have to start somewhere. It's called "weaponized incompetence." It's an abuse tactic that comes up pretty often amongst the villains in these posts. It's loving hamburger helper. A given stemlord can look it up on youtube if they're genuinely too stupid to understand the directions. That's not really at play here. He's hoping if he punishes his sexmommy by screwing up enough and making it an unpleasant enough ordeal when she tries to get him to do anything, she will decide it's not worth the trouble and not bother. Trollologist posted:God this is dark. Adulterers as a rule are not interested in the consequences of their actions. Midnight Voyager posted:I hate touching other people in basically any context. Sometimes I wonder if I wouldn't have hated it if I wasn't forced into it so much by adults when I was a kid. (don't take that the wrong way, I mean having to hug near strangers because they're Family, saying I didn't want to hug people but being pushed to do it anyway) No, bodily autonomy is bodily autonomy. Fortunately "don't force your children to hug/kiss/etc people when they don't want to do it" is finally becoming somewhat popular among people who raise children and has gained a ton of traction by telling parents "hey if you tell your kids from day 1 'your body doesn't belong to you, any time someone bullies you into letting them touch you in a way you're uncomfortable with, you'd better do it or your parents will punish you' it makes them very vulnerable to sexual abuse" which has really landed among non-abuser parents. Better late than never I guess. Pretty much anyone with boomer parents had these boundaries ignored and is in a similar position to you, Midnight Voyager, so there's no need to feel self-conscious about it. value-brand cereal posted:A lot of people don't know how to care for themselves regarding personal hygiene. Y'all ever see those tiktoks about white people going 'nooo don't use a loofah that's evil to sea creatures! #peta! just let soapy water flow over your body! It's more #natural and #organic!!' It's that bad. Is this the origin of that "white people don't wash their legs in the shower" thing from twitter 2 or 3 years ago? AITA for passively aggressively sending a new smoke detector to my deaf neighbor? quote:Edit for clarity: Neighbor is not actually deaf. I am an insensitive rear end for the phrasing in the title. Invisible Clergy fucked around with this message at 01:10 on Mar 3, 2022 |
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killerwhat posted:My parents are both really self-involved and I was pretty messed up by it. I liked this book which helped me understand how they think and how to deal with them I second the recommendation for this book, it has been tremendously helpful for me as well.
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Soylent Pudding posted:AITA For Telling My Ex-Fiancé's Best Friend That He Needs To Live Negative Impact He Played In Ex-Fiancé's Misery? From the kid's age, David is pulling this poo poo eight loving years later.
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AITA for telling my gf's friend who is staying at our place that she can leavequote:My gf's best friend is staying with us as she is just visiting from out of town.
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Mx. posted:AITA for telling my gf's friend who is staying at our place that she can leave I can't imagine inviting a guest to stay with me for a week and not putting in the measly hour of cleaning to get the other bathroom spotless and ready for guests. hell I can't imagine inviting guests over for a simple movie night without some basic cleaning. Guest sounds insane but "not living in filth" would have solved so much of this.
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Invisible Clergy posted:AITA for passively aggressively sending a new smoke detector to my deaf neighbor? oh come on allie, the note where your creepity-rear end shut-in neighbor asks for a key to your house was "very, very polite", why do you have to be so difficult about everything
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