Soylent Pudding posted:

AITA for not trusting my GF after she spoke on Teams with her coworker?

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Our relationship started like this. We were both in long distance relationships, met at work, started chatting on Teams then it evolved. In the end we both left our partners to be together. So what's to say she won't do the same thing in some sort.

DemoneeHo posted:

Somehow the space-time continuum has warped, and we can see this couple's future:

AITA for causing my sister in laws divorce with my brother?

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I’m actually fuming right now but I want to make sure I’m not the rear end in a top hat if u end up retaliating.

Sisal Two-Step posted:

WrenP-Complete posted:

Neighbors! I think it's going to be hot enough to swim in unheated pools this weekend. 90 degrees during the day doesn't necessarily help with ground temps.

ESH - He's an rear end in a top hat for saying "I can survive the wild" and she's an rear end in a top hat for not understanding that means stealing sometimes

she's right that you need to acclimatize to the weather, but the right thing to do is share water if at all possible. It's hard for people from the East Coast to understand what it means to actually acclimatize themselves.

Halloween Jack posted:

All gender reveal parties should be held in active volcanoes

Soylent Pudding posted:

AITA for making my MIL "depressed" because I made my husband do chores?

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My (31f) dear brother (26m) decided to propose to his gf few weeks ago. We went ring shopping together and he picked a ring he thought she'd like. After all, we picked a classic piece and you can never go wrong with a classic piece.

He proposed and all was well. That was until I saw them again two days ago after their proposal and I noticed my brother's fiancée has a different ring than the one we picked. I of course asked and she shamelessly admitted that she didn't like the og ring so they went and changed it for another one she liked better.

I told her that's a really weird thing of her to do and that she should be happy and grateful. After all the ring was a classic so it could fit anyone's style. She said that she had previously sent pics of what styles of rings she likes to my brother and she's not into the classic pieces anyway and she was disappointed how my brother ignored her own taste and opinion and got something she was clear from the start she wouldn't like. And that they after all agreed to go change the ring.

I asked for the price of the new ring and apparently it was the same price as the og one. But I doubt that. The ring looked way more expensive. And it was not even a classic diamond like the first one but instead a huge emerald stone which would not fit in many occasions.

I told my brother that if I were him I'd call off the engagement and have a serious talk with my partner because what his fiancée did is unacceptable behavior. My brother said I'm being rude and how I should kind my business because he is fine with his fiancée's choice of changing the ring. He also said he's the one at fault for getting the other ring so I better stop acting like an AH. I insisted that this is very rude and ungrateful for someone to do and that she should be happy she at least got a proposal and a ring. My brother and his fiancée both got mad at me and now think I'm an AH for implying such thing. AITA?

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So I was super into genealogy and creating family trees around two years ago. I got myself, my mom, and my brother some 23&me tests. My mom and I took one, but my brother wasn’t interested. So I ended up gifting it to my boyfriend.

He wasn’t really into it, but he gave me blanket permission to do whatever I needed to do for it to work. So I sent the tube off, made him an account, etc.

We both periodically check our accounts together to see new matches and check health reports.

Anyway, his cousin (his Father’s sisters son) recently came over and his cousin started talking about how he took a DNA test and discovered that the man who raised him wasn’t his father.

His mother was having an affair with his “father’s” brother and that’s who his real biological father was.

He and his siblings all discovered this on 23&me. The children of ‘his uncle’ knew already and waited for their parents to pass before they said anything.

This set off alarm bells in my head because if this cousin and his siblings were all on 23&me shouldn’t they have matched with my boyfriend?

So I was like, “Hey, do you guys have new matches turned on, because I don’t think we saw you guys when we activated his 23&me?”

He confirmed that he did have new matches turned on, and then quickly changed the subject and gave me a odd look.

So later on after he left, I asked my boyfriend if I could log onto his account (which isn’t odd, I check it all the time) and check things out. I looked through his relative list and sure enough the cousin was there.

With only 0.01% being related. Name and picture matched.

First cousins share around 12.5% of DNA. Even if his Father’s mother (his paternal grandmother) cheated on her husband and had an unknowingly bastard child, the cousin’s would still be 3-6% related through his father’s side.

My boyfriend is the 2nd of 4 children.

Not really sue how to handle this. This is not my circus and monkeys. Not my family. My boyfriend would not be able to figure this genealogy stuff out on his own so…..?

Also, yes I know IVF or sperm banks exist but based on comments between him, his mother, and father, I don’t think they utilized that but like I said I’m not them

TL;DR: I discovered that my partner’s DNA test shows questionable paternity results, should I say anything?

WrenP-Complete posted:

Neighbors! I think it's going to be hot enough to swim in unheated pools this weekend. 90 degrees during the day doesn't necessarily help with ground temps.

ESH - He's an rear end in a top hat for saying "I can survive the wild" and she's an rear end in a top hat for not understanding that means stealing sometimes

she's right that you need to acclimatize to the weather, but the right thing to do is share water if at all possible. It's hard for people from the East Coast to understand what it means to actually acclimatize themselves.

Sisal Two-Step posted:

Soylent Pudding posted:

AITA for not trusting my GF after she spoke on Teams with her coworker?

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She has been telling me recently that she feels like I am not supporting her in her move

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(I am feeling a lot of pressure because she is moving because of me and am a bit distant emotionally)

Molten Llama posted:

The rest of it is pretty wild too, but this... this is a masterpiece.

"Reddit, why does my girlfriend feel unsupported while I am upending her life and offering no support?"

Absurd Alhazred posted:

I (23F) think that I discovered that my boyfriend’s (22M) father isn’t his real dad. Should I mention it?

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My (f26) husband (m26) works long days. Pretty much 7AM-6PM, sometimes even later. (He is a utility locator, if that's helpful. And spring-summer is the busiest time.)

He sets his alarm for 5:30 AM. Every morning. Even on weekends because he is fearful of it not working when it needs to. No matter how many times I try to explain that you can set a schedule for it.

We don't actually get up right when the alarm goes off, we generally push snooze until it's 6 or 6:30. His workday starts whenever he gets in his company vehicle and drives to a ticket.

Why he sets it for 5:30 is a mystery. I am not a morning person, and he is the one who presses snooze.

I repeat, I am not a morning person. And lately, I have been having trouble sleeping. Yet my husband insists that I get up with him so I can make his work lunch. Well, today, I had a particularly hard time getting up. And while getting up, I was in a fog. So I moved slower than normal. I had decided to give him leftover pasta salad and make him a sandwich to go with it. Whilst I was in the kitchen, he recieved 3 emergency calls. Which meant he had to leave before I could finish packing his lunch. I hadn't even pulled out the salad yet due to having trouble finding any deli meat for his sandwich. He began rushing me and telling me "This is why I pester you to get up. Did you even start on my lunch?" I said "I was trying find-" but he cut me off. "I guess no lunch for me then." He snapped while pouring himself coffee in a travel mug. I shushed him, which I guess was the wrong thing to do. He started ranting at me about how it's always so difficult to get me up. I snapped and said "Well maybe you should be a man and pack your own lunch from now on! That's what family member who has the same job does!" Husband snaps back "Well, I'm not him and you're not his wife!"

I said "Glad that's clear, either way, expect me not get up at all next week and pack your own lunch from now on."

In the midst of all this, I had packed him a container of the salad and a fork. At least it was something. He stormed out as soon as I had zipped his lunchbox for him.

I know a lot of this was said in frustration, but I admit I do envy the family members who are in the same positions as us. The wife and I are both stay at home moms with toddlers, yet she's not expected to always pack her husband's lunch. He just grabs whatever's in the fridge or preps it at night so he can grab and go the next morning. I tried doing that for my husband and he complained about it not being fresh. I should point out the family member is in his late 30s, so I guess it's a matter of maturity.

But I feel the need of outsider's opinions. Am I the a-hole here?

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The wife and I are both stay at home moms with toddlers

IOwnCalculus posted:

"24oz bottle of water" is the "I got airlifted off of Camelback" starter pack.

Soylent Pudding posted:

And actual content:

AITA for making my boyfriend feel uncomfortable after he insisted on joining us on girls night in?
Everytime I tried to say no he be like "I have to join or you'll have to cancel".

Captain Hygiene posted:

AITA for implying my brother should cancel his proposal to his fiancée because she's ungrateful?

she should be happy she at least got a proposal and a ring.

run on sentience posted:

I believe she wants to gently caress her brother.

teen witch posted:

AITA for not wanting my friend to post photos with me under misleading captions?

limp_cheese posted:

Doesn't this horrid creature understand how blessed she is that my brother was willing to drop his standards enough to begrudgingly be with her? What an ungrateful bitch.

Like just, god drat. The idea that her brother loves this woman and actually wants to marry her is just beyond the pale for the OP..

I want to know if she is married and what that looks like.

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Hello , on phone My(29F) Bf(32m) always has to take a shower after a bad poo poo to "get the rest of it", I find it gross, but I dont normally mind it much cause he has a strict only go at home rule, but he doesn't mind family or friends places. He is actually proud of how gross his shits are, he boasts about how big they are, how smelly, and every time he has one he tells me and expects a "wow" or a "good job" after the shower.

We were out visiting his family the other day, we had a lovely dinner and stayed for a bit to chat after. Its our first formal dinner with his family, we've met eachother before but this was a Family Dinner with cousins included. Bf went to the washroom and 20min later texted me asking to grab a towel out of his brother's closet because he pooed and was going to take a shower.

I was embarrassed about having to ask his family for a towel and as I was passing him it I said "it might be best to learn how to wipe your own rear end, we can't hose you down every time" he quickly shot back that women don't understand because we don't have hair, I replied everyone has hair in their butts, its a human trait. He didn't like that and said i was implying that he was dirty. He was quiet for the rest of the evening and the car ride home.

Kite Pride Worldwide posted:

In what world could having pink hair ever be considered 'disrespectful' to anyone Like yeah I know it obviously isn't and they're just controlling assholes, but I'd love to see what incredible 'reason' could be thought up if they were pressed on it.

Halloween Jack posted:

It's weird how complete strangers will accost you to ask about your dyed hair or piercings, usually claiming that you're doing it for the attention. Don't flatter yourself, bitch.

sootikins posted:

AITA for telling my BF he should learn how to wipe his rear end

lmao he wants a "wow" or "good job" for a dookie

Soylent Pudding posted:

I've never met an eagle scout who was actually competent at anything. Even the ones most approximating competence had an ego completely out of proportion to their actual capabilities. I'm at the point when I see it on a resume it's a mark against the submitter.

Captain Hygiene posted:

r/relationships: wipe your own rear end, we can't hose you down every time

Captain Hygiene posted:

r/relationships: wipe your own rear end, we can't hose you down every time

Captain Hygiene posted:

r/relationships: wipe your own rear end, we can't hose you down every time

Zulily Zoetrope posted:

I can't find the tweet in question, but people getting weird about it always reminded me of that dumbass who said something like "Dyed hair and piercings are a form of aposematism; these women are showing off how poisonous they are and it's reasonable to want to avoid them" and earned the absolutely perfect response of "aposematism is meant to ward off predators, not potential partners. If you find it off-putting, that means it works."

sootikins posted:

AITA for telling my BF he should learn how to wipe his rear end

lmao he wants a "wow" or "good job" for a dookie

sootikins posted:

AITA for telling my BF he should learn how to wipe his rear end

lmao he wants a "wow" or "good job" for a dookie

Kite Pride Worldwide posted:

In what world could having pink hair ever be considered 'disrespectful' to anyone Like yeah I know it obviously isn't and they're just controlling assholes, but I'd love to see what incredible 'reason' could be thought up if they were pressed on it.

Mellow Seas posted:

But OTOH the "wow my poops are so big and manly, aren't you impressed?" thing is also a sufficient to dump the dumper.

hopefully ex-girlfriend posted:

He is actually proud of how gross his shits are... He didn't like that and said i was implying that he was dirty.