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AreWeDrunkYet posted:Communicating only in writing is a good idea, but it should be through a divorce lawyer. Sadly no, they're a silent OP. The question's pretty new though, so maybe they'll come back.
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Ghost Leviathan posted:Welcome to Rejected Parents, they're literally all like this. Sometimes you can make out actual details through the narcissistic fog, but these people are experts at blocking out reality. Dr. Stab posted:It's always "I was always a perfect parent and one day my horrible child just randomly decided not to talk to me and it's been 23 years since I've seen them." And in the places they post none of this is never questioned. I've made the mistake of looking through some of the estranged forums for content, but it's all exactly the same. It's 100% a format. "The setup" which explains how they are alone and in need, then one projectile vomit filled with vagary and missing reasons. 50% of the time they mention one or more books they read by other famous estranged parents.
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# ? May 8, 2022 16:13 |
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Does anyone have the link/text for the guy who found out his girlfriend had a shrine to her deceased ex-boyfriend and thought he was possessing her new boyfriend when they hosed and their baby was going to be him reincarnated? It’s seriously an all-timer and I wanna re-visit it
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# ? May 8, 2022 16:22 |
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Captain Hygiene posted:Ah, Mother's Day She should call up MIL and ask her how she likes the gift she bought her.
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# ? May 8, 2022 16:38 |
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Piell posted:AITA for calling police on a neighbour after she keyed my car because of books I write I know she keyed your car and went straight biblical by marking your door with a facsimile of blood but really she is a good person and a good mother! Lol just lol. I will never tire of stories where someone does psycho poo poo but you can't bring up the psycho poo poo because they have a good reputation and them being psycho might make them look bad.
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# ? May 8, 2022 17:32 |
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Really Doctor Jekyll is such an upstanding gentleman
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# ? May 8, 2022 17:45 |
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My mom somehow assigns my accomplishments to my brother, considering going NC posted:I'm a 37-year-old woman and I'm graduating from college with a Mathematics BS this month, I'm headed to grad school in the fall. Just hit da bricks. Walk the gently caress away. You'll never be her golden child as long as your brother is just sucking up all the love here.
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# ? May 8, 2022 17:46 |
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Edward Fingerhands posted:Just hit da bricks. Walk the gently caress away. You'll never be her golden child as long as your brother is just sucking up all the love here. This one needs more concrete examples, for our entertainment.
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AreWeDrunkYet posted:This one needs more concrete examples, for our entertainment. quote:My mom is a very manipulative, antiscience, conspiracy theory-driven, born-again fundamentalist Christian. I'm not saying all fundamentalist Christians are like this, but she definitely is. It used to cause a lot of problems between us which would make me upset and by proxy him. I've reduced what I talk to her about already, so continuing to trim that list isn't outside of my capabilities, it's just really reducing the list of safe topics I have with her. Fine-tuning conversational topics with her is a band-aid as far as he's concerned and he thinks I'd be happier bailing on the relationship - but it's only his suggestion, he wouldn't push it and he doesn't cause problems with her. We're pretty close to his parents, but not in an inappropriate way. His mom is straight-up awesome. quote:No, lots of people have degrees, I'm not special for that. Lots of people are dropouts, they're not losers for that. quote:That's a really good point and bringing up women in STEM tracks with some of the things she has mentioned in the past. Like being shocked that there would be girls at the robotics camp I mentor and assuming I was going to be a math teacher rather than going into research. quote:They are, mostly it's how she treats me and my life choices. I mentioned it somewhere else in the comments. She's very motivated by religion and extreme politics sometimes, which I know can be very upsetting for a lot of people and I didn't want threads to break down because of that. quote:Yes, he's told me I'm incorrect in my examples of applications for work I'm doing. It kind of creates this feedback loop between them where he says I'm wrong, and he loved physics when he was 12, therefore I must be wrong. It's really strange and exhausting. "I didn't want to mention the very things that are the root causes of all of this and fundamental things about her as a person that she will not change because it might derail the thread."
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# ? May 8, 2022 17:59 |
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Edward Fingerhands posted:Just hit da bricks. Walk the gently caress away. You'll never be her golden child as long as your brother is just sucking up all the love here. My husband is biased by my MIL being a huge piece of poo poo to him too, should I listen to him reddit?
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I'd tell the other neighbor im happy they're volunteering to pay for the damage from the keyed car so that me and the neighbor can talk things out.
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# ? May 8, 2022 18:21 |
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AreWeDrunkYet posted:I can't find the Reddit thread, does she explain why she is staying with her mooching husband who is now stealing from her? Post deleted, no comments that I could find from OP. I don't know how OP could write that he struggles with unemployment with a straight face.
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# ? May 8, 2022 19:00 |
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quantumwell posted:I don't know how OP could write that he struggles with unemployment with a straight face. 2020? Sure. 2022? It means someone won't take a job they consider "beneath them" rather than support their family.
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quantumwell posted:Post deleted, no comments that I could find from OP. There's a class of people who think that a McJob is beneath them, no matter their material conditions. Given that he can easily steal $1k from his wife and she isn't walking out the door the moment he tells her why he did it it's not like he's got a losing strategy.
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# ? May 8, 2022 19:54 |
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Mx. posted:AITA for going off on my wife after she made a sex sign to keep my mom from knocking on our bedroom door? lmao Edward Fingerhands posted:Just hit da bricks. Walk the gently caress away. You'll never be her golden child as long as your brother is just sucking up all the love here. "I'm thinking of cutting my mom out of my life, but the fact that my husband also hates her is making me hesitate"
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# ? May 8, 2022 20:18 |
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AITA for not blocking a friend on Facebook even after a few requests from my family. quote:Hello, quote:Consider. If your friend made a habit of rushing up to your family members and kicking them in the shins, would you say "That's just how he is"? Poster has deleted it; link is https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ul4ax3/aita_for_not_blocking_a_friend_on_facebook_even/
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# ? May 8, 2022 20:27 |
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Came across a bumble profile today that sounds like a future r/relationships post. It's a married woman with her husband in all of her photos and the vibe of the whole profile is literally in her own words "I've been hounded to gently caress another man since the 5th date and I'm finally going to do it" and "I feel like he loves his cuck porn more than he loves me". Reminded me of that one post about the secret cuck words the guy wanted at their wedding. Sounds like she's known this about him since the beginning, how the gently caress does someone put up with it so long despite having no interest in it themselves?
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# ? May 8, 2022 20:36 |
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Arsenic Lupin posted:AITA for not blocking a friend on Facebook even after a few requests from my family. Reddit advice asker: Yes?
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# ? May 8, 2022 20:46 |
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Are they friends because he pisses off family and friends or does he bring even more to the table?
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# ? May 8, 2022 20:59 |
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Piell posted:AITA for wanting my friend at my wedding? This person is more insufferable than you can imagine in the comments. AITA for warning my best friend about my brother having HIV ? quote:I (21M) have a college classmate (21F), with whom I'm best friends with, let's call her "Melissa". We've met in our freshman year and I've gotten along really well since then. Despite looking like your stereotypical blonde pretty girl, she's actually a geek who loves playing video games and watch stars with her telescope ( we're both passionate about astronomy ), but she can still totally party like a beast all night when she gets in the mood for it. She's pretty much known as "one of the boys" in our group of friends. Well, if he thought his brother wouldn't tell her, I can hypothetically understand this, but why would he think that? quote:I mean, he wouldn't have gotten the disease in the first place if not for his carelessness, so that's why I don't trust him. YTA YTA YTA YTA YTA YTA
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# ? May 8, 2022 20:59 |
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Midnight Voyager posted:This person is more insufferable than you can imagine in the comments. Came here to post this because *holy gently caress* you do not do this. Ever. Nobody's status is your business to spread no matter how judgemental and lovely you are about it. HIV is still highly stigmatized. Jesus loving Christ. I've lost so many people to complications from HIV and AIDS and I remember how awful it was just trying to get them treated with what was available at the time. Now it's a manageable, yet chronic, disease and science has come so far. But society really hasn't. Godddd this hits every last one of my buttons. And?! He's in love with his friend, and "nice guy"-ing it up.
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Edward Fingerhands posted:Came here to post this because *holy gently caress* you do not do this. Ever. Nobody's status is your business to spread no matter how judgemental and lovely you are about it. HIV is still highly stigmatized. Jesus loving Christ. I've lost so many people to complications from HIV and AIDS and I remember how awful it was just trying to get them treated with what was available at the time. Now it's a manageable, yet chronic, disease and science has come so far. But society really hasn't. Telling random people for no reason is inexcusable. Telling someone who you know is going to be having sex with the HIV-positive person who does not already know about it is completely different, especially if he reasonably suspects that the brother isn't actually going to tell her.
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# ? May 8, 2022 21:57 |
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We aren’t given any reason to believe he wouldn’t, and the fact he only tells her because she seems happy and he assumes she wouldn’t be is a pretty big tell.
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quote:My (28F) ex’s (29M) fiancée (25F) said our relationship makes her uncomfortable and she expects some changes going forward… I'd love a peek into the mind of the sort of person who thinks making these requests is reasonable. Absolutely none of this is OP's responsibility.
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Midnight Voyager posted:This person is more insufferable than you can imagine in the comments. It was literally on their first date. There was no reason whatsoever to reveal his HIV status on the first date when nothing intimate happened. The brother swore he'd tell her before they did anything, and assuming he's been through this with other partners before Melissa, there's no reason to believe he wouldn't tell her.
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# ? May 8, 2022 22:41 |
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It's less surprising when you think of it from OP's view: his twin brother who looks like him but is a big loser who didn't go to college got the attention of this pretty blonde girl while OP got friendzoned. He's a jealous rear end in a top hat trying to sabotage it for his brother because he wants to bang Melissa.
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# ? May 8, 2022 23:15 |
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Soylent Pudding posted:AITA for getting mad at my fiance? "I'm hardly ever away. I work for the f.b.i and only get called in when there's an emergancy." Sure you are, buddy
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Pleads posted:It's less surprising when you think of it from OP's view: his twin brother who looks like him but is a big loser who didn't go to college got the attention of this pretty blonde girl while OP got friendzoned. Exactly. His bullshit, plus his worldview, were the dead giveaways. Plus now it's deleted because he broke rule 8, which is I guess the satire rule.
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limp_cheese posted:Our kids have early-onset estrangement. lol
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# ? May 9, 2022 00:39 |
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Man, I was skimming for something to post here, and it's all loving Mother's Day. Eeeugh. (Not childfree, just hate Mother's Day and Father's Day.)
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AITA because I don't want to be unofficial babysitter on "vacation "quote:Last summer my dad, uncle, 2 of my cousins (15m and 12m) and I (16f) went to our family cabin for a week. My other cousin "Emma" (9f) didn't come because she was busy or something but my uncle said he'd bring her next year (this year). Always so odd how it's girls forced to babysit/play mom. Cowslips Warren fucked around with this message at 01:51 on May 9, 2022 |
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Motronic posted:And in the places they post none of this is never questioned. I've made the mistake of looking through some of the estranged forums for content, but it's all exactly the same. It's 100% a format. "The setup" which explains how they are alone and in need, then one projectile vomit filled with vagary and missing reasons. 50% of the time they mention one or more books they read by other famous estranged parents. Yeah, I started reading estranged parents stuff after finding the "Missing Missing Reason" website. It's weirdly fascinating. If it makes anyone feel better, the parents absolutely cannot handle the situation. They blame their children for the suffering they feel but it's like if supports from a building were taken away and the building collapsed: the fault is not in the supports. It does hurt to feel rejected, but these are people who are incapable of handling everyday life on their own. quote:I just found this site and I honestly feel like it saved my life – at least for today. I feel like I’m in hell, like there is a knee on my neck and no one will help me. My beautiful son and I were close, truly until his now wife came along. I thought we were good, but literally the minute they walked back down the aisle he became someone I don’t even recognize. It’s as if he would prefer I was dead. I’m going to listen to your book starting right now. I have 3 other grown sons that I have to continue to show up for. Thank you. quote:My biggest thought processes for a day where our children are supposed to acknowledge and send love to their moms is that I am stupid, I was a fool, and I am embarrassed that both of my children have dumped me. quote:I will cry in bed all day. My daughter has six children and I only have met only three. My heart is already am sick to think of tomorrow. I have no support except this is support and the book. I feel worthless and I don’t know what I did but she won’t talk. quote:Happy Mother’s day to all ladies reading this post. Today marks the 6th mother’s day without hearing from our estranged son. He was a good kid and was family oriented, friendly, kind and responsible. That changed rapidly after he married and he became increasingly withdrawn. His spouse had us all fooled at first but once she got that ring on her finger she changed and her behavior became controlling and manipulative in the extreme. She became the de-facto leader in their marriage who then decided that they should go “no contact” with his extended family. (We still don’t know why although we were made aware from the start that she considered herself to be intellectually superior. She also prided herself on not showing any emotion whatsoever and she looked down on people who did.) We have no phone numbers, emails, and as they have recently moved, even a home address for them. At this writing we have no idea where they are. What kind of a man ignores his mother and grandmothers not only on mother’s day but every day of the year? I am so disappointed in him. quote:I would like to respond to (other commenter's) post about trying to remember a time when my daughter brought me joy. She is 31 now and there were some happy and joyous times before she turned 11 however after that she has bullied us, verbally abused us and shunned us regularly. About 4 years ago she shut of out of her life for almost 9 months but came back, no discussions or apologies. She had met a wonderful young man, got engaged and had hoped to marry last summer however this was put on hold due to covid. Things were going relatively well, we helped them purchase their first home, they came bi weekly for dinner and came to all family functions. (something she rarely did before). My husband even commented that it appeared she had finally “grown up”. Well we couldn’t have been more wrong. She had a baby four months ago and two days after the birth sent me a series of incredibly hurtful text messages telling me that since she became pregnant she has been reflecting on her childhood and what horrible parents we have been. I felt the rug pull out from under me and went into shock. I will admit that although things had been better, there was always the elephant in the room however I realize now that she had been insincere the whole time. When I look back at my text messages to her prior to the birth they were very short and abrupt. I believe she had been planning this for months. I haven’t been in touch since then and am speaking to a therapist, so I can get years of surprised emotions off my chest. It literally feels like a weight has been put on it. The counsellor is walking me through the grieving process. Anyhow sorry for the long text. Like the rest of you a I am dreading tomorrow wondering if she will or will not contact me. I’m not sure what I want. Thank you to everyone for your thoughtful correspondence, I don’t feel so alone. Let’s try and have a decent day tomorrow regardless of what transpires.
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# ? May 9, 2022 01:43 |
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I don't feel the least sorry for any of those folks. They are trapped in a hell entirely of their own making, and keeping themselves trapped, because they simply cannot face their own pasts.
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# ? May 9, 2022 01:53 |
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Oh, Lord. AITA for having a 'lights out' wedding? quote:I (27F) am the daughter of the most amazing parents that ever did amaze. No, they are not perfect, but they've literally done everything they could in their lives to make sure I was happy to the best of their ability. They are also both blind.
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# ? May 9, 2022 02:04 |
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You know what, that sounds like it would be a fun rear end wedding. I mean if Covid wasn't a thing. And the attendants were trained to spot gropers and poo poo.
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Cowslips Warren posted:You know what, that sounds like it would be a fun rear end wedding.
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Cowslips Warren posted:You know what, that sounds like it would be a fun rear end wedding. Sounds like those restaurants with no lights, but that's voluntary. Maybe spring for some sweet night vision goggles for the guests who prefer
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# ? May 9, 2022 02:22 |
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If it were just a theme party and not a life event, go for it
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Brawnfire posted:If it were just a theme party and not a life event, go for it
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