AreWeDrunkYet posted:

It's morally stealing, but probably not illegal. Assuming it was a joint rather than custodial account (and the former is more common), the mother can legally withdraw whatever she wants.

Unfortunately none of that really matters if the mother was a signatory to a joint account and it wasn't a custodial account in the daughter's name.

Dr. Stab posted:

The status of the account overrides any contract between the mother and daughter about what the money in the account will be used for?

Motronic posted:

As the only written agreement bearing on the situation: probably. At least in reality not a magical world where life is fair and justice is for all.

But then again, this sounds like it's the UK/Australia (paycheque) so who knows.

OP posted:

I'm born and raised in the US but my parents are from Canada and England

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From the time I got my 1st job at 16 untill I moved out at 18 my parents charged me $50 a week for rent. What I didn’t know is that each of those $50 weekly rent payments my parents had put away for me and when I moved out they handed me a checking account that had all of that money in it

OP posted:

well that's lovely for you but unless my mom's new chest opens like a safe containing my cash to give me....I don't think she has the same good intentions.

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The Glumslinger posted:

Hey, I've got a great idea for a Videodrome sequel

Invisible Clergy posted:

Coming this summer:

Treasure Chest

Motronic posted:

Want to be even more outraged? It's probably not "stealing" in a way that's easy to prove/prosecute.

Sounds like the mother made a bank account in her own name and had the kid deposit checks. Even if it was a joint account everything in the account belongs to both people equally, not 50% each.

DemoneeHo posted:

Amazing chest ahead

DoubleNegative posted:

I went looking for this and apparently it was scrubbed from the Internet. The only trace of its existence I found was the update from a little bit later:

Soylent Pudding posted:

AITA for "embarrassing" my bf in front of everyone

Motronic posted:

There are also UTMA/UGMA accounts, which are in the name of the minor with an adult custodian. The custodian has a fiduciary responsibility to the child in this case.

I guarantee you it wasn't one of those either.

It was a joint "or" account (not an "and") or simply an account in the mothers name period. I'm betting on the last one.

The Maroon Hawk posted:

r/relationships: EDIT: Do not message me on here about your dick.

Batterypowered7 posted:

Try finger but hole

therobit posted:

UTMA accounts are pretty much the default option if you bring a kid into the bank and say you need to establish an account for them, but yeah mom probably just put it in her own name.

DeeplyConcerned posted:

its a chesting account. the adult can take the money, but ONLY for boob jobs. i believe the kids SOL here.

Invisible Clergy posted:

My [28F] boyfriend [27M] of three years refused to pull over while he was driving, pissed himself, and then kinda blamed me for it.

quote:

My boyfriend (27M) and I (26F) decided to go on a roadtrip like we do every year. This year he said he doesn't want to "ruin" his new car and suggested we go in my car. He also requested to do the driving but I told him it's my car then I shoupd drive it, he tried to make comments about how my driving is slow, and inconsistant but eventually dropped it and we went.

He brought his buddy with him and they both sat in the back. Once we got on the road, My boyfriend started making comments about my driving while asking me to let him drive instead. I ignored him and kept driving but then he and his friends kept saying things like "op you're driving like a giiiirl --- wait you are a girl!" then they start laugh and then say "you're driving is as bad as our old neighbor". Again I ignored them but ---- they go again with "srsly, who taught you to drive like that?" and "hope the cops pull us over and end this misery". I couldn't take it anymore and I began to lose my temper. so I told them to stop and that if either of them make one more comment, ONE comment about my driving then I'd kick them out.

My boyfriend glanced at me then things got quiet for about 5 minutes then he finally mumbled "alright I think we should call 9-11 because you're driving is causing me brain damage". I snapped, I immediately stopped the car and told him I had enough and that he had to get out. He tried to argue saying I was overreacting and he was just trying to "teach" me to drive better but I told him to get out!!!! his friend came at me defending him but I told him to get out too. My boyfriend then said I was nuts because we were in the middle of nowhere but there was a gas station near by. I told them both to get out and put their bags on the side of the road then drove off. I went home instead of continuing the trip and I cried all the way til I got there.

Later I had an argument with my boyfriend upon his return and he told me it was cruel of me to kick him and his friend out and ruin the trip over few comments they made with good intentions. I told him that he mocked my driving the entire time and called it horrible and in response he said he was just being honest with me and that this is all my fault for refusing to let him drive in the first place. Now we're not even talking and he keeps huffing and puffing around me for doing this to him and his friend.

Hughlander posted:

AITA for kicking my boyfriend and his friend out of my car in the middle of our road trip?

Why he is not an ex-bf I'll honestly never know.

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He brought his buddy with him and they both sat in the back.

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I f26 have been with my fiance m34 for 2 and a half years. We had LDR mostly but I moved in with him after the engagement.

We agree on most things except few things he finds unlikeable or in his own words "intolerable" and one of them is me using public restrooms. He has expressed how disgusting public restrooms are and been trying to convince me to not use them unless it's urgent but he'd try to talk me out of using them even when it's urgent and tell me to hold it in. He's a lot like his mom since she has the same mindset.

We went out to the restaurant to celebrate her birthday and after we finished eating I tried to excuse myself to use the restroom. His mom looked at me and jokingly said "oh don't worry about fixing your makeup it's still fine" but I got up and politely said that I needed the restroom for another reason. My fiance looked at me with an upset look and told me that we already talked about using public restrooms and how I should avoid them at any cost, but I kind of flipped out and flatout told him I needed to pee. Apparently I said it loud enough others around us heard, which made my fiance feel embarrassed he got more upset and told me "sit down and shut up" I felt so offended I nearly broke down crying because it was loud enough for others to hear, not to mention how his family looked at me. I collected my purse, phone and key and decided to go home. He freaked out asking where I was going I said I was going home.

He followed me trying to get me to go back inside for the sake of the celebration but I got in my car and drove off. He left about 10 missed phoncalls then came back telling me I spoiled the entire celebration for everyone. I told him he disrespected me and tried to deny me access to the rest room. He lashed out saying I couldn't play the victim or act ignorant after he told me about the restroom thing and said I was at fault for 2 things, one raising my voice and embarrassing him and his family when I said I wanted to pee. and two for escalating and walking out of my future mother inlaw's birthday celebration and disrespecting her. I refused to argue anymore but he said that I only have myself to blame for this situation and for ruining the celebration for him and the family.

CharlestheHammer posted:

I can completely understand not wanting to use a public bathroom.

Having it so no one around you can either is next level

Judge Schnoopy posted:

Um gross he has to have sex with that butt that touched the public toilet seat I mean my god can you imagine

Invisible Clergy posted:

My [28F] boyfriend [27M] of three years refused to pull over while he was driving, pissed himself, and then kinda blamed me for it.

Mx. posted:

AITA for going home after my fiancè told me to "sit down and shut up"?.

w

what

Troublemaker posted:

OP says it's an account where she can't touch the money until she's 18. I know absolutely jack poo poo about banking, but wouldn't that be a custodial account? I've never heard of a joint account where one party can't access the money.

Unless you're saying the mom just opened an account for herself and said she'd give OP the money when she was 18, which sounds entirely possible.