Hughlander posted:AITA for not donating my kidney to my father? I didn't know Locke posted on reddit. E: wow, what a lovely snipe
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# ? Aug 10, 2022 21:29 |
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Midnight Voyager posted:The most horrible case of "BUT FAMILY" poisoning I've ever seen. i brought you into this world, i can drat well
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# ? Aug 10, 2022 21:33 |
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Makes me wonder if the mom was actually getting money from the father all along and just didn't use it on nor tell the kid. Also she is totally selling that kidney to the dad.
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# ? Aug 10, 2022 21:45 |
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AITA for refusing to choose between my daughtersquote:Husband and I have two daughters, Erika 23F & Sarah 25F. Much to my disappointment, they've never gotten along - even as kids, they were always fighting. I had always hoped they would grow out of it, but it just never happened. I've tried very hard to encourage them to grow together, as it was always my wish for them to be best friends and take care of each other when I'm gone. Nothing worked and they seemed bent on hating each other. OP posted:I mean, I think her sending me the texts was immature. If I'm supposed to stop meddling, shouldn't I just have refused to acknowledge the texts anyways? That's just Sarah trying to get me involved in another one of their fights OP posted:How is Erika supposed to apologize when she's blocked?? And it's been years, she doesn't even know why Sarah's upset anymore OP posted:Sarah always got better grades in school, has had more successful long term relationships (I mean she's engaged, Erika just dates around and can't find a good guy.) She has a good job lined up with a good salary. Erika lives at home with us and is taking her time to figure out what she wants to do. Sarah has also recently lost a lot of weight and gotten in shape - she talks about fitness a lot around me. Things just seemed to come a little more easily to Sarah, and while the kids were still in school, Sarah just seemed to love being the more "successful" kid. Of course I'm proud of her, but it sucks to see her success making the other one feel badly about herself OP posted:She's threatened to not talk to me or my husband if we meddle with her and Erika's relationship...just seems like threats to me. She's always been vindictive and sometimes it feels like she's just using us OP posted:
Narrator voice: "She remembers it."
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# ? Aug 10, 2022 21:45 |
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haveblue posted:Almost every time a kidney donation story comes up, someone mentions you can tell the doctor you don't want to do it and they'll report that you're not compatible. Is that an urban legend or did this guy just not know about it? this is true. i gave my dad a kidney a couple months ago and everytime i talked to someone from the hospital they closed out by saying if i ever felt pressured or coerced in any way i just had to tell them and they'd come up with a reason why i couldn't spare the organ it's probably academic in that poor kid's case though because i intensely doubt an actual hospital would take an organ from a literal child and in any case he probably wouldn't have gotten through the psych screening, but "doctors and coordinators will lie for you if you don't want to give up an organ" is a built-in part of the process
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# ? Aug 10, 2022 21:55 |
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Lottery of Babylon posted:AITA for refusing to choose between my daughters you did choose, OP; you've consistently chosen between your daughters for years
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# ? Aug 10, 2022 21:56 |
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It's always nice to hear about someone becoming a happy and successful person in spite of having garbage parents.
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# ? Aug 10, 2022 21:58 |
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Foo Diddley posted:you did choose, OP; you've consistently chosen between your daughters for years
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# ? Aug 10, 2022 22:00 |
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FMguru posted:Mom's slippery memory is pretty impressive. I don't even know why Sarah hates Erika! I asked her once and she straight-up told me and she showed me the literal screenshots but still! i wonder why the rear end in a top hat child who was constantly enabled by mom is less successful and can't keep a boyfriend around
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# ? Aug 10, 2022 22:09 |
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FMguru posted:Mom's slippery memory is pretty impressive. I don't even know why Sarah hates Erika! I asked her once and she straight-up told me and she showed me the literal screenshots but still! What was I supposed to do look at or read those texts? That would be meddling, which is bad. I'll just continue to try and guilt Sarah into having a relationship with Erika every chance I get, which is not meddling. Its just good parenting.
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# ? Aug 10, 2022 22:16 |
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AITA for Sending an Employee Home to Change?quote:For the record, I’m a female really ought to fire her for dressing like such a slut, OP
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# ? Aug 10, 2022 22:27 |
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haveblue posted:Almost every time a kidney donation story comes up, someone mentions you can tell the doctor you don't want to do it and they'll report that you're not compatible. Is that an urban legend or did this guy just not know about it? It's true, and doctor's will always talk to the minor alone to make sure they're not being pressured. It is also vanishingly rare for a minor to be a living donor for an adult family member (basically, there need to be no other options). All he needs to do is tell the doctor he refuses and it won't happen. Captain Hygiene posted:I mean, definitely do what you have to in that situation, but can a kid have their parent just go "take their kidney, their opinion does not matter" and a surgeon will just do it? I legitimately know nothing about the situation, I know there's lots of hosed up things in the healthcare industry, but I would've guessed that involuntary organ removal would not happen with only parental consent since there's no medical need on the minor's end. No. The donor must freely consent. The parent is not the donor and can't force it. Bonster fucked around with this message at 22:36 on Aug 10, 2022 |
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Foo Diddley posted:AITA for Sending an Employee Home to Change? Turns out, there's no dress code rule to enforce that, its literally just OP's demands, so if that complaint gets escalated it's going to go real bad for her.
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# ? Aug 10, 2022 22:55 |
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Foo Diddley posted:AITA for Sending an Employee Home to Change? 23 years old and already a senior software engineer? Is this actually doable?
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# ? Aug 10, 2022 22:58 |
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Dazerbeams posted:23 years old and already a senior software engineer? Is this actually doable? bay_area.txt Must have graduated from one of the "right" schools.
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# ? Aug 10, 2022 23:00 |
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Different parts of the SW industry have different timescales. Especially 'old' industries might have more impressive sounding title advancement more quickly instead of, you know, actual FAANG money.
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# ? Aug 10, 2022 23:26 |
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Lottery of Babylon posted:AITA for refusing to choose between my daughters "Many people are asking what Erika did to cause Sarah to cut her off. I don't totally know - Sarah just told me that Erika was bullying her. Sarah sent me the screenshots, but that was many years ago and I don't like getting involved in their fights anyways. Sarah is apparently also still mad about some things that happened when Erika was 16 - a close friend of Sarah's died and I had to take Sarah to the funeral, causing Erika to miss a sports competition. Erika was really upset and said some terrible things to Sarah - but Erika was only 16 and didn't know better (she had never had a friend die before.) Sarah is apparently still mad about that which I think is evidence of how she can be really resentful" Textbook case of missing missing reasons. Except for the part where the instigating event isn't missing, OP just refused and still refuses to take it seriously.
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# ? Aug 10, 2022 23:39 |
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Oh, it's just a little poo poo-talking your deceased best friend, you're *sisters*!!!
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# ? Aug 10, 2022 23:41 |
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Dazerbeams posted:23 years old and already a senior software engineer? Is this actually doable? There's lovely places where time in career = title. I was a "Senior Architect" at 25 which many years later is so completely laughable. Where I am now is much much more strict with titles. Anyone applying for a senior with less than 10 years in an industry is pointed towards the mid as a general rule.
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# ? Aug 10, 2022 23:53 |
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Yeah especially at smaller places or agencies that have smaller tech teams, titles are hilariously vague. My current title wasn't a thing when I started at my current place of work five years ago, and a bunch of people are also now architects of various areas partially because they ran out of titles. The funniest thing though was at the first place I worked, where right before I left they were legitimately suggesting "Software Engineer 0" as a possible title. Because arrays are zero-indexed and I guess they thought it was funny and gave literally no other thought to the possible implications.
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# ? Aug 11, 2022 00:15 |
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Tech startup work culture is terrible in many ways, but the prevalence of wAcKy tItLeS just might be the single worst thing about it. Look at me, I'm the Chief Fun Officer!
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FMguru posted:Tech startup work culture is terrible in many ways, but the prevalence of wAcKy tItLeS just might be the single worst thing about it. Look at me, I'm the Chief Fun Officer! nah
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# ? Aug 11, 2022 00:22 |
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Yeah, tech startup work culture is terrible in general.
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# ? Aug 11, 2022 00:24 |
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Brawnfire posted:Oh, it's just a little poo poo-talking your deceased best friend, you're *sisters*!!! People will use adolescence to excuse the most hosed up things. Teens are impulsive horny naive fools, which can lead to being assholes at times (like frankly any age group?), but not sociopathic pieces of poo poo.
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# ? Aug 11, 2022 00:28 |
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WIBTA For Accepting My Cousin's College Fund As Payment From My Aunt?quote:Alright, so, I'm (24F) a stripper. I mostly like my job, though as a lesbian it can be kind of frustrating. Still, I like dancing and I like making people's day brighter, and I'm good at it. Doubt I'll want to do it for the rest of my life, but for here and now I'm happy and making good money. What the gently caress did I just read?
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# ? Aug 11, 2022 00:28 |
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I could stomach startup culture superficialities and material silliness if it meant that all of the actual tire fires are dealt with promptly and correctly. I’ll work with the Head Honcho of Amazeballs Pwnage as long as I’m being paid equitably and my rights are respected. This does not seem to ever happen! Weird!
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# ? Aug 11, 2022 00:29 |
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Absurd Alhazred posted:"Many people are asking what Erika did to cause Sarah to cut her off. I don't totally know - Sarah just told me that Erika was bullying her. Sarah sent me the screenshots, but that was many years ago and I don't like getting involved in their fights anyways. Sarah is apparently also still mad about some things that happened when Erika was 16 - a close friend of Sarah's died and I had to take Sarah to the funeral, causing Erika to miss a sports competition. Erika was really upset and said some terrible things to Sarah - but Erika was only 16 and didn't know better (she had never had a friend die before.) Sarah is apparently still mad about that which I think is evidence of how she can be really resentful" quote:This thread is now locked due to an excess of rule violations.
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# ? Aug 11, 2022 00:30 |
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Foo Diddley posted:AITA for Sending an Employee Home to Change?
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Arsenic Lupin posted:Darn, can't search for it. Was looking forward to the comments.
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# ? Aug 11, 2022 00:32 |
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Hughlander posted:WIBTA For Accepting My Cousin's College Fund As Payment From My Aunt? that Lesbian Fire Island is real and OP is offered to be to a dancing barmaid for the sugar mommas, what's so hard to understand?
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# ? Aug 11, 2022 00:41 |
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For that kind of abrupt cut off I'm guessing the cousin either did a serious hate crime or molested children.
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# ? Aug 11, 2022 00:44 |
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Hughlander posted:WIBTA For Accepting My Cousin's College Fund As Payment From My Aunt? Mom's just jealous of her cool rich gay sister. Get that bag, IMO.
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# ? Aug 11, 2022 00:44 |
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I would not want to go to an island full of wealthy people twice my age as "eye candy."
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# ? Aug 11, 2022 00:50 |
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Soylent Pudding posted:AITA for not wearing contacts on a double date? A few pages back, but this made me remember the last day of my junior year. I realized my psych teacher, whose class I had been in 5x a week for the past school year, had blue/brown heterochromia. He hadn't been covering it. I was just real unobservant.
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# ? Aug 11, 2022 00:55 |
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Defiance Industries posted:I would not want to go to an island full of wealthy people twice my age as "eye candy." I'd want to be real clear on the ground rules and any "implications," but I imagine that goes with the territory anyway.
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# ? Aug 11, 2022 01:00 |
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MK-Ultramarathon posted:Yeah especially at smaller places or agencies that have smaller tech teams, titles are hilariously vague. My current title wasn't a thing when I started at my current place of work five years ago, and a bunch of people are also now architects of various areas partially because they ran out of titles. When MC Hammer was a kid, he got hired as Executive Vice President And Bat Boy for the Oakland A's, because the man who hired him wasn't allowed to hire people below the executive level. (He later met Hammerin' Hank Aaron in that job, and that's how MC Hammer got his name.)
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# ? Aug 11, 2022 01:03 |
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No biggie, just pimping out my niece to the Isle of Lesbos.
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# ? Aug 11, 2022 01:04 |
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The vibe I'm getting is that the OP's mom thinks its not as serious as her sister does, is expecting the cousin to be forgiven in time. if the aunt is rich enough to be renting out islands, then the $200k college fund is likely a drop in the bucket so that excuse makes no sense. Big chance the crime is something that depending on your political opinions ranges from "death penalty deserved" to "boys will be boys" or the mom is hoping to get that money after she convinces OP to turn it down.
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# ? Aug 11, 2022 01:05 |
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I feel like there can't be that many gay women in their 50s that own private islands.
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# ? Aug 11, 2022 01:06 |
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Hughlander posted:WIBTA For Accepting My Cousin's College Fund As Payment From My Aunt? Some content, for my sins: AITA for charging an 8 year old rent? quote:I really don’t think I’m the AH but hear me out.
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