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"Rentseeking is justified if you're dating your tenant" is a hell of a take.
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# ? May 30, 2024 13:14 |
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but he hasn't completed the ritual yet. the spirits will be angry.
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# ? Sep 24, 2022 03:19 |
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AITA for talking to my MIL like a kid when she touched my belly?quote:My husband and I are expecting our firs baby (yei!), we've have some ups and downs with his parents because they don't understand boundaries, but overall it's been really good. For some context, I (24F) come from an abusive home and I can't stand being touched, before getting pregnant this wasn't a problem with my in-laws, but now that I'm carrying a baby, it's been awful with my MIL and my SIL because they think they can touch my belly whenever they want to. Both my husband and I have talked to them, and said that while I would rather they don't touch me at all, I can understand this is a big thing as a family, so I would simply like being asked instead of just feeling a hand at random times, but they rarely do it, so I just move when they touch me.
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# ? Sep 24, 2022 03:27 |
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Midnight Voyager posted:Yeah, this... he said he was fine actually paying for utilities and poo poo, is everyone missing that? It's the /r/relationships thread, why bother paying attention when you can just dive in with a dumb lovely hot take?
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# ? Sep 24, 2022 03:29 |
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Midnight Voyager posted:So $800 is everything that is not "pay me for the privilege of living here". That's fees, water, power, repairs, all that poo poo. Is this the bit you are missing from the story?? I think it’s about as likely as the OP’s assertion that he was promised by both his girlfriend and her parents that they would never, ever pay rent. Assuming we take him at his word she is entitled to ask for rent if she wants it, but should have asked sooner. My problem is the assertion that charging rent at all is a problem. I think that is the OP is being truthful he should move out as soon as possible and leave her. But I question how much of that is utilities for instance. Assume $200/mo for heating and cooling, 100 for water and sewer, probably $100 for gas or electric, whichever isn’t doing the heating and cooling. A hundred to a hundred fifty for internet and cable. Who knows how much HOA fees are, probably between $250 and $500 but even half of that doesn’t leave a lot of room for maintenance and repairs that aren’t covered by the building. And it probably leaves nothing for the eventuality of a large assessment. Again $800 on top is too much, but I don’t think $300 or $500 would be.
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# ? Sep 24, 2022 03:30 |
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Bargearse posted:It's the /r/relationships thread, why bother paying attention when you can just dive in with a dumb lovely hot take? I keep thinking "maybe if I point out the information someone is missing or misreading, a light will come on in someone's head", but then they show up and litigate how much the OP is maybe lying or maybe there's more fees than are included in the amount of money for "fees" and list fees that they MENTIONED like "repairs" and I realize... nah you're right, some people's brains have no light bulb.
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# ? Sep 24, 2022 03:37 |
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Pomme de Terror posted:AITA for talking to my MIL like a kid when she touched my belly? Lol, that's a very good way to call people out on their poo poo behavior.
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# ? Sep 24, 2022 03:38 |
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Midnight Voyager posted:I keep thinking "maybe if I point out the information someone is missing or misreading, a light will come on in someone's head", but then they show up and litigate how much the OP is maybe lying or maybe there's more fees than are included in the amount of money for "fees" and list fees that they MENTIONED like "repairs" and I realize... nah you're right, some people's brains have no light bulb. Dude is just not going to be paying when a five digit assessment comes along, or when there is major work that has to be done. He thinks the $700 covers everything but it doesn’t. That’s the long and the short of it. There is no way in hell $700 covers for the inevitable large irregular and unpredictable costs that come with ownership. His girlfriend still should have told him ahead of time and is probably asking too much, but asking for more than base fees and utilities and light bulbs isn’t wrong.
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# ? Sep 24, 2022 03:41 |
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therobit posted:Dude is just not going to be paying when a five digit assessment comes along, or when there is major work that has to be done. He thinks the $700 covers everything but it doesn’t. That’s the long and the short of it. There is no way in hell $700 covers for the inevitable large irregular and unpredictable costs that come with ownership. Is that why this extra fee appeared right after they had an argument? I am sure she was thinking of all these and not "I'm mad at my boyfriend and suddenly pulling a new cost of living with me." Did you miss that bit of timing too?
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# ? Sep 24, 2022 03:42 |
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a simple offering of water and earth
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# ? Sep 24, 2022 03:44 |
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AITA For Making My Brother Walk To Schoolquote:My brother (15M) has recently become an advocate for green living. He has a lot of “rules” for the house that my family follows. Like, no plastic bottles, we all recycle, try to find sustainable alternatives for things, etc. We've all recently started an individual bottle brick and spend time every night after dinner washing our plastic and stuffing the bottle.
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# ? Sep 24, 2022 03:49 |
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Cerekk posted:Unmarried couple living together: one of the partners should pay 200% and the other should pay -100%
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# ? Sep 24, 2022 03:51 |
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AITA for refusing to apologize to my parents poly partner?quote:My (16F) parents (36 each) became poly 4 years ago, they came to me and explained what it meant to be that, they've been dating the same person (Maddison, 27F) for the past three years and she moved in with us 2 years ago.
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# ? Sep 24, 2022 03:54 |
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Midnight Voyager posted:AITA For Making My Brother Walk To School Lol at getting mad over throwing an apple seed out the window, but also lmao at positing that it's okay because it might one day grow into an apple tree next to the stop sign
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# ? Sep 24, 2022 03:54 |
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therobit posted:Dude is just not going to be paying when a five digit assessment comes along, or when there is major work that has to be done. He thinks the $700 covers everything but it doesn’t. That’s the long and the short of it. There is no way in hell $700 covers for the inevitable large irregular and unpredictable costs that come with ownership. i also love posts where people make up stories to be mad at
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# ? Sep 24, 2022 03:55 |
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Midnight Voyager posted:Is that why this extra fee appeared right after they had an argument? I am sure she was thinking of all these and not "I'm mad at my boyfriend and suddenly pulling a new cost of living with me." Did you miss that bit of timing too? Yes. But again, my issue is with the goons that think rent at all is unreasonable. And the notion that anything above repairs and utilities is unreasonable. Borosilicate posted:What the gently caress are you talking about? You think it's cool to charge your SO rent when you're not paying to live in the place yourself? It was a gift. HopperUK posted:Poor guy found out he was dating a loving landlord just in time rain dogs posted:Anything over half the utilities/repairs is just asinine. That's your SO, not a tenant. Serene Dragon posted:Why would you want to profit off of your boyfriend? Like, paying utilities and repairs and poo poo yeah, that's fine but him paying her rent is her becoming a parasite landlord to someone she supposedly cares about. She's not even paying a mortgage on the place so it's just her taking money from him every month for herself. That is gross and slimy. CharlestheHammer posted:To be honest if he was paying on the mortgage without actually having his name in it he would be an idiot as well. Your not partners your her tenant she sometimes sleeps with rain dogs posted:I've rented for 20+ years, by myself, with roommates, girlfriends, and a wife. I've never tried to make a profit off of any of them. Also, from the Reddit thread: quote:She pays condo fees ($500 a month) and property tax ($300 a month) which is $800 in total. So sorry my math was wrong, I'd have to pay $1100 a month not $1500 a month. Even then, splitting a one bedroom for $1100 is still above market rate for where I live. Plus I'd have to pay for repairs around the apartment so I'm sure you can tack on an extra $200 a month on average there. His math is hard to follow and leaves a lot of shot out but it sounds like she would only be receiving $300/mo over his half of the costs, and as I said that doesn’t account for long term expenses that someone who thinks they shouldn’t have to pay more than utilities and repairs would never in a million years be considering. She’s still the rear end in a top hat for springing it on him the way she did, but the whole situation is more reasonable than the OP or any of the quotes goons make it sound.
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# ? Sep 24, 2022 03:59 |
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therobit posted:She’s still the rear end in a top hat for springing it on him the way she did, but the whole situation is more reasonable than the OP or any of the quotes goons make it sound. It's not, gently caress her
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Captain Hygiene posted:Lol at getting mad over throwing an apple seed out the window, but also lmao at positing that it's okay because it might one day grow into an apple tree next to the stop sign Lmao at captain sustainability demanding car rides just for him, and presumably needing to be picked up again afterwards. By not driving, he's doubling the millage used!
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AITA for moving my money to a different account after my step mother threatened me with taking them from me?quote:15F here. Step mother and I obviously don't get along. She's been my step mother for 1.5 years.
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# ? Sep 24, 2022 04:09 |
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Edit: Oops, took too long to write this post. They said the $700 was the extra money their girlfriend wanted them to pay, and that it would come to $1500 in total on top of the fees they were already paying. But in the comments, they said they got it wrong: quote:She pays condo fees ($500 a month) and property tax ($300 a month) which is $800 in total. So sorry my math was wrong, I'd have to pay $1100 a month not $1500 a month. Even then, splitting a one bedroom for $1100 is still above market rate for where I live. Plus I'd have to pay for repairs around the apartment so I'm sure you can tack on an extra $200 a month on average there.
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# ? Sep 24, 2022 04:09 |
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Midnight Voyager posted:AITA For Making My Brother Walk To School Probably fake. Pretty sure a hearty "gently caress off, dickhead" will solve a lot of problems.
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# ? Sep 24, 2022 04:10 |
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Mx. posted:AITA for moving my money to a different account after my step mother threatened me with taking them from me? I wonder why the dad that doesn't seem to be do anything to stop the step mother is not given the benefit of the doubt. Also, do they let sub 18 year old people open accounts in their name? Genuine question here
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# ? Sep 24, 2022 04:30 |
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AITA for spending $45,000 on pictures of ships? I'm told it will be a Living Breathing Universe by that cat with a monocle. Don't tell my wife!
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# ? Sep 24, 2022 04:32 |
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therobit posted:Yes. But again, my issue is with the goons that think rent at all is unreasonable. And the notion that anything above repairs and utilities is unreasonable. Rent is a payment above and beyond the real cost of maintaining an asset. If there was a mortgage no one would be arguing about him paying a share of the interest payment on that. But that doesn't exist here since the apartment was gifted - she is in the literal, economic sense of the term rent seeking. If your goal is to use a romantic partner as a source of unearned profit, why are you in a relationship exactly?
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Mx. posted:AITA for moving my money to a different account after my step mother threatened me with taking them from me? "How dare you not allow me to steal from you" is a great way to react and definitely not a red flag
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Barudak posted:I wonder why the dad that doesn't seem to be do anything to stop the step mother is not given the benefit of the doubt. That's why they were both joint accounts. One with her dad and the other with her brother.
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# ? Sep 24, 2022 04:35 |
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Jesus Christ, I guess I'm at least glad that people are only defending the scumbag landlord gf because they can't read, which is only kind of embarrassing for them.
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Batterypowered7 posted:That's why they were both joint accounts. One with her dad and the other with her brother. How the hell did I miss it was a Joint Account with brother. I gotta stop having corned beef for breakfast
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# ? Sep 24, 2022 04:48 |
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Barudak posted:How the hell did I miss it was a Joint Account with brother. I gotta stop having corned beef for breakfast Genuinely the funniest thing I've heard anyone blame a brainfart on. I don't know why this cracked me up.
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# ? Sep 24, 2022 05:52 |
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Midnight Voyager posted:AITA For Making My Brother Walk To School Eh. NTA, kid brother needs to calm down a bit, especially when him being driven to school is a favour that OP was doing, not something necessary for him to get to school at all. No time like the present to teach him there are consequences for biting hands. Also wtf is a "bottle brick"? Mx. posted:AITA for moving my money to a different account after my step mother threatened me with taking them from me? Oh, absolutely NTA. Good on the OP for taking prompt action to keep the stepmom from stealing her money, and good on the brother for making sure she could get it done. Barudak posted:I wonder why the dad that doesn't seem to be do anything to stop the step mother is not given the benefit of the doubt. Generally not, no, unless they're emancipated. Which is why OP has to have a joint account with someone who is over 18. At least OP only has three years before she can get out of there. QuarkJets posted:"How dare you not allow me to steal from you" is a great way to react and definitely not a red flag I know, right? "Taking something you earned, which I have no claim to and should not have access to, is the only way to punish you. There are no other ways, nothing else will count. The fact I would financially benefit and you would have no recourse because you're a minor and I'm an adult who has nominal guardianship over you has nothing to do with it at all."
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# ? Sep 24, 2022 06:56 |
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Midnight Voyager posted:AITA For Making My Brother Walk To School So one of the little bro's "rules" is finding sustainable alternatives for everything, but he also refuses to walk three loving blocks to school and "requires" his big bro to drive him instead lol, lmfao
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tinytort posted:Also wtf is a "bottle brick"? Bottle bricking is stuffing inorganic junk into plastic bottles. It can reduce the amount of space used in landfills and in very poor places they can be used as a cheaper alternative to bricks.
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Soylent Pudding posted:AITA for telling my aunt the reason we're never going to be close Pages back but oh god Sally is who this loving ad is targeted at: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ru_1fSOMN64 "I'll buy this magnifying glass for my niece and she'll adore living out my noir fantasies and I'll be the Cool Quirky Aunt!" while niece's opinions on whether she'd a) actually like a magnifying glass in the first place and b) want to play detective with auntie rather than, say, wade through mud looking at things that wriggle go utterly unmentioned.
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# ? Sep 24, 2022 08:08 |
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While it’s mostly calmed down, if you all get obnoxiously hostile like that again, I’m closing the thread for an undetermined amount of time. Take a loving walk, learn to cook a new dish, be with loved ones, just chill the gently caress out and be nicer. Be nice or gently caress off
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# ? Sep 24, 2022 08:21 |
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AITA for ditching my friends wedding after she removed me as a bridesmaid and wanted me to sub for the photographer?quote:I, Aila (26/F) was set to be a bridesmaid in my friend Deidre's (26/F) wedding. She had five bridesmaids in total including me. We met in high school and moved back to our mutual hometown area a few years later. I'm 6'1" and my nickname has always been "Big Bird," while the other girls and Diedre are about 5'4" to 5'6" or so. I have a Nikon DSLR and have always like to casually take pictures for my social media, which I did of all of us in the time leading up to the wedding.
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# ? Sep 24, 2022 08:32 |
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Mx. posted:AITA for ditching my friends wedding after she removed me as a bridesmaid and wanted me to sub for the photographer? Oh come on, give me the follow up
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# ? Sep 24, 2022 09:00 |
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wouldnt be surpirsed if the paid photographers got unsick.....
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# ? Sep 24, 2022 09:06 |
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Barudak posted:Oh come on, give me the follow up OP posted:The reaction after the wedding is that I shouldn't have run off without telling anyone, I upset Diedre by not taking pictures, but I've also seen pictures on Facebook and they look fine. They don't necessarily look professionally shot or edited, but the ones I took wouldn't have either. But that's why I'm posting here because the general consensus from Diedre's family and friends is that I let her down and should have been there. I keep turning it over in my head, like maybe I should have stayed and shot a few photos and then left. Meskhenet posted:wouldnt be surpirsed if the paid photographers got unsick.....
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The Maroon Hawk posted:So one of the little bro's "rules" is finding sustainable alternatives for everything, but he also refuses to walk three loving blocks to school and "requires" his big bro to drive him instead If they’re American walking three blocks might be either difficult or just straight up dangerous. That being said it’s more captain hypocrisy than planet at this stage Invisible Clergy posted:Bottle bricking is stuffing inorganic junk into plastic bottles. It can reduce the amount of space used in landfills and in very poor places they can be used as a cheaper alternative to bricks. but also a pretty terrible alternative to normal bricks since plastics tend to leech off loads of fun and interesting chemicals that aren’t great for humans
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bottle bricking also appears to take up immense amount of man hours, so its only going to be useful if you have more time than anything else as a resource
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