r/relationships: I have nothing against this baby.

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BOOTY-ADE: Aug 30, 2006; BIG KOOL TELLIN' Y'ALL TO KEEP IT TIGHT

kru posted:

the best thing that Harry Potter ever did was funnel Daniel Radcliffe along a path that ended up with him living this life:

Stuff like this & him dressing in the same outfit multiple days to gently caress with paparazzi made me a fan for life :allears:

Lottery of Babylon posted:

I love situations like this where a post gets My Cousin Vinnie'd.

"What is a Ute?"

Olewithmilk posted:

Husband having an affair and OP in aggressive denial?

Could also be that OP's husband works with high-profile people (celebrities, musicians, etc.) & the client is someone famous the kids recognized

# ? Oct 17, 2022 14:53

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# ? May 14, 2024 08:58

massive spider: Dec 6, 2006

AITA For getting someone fired because they pretended to know the language?

quote:

English is not my first language.

I (27f) decided to apply for my dream job. I have met all the criteria and one of them was to be proficient in my native language (Russian) , which I am, since I've grown up in the country speaking and writing in it and have finished school and university where obviously all the subjects are taught in Russian, except English and French/German language classes.

I ended up securing the interview with this place and needed to demonstrate the knowledge of Russian, so the person who did the interview started asking me questions in it. However I could barely understand her, not only the accent made it incredibly difficult but the fact that she couldn't build a sentence, but also used incorrect forms of the words and the pronunciation was totally wrong too. In short it sounded as if she was randomly putting the words in Google translate and was trying to repeat them over. I have answered all her questions, however I've also noticed she barely made any notes. I decided to let it pass and wait for a verdict.

After about 3 months of chasing and silence, I got an email saying I wasn't successful and the reason was that they believed my knowledge of Russian language was poor and insufficient for the job and not up to their "standards" according to the interviewer. Of course I was confused, since the lady who interviewed me could barely speak the language herself. So I have decided to leave feedback about my experience on one of the job sites, which was made to share info about working at the job and interview process. My review received a fair amount of traction and last week Monday I ended up getting a call from the higher ups, who listened to my feedback and opened the investigation.

On Friday I have found out the lady who interviewed me was dismissed. She and her friends were messaging me on social media calling an rear end in a top hat, because this job was her only source of income and was struggling. I am now feeling guilty about this and feel like I was an rear end in a top hat for writing about my experience.
AITA?

# ? Oct 17, 2022 14:55

champagne posting: Apr 5, 2006; YOU ARE A BRAIN
IN A BUNKER

massive spider posted:

AITA For getting someone fired because they pretended to know the language?

Interviewer in broken Russian: what comes after loving around?

op in perfect Russian: finding out

interviewer: no that cant be right

# ? Oct 17, 2022 15:12

Charity Porno: Aug 2, 2021; by Hand Knit

massive spider posted:

They're in their 40s with kids so, no probably.

Youre suggesting they give up finding love with each other because, stepsibling porn memes?

No I'm suggesting maybe they find true wuv somewhere that isn't going to cause a big social stigma for their kids. But sure reduce it to "memes"

# ? Oct 17, 2022 15:13

Hughlander: May 11, 2005

Not the normal fair of the thread but this was posted in bestofredditupdates and I can't resist sharing it...

gently caress you, Alan.

quote:

gently caress you, Alan. Hard. Working with you these past 7 years has been terrible. You are a terrible co-worker and the entire organization thinks so. Do you know how hard it is to induce the scorn of nearly 300 employees? Pretty loving hard, but you did it.

What exactly is it that you do? I know that you lurk around our office like you think you are important, drifting into conversations like you have business there. You don't. We will let you know when something pertains to you. Promise.

You float into meetings you aren't invited to and steal the extra lunches. gently caress you for that. I take those extra lunches downstairs to the interns, who can use all the help they can get since they are working for free, and Will, whose entire paycheck (nearly) goes to pay for medical treatment for his disabled child.gently caress you for taking their lunches when you make triple their salaries. What in the hell are you even doing at the meetings? You have been told repeatedly that you aren't to invite yourself to them but you still do.

Our CEO is a man who loves to hand out second chances to you because you did that one spectacular thing 7 years ago when you first started. OMG, you totally brought us a supporter! I will admit that it was much needed . But when he turned his back on our organization four years ago because of you, you should have been fired. Now our non-profit is barely scraping by because you are too lazy to go out and do your actual job. You have one job, Alan. One loving job.

How dare you go into my office and log on to my computer when I wasn't there. You don't think I know. I do. gently caress you. You don't even work in my building. You work in the office across town. Why in the hell are you even over here? You didn't think I would reported you to HR, did you? I did. They were appalled. It is part of the reason you are under review now.

I recently got a lock installed on my office door. Good luck getting in now. What the hell were you looking for anyway?

Also, gently caress you for calling me repeatedly while I was on Maternity Leave for things that weren't emergencies. Debbie was loving handling my stuff while I was out. You got the loving email I sent out regarding it because you replied to it. I don't even deal with anything you would need to contact me about anyway! " Do you have a copy of the report from last year?", you said in one voice mail I received shortly after giving birth. No I don't loving have a copy of the report from last year because I don't handle the reports. I don't loving handle the reports. You aren't new. You know this. The second and third calls ( I was still in the hospital) about how the break room was out of paper towels was just loving mean.

Coming back after maternity leave to 200-something emails from you was wonderful. I didn't answer them because you don't need that information. It isn't even your job to know that information.

gently caress you, Alan. gently caress you and how you take Carrie's parking spot when you visit our location even though you know she has to park there because of her recent surgery. She had loving cancer, Alan.

Also, how dare you come to my baby work shower (that was after loving hours) and eat the majority of my awesome cake. That was my cake. No one invited you. How do you even find out about it? You don't even work in our office. Did you just decide to stay until 7pm one day at the office you don't work at for some reason? You just stumbled into my closed office with that stupid look on your face and said, " Er, look! Cake!". gently caress you, Alan. I was pregnant and I was going to eat that cake. I said one piece, Alan. Not the whole rest of the cake.

You really hurt Noah's feelings when you made fun of the way he speaks. He has a loving speech impediment, you rear end in a top hat. Not to mention you work for a loving non-profit whose job it is to help people like Noah.

Tomorrow you have a review with the Board and the CEO to determine whether the department you run is up to standards. I hope you fail. It sickens me to think that because the jobs of the individuals with disabilities who work at your location depends on your success, but I can't help but delight in the fact that you are failing.

I will dance, Alan. I will dance and I will celebrate with cake - my cake, not yours- (quietly and alone) when they pull your expense records and find that you are mismanaging funds, and finally fire you.

gently caress you, Alan.

You are the only thing I hate about my job.

Edit: Thanks for the words of support and the sympathy anger, everybody! You are too wonderful. It is 8:04, my time (CENTRAL), and Alan just arrived for the meeting. My office is usually pretty quiet this early in the morning, but everyone is buzzing around conversat-ing about what is about to go down in that conference room. I will do a update post when I have the news.

Again, thanks so much for all your comments!

Update:

quote:

Sorry it took so long to update but I had work and things.For those of you who are interested, Alan is no longer employed. I don't really know a ton of details, but we received an email from Human Resources around 11am stating that Alan had moved on from our organization and that all his tasks would now be handled by this other person.

The office was elated. I danced quietly and quickly in my office. High fives and fist bumps were given and received by all.

There is even talk of a celebratory happy hour get-together after work. I can not go to this because it is my shift with my 5 month old (the hubs and I switch off so that we have times during the evening to relax and run errands), but I will be celebrating at my house with a homemade mini cupcake and whatever alcoholic beverage in my husband's man fridge will go with that cupcake. Maybe a nice German wheat beer? I don't know, but I am taking suggestions on that.

Thanks for all the comments and for reading both my posts! The show of support was OUTSTANDING! The advice was much appreciated.

Tomorrow is going to be a good day.

Man, gently caress you Alan! Imagine being so universally hated

# ? Oct 17, 2022 15:17

Whorelord: May 1, 2013; Jump into the well...

I started that imagining Alan Partridge and that mental image only got stronger the more I read it.

# ? Oct 17, 2022 15:28

Seth Pecksniff: May 27, 2004; can't believe shrek is fucking dead. rip to a real one.

Hughlander posted:

Not the normal fair of the thread but this was posted in bestofredditupdates and I can't resist sharing it...

gently caress you, Alan.

Update:

Man, gently caress you Alan! Imagine being so universally hated

I had a boss like this. When he fired me I launched a nuke at the organization that got not only him fired, but his boss and two senior HR people and also forced an entire restructuring of the HR department, along with other changes

It absolutely owned

Seth Pecksniff fucked around with this message at 15:51 on Oct 17, 2022

# ? Oct 17, 2022 15:48

Laopooh: Jul 15, 2000

Seth Pecksniff posted:

I had a boss like this. When he fired me I launched a nuke at the organization that got not only him fired, but his boss and two senior HR people and also forced an entire restructuring of the HR department, along with other changes

It absolutely owned

You know we need the details, get typing!

# ? Oct 17, 2022 16:00

Solenna: Jun 5, 2003; I'd say it was your manifest destiny not to.

Evil Willow posted:

"Doesn't it warm the cockles of your heart, Agent Sachs?"
"It warms the poo poo out of my cockles. My cockles are burning."

My wife got sick and couldn't visit her late husband's grave for his death anniversary, So I went and visted instead.

We all need a heart-warming story every now and then and this is just so freaking sweet I'm dying.

This is like the first time I've seen "For some reason she started crying" with the reason being an incredibly kind and respectful gesture

# ? Oct 17, 2022 16:01

Max: Nov 30, 2002

I've noticed a few stories now where the OP takes great pains to point out that the person they were talking to had a completely neutral expression and didn't seem angry when they were talking to them, so they were shocked to later find out they had deeply upset the person. I wonder what life they've lived where they never had to pretend like everything was OK so that you could move on from an awkward / rude encounter with another person.

# ? Oct 17, 2022 16:02

datajugend: Jan 15, 2010; Cat Army

Its the age of reaction videos

# ? Oct 17, 2022 16:08

Grassy Knowles: Apr 4, 2003; "The original Terminator was a gritty fucking AMAZING piece of sci-fi. Gritty fucking rock-hard MURDER!"

Max posted:

I've noticed a few stories now where the OP takes great pains to point out that the person they were talking to had a completely neutral expression and didn't seem angry when they were talking to them, so they were shocked to later find out they had deeply upset the person. I wonder what life they've lived where they never had to pretend like everything was OK so that you could move on from an awkward / rude encounter with another person.

There's also the possibility that they're so ambivalent to their partners behaviors that they don't recognize anything but outward aggression as 'upset.' Seems highly probable, in fact.

# ? Oct 17, 2022 16:39

Hughlander: May 11, 2005

AITA for not going to my twin sister�s wedding and getting my brother uninvited?

quote:

Ok, so recently I realised that my twin sister (36F)only ever contacts me because she wants something or to brag about an event happening in her life. This has started to frustrate me so I have been getting on with my life and not giving her attention.

Back in August I get a text message with a pic of a ring saying she was getting married in a month. I wish her well and tell her I hope she has a good day. She tells me that it will just be her, her partner and her kids because she doesn�t want to wait. She�s been with him for 14 years at this point but it�s suddenly urgent. I hear nothing and assume she got married in September as planned.

Two days ago I receive a text from her inviting me to the wedding the next day. I reply asking why less than 24 hours notice, did the people she actually want there bail on her?

She tells me to shove my invite, go gently caress myself and then contacts my brother and uninvites him too

So I didn�t go. I did not mean for my brother to be collateral damage due to my sisters outburst

# ? Oct 17, 2022 16:41

Brawnfire: Jul 13, 2004; 🎧Listen to Cylindricule!🎵
https://linktr.ee/Cylindricule

I can't imagine being literally twins with someone that loving messy

# ? Oct 17, 2022 16:43

ascii genitals: Aug 19, 2000

Hughlander posted:

Not the normal fair of the thread but this was posted in bestofredditupdates and I can't resist sharing it...

gently caress you, Alan.

Update:

Man, gently caress you Alan! Imagine being so universally hated

Lol I worked with this god awful project manager for the last 4 years and he just recently got "promoted" out of my life. I think they put him somewhere where he can't do any damage.

But boy oh boy were all the meetings where this change got announced satisfying. Each time they'd announce that he got promoted and is leaving...maybe ONE guy would give a 'congrats' and other than that dead silence. Just everyone muted messaging each other going "YES!!!! YES!!!!!!!!!!!!!!" It's shocking how destructive one incompetent, lazy dickhead can be.

# ? Oct 17, 2022 16:43

Captain Hygiene: Sep 17, 2007; You mess with the crabbo...

Brawnfire posted:

I can't imagine being literally twins with someone that loving messy

One twin is always good and the other evil, OP's fine in this case.

# ? Oct 17, 2022 16:50

Groundskeeper Silly: Sep 1, 2005; My philosophy...
The first rule is:
You look good.

A big part of a lot of these stories is people not thinking the other party is reacting correctly, and building their whole defense around that (because they have nothing legitimate to build it around). Putting up a note reminding people not to steal coworkers' lunches is immature or passive-aggressive, and so on. How many of these stories include somebody's relative calling up the OP later and saying they were rude and could have handled it better, so I guess everybody's in the wrong?

Nobody reacts perfectly in every situation, but I'm always amazed that an adult calling another adult immature not only happens, but is a hill some people are willing to die on.

Groundskeeper Silly fucked around with this message at 17:01 on Oct 17, 2022

# ? Oct 17, 2022 16:52

DoubleNegative: Jan 27, 2010; The most virtuous child in the entire world.

AITA for not going to rehab

quote:

My mother is a degenerate alcoholic. She has been for as long as I can remember.

A few years ago she decided to quit. She decided this in jail after she hit a cop who was giving her a citation for public intoxication at my graduation.

She went to a residential treatment centre after she got out, my grandmother paid for it. She has been working the program ever since. I'm happy she is bettering herself but I still don't need her energy in my life or near my kids.

She was at my grandma's house for a family BBQ over the labour day weekend. Everyone was having fun and it was my husband's turn to drive so I could have some wine and relax.

She noticed my husband's wasn't drinking and I was and came over to tell me that I have a problem. That I'm obviously an alcoholic and going to ruin my life.

I told her I was enjoying wine and food at a family outing. I wasn't drunk. I just never want to deal with cops again over alcohol. That is why my husband and I take turns or take an Uber when we go out.

She kept coming back to bug me a few times. I finally said that I was just being responsible and it's not like I am getting blackout drunk and pissing myself on public.

She went away.

She has been bombarding me with calls, texts, posts, and messages. She even got my grandmother involved. My grandmother called me to say she would be willing to help me if I needed treatment for my addiction.

So I posted to Facebook and basically brought everything out into the open. I mentioned every event that I could remember her ruining. And I said that I do not need rehab for enjoying wine with a meal at a social event.

She took it as a personal attack, which it was, and evidence that I am in denial about my "problem". She said I was an rear end in a top hat for dredging up her past and not dealing with my present.

I have told her that I am done with her and if she ever brings it up again I will go NC and she will never see my children again.

AITA

A surprising number of redditors are going "ESH" because how dare this lady air her dirty laundry in public... after her mother already did so?

Fuckin' :decorum:

man

# ? Oct 17, 2022 17:01

Andrast: Apr 21, 2010

Charity Porno posted:

No I'm suggesting maybe they find true wuv somewhere that isn't going to cause a big social stigma for their kids. But sure reduce it to "memes"

literally nobody is going to care

# ? Oct 17, 2022 17:04

Megillah Gorilla: Sep 22, 2003; If only all of life's problems could be solved by smoking a professor of ancient evil texts.; Bread Liar

DoubleNegative posted:

AITA for not going to rehab

A surprising number of redditors are going "ESH" because how dare this lady air her dirty laundry in public... after her mother already did so?

Fuckin' man

Nothing worse than a 'born-again' anything. Drunks are no exception.

# ? Oct 17, 2022 17:16

Agrikk: Oct 17, 2003; Take care with that! We have not fully ascertained its function, and the ticking is accelerating.

Megillah Gorilla posted:

Nothing worse than a 'born-again' anything. Drunks are no exception.

Mom sucks at the moment. I�m glad she�s sober and in active recovery and is turning her life around, but the pink cloud does NOT involve casting aspersions around just because she�s now sober. The steps include �cleaning up the wreckage of your past� not � cleaning up the wreckage of other people�s perceived futures�.

Sounds like she has a lot of inventory to do and amends to make, and none of that involves being judgmental of the behavior of others.

E: hopefully mom works her program throughly and honestly and can see how her actions impact her child before she ruins the relationship forever.

# ? Oct 17, 2022 17:37

pentyne: Nov 7, 2012

Megillah Gorilla posted:

Nothing worse than a 'born-again' anything. Drunks are no exception.

Kind of a weird vibe that people like that regularly go off the wagon for a weekend or 2 hardcore and insist literally no one can control themselves once they get the slightest taste of alcohol into their body.

Years back there was an OP posted who served a rum cake, or something similar with alcohol flavor, and was then accused by a guest of derailing her husband's sobriety because after eating the cake he went on a days long massive bender and used the excuse that he was tricked into consuming alcohol via the cake that started it.

# ? Oct 17, 2022 17:44

mind the walrus: Sep 22, 2006

Megillah Gorilla posted:

Nothing worse than a 'born-again' anything. Drunks are no exception.

Few things more dangerous than someone with a history of reckless, compulsive, self-serving behavior given the social leeway to judge others on their vices because "they've been there." It's a serious power that few are ready to wield, because one you splash that paint on someone it can stick quite badly-- you can't prove a negative after all.

pentyne posted:

Kind of a weird vibe that people like that regularly go off the wagon for a weekend or 2 hardcore and insist literally no one can control themselves once they get the slightest taste of alcohol into their body.

Years back there was an OP posted who served a rum cake, or something similar with alcohol flavor, and was then accused by a guest of derailing her husband's sobriety because after eating the cake he went on a days long massive bender and used the excuse that he was tricked into consuming alcohol via the cake that started it.

As part of my parents' myriad failings, they thought my experimenting with weed as a teen was a sign of serious addiction and put me into 12 steps as an adolescent where I sat around with kids who were open about drinking full handles after school, rich kids talking a wild game about their coke habits, and shadowed adults who looked like they had come very close to losing everything. All I really got from the experience was a few years addicted to cigarettes because that was the common social denominator and without it I couldn't chit chat. Stopped smoking weed a few years later because it was just a phase.

What I learned very quickly is that while 12 Step stuff does have some merit, they consistently feel the only way to get an addict to understand their addiction to psychically break them into a binary of "all" or "nothing." This works in the short-term for just getting them to break a bad cycle, but in the long-run you get the "oh lord not the rum cake" problem where someone who hasn't touched alcohol in years has a full on panic attack as they essentially force themselves to conform to the binary established from all the years of meetings. "In for a penny, in for a ton. There can be no other way. That's just how I am."

Das Boo posted:

r/relationships: She took it as a personal attack, which it was

mind the walrus fucked around with this message at 18:03 on Oct 17, 2022

# ? Oct 17, 2022 17:45

Das Boo: Jun 9, 2011; There was a GHOST here.
It's gone now.

r/relationships: She took it as a personal attack, which it was

# ? Oct 17, 2022 17:51

wheatpuppy: Apr 25, 2008; YOU HAVE MY POST!

Das Boo posted:

r/relationships: She took it as a personal attack, which it was

# ? Oct 17, 2022 17:55

hawowanlawow: Jul 27, 2009

Das Boo posted:

r/relationships: She took it as a personal attack, which it was

# ? Oct 17, 2022 18:00

thepopmonster: Feb 18, 2014

Das Boo posted:

r/relationships: She took it as a personal attack, which it was

# ? Oct 17, 2022 18:11

Quackles: Aug 11, 2018; Pixels of Light.

AITA for not wanting to use my travel fund to pay for my granddaughter�s ice skating lessons?

quote:

I (f59) have own child, my son, who is married to Jinger (f34). They have one child together, my beloved granddaughter, Emma, f14.

I�m not extremely wealthy but I�m also not struggling for money. With careful budgeting, I have enouhh money to live off, save for bigger things and pay for some thing for Emma. But I�m far from being able to afford anything I want.

Emma is a smart girl, she�s not very into sports (except for swimming) and she�s really into languages. Because of that, I�m paying for her gym membership (so she can go swimming whenever she wants to) and her language classes (she�s studying 3 languages, it was her decision, not mine). I also take her shopping occasionally and once she�s gotten older, she�s been going on holidays with me every year. This summer we went travelling to South America for 2 months and I�m currently saving so we can go travelling to Asia next summer. Emma is a very good girl and I absolutely love spending time with her (hopefully, it�s mutual, I haven�t heard otherwise from her).

Emma�s mother and I don�t get along but we are never openly hostile. Emma has a lot of issues with her mother but I made a point of never badmouthing her mother to her, I will listen to Emma and offer support but try j out to undermine Jinger�s authority.

The other day, Jinger visited me without prior notice. She told me all about ice skating lessons (Emma never skated nor has she ever mentioned wanting to skate) and asked me to pay for Emma�s lessons. I told her I�ll think about this and spoken to Emma. Emma doesn�t want to ice skate, it�s all Jinger�s unfulfilled dreams and apparently is fashionable to do expensive sports amongst Jinger�s friends.

Knowing that Emma doesn�t want to do this, I told Jinger that I will not be paying for lessons. Jinger pushed further and I asked how much they were. Let me tell you, they were expensive with everything included. I said it was way too much and I couldn�t afford it. She told me to drop the travelling fund, it�s useless and only last a bit but Emma will like her lessons. She said I�m too old to enjoy travel and Emma is too young.

I told her that I spoke with Emma and she doesn�t want to do those lessons. Jinger got really angry and told me to never go behind her back, that it was a surprise for Emma and I ruined it. She called me an rear end in a top hat and threatened to not allow Emma to visit me any further and it�s crazy that Emma has got her own room at my house. She called me names and I kicked her out of my house.

Later that day, my son called and was really angry with me and that I should just pay for the lessons. I tried explaining him what�s happened but he wouldn�t listen.

Emma called me later crying, saying that her mother forbade her from coming over the weekend to stay with me.

I�m at a loss, was I really in the wrong? I�d hate to not be able to see Emma and I couldn�t forgive myself if I�m the reason she�s not allowed to see me. AITA?

# ? Oct 17, 2022 18:14

PookBear: Nov 1, 2008

massive spider posted:

AITA For getting someone fired because they pretended to know the language?

Do companies that hire for a language not have a third party test for proficiency?

# ? Oct 17, 2022 18:29

StrangersInTheNight: Dec 31, 2007; ABSOLUTE FUCKING GUDGEON

I wonder how long that lady has been rejecting applicants who can actually speak the language in order to cover her tracks.

# ? Oct 17, 2022 18:37

mind the walrus: Sep 22, 2006

PookBear posted:

Do companies that hire for a language not have a third party test for proficiency?

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rEpRwq9bB5g&t=50s

# ? Oct 17, 2022 18:40

The Bramble: Mar 16, 2004

Das Boo posted:

r/relationships: She took it as a personal attack, which it was

This, or Tobby

# ? Oct 17, 2022 18:45

BigHead: Jul 25, 2003; Huh?; Nap Ghost

pentyne posted:

Kind of a weird vibe that people like that regularly go off the wagon for a weekend or 2 hardcore and insist literally no one can control themselves once they get the slightest taste of alcohol into their body.

Years back there was an OP posted who served a rum cake, or something similar with alcohol flavor, and was then accused by a guest of derailing her husband's sobriety because after eating the cake he went on a days long massive bender and used the excuse that he was tricked into consuming alcohol via the cake that started it.

If someone sneaks a recovering alcoholic booze - particularly if that person knew the other person is a recovering alcoholic - then that is an upsetting situation. Being upset is an appropriate response to it. I'm sitting here staring at this post as I type it, trying to figure out the right words to describe how I would react if someone tried that with me and my family. I would be extremely, extremely pissed. Anyone who even hinted at doing that would go on my list of people we would never, ever trust. Don't gently caress around with someone's fatal medical illness.

# ? Oct 17, 2022 18:49

Foo Diddley: Oct 29, 2011; cat

AITA for leaving my BF at his family party.

quote:

I 23F have been dating my fianc� 35 for 2 years we recently got engaged we both agreed to be child free. I haven't met much of his family he claimed he didn't want to introduce me until we were serious.

This weekend he invited me to his sisters baby welcome party. She has the baby a few weeks ago and this is a party for everyone to meet the baby.

Everything was going fine and I was getting along well with his family. All the women in the family were taking turns dealing with the baby when he cried. I didn't because I have never so much as held a baby and would have no idea how to calm one down.

The men went outside to have cigars and one of his cousins asked me why I wasn't helping with the baby and I was honest that I had no baby experience. His mom laughed and said that I should learn now because she expected a lot of grandbabies and she knows how badly my fianc� wants a big family. I was surprised I told her we plan on being child free. His mom kind of rolled her eyes and changed the subject.

I pulled my fianc� aside and asked him what that was about. He said we would talk about it later but I pressed and he admitted I was young and he figured I would grow out of not wanting children. I was PISSED but didn't want to make a scene at his sisters party so I told him I was going to the bathroom to cool down but instead I walked a few blocks away got an uber and went home.

He blew up my phone for bring rude and leaving how I need to come back and apologize he took a serious step introducing me to his family and I blew it I felt terrible so I sent his sister a Facebook message because I don't have her number saying I was sorry for leaving abruptly but I felt sick and went home. She answered a few hours later saying it was NP and she was happy to have met me and can't wait to get know me better.

This was yesterday I texted my fianc� this morning that I wanted to talk about the children issue but he sent me one text calling me immature and I haven't heard from him since. Now I feel like I should have just stayed and held my tongue until we left especially since his sister was so nice.

don't worry OP, you'll change your mind about having kids once your birth control mysteriously fails

# ? Oct 17, 2022 18:49

Charity Porno: Aug 2, 2021; by Hand Knit

Andrast posted:

literally nobody is going to care

I mean this is demonstrably untrue, as the kids care.

# ? Oct 17, 2022 18:50

Pomme de Terror: Sep 30, 2021; Well, one of us must have killed him!

Das Boo posted:

r/relationships: She took it as a personal attack, which it was

# ? Oct 17, 2022 18:50

mind the walrus: Sep 22, 2006

Foo Diddley posted:

AITA for leaving my BF at his family party.

quote:
The men went outside to have cigars and one of his cousins asked me why I wasn't helping with the baby and I was honest that I had no baby experience. His mom laughed and said that I should learn now because she expected a lot of grandbabies and she knows how badly my fianc� wants a big family. I was surprised I told her we plan on being child free. His mom kind of rolled her eyes and changed the subject.

I pulled my fianc� aside and asked him what that was about. He said we would talk about it later but I pressed and he admitted I was young and he figured I would grow out of not wanting children. I was PISSED but didn't want to make a scene at his sisters party so I told him I was going to the bathroom to cool down but instead I walked a few blocks away got an uber and went home.

Good lord girl you made the right loving call. Run. Run and never look back. Bunch of dudes smoking cigars like this is a hospital waiting room from a 1940s cartoon.

# ? Oct 17, 2022 18:53

Baron von Eevl: Jan 24, 2005; WHITE NOISE
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As much as I love Tobby...

Das Boo posted:

r/relationships: She took it as a personal attack, which it was

# ? Oct 17, 2022 18:55

Seth Pecksniff: May 27, 2004; can't believe shrek is fucking dead. rip to a real one.

Das Boo posted:

r/relationships: She took it as a personal attack, which it was

I feel like this was a thread title at some point?

# ? Oct 17, 2022 19:06

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# ? May 14, 2024 08:58

MK-Ultramarathon: Aug 12, 2009

Das Boo posted:

r/relationships: She took it as a personal attack, which it was

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WIBTA if I don't do the dishes for a week?

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Long story short, my boyfriend will be out of town for a week because of work. He left this morning.

We don't live together, he usually stays the night three days a week or so at my apartment (he has roomates and I don't). Since he has two cats and his roomates won't be here for a few weeks either I have offered to drop by to check on them daily. Because of distance and my working hours, this means either going there for lunch, or going for dinner and sleeping over. So, I will be cooking and having meals there daily.

Which is why I was so angry when I woke up and found he had left dishes in the sink from the previous day. Some friends told me is not a big deal, wash them and tell him about it when he is back. I really REALLY hate the idea of cleaning stuff he left knowing he wasn't going to be back for a week.

When I called him and chewed him up he apologized and told me to leave them there but I don't wanna have stinky dishes in the sink for FIVE DAYS. So WIBTA if I put them in a trash bag, closed it and left them for him to clean up when he is back?

I am loving insane about dishes (I think I got it from my mother, both she and I have Dishwashing Opinions) and even I wouldn't pitch a fit about this. He had to leave in the morning, maybe he was in a rush because he was afraid to be late?

# ? Oct 17, 2022 19:11

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