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I've gone through a lot of background checks in my life and I would absolutely not backdate a consent for one of them, gently caress that.
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wheatpuppy posted:Ok but what's the second bedroom for then? I assumed an impending kid or something, but yeah, good question. In the comments, she points out that the daughter prefers to stay with her mom and may not even want a room, and he's emphasized getting her to put the room together "like when she was little." So it could be a jerkass stepmom or it could be the dad's trying to cling to his kid's childhood. Who knows until someone communicates!
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# ? Dec 16, 2022 04:51 |
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wheatpuppy posted:Ok but what's the second bedroom for then? Presumably some kind of office/hobby room/bedroom for her eight cats.
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wheatpuppy posted:Ok but what's the second bedroom for then? Not to dogpile but "vacant bedroom of absent child" and "guest bedroom" are two different concepts with two different vibes. The former has more posters while the latter has more hot-glued seashells
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mutantIke posted:Not to dogpile but "vacant bedroom of absent child" and "guest bedroom" are two different concepts with two different vibes. The former has more posters while the latter has more hot-glued seashells My mom uses my old bedroom has a guest room, and has kept a few things around, like my books. Hope the guests enjoy Rubyfruit Jungle, mom.
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# ? Dec 16, 2022 05:33 |
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I literally came home for summer vacation and found my bedroom turned into my mom's sewing room. (Still had my bed in it.) Sadly, i was not able to pass the tradition down. I still don't have a sewing room.
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# ? Dec 16, 2022 05:36 |
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Just about the only thing left in my bedroom that I can say is definitively mine is the Saturn Devouring His Son print hanging on the wall
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trickybiscuits posted:quote: The daughter sounds like a piece of work--is engaged and living with another dude a year after last year's divorce from a man she would scream at in front of her parents while he sat there and took it. That the husband moved out and OP's daughter made them swear to never ask about it certainly doesn't paint her in a good light. I don't know if I expected Prudence to say, "Yeah, your kid's a fuckup, just ignore her dramatic bullshit," but I didn't expect her to go full-on scold about What the gently caress were you thinking, liking the ex's status post??!!
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# ? Dec 16, 2022 05:47 |
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AITA for giving my boyfriend an ultimatum over his racist friend?quote:insert classic this a throwaway account i understand why you don't like him, but it's very important that i support my drunken racist rear end in a top hat friend while he circles the drain
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# ? Dec 16, 2022 05:51 |
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Foo Diddley posted:AITA for giving my boyfriend an ultimatum over his racist friend? Ok, I don't like him and don't want to be around him. I don't see how that's an ultimatum, though, as opposed to a boundary. It's not like she's saying, "if you talk to this racist dickhead, we're done".
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emptyspace posted:Ok, I don't like him and don't want to be around him. I don't see how that's an ultimatum, though, as opposed to a boundary. It's not like she's saying, "if you talk to this racist dickhead, we're done". To me, this bit: quote:how can you say you will defend me when you're actively keeping a relationship with someone who has caused me and my friends harm Sounds like she wants him to stop hanging around the racist rear end in a top hat. Which, fair, on account of the racist assholery.
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AITA for exposing my coworker's bathroom habits?quote:I (25F) work at a smaller company of about 15 people. I get along with pretty much everyone with the exception of someone we'll call Alexis (40F). Alexis is very socially conservative and I am not. I do my best to not talk about things I know will cause an argument, but they sometimes happen anyway. gently caress TERFs, now and forever
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Pomme de Terror posted:AITA for exposing my coworker's bathroom habits? "You shouldn't expose her for being an rear end in a top hat! But it's fine if she outs you, even if she's wrong." Coworkers are real shitters too.
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imagine being so poisoned by hate that you feel the need to appoint yourself as the office Toilet Cop
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Very rarely would I side with someone who thinks sitting on a toilet seat is weird on account of how ridiculous germaphobes are, but they're a hell of a lot better than transphobic shitheats lol
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Pomme de Terror posted:AITA for exposing my coworker's bathroom habits? Yes. gently caress TERFs. And gently caress someone who is prepared to out a co-worker. But another of her crimes, (which is minor compared to the two mentioned above), is snooping on and snitching about someone elses toilet habits. Especially leaving the toilet seat up. Coz that means she specifically looked, noted, and remembered who was in the cubicle before her, and considered it important enough info to use as gossip fuel. It's not even something that affects anyone else. Yelling in the break room "She didn't wash her hands after taking a poo poo! Thats unhygienic" would also be bad, but at least you can argue thats in the service of workplace health. What she did was unforgivable. She deserves to be embarrassed, and also to have HR take a very close look at her.
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Pomme de Terror posted:AITA for exposing my coworker's bathroom habits?
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Sister in law [19] is talking an older man [36] and I’m not sure how I feel or what to do.quote:This man is a family friend on my wife’s side of the family and recently my SIL has only told me that she’s starting to talk to him. They’ve been meeting up in secret and I let her know how uncomfortable I feel about the situation and age gap. She told me he had messaged her on FB and they talked every now and then. He then said he’s never felt this way about anyone else and I explained to her that he’s in a different stage of his life (3 kids and recently going through a divorce) and I think it’s more lust than love. She told me they’ve kissed a few times but she doesn’t see anything long term with him. I told my wife about everything and we’re both afraid to tell her mother because we’re not sure her mom can do anything about the situation. Big laugh at the edit. You don't say?
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Cowslips Warren posted:AITA for not wanting to give my adult stepdaughter her own room in our new home? NTA, for either of them. Jane doesn't need a room of her own when she has an apartment and doesn't visit often enough to need a dedicated space. And if that changes, the guest room can become hers. And if the ex's dad didn't want to get fired for abusing a company privilege like that, then he shouldn't have done it. It's not like it's hard to avoid doing. And he didn't get fired shortly before retirement because of one gently caress up. He got fired because that one gently caress up gave them reason to dig into every single time he's requested a background check on someone, and that made it clear that this is a pattern of behaviour. He probably had to do ethics training and sign poo poo saying he wouldn't abuse the ability or use it for anything except doing background checks on consenting employees. wheatpuppy posted:LOL get rekt, old dude. Guaranteed that's not the first time he's abused his work access to creep on someone. You can run perfectly legal background checks but they charge a fee, so he was just being cheap and torpedoed his own career. This exactly. If he did it once and failed to cover his tracks, then at minimum he's been doing it to every boyfriend she's had. He didn't get fired for it being the first time. Coca Koala posted:I've gone through a lot of background checks in my life and I would absolutely not backdate a consent for one of them, gently caress that. Hard same. If Creep Dad wanted to cover his tracks, he should have made sure to get that written consent before the break-up. He was probably getting sloppy. kissekatt posted:There isn't much indication that she is a TERF, sounds more just like a regular old transphobe.
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Metis of the Hallway posted:Yeah it's an honest mistake, I think 90% of my reports ever are asking for changes to the raised by wolves thread title in TV IV lol so I'd probably do the same here by accident. We see stuff like this come up all the time and I have to wonder how hard it is to see that it indicates some level of internalized contempt/resentment for the person being criticized. It’s only going to get worse, get out now! Also not to draw out the self-published textbook thing longer, but one of my core mid-level CS classes passed out soft-bound bricks of paper, as the textbook, written by the professors, hadn’t quite made it to full print that semester. I only mention this because this textbook has one of the best lines I have ever read in a textbook and I remember it to this day: ‘Long-running programs such as servers and daemons should always remember to reap their zombie children.’
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tinytort posted:NTA, for either of them. Jane doesn't need a room of her own when she has an apartment and doesn't visit often enough to need a dedicated space. And if that changes, the guest room can become hers. While creepy dad is an arsehole and he deserves to get rekt/made an example of, it is not unheard of for infractions that would result in a final warning get turned into a sackable offence for someone near retirement or more typically retrenchment to get out of paying out retirement/retrenchment costs. HR discipline gets a lot more heavy handed when the company is trying to attrit a particular workgroup. Agreed old mate likely checked on other people's private affairs though.
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Dude literally used corporate funds to harass private individuals with legally definable monetary impacts. One time is too many, and the company is going to treat annihilating his retirement as a bonus not as the primary reason.
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Barudak posted:Dude literally used corporate funds to harass private individuals with legally definable monetary impacts. One time is too many, and the company is going to treat annihilating his retirement as a bonus not as the primary reason.
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Barudak posted:Dude literally used corporate funds to harass private individuals with legally definable monetary impacts. One time is too many, and the company is going to treat annihilating his retirement as a bonus not as the primary reason. Chances are his retirement is fine, he just wanted to milk the gravy train until full social security retirement age. For me, it's taking SS at 62 since I don't know when I'll drop dead and I already have all the credits I need. Some people are incredibly cheap and want to wait until Medicare kicks in.
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Ayndin posted:We see stuff like this come up all the time and I have to wonder how hard it is to see that it indicates some level of internalized contempt/resentment for the person being criticized. It’s only going to get worse, get out now! I'm pretty sure that's the plot of Digimon Tamers.
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AITA for thinking my gf’s brother’s birthday was a waste of time and got upset?quote:I’m (m27) in a relationship with someone I’ll refer to as T (f22). T is close with her siblings who are all younger than her and also her mum.
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maximize time with me, family and birthday celebrations are not me so if you are not doing designated activity with family you could.be spending with me your needy clingy BF.
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Hey, give the guy some credit. He allowed her to go to the birthday party. But once he found out she was just standing there for a little while he realized she wasn’t trying hard enough to spend time with him.
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tater_salad posted:maximize time with me, family and birthday celebrations are not me so if you are not doing designated activity with family you could.be spending with me your needy clingy BF. yeah, that guy needs to be unclung from that lady, stat!
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E: don't forget to do the "together for 3 years, lived together for 2" math if you missed it shocker that the dude turned out to be a clinger, i never would have guessed Troublemaker posted:What the gently caress was up Prudence's rear end on this one? I guess it's not impossible that the daughter is actually the piece of work the post makes her out to be, but it is extremely unlikely. "My child is setting boundaries and giving ultimatums" and "we were never told the reason why" are the textbook red flags of a parent who still views children as their property, and not individuals with agency. The mom has absolutely been told in no uncertain terms why she should butt the gently caress out of her daughter's relationships, but for some reason those details are shrouded in fog and the only things she remembers clearly are the daughter yelling at her ex and not wanting to talk about it, because those are the only details that don't reflect poorly on the parent. Prudence's venom is wholly warranted. Zulily Zoetrope fucked around with this message at 13:31 on Dec 16, 2022 |
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AITA for telling my family I won't be spending Christmas with them because they're way too pushy and demanding of my brother's stepkids?quote:This is my first Christmas as a dad. My wife and I had our son 3 months ago. We spent last Christmas with my family and it was a mess and we had kinda decided then to drop the whole family Christmas with my side stuff, but becoming parents really helped cement this. I told my family in June that we wouldn't be celebrating Christmas with them this year but it came up again a month ago and now it's become a fight, because they wanted to know why, when we'd have dinner cooked for us and everything.
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Troublemaker posted:What the gently caress was up Prudence's rear end on this one? I'm thinking the daughter and Prudence both need to touch some grass
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hawowanlawow posted:I'm thinking the daughter and Prudence both need to touch some grass It doesn't really matter who is right or wrong. Either mother wants to have relationship with her daughter or not. There's no halfway solutions.
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Troublemaker posted:What the gently caress was up Prudence's rear end on this one? This could all be accurate, the ex husband could even be a literal saint, and it doesn't matter one bit. The daughter has made her position clear - she doesn't want to deal with her ex or anyone around him. Now the mother/OP has every right to ignore her daughter and maintain a public relationship with the ex. But she can't maintain that relationship AND demand that her daughter maintain her relationship with OP as well. Prudence is completely right, OP has to pick a side.
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# ? Dec 16, 2022 14:39 |
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Aren't likes only seen if you go looking for them? As in the only way daughter knows if mother has done the otherwise irrelevant action of liking of a post is if she stalks her ex, clicks on all the pictures that the ex has up and search the likes for people she is also friends with on social media? Maybe mum has to pick a side but she is not an arsehole for doing the equivalent of saying "how nice" with someone she used to know.
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Electric Wrigglies posted:Aren't likes only seen if you go looking for them?
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wheatpuppy posted:LOL get rekt, old dude. Guaranteed that's not the first time he's abused his work access to creep on someone. You can run perfectly legal background checks but they charge a fee, so he was just being cheap and torpedoed his own career. I guess "running a background check secretly" is this generations version of "waiting on the porch with my shotgun"
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AITA for calmly defending my thread title from people who wanted to ruin it?teen witch posted:Hi everyone
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DACK FAYDEN posted:lol you wish, the algorithm shows you things your friends like for engagement I’m pretty sure it won’t show you things related to people you’ve blocked though, which presumably the daughter has, so I’m not sure how she would find out unless a third party told her. Or if she doesn’t have him blocked, I guess. I don’t know, that Prudence letter was a weird one. It has vibes of both “future estranged parent who refuses to see their own wrongdoings” as well as “daughter ruined her own marriage and is sweeping it under the rug to avoid looking bad.”
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surc posted:AITA for calmly defending my thread title from people who wanted to ruin it? Lol
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