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Foo Diddley posted:AITA for taking my son (15) out on the streets with me to see what addiction is really like after he was caught smoking and drinking
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deported to Canada posted:Teaching his kid a lesson by taking him on the streets and introducing him to local dealers. "Here's all the best places to find the good poo poo, weed is for pussies. This is Mike, he used to give me handjobs for meth!"
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Dec 29, 2022 17:34
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mllaneza posted:I've got a local self-serve hot pot place in the mall less than a mile away. You pick up a bowl and tongs at the start of the line. Then you go down the line loading up your bowl; protein, veg, noodles, whatever you want. There's a huge selection of protein too, I counted at least eight different kinds of fish balls, and four or five cuts of pork. Then they weigh it to charge you, and you decide on a broth or sauce. They cook it how you want it (soup or stir fry), and you have a delicious, if pricey, meal. Sounds just like FlatTop but for hot pots. I wish there was a FlatTop close to me. That place is awesome but I think the nearest one is 45 mins away from me, if its even still there.
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Dec 29, 2022 17:39
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Pomme de Terror posted:Gotta love the complete lack of self-awareness here all the best relationships have ironclad sunscreen sharing boundaries
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Dec 29, 2022 17:46
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Arsenic Lupin posted:Unhoused people deserve more than to be somebody else's kid's Valuable Lesson. Unless OP paid them for their time, this is exactly like sentencing a bigoted kid to do community service: why did the people using the group kitchen deserve to be exposed to this bigot? "Every once in a while I walk the streets and help the people I used to use with. I offer them resources, give them food, etc." I imagine he did that when he took the kid along.
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Dec 29, 2022 17:46
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AITA for wearing a robe all day and not "normal" clothes?quote:I cannot believe I'm writing this, but I'm actually arguing about this with my boyfriend. i can't believe you won't compromise on this, by doing what i tell you to while i make no concessions whatsoever
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Dec 29, 2022 17:48
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Shartin Mad posted:Yea it's a thing I need more info on to decide how I really feel about it I think. If it was just 'hey son today you're coming with me on my check-ins, you can help me get these guys some food and all and we'll talk to you about what addiction is like so you understand the risk you're taking' then it's probably fine but yea if it's just 'hey Jim tell the kid about how you sucked five dicks for drug money one night, alright later, don't wanna do that do you kid????' yea it's just DARE with slightly extra steps and won't do poo poo. I think what would be way more effective is him taking his son out often as part of volunteering, ie actually helping with a sense of purpose and not just gawking. One off shock's don't create meaningful behavioral change like day to day working with the results / incidental exposure. I worked in the funeral industry for a while and was exposed to enough results of fast motorbike riding to be a very cautious rider in a way an ogre.com page would never have achieved despite ogre being far more likely to illicit PTSD. It's one of the reasons I am completely against gore filled videos/ pictures in safety training materials. I don't think his partner would go for that however.
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Dec 29, 2022 17:49
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Electric Wrigglies posted:I think what would be way more effective is him taking his son out often as part of volunteering, ie actually helping with a sense of purpose and not just gawking. One off shock's don't create meaningful behavioral change like day to day working with the results / incidental exposure. I worked in the funeral industry for a while and was exposed to enough results of fast motorbike riding to be a very cautious rider in a way an ogre.com page would never have achieved despite ogre being far more likely to illicit PTSD. It's one of the reasons I am completely against gore filled videos/ pictures in safety training materials. oh come on, watching films from the 1970s with titles like BLOOD ON THE HIGHWAY was the only part of driver's ed where the kids actually stayed awake
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Dec 29, 2022 17:53
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Foo Diddley posted:AITA for wearing a robe all day and not "normal" clothes? Did this guy time travel from the 1950s when women were supposed to dress up to impress their husbands? And especially the last couple of years normalized that you actually rarely have to leave your pajamas to be a productive member of society. Seriously, lol if you're putting on pants when you don't have to in TYOL 2022.
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Dec 29, 2022 17:56
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Batterypowered7 posted:"Every once in a while I walk the streets and help the people I used to use with. I offer them resources, give them food, etc."
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Dec 29, 2022 17:56
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Foo Diddley posted:AITA for wearing a robe all day and not "normal" clothes? The robe's the opposite of lazy, she literally put on more clothes than you, Captain Sweatpants
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Dec 29, 2022 17:58
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Foo Diddley posted:AITA for taking my son (15) out on the streets with me to see what addiction is really like after he was caught smoking and drinking I’m on dad’s side on this. He is coming from a place of deep empathy towards the unhoused and addicts, because he lived that lifestyle. He’s not some boomer from the suburbs dropping his kid off at Mass and Cass and telling them he’ll be back in 4 hours, he’s treating them like humans and interacting with people he knows. His wife’s attitude that the homeless are unclean and deserving of poverty is way too common and even if the kid doesn’t recognize it, having his dad’s perspective on this part of our society is valuable for him.
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Dec 29, 2022 18:08
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Plus the son is way more likely to end up as an addict due to his genetics, regardless of any talk with his dad. So this was kind of like networking at a Career Fair.
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Dec 29, 2022 18:12
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AreWeDrunkYet posted:Did this guy time travel from the 1950s when women were supposed to dress up to impress their husbands? And especially the last couple of years normalized that you actually rarely have to leave your pajamas to be a productive member of society. Not that this is required to validate her choice or anything but that point in a relationship where someone's comfortable just being themselves around you? That's sexy as hell. How does this guy not see that?
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Dec 29, 2022 18:17
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Electric Wrigglies posted:I think what would be way more effective is him taking his son out often as part of volunteering, ie actually helping with a sense of purpose and not just gawking. One off shock's don't create meaningful behavioral change like day to day working with the results / incidental exposure. I worked in the funeral industry for a while and was exposed to enough results of fast motorbike riding to be a very cautious rider in a way an ogre.com page would never have achieved despite ogre being far more likely to illicit PTSD. It's one of the reasons I am completely against gore filled videos/ pictures in safety training materials. This is it for me. My bio-dad is a massive addict, and I grew up around a lot of struggling addicts and folks in recovery. Meeting those people and their families definitely helped me from ever getting into a hardcore othering of addicts and unhoused people. It also made DARE even less effective on me than it would have been otherwise, because even 10 y/o me knew that the cop's "drugs are for bad people and will immediately kill you or turn you into a horrible human being" didn't match up to the reality I'd seen. Dad taking kid out with him on the regular check-ins sounds like a great idea. Using the people as a cautionary tale is lovely.
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Dec 29, 2022 18:18
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Lemniscate Blue posted:AITA for telling my late dad's ILs that their granddaughter is not my responsibility? Nevermind that as a 19 year old, there's a massive difference in taking care of a 15 year old vs. a 5 year old. 15 year olds can cook meals, get themselves up and ready for school, stay home alone while you're working without burning the house down or getting the cops called, etc. Add a 5 year old into the mix, you get either completely turned into a parent or the 15 year old gets parentified. Haven't these people watched Party of Five?
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Dec 29, 2022 18:25
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AITA for changing my fiance's christmas gift last minute and causing him to be embarrassed infront of friends and family after finding out about the bet?quote:(f28) was finally able to save up to buy the 2k wristwarch my fiance always wanted. I planned to give it to him on christmas but I found out days prior that se peeked at it and saw it. Turns out, he had a bet with some of his friends to get me to buy him something expensive while in return all he had to get me was a "last minute gift". I was stunned and a bit hurt to discover this. So what I did was remain quiet, play nice then on chrustmas dinner with inlaws. I revealed his gift wich he thought was the 2k wristwatch but it was in fact a keychain for his honda. He was stunned to see it, even thought it was a "prank gift" and asked about the 2k wristwatch. I bluntly told him this was his gift and although it was a last mi ute gift it's still technically a gift. His face went red and was so embarrassed he couldn't say a thing infront of friends and family.
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"i bet you fifty bux you can't torpedo your relationship with one christmas gift" "you're on"
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A good ol' picky eater story. No mention of what the likes and dislikes or anything are yet. AITA for leaving my inlaws christmas dinner after I found out that they didn't make accommodations for me? quote:I got invited to my fiance's family christmas celebratory dinner. It's my first christmas with them. I have always been picky about what I eat. Can't help it and it has to do with spychological factord, childhood, and personal likes and dislikes. Before accepting their invite I let FMIL know that I wouldn't be eating the traditional food at their celebration and showed her a variety of dishes to choose from to accommodate me. She refused and told me to bring my own dish. I said if I had to bring my own dish whrn I'm a guest then I better stay at home. We went back and forth and I insisted I wouldn't come if accommodations weren't being made. I just thought it was a simple request and FMIL could've agreed if she really wanted me there. My fiance agreed that I sjhould bring my own dish but I didn't.
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Dec 29, 2022 18:58
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The inlaws were perfectly happy to let her bring her own plate of chicken tendies or whatever and she still threw a fit over it, what even goes through these people's heads?
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Dec 29, 2022 19:03
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r/relationships: spychological factord
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Dec 29, 2022 19:06
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PiratePrentice posted:The inlaws were perfectly happy to let her bring her own plate of chicken tendies or whatever and she still threw a fit over it, what even goes through these people's heads? also she could have just stayed home because she was already told that they weren't going to make a dish for her, yet she showed up and made a big show of leaving. it's almost as if it's more about the attention than the food
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Dec 29, 2022 19:07
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yea my husband has some food issues due to autism sensory poo poo loving with him so I'm pretty sensitive to the whole picky eater thing, but I have no idea what this lady was expecting. The mother in law said she couldn't make an extra dish, it's a holiday meal so I'm assuming she was doing a pretty decent spread so making another thing just for one person may genuinely have been impossible, but said she can bring her own food. That's pretty normal, I can say from experience it's more accommodating than some people can be by a long shot.sephiRoth IRA posted:r/relationships: spychological factord
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Dec 29, 2022 19:11
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Another food one, even more infuriating. I'm surprised this wasn't posted yet but I checked the last few pages. Bolding mine. AITA for cooking things I know my husband doesn't like? quote:I do 100% of the cooking in our home. We share other household responsibilities and I don't really mind because I enjoy cooking. We both work full time and share pretty equally in expenses. We've been married for 15 years and it seems like the list of things he doesn't like just keeps getting longer. He also insists on giving all the meals I cook "grades" despite me repeatedly asking him to stop (A=he really likes it, F=he won't eat it). I know he doesn't like curry, anything with an Indian or Chinese flavor, brown rice, whole wheat pasta, most healthy grains, squash, any meal without "enough" carbs and meat... He also won't eat leftovers.
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sephiRoth IRA posted:r/relationships: spychological factord Mods change my name
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I'm kind of a picky eater - there are textures I am so averse to I immediately gag and get really anxious about food. I actually find it pretty inconvenient because I like almost all flavours and try really hard to be open (and I really hate inconveniencing others). I was on a business trip recently with a large number of catered meals that either had stuff I knew I was weird about or unknown variables and I either brought snacks with me or ordered my own meal that I just paid for because I'm not the main character and it's not everyone else's job to deal with that poo poo. If we're going to relative's for holidays I sure as gently caress make several dishes of my own that others are likely to enjoy as well. What a baby. uranium grass fucked around with this message at 19:19 on Dec 29, 2022 |
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Involuntary Sparkle posted:Another food one, even more infuriating. I'm surprised this wasn't posted yet but I checked the last few pages. Bolding mine. gotta kill him, not even in the funny acid bath joke way you gotta put glass in his food like in Oz
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Dec 29, 2022 19:17
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sephiRoth IRA posted:r/relationships: spychological factord
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Involuntary Sparkle posted:A good ol' picky eater story. No mention of what the likes and dislikes or anything are yet. What a way to kick off the first Christmas with the in laws, lol. I really want to know more about the dinner, when they mentioned "traditional" my mind immediately went to some type of ethnic food, although I guess it could apply to the general big feasts a lot of folks do in the US. Also, sephiRoth IRA posted:r/relationships: spychological factord 
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Captain Hygiene posted:What a way to kick off the first Christmas with the in laws, lol. I really want to know more about the dinner, when they mentioned "traditional" my mind immediately went to some type of ethnic food, although I guess it could apply to the general big feasts a lot of folks do in the US. okay good I'm not the only one who's mind went to 'by 'traditional' does this person mean 'not white'?' I'm Jewish so I'm not 100% sure but just off media poo poo and general being an American who grew up around Christians and all it seems like most traditional western Christmas meals are fairly...normal? Turkey or ham or beef, some kinds of potatoes, veggies, some nice bread or rolls or something, that stuff. I know food issues can be lots of things so I know those can all possibly trigger them depending how they're made and all but it feels like most people would be able to find at least a little something in those kinds of spreads?
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Involuntary Sparkle posted:AITA for cooking things I know my husband doesn't like?
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Involuntary Sparkle posted:Another food one, even more infuriating. I'm surprised this wasn't posted yet but I checked the last few pages. Bolding mine. Why are so many men like this I absolutely do not understand the learned helplessness some dudes have about cooking, it just doesn’t add up to me
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Involuntary Sparkle posted:Another food one, even more infuriating. I'm surprised this wasn't posted yet but I checked the last few pages. Bolding mine. Find the fanciest cloche you can at an estate sale, and serve this person divorce papers. The worst part may be that the reddit comments are all just variations of telling her to cook what she wants. That is a serious underreaction to a partner that clearly has zero respect for her.
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rotinaj posted:Why are so many men like this mommy did it for them and now they have a new mommy why would they ever have to learn? I'll always be grateful to my mom for teaching me how to cook young.
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AITA for telling my parents to not come over again?quote:I (35F) have two beautiful daughters (6F and 4F) with my wife (37F). We live far away from both our families so we can only pay them a visit during the holidays. yeah, it's OP's wife who's being childish, not the people who go out of their way to repeatedly violate the ONE boundary that's been set
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She was desperately looking for a good reason to treat the wife like poo poo.
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rotinaj posted:Why are so many men like this It's hilarious that the FIL just cooks his own food now that he's retired after I assume 30 years of dealing with the MIL's cooking. The implication being the MIL is a hypocritical piece of poo poo, a terrible cook, and or the son is likely a disgrace to the FIL since he won't even learn himself.
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Pope Corky the IX posted:She was desperately looking for a good reason to treat the wife like poo poo. She was hoping she would find something shocking like drugs or secret booze or something that could justify why she is not allowed in there Couldn’t just be that it’s a literal home office and they are loving up the wife’s work by going in there and randomly moving things around, perish the thought
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rotinaj posted:She was hoping she would find something shocking like drugs or secret booze or something that could justify why she is not allowed in there hidden trapdoor under the desk that leads to the lesbian sex dungeon
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Involuntary Sparkle posted:Another food one, even more infuriating. I'm surprised this wasn't posted yet but I checked the last few pages. Bolding mine. She should start grading his sexual performances
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