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KirbyKhan posted:She arrives and still refuses to eat my cooking and the first video she wants to watch on the TV is the nostalgic m&m commercial retrospective. Pray4me plz good luck!
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KirbyKhan posted:Imma thread poo poo this special place with Mother In Law complaints. She's back for the birth of her grand daughter. I deep cleaned our home like I was back on shift at the Ramada, it has never been cleaner. She arrives and still refuses to eat my cooking and the first video she wants to watch on the TV is the nostalgic m&m commercial retrospective. Pray4me plz lady knows what she likes
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Jan 12, 2023 17:22
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feeling very glad that i like and get along with my mother in law (and also with my mom)
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My in-laws and I definitely have a horseshoe effect going on where we completely agree on things for entirely different reasons. I remember the first time I experienced this phenomenon because my father-in-law was loudly bemoaning the television show Everybody Loves Raymond. I was still dating his daughter at the time so I saw it as my chance to commiserate. "Yeah that show is really bad. Not funny at all." But the reason he didn't like it wasn't because it's a lovely sitcom that isn't funny. His issue was that he didn't like how mean the family members were to each other and how family should treat each other better than that. I was able to pivot at that point but we still held that common thread that Everybody Loves Raymond is a bad show. We do it with Biden too.
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Jan 12, 2023 17:34
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lobster shirt posted:feeling very glad that i like and get along with my mother in law (and also with my mom) Oh I get along with her fine, I even like her, but lmao there is absolutely no space in their side of the household to even mildly critique their ancient elders. In my side of the family, the oldest daughter, my sister, wrested control of the matriarchy at 38. Wife's noble family is perfectly content letting their dementia ladden gerontocracy squander and get scammed. COINTEL worked too well.
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I can't stand watching TV with, or being around, with my MIL. She's a typical boomer who insists on snide little comments whenever someone who isn't a hetero white person gets focus on TV. Oh and anything you do that she didn't (doesn't) is either completely wrong or an affront to her existence.
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Jan 12, 2023 20:12
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No baby, I wasn't planning on sitting down tonight anyway, it's fine, I'll stand and walk instead, my back/neck is not sore, I am well rested and I do not need the comfy chair. But yeah, if you have a baby and not one of those wrap things to carry it, you're missing out. I may be standing, but I have two hands to post and the baby is sleeping (as long as I don't sit down (normally I'm even allowed to sit if I do it carefully)).
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Jan 12, 2023 20:47
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lobster shirt posted:feeling very glad that i like and get along with my mother in law (and also with my mom) Treasure that woman. Mine has always been a narcissistic horror, but the baby has actually been helpful. She's a pleasant distraction for everyone and enjoying her is now one thing we have in common. And parenting has also finally forced my wife to adjust expectations, with shorter visits minimizing temper tantrums. She's still an awful person and I hope to minimize her influence on our daughter, but having a kid is pretty clarifying for dealing with toxic people. 
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My mom has been real helpful with all the baby stuff we gotta get ready before the birth. But... just a couple days ago I was going to drop some garbage in the big trash can, and she stopped me, almost indignant because that would stink the inside of the trash can. She grabbed a plastic bag and now the garbage is in the plastic bag, next to the trash can.  So what is a trash can for then? Have I been using it wrong all this time?Back to parenting, our girl is starting to move more, and we're both anxious and impatient that the birth is now little over a month away. Edit: Oh, hey, 6 days to my 17th forums anniversary. Sweet. Hope the next 17 go by as easy. 
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I finally caved and sent my 2yo to daycare unmasked (he won't wear them) today, because we need desperately need the help. Hopefully we're not all hanging around the house this summer with blown-out lungs, but I held out as long as I could. 
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Jan 13, 2023 16:05
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PerniciousKnid posted:I finally caved and sent my 2yo to daycare unmasked (he won't wear them) today, because we need desperately need the help. Hopefully we're not all hanging around the house this summer with blown-out lungs, but I held out as long as I could. We've had COVID once from my wife taking it home from work, rather than the kids getting sick, strangely enough. The oldest has been there since last January and the youngest since July. We couldn't keep them home because it was tearing us apart.
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PerniciousKnid posted:I finally caved and sent my 2yo to daycare unmasked (he won't wear them) today, because we need desperately need the help. Hopefully we're not all hanging around the house this summer with blown-out lungs, but I held out as long as I could. My kids wear n95 masks to school everyday and get sick all the time anyways. Try not to stress yourself too much about it, it took me a while but I was able to let go of some of that anxiety. Once the winter virus season passes I'm going to try and get them to stop wearing masks to school, there doesn't seem to be much point to it if only 20% of kids are masked in the room. It's not my preference but they're well vaccinated and in good health mostly. Whether they'll do it is another question, they're pretty adamant sometimes about wearing them outdoors when there's no one around. I've been trying to unwind that part.
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My kids wear masks at school even though only like 15-20% of the kids there do it because it's just our habit now. Everyone in our family knows that if you're going to be inside with people who aren't in the immediate family, you wear a mask and it's not a big deal. Also my youngest chews on his fingers and it helps a shitload with having him not put his fuckin hands in his mouth all day at school.
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your kid might not get covid but he or she is definitely going to bring home some excruciating illnesses and infect your whole house. here is the last few months of my daycare experience: week before thanksgiving: kid picks up a nasty cold, infects me, misses three or four days of daycare. first week of december: right after going back to daycare, gets sick again, doctor diagnoses pneumonia. thankfully disease does not spread any further and responds quickly to antibiotics. misses three days of daycare. week of christmas: kid gets sick again, cold leading to double ear infection. responds quickly to antibiotics but not before infecting me, i spread it to my mother in law and wife. does not miss any daycare because its the holidays and theyre closed. this week: some kind of viral cold knocks him out of daycare for two days. negative covid test. thankfully the fever broke two nights ago and he is fine now. kids are loving disgusting, they spend all day coughing and sneezing and drooling into each others mouths and ears.
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The one big thing I will stress with masks is that it's 100% something that your kids look to you for guidance on. If you treat masks like some huge imposition and vocally complain about wearing them, that's what your kids are gonna do. But if you just treat it like any other PPE that you use when the situation requires it, it's just a regular dang thing.
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DR FRASIER KRANG posted:The one big thing I will stress with masks is that it's 100% something that your kids look to you for guidance on. Oh yeah for sure, we've been strong on masks the whole time. They don't seem to be doing much good anymore is all.
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That's a bummer. I don't know where you're at but it's probably the case that community transmission levels just overwhelm anything you can do as an individual at some point. Personally I haven't been sick since before COVID and I really fuckin enjoy that. Even when my kids got a little hoarse it never got to me.
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lobster shirt posted:your kid might not get covid but he or she is definitely going to bring home some excruciating illnesses and infect your whole house. here is the last few months of my daycare experience: PerniciousKnid posted:I finally caved and sent my 2yo to daycare unmasked (he won't wear them) today, because we need desperately need the help. Hopefully we're not all hanging around the house this summer with blown-out lungs, but I held out as long as I could.
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So I'm facing a dilemma with our four year old. She currently attends a small, really awesome, Montessori preschool that offers a kindergarten as well. She's absolutely thriving there, but public school enrollment is coming up. Our geographically assigned elementary school is trash on paper. Its low test scores, though, are largely the product of the school getting fed a large chunk of our refugee community. It's the most diverse school and has the most ESL kids in the state by a mile. Critically, it offers Spanish immersion K-5 curriculum. Lessons alternate between Spanish/English every day. Both my wife and I are monolingual. So the question is do we stick with what is working, or do we take the eventual plunge as early as possible? Cost isn't an issue, and the kid is already way above grade level on reading and basic math. I know she'll necessarily get less attention in a larger classroom. My inclination is to make the switch, mostly for integrating her into her geographic peer group and early language exposure.
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I'd visit it and see how you feel.
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I'm convinced that school reviews are entirely astroturfed by the real estate industry. So yeah, check it out with your eyes. Talk to a person there.
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Talk to the principal and ask for a visit. I'd also ask to see what they're serving for lunch. I work in a desperately poor school district and it's usually either pizza, cheese sticks, or mini pancakes from a bag. When I went to a school in a richer area the lunch room looked almost like the hot bar at Whole Foods.
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KirbyKhan posted:I'm convinced that school reviews are entirely astroturfed by the real estate industry. So yeah, check it out with your eyes. Talk to a person there. it’s a proxy for wealth and covid hosed it up so it’s not really even that
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DR FRASIER KRANG posted:That's a bummer. I don't know where you're at but it's probably the case that community transmission levels just overwhelm anything you can do as an individual at some point. I did love not being sick for a couple years, I dunno why other people are such stans for getting sick.
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Does the school have a Facebook page or any social media where you can contact other parents, or read their opinions? A visit is good too, but having more info about how the school is on a longer time scale can be good too. And if you do end up sending your kid to the bilingual school, try and start her with the language a bit before she attends. I imagine for a young kid having to change schools and then half the time not knowing that people are talking in another language could be very stressful. Maybe show her some clips from her favorite cartoons in spanish and see how she reacts to the change.
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Kal-L posted:Maybe show her some clips from her favorite cartoons in spanish and see how she reacts to the change. At least show her some Dora or something.
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me to my son after he takes a piss and proceeds to Fortnite dance out of the bathroom: "D'you know what you should dab on, son? Your hands. With some soap and water."
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PerniciousKnid posted:At least show her some Dora or something. my 3yo is nuts for his daily Spanish Bluey ep. show has a bazillion audio tracks on Disney+.
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just celebrated our first month with the infant. Everyone keeps telling us we’re over the hurdle. it’s just all easier from here, right? right?!
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El Mero Mero posted:just celebrated our first month with the infant. Everyone keeps telling us we’re over the hurdle. it’s just all easier from here, right? right?! You'll eventually have a toddler so no Real talk though: each age has its own positives and negatives. I don't change toddler's diaper anymore but he's destructo, harbinger of chaos. Twins are about 2 weeks old and they don't do much besides fluid in, fluid out but they do that every few hours.
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DR FRASIER KRANG posted:this is a fun time to inform you that whatever soothing technique you settle on to get them back to sleep will come back time and time again even when they're like 9. My trick was singing to them. Had to sing 3-5 songs a night for years BUT they both figured out around age 5 or so that I cannot actually sing for poo poo and that was the end of that
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DR FRASIER KRANG posted:me to my son after he takes a piss and proceeds to Fortnite dance out of the bathroom: Underappreciated post
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El Mero Mero posted:just celebrated our first month with the infant. Everyone keeps telling us we’re over the hurdle. it’s just all easier from here, right? right?! Hahaha 
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DR FRASIER KRANG posted:me to my son after he takes a piss and proceeds to Fortnite dance out of the bathroom:
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El Mero Mero posted:just celebrated our first month with the infant. Everyone keeps telling us we’re over the hurdle. it’s just all easier from here, right? right?! I vote yes tbh I have a 2-year-old, this is supposed to be one of the worst ages, and I far prefer it to the newborn stage. She lets me sleep semi-normal hours most of the time, she can do stuff even if not all of it is stuff I'd rather have her doing, and she can say she loves me (she can also scream and scream and scream but she could do that as a newborn too, and more often). She requires more attention but I'm not as completely exhausted all the time so it's easier overall. We have another coming soon and I am dreading doing another newborn stage Doesn't REALLY start getting easier until 3 months though IMO, as that's when you can start sleep training
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2-3 yo is infinitely preferable to an infant. I have both and the new kid is breaking me. My darling beautiful perfect 2.5yo daughter is a gift from the universe compared to my goblin satan 10 week old son.
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KirbyKhan posted:I trust 0 memories from that first 3 months. It's all hazy and abstract. My brain did it on purpose to trick me into having a second. this
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KirbyKhan posted:I trust 0 memories from that first 3 months. It's all hazy and abstract. My brain did it on purpose to trick me into having a second. Absolutely.
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bitmap posted:2-3 yo is infinitely preferable to an infant. I have both and the new kid is breaking me. My darling beautiful perfect 2.5yo daughter is a gift from the universe compared to my goblin satan 10 week old son. I would take my daughter when she was 10 weeks or older to my son from 2-3.5 ( current age) But those first ten weeks with my daughter, oh man. Nightmarish haze my mind has largely blocked out.
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