Hot Stunt posted:

Friend goes on long monologues and doesn't want me to participate

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My car was in the shop for a few weeks and my girlfriend has two cars and let me borrow one of hers.

We do not live together. I returned her car and a few weeks later she mentioned that her car and her house has bed bugs and she needs to get an exterminator.

I told her that my house has bed bugs for many months now but I just manage it by vaccuming a lot and it's not too bad now.

She flipped out and blamed me for her bed bug infestation and said I caused it. I don't think this is likely since she comes to my place all the time and never had an issue before and I keep it under control by vaccuming that it is highly unlikely I could have accidentally carried sufficient bed bugs to her car. If you tried to find one at my place after I vacuum you wouldn't be able to.

She wants me to pay for an exterminator for both my house, her house and her car. She earns a lot more than I do and I feel this is unfair. I'm not even sure I can get an exterminator for my place since I rent while she owns her place.

WIBTA if I tell her to pay for her own services?

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She has visited me many times and never noticed or complained about bugs in her place before.

Mx. posted:

WIBTA for not paying for my girlfriend's exterminator.

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I told her that my house has bed bugs for many months now but I just manage it by vaccuming a lot and it's not too bad now.

Mx. posted:

WIBTA for not paying for my girlfriend's exterminator.

well why not posted:

They took the speakers out of TVs and sell them as soundbars for more money. Thinness is great but sound is simply more important.

Mx. posted:

WIBTA for not paying for my girlfriend's exterminator.

Hot Stunt posted:

Friend goes on long monologues and doesn't want me to participate

Larry Cum Free posted:

I blame Banshees of Inisherin for portraying abruptly ending friendships in a negative light.

Foo Diddley posted:

stand there patiently for the entire ten minutes. then when you're finally allowed to speak, you go "sorry, I missed something, could you repeat that?"

haveblue posted:

carry on then posted:

Did you get all that?

> NO
   YES

Foo Diddley posted:

stand there patiently for the entire ten minutes. then when you're finally allowed to speak, you go "wow, you really love to feel your lips flappin, don't you"

Chef Boyardeez Nuts posted:

As with any task, the secret to not being asked to repeat it is to be very, very bad at it. I was dragooned into helping my mom's friend set up her very first P.C. back juuuuust before the internet became a thing. I spent at least two hours walking this poor woman, who probably just wanted to keep recipes or something, through Civilization strats.

I was not invited back.

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I (32M) have been married with Rose (40F) for 4 years and we dated for 2 before that. Rose has a daughter, Lola, she is 9. Her father, John (42M) is quite present in her life and is a good dad ( he lives 2 hours away due to his work but he spend a lot of time with her during the weekends, holidays, they video chat a lot, he comes to all her school plays, sport events etc etc).

When I started dating Rose, I didn't know what my relationship with Lola would be. I have had both a step-mother and a step-father so I know these kind of relationships can get bad easily, so I tried to do my best. I played with her, listened to her whenever she wanted to talk, helped if she needed help and I didn't set any rule but made sure she followed Rose's rules. In the past 6 years, we bonded.

Something happened yesterday: she aced a math test (the only full score in the whole class. Am I allowed to be proud of her? I will be anyway). I wanted to reward her and she wanted an ice cream, so we went to the ice cream shop. When I gave her the ice cream, she said "thank you, dad" and rushed back in the car. I was stunned. I didn't know how to react. She never called me dad, she normally call me by my name or nickname. She seemed to not realize she had done it so I acted normally and brought her back home and we celebrated with Rose.

I don't know what I should do if she calls me dad again. I'm happy about it, don't misunderstand me. I love her as if she was my own daughter but she already has a father and they love each other a lot and I think he wouldn't like hearing her call someone else "dad". Should I tell her something? What?

TL;DR : my step-daughter suddenly called me dad and I don't know how I should react.

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My friend's birthday was last week and I got him a gift that upset his girlfriend Just for context, I'm also a girl. I'm a lesbian who hasn't been mistaken for straight in yearrrrs tho - like I've been mistaken more often for a teenage boy than a straight woman TBH.

Anyway, back to the birthday gift.. i knew my friend was building a home woodshop and wanted to learn metal working, and I had this old MIG welder I haven't used in years.

I've been trying to be more sustainable in gift giving and go for secondhand or homemade instead of buying retail.

So i cleaned it up, and gifted it to him with a note saying I could teach him how to use it. I had honestly been insecure giving him a used gift - I was hoping it wouldn't come off like I was regifting old junk from my shop, but I figured it'd be fine since it was a more expensive tool (like $500 new) and all my friends know I've sworn off shopping new.

But I was honestly surprised how it went - I went to my friends party and gave him the welder, and it was by far the gift he was the most excited about and he was saying how it was way too nice of a gift, I shouldn't have, and that on top of me teaching him to use it?

I was like "Omg it's fine - honestly it's not new, and I'm just happy someone would use it because I haven't been! And joked that if he really felt like he owed me, he could learn how to use it on this fence I've been meaning to fix or replace."

I started drinking with a bunch of my friends there and his girlfriend came up to me later saying "she knew what I was doing getting him that gift"

I was fairly drunk and unserious and was like "What, trying to bribe my way into getting my fence fixed?"

She got mad and said that it was super inappropriate to get a guy in a relationship a really expensive gift, it was hundreds of dollars and she couldn't afford that kinda gift. Plus one that meant he was gonna hang out with me one on one?

I was like "girl when have you ever met a straight girl who likes welding? Like not to stereotype but... Look at me, do you really think I'm into your man?"

She called me purposefully ignorant, and that it was just basic common sense to not get a guy friend a elaborate gift when he has a girlfriend. And not with a note asking to do something alone.

I got mad and was like "I didn't loving say alone! You woulda been welcome if you asked literally any other way!"

She said she didn't want to hang out when we welded my fence, she wanted me to back off and that "every girl knows" these rules about what's appropriate around taken guys. And I was like "I dunno, that sounds like some straight people poo poo, I ain't always thinking about gender like that" Which was honestly kinda petty of me, but that really made her mad.

AITA for the gift I gave my friend, and how I reacted to his girlfriend?

Biplane posted:

Straight people have never been ok, that's why we're straight

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My sister is obsessed with the show Yellowstone. Her husband is willing to do anything to make her happy. They want to name their baby Cowboy.

I know I should have kept my mouth shut. It's not my circus or my monkey. I just know the absolute poo poo that kid will go through.

So I told her to consider that she was naming a person who would eventually be an adult.

Our mom and dad at least had the decency to only give me Danger as a middle name. Yes I've seen the loving movie.

She thinks I'm an rear end in a top hat for calling her name choice stupid. I think I'm trying to save him from a lifetime of bullying until he legally changes his name.

Jabor posted:

If you're just watching talking heads then the built-in stuff will be sufficient

Mx. posted:

AITA for telling my sister she needs to name her baby like he will grow up and not give him a "cool" baby name.

trickybiscuits posted:

My (32M) wife (40F)'s daughter suddenly called me "dad" and I don't know how to react.

Hughlander posted:

AITA for getting my friend a more expensive birthday gift? It upset his girlfriend who felt I crossed a line

AceClown posted:

r/relationships: that sounds like some straight people poo poo

loving perfect

Barudak posted:

Honestly, not a bad name. Like its a good powerful name, rolls off the tongue, has some unearned nostalgia but a rich and complex history.

Now poor Accountant, that kid is boned.

Edit: Wont lie, after mulling it over Risk Assessor is a badass name and is now the name of my OC, donut steel

Mx. posted:

AITA for telling my sister she needs to name her baby like he will grow up and not give him a "cool" baby name.

trickybiscuits posted:

My (32M) wife (40F)'s daughter suddenly called me "dad" and I don't know how to react.

Mx. posted:

R/relationships: I dunno, that sounds like some straight people poo poo

Mx. posted:

R/relationships: I dunno, that sounds like some straight people poo poo

Mx. posted:

R/relationships: I dunno, that sounds like some straight people poo poo

mind the walrus posted:

That reminds me there must be some teenagers/quite possibly young adults named Sepiroth and Aerith floating about. God I hope to meet one randomly while working one day.

The Maroon Hawk posted:

I did meet a lady with a young girl named Zelda a few weeks ago, so this seems almost inevitable