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Manoueverable posted:I would need years of therapy to unravel my constant anxiety about my job and my friendships. And that's not even getting into the abyss of being single in my 30s while 3/4 of the people around me are in committed relationships but have no single friends. As others have said: No better time than the present. Get some tools and learn then change those beliefs about yourself and the world that make you anxious. You are good enough to be happy regardless of relationship status, friend
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I moved to Portland for my husband’s postdoc, leaving Chicago and basically all my friends, and I was loving miserable and my marriage fell apart even though I still love him very much so ya, friends are good (various other reasons of course too)
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I have like 3 total friends who all get along but don’t really hang out with eachother unless it’s at a gathering that I’m hosting or organizin and they all have their own separate friendgroups that I’m not really part of. Makes things frustrating and lonely sometimes.
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swickles posted:I have never had pet insurance, but from what I heard it is harder to get a decent payout than people health insurance. It’s also expensive as hell. For my 2 dogs it’s near $200/month I guess because of their ages. I could put that money away every month in a savings acct or whatever and I’d have more money than I ever spend on them in a year.
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I think the Dr. and I are going to Tacoma (and by extension, Seattle) for a week or so in August for her birthday, any tips from PNW goons for things to see/do, beyond the obvious stuff? First time ever to the PNW or anywhere that far west.
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Jul 7, 2023 18:51
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Pron on VHS posted:One of the best ways to meet people and make friends is to go to jail This is an urban legend. Part of making friends is shared interests and if you get out in a cell with craft beer drinkers when you’re a wine enthusiasts, well it’s gonna be cats and dogs!
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Jul 7, 2023 18:57
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General Dog posted:I think the Dr. and I are going to Tacoma (and by extension, Seattle) for a week or so in August for her birthday, any tips from PNW goons for things to see/do, beyond the obvious stuff? First time ever to the PNW or anywhere that far west. If you like beer go to ballard and do a walking brewery / beer tasting tour. There are literally like 12 breweries in 1.5 square miles. Most of them are good. Pops Mgee posted:I have like 3 total friends who all get along but don’t really hang out with eachother unless it’s at a gathering that I’m hosting or organizin and they all have their own separate friendgroups that I’m not really part of. Makes things frustrating and lonely sometimes. Why not join one or all of their friend groups??
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Ornery and Hornery posted:This is an urban legend. Part of making friends is shared interests and if you get out in a cell with craft beer drinkers when you’re a wine enthusiasts, well it’s gonna be cats and dogs! Very true. It's like how your best friend magically happened to live next door when you were 5 years old.
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I don't know much about Seattle but Washington has rainforests on the coast that are lovely. Perfect time to go fishing or hiking around the Columbia river gorge, though that is a few hours south on the Oregon/Washington border.
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All of my friends are either from high school, or from they year+ my dad spent in the hospital and I got to know his PT/OTs really well. I have exactly one friend that I have made while out in the wild, and that is a dude I met a craft beer place. I went because a friend of mine owned the bar and there was a special release of some beer. It was also trivia night so I got paired up with another guy who was there for the same reason and we have been friends since.
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General Dog posted:I think the Dr. and I are going to Tacoma (and by extension, Seattle) for a week or so in August for her birthday, any tips from PNW goons for things to see/do, beyond the obvious stuff? First time ever to the PNW or anywhere that far west. Go visit the C.H.A.Z. Is the C.H.A.Z. still a thing? Like EmbryoSteve said tho, Ballard has cool poo poo. I vaguely remember me of my friends working at Un Bien, which had bitchin' sandwiches.
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Beyond inviting myself to things I’m not really sure how to to that.
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I met a lot of my current friend group via a goonmeet, so another forums success story
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Pontius Pilate posted:I moved to Portland for my husband’s postdoc, leaving Chicago and basically all my friends, and I was loving miserable and my marriage fell apart even though I still love him very much so ya, friends are good (various other reasons of course too) The lesson here is, don't leave Chicago.
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Jul 7, 2023 19:37
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General Dog posted:I think the Dr. and I are going to Tacoma (and by extension, Seattle) for a week or so in August for her birthday, any tips from PNW goons for things to see/do, beyond the obvious stuff? First time ever to the PNW or anywhere that far west. If you're in Tacoma may as well hit up Pt. Defiance, and Ruston Way (I had my wedding reception here) for nice water views. Downtown Tacoma remains a bit to be desired relative to Seattle.
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Bird in a Blender posted:The lesson here is, don't leave Chicago. The problem with making friends in LA is more than half will leave if they don't end up making enough money or working close to home
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Ornery and Hornery posted:This is an urban legend. Part of making friends is shared interests and if you get out in a cell with craft beer drinkers when you’re a wine enthusiasts, well it’s gonna be cats and dogs! I am firmly convinced going to prison will make you a chessmaster, or at least a guy who is pretty good at chess.
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Grittybeard posted:I am firmly convinced going to prison will make you a chessmaster, or at least a guy who is pretty good at chess. I am also firmly convinced the opposite is true. Behind the Bastards taught me psychopathy and chess mastery go hand in hand.
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General Dog posted:I think the Dr. and I are going to Tacoma (and by extension, Seattle) for a week or so in August for her birthday, any tips from PNW goons for things to see/do, beyond the obvious stuff? First time ever to the PNW or anywhere that far west. •Space needle (yeah I said it, get hosed haters!!!) •Chihuly glass garden •That Japanese fried chicken place that the giggly top chef contestant opened •UW campus and maybe Burke museum •one of those lil boat tours of the lake •the intersection where a bunch of the protests centered (also there’s cute bars and restaurants around there) •ezells fried chicken
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Pontius Pilate posted:I moved to Portland for my husband’s postdoc, leaving Chicago and basically all my friends, and I was loving miserable and my marriage fell apart even though I still love him very much so ya, friends are good (various other reasons of course too) Are you two still married? What happened? How are you doing now?
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Very entertaining end to this article that is borderline on even being newsworthy on the Guardian (but it was Minnesota-related on the front page so I had to click it): https://www.theguardian.com/world/2023/jul/07/warren-jeffs-polygamous-leader-minnesota-land-sale It's 600 words about a big tract of land in the arrowhead that was owned by the Fundamentalist LDS sect is now going up for sale (40 acres for $189k for anyone looking to start a goon compound). Dude who ran it is in jail for having a bunch of child brides. It goes into how that sect has land in SD and WI and did a bunch of awful poo poo. End of it is the most exasperated northern MN realtor who doesn't want to talk to anyone else about the owners being pedophiles: The Guardian posted:“It’s just a nice North Woods property,” said real estate agent Jacob Patten, of Red Pine Realty, which has the listing.
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Android Apocalypse posted:Go visit the C.H.A.Z. C.H.A.Z. was a thing for like 3 months in 2020, it's absolutely not still a thing. Are you a member of the chamber of Commerce?
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shirts and skins posted:well, years of therapy is kind of like planting a tree. the best time is 20 years ago, the second best time is now. One of the few close friends that I do have these days mentioned her therapist/going to therapy to me for I think the first time in the 6+ years we've been friends, and I would put her firmly in the well-adjusted category. I'll have to see if she is open to discussing her experience next time we get together. Be nice to yourself and :gettherapy: The Glumslinger posted:I met a lot of my current friend group via a goonmeet, so another forums success story One of the first friends that I made in my city was a goon who I first interacted with on here, and I later learned that he and his wife were friends with an old work friend who was also living here. Sadly they moved away five years ago or so (and he hasn't posted here in at least that long), I'mma text that fool later today to see how he's doing.
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Pops Mgee posted:Beyond inviting myself to things I’m not really sure how to to that. Something to consider is to communicate with your friends that you're looking for more things to do and ask there are any social events with them and their friends you can join. Or if they talk about a fun thing they did with the friend group just say "that's really cool and something I'd like to be included in in the future if you're down. Ive been wanting to get to know those others better" or whatever is your way of saying that. It will be anxiety provoking but worst outcome is they say no. Best is you get to make more friends.
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Addie has a potential bowel obstruction. They’re going to repeat X-rays. If what they see is moving, might discharge tonight. If what they see isn’t moving, she’s going to need to go to a higher level of care.
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FizFashizzle posted:Addie has a potential bowel obstruction. They’re going to repeat X-rays. If what they see is moving, might discharge tonight. If what they see isn’t moving, she’s going to need to go to a higher level of care. Can you drop an NG tube in the meantime?
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swickles posted:Can you drop an NG tube in the meantime? The vet asked me if I was medical and said (technically true!) that I’m a trauma PA. she didn’t have a good answer to why an ultrasound happens after an X-ray. Conversations about potential NG tubes will happen after repeat CX. also lab work was sent out and won’t be back until tomorrow so that’s a good lesson about which tests to prioritize.
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Air Skwirl posted:C.H.A.Z. was a thing for like 3 months in 2020, it's absolutely not still a thing. Are you a member of the chamber of Commerce? The CHAZ / CHOP didn't even last a month! That said, Capitol Hill is still a neat place to visit.
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General Dog posted:I think the Dr. and I are going to Tacoma (and by extension, Seattle) for a week or so in August for her birthday, any tips from PNW goons for things to see/do, beyond the obvious stuff? First time ever to the PNW or anywhere that far west. You could go to the Red Hot in tacoma, it's a artisnal hog dog place. Also go raft the Ho river in Olympiac Nat Forest. Temperate rainforests own.
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Under ground tour in Seattle was pretty cool when me and my brother went up there
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DON"T go to the Museum of Pop Culture. Not worth the money unless you REALLY like Hendrix
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FizFashizzle posted:Addie has a potential bowel obstruction. They’re going to repeat X-rays. If what they see is moving, might discharge tonight. If what they see isn’t moving, she’s going to need to go to a higher level of care. This happened to Finn. He had eaten part of a ball. They ended up having to cut him open and squeezed the piece of ball through his intestines and out his butthole lol. I hope it’s something more minor in Addie’s case. Hopefully she just passes whatever it is.
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FizFashizzle posted:The vet asked me if I was medical When we had two animals with a combined six prescriptions I would listen to my wife and the tech talk, then have to ask what they said. "Did you tell her the dog gets this pill three times a day?" "...yes" "OK! I'll go back to my coloring"
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Yeah Islas been sliced open twice in 3 years for an obstruction. Least she’s out of that chew on blanket phase.
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I can't tell if I love or am terrified by the Vegas Sphere https://twitter.com/LasVegasLocally/status/1677365165719969792?t=fW62b7-JhgcEkYT7BtH1LQ&s=19
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Late to friend chat since I was busy at work, but I'll freely admit I don't have a lot. Now, admittedly, I've never had huge friend groups in the first place. I was always the sort to have maybe a handful (Usually only 2-3) really, really close friends rather than a larger number of looser friends that hung out now and then. I'm normally quiet and sorta closed off around people I don't know, so making friends isn't often easy. My problem in the past was I'd have those smaller groups, but they eventually fell apart. I lost basically all my elementary/middle/high school friends when I was 16 when my parents divorced and I just went even more introverted than I already was (Being dumb teenagers in a different era, there wasn't much emotional support). Had another really tight group in my mid-20s that survived one job change, but trying to do anything was always hard when everyone worked different retail jobs with insane retail schedules, and then collapsed completely 4~ years ago when my fiancé left me and I once again went hyper closed off/into a really dark place for a while. I have one extremely close friend I've known for 10 years. We worked together at a few places and talk about our time in retail like vets talk about being in combat (And she almost certainly has PTSD from poo poo that happened at Toys R Us), and though we don't live close to each other any more, we text almost daily and talk when we can, so both of us have made the effort to stay in each others lives. I've also developed some really close friendships with a handful of people at my current job, we hang out a lot outside of work which is nice. I'll throw in a separate category for online/remote friends. There's a few people I've known originally from old Gundam forums for going on 20 years, and a few Xbox Live friends I've had and been playing games with for at least 15 years now. Plus goons, obviously. Y'all good people (Mostly) and anyone who says "gently caress the Cowboys" is a friend of mine.
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Ornery and Hornery posted:Are you two still married? What happened? How are you doing now? We are, just on a break and still friendly, but I’m cognizant of what that means and I’m not holding my breath. Moving out pre-vax covid while my work also dried up did not do wonders for my depression and substance abuse poo poo, plus just the loneliness of leaving a lotta friends and family as mentioned. I’m back in Chicago right now and it’s bittersweet and idk what I’m doing exactly now, so not great. Thanks for reading my sad boi poo poo tffriends
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FizFashizzle posted:Addie has a potential bowel obstruction. They’re going to repeat X-rays. If what they see is moving, might discharge tonight. If what they see isn’t moving, she’s going to need to go to a higher level of care. Had that before. One of my dogs a few years ago ate a mango pit and it had to be removed. It’s a heavy weight on that dogs eating over the next month - best of luck dude
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