Pope Corky the IX posted:I live in NYC and I can’t count how many times I’ve had to explain that trains covered in graffiti hasn’t been a thing in thirty years. Maybe your city should invest in the arts, used to be a place artists and people wanted to go and see but if the place can't attract even street art anymore might as well go to Austin or something.
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Oh there's lots of graffiti on stationary things
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StrangersInTheNight posted:Wait what, you're expecting 5th graders to have internalized keeping period products on hand when they've likely only just begun menstruating in the recent past, and that if they forget to have menstrual products on-hand, it's some sort of metric for not being mentored at home? Yes, actually, a child not being provided sanitary or medical equipment might not be tended to properly at home. That's why you let people who are well versed in that sort of thing make that distinction.
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Cowslips Warren posted:AITA for choosing money over a friendship? Imagine being that much of an entitled rear end in a top hat that your family's like "nah, we out" Cowslips Warren posted:AITA for NEVER wanting to babysit this family again Kid, your mom is on your side & "no" is a complete sentence. Neighbor can get hosed for pulling that stunt.
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Don't forget that most of urban North America looks like this, and walking two blocks is absolutely miserable or even dangerous. That said, even if he lives in Salt Lake City two city blocks is a little over 1/4 mile and if you can't handle that...
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Bah e: AITA for calling my SIL an attention whore after she announced her pregnancy quote:Disclaimer: this is my first time using Reddit after a friend recommended it to me so please bear w me if I don't know all the correct language! Kurieg fucked around with this message at 16:10 on Aug 30, 2023 |
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Kurieg posted:AITA for ‘screwing over’ my sister by immediately quitting babysitting for her? It is Wednesday my dude.
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a podcast for cats posted:There was a r/boru update a few months back about a famously unhinged post where the OP posted again a year or so later and pretty much said: "my bad, i was on some designer meth back then, it was kind of a low point". That post read a lot like this one. I love that post, so I found it again: I Can't Believe It quote:I come to DC for a couple weeks of education, culture, and fun. The museums and food are fantastic. But the city is so miserable and grim, everyone is so exhausting to look at, so I try my chances at a club. Nobody is dressed hot, and everyone has uneven lips and fat shoulders that broaden their face and long torsos and dry elbows with nary a clue that they look like that. The fact that I saw Chelsea boots on a woman, a woman who I presume is college-educated and aware it is the year 2022, a woman who was wearing stone washed boot cut high rise jeans as well, like some sort of time traveler with her notes mixed up, made me so profoundly distressed that I had to go back to my hotel and rest. Additionally, I have never been in a club where people are so grimly determined to look like they're having fun. Where is the sprezzatura? Must you all look so pained? And the update: quote:oh my god this is me. i was addicted to designer amphetamines and completely delusional at the time of writing this. i had lost forty pounds and thought i was hot poo poo. i thought i was the reincarnation of Kurt Vonnegut. this was serious, and my friends laughed when they saw this go viral on twitter. it made me realize i had issues and im sober now. im also shocked i managed to stay employed at that time. To answer your question [note: the screenshots were posted with the caption "Is this person NYC or LA? Place your bets"]: im from LA but I grew up all around. I was living between Baltimore and NYC at the time. My mom is a beautiful Italian woman (Milan by way of Bolzano) and my dad is an insufferable Mexican from Montreal.
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r/relationships: Where is the sprezzatura? Must you all look so pained?
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That one’s just loaded with potential titles but I liked these two r/relationships: this city is full of genetically unfortunate people apparently too poor to buy beauty r/relationships: A lack of vision for hot people will eventually kill your city
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I dunno if self posting is allowed or not but I want you all to hear my story. MY WIFE dared to be AT WORK while I was trying to get my yearly state inspection on my vehicle. The place was backed up even though I had an appointment. I was just FORCED to walk 3-4 blocks home from the location because they wont' be done prior to my next phone call for work. When she gets home she is going to really get laid in to for not being here and forcing me to walk all that distance.. AITA?
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The Diddler posted:Yes, actually, a child not being provided sanitary or medical equipment might not be tended to properly at home. That's why you let people who are well versed in that sort of thing make that distinction. Maybe if it kept happening, but once? The first time, every time? How do you know they're not being provided at home, and just didn't forget it that day? It just feels like the exact right recipe to stigmatize menstruation as a hyper-individualised personal medical issue which is embarassing and should be hidden, when it's actually a social medical issue that those who menstruate and their allies share the burden with each other on. but whatever I'm not a teacher. I'd just suggest approaching it less like 'SEND THEE CHILD AWAY TO THEE MENSTRUATION SHACK' about it if you're able StrangersInTheNight fucked around with this message at 16:57 on Aug 30, 2023 |
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AITA for sticking for my daughter despite pressure from my sister and family?quote:My (F38) daughter (18) recently moved to Montreal (from London) to attend Uni. Also, my sister (42) lives there, ideal as she was happy to host my daughter during her studies. op posted:Just to clarify, she wanted her to wake up at 7, no later than 8am. Immediately shower then clean the bathroom, mop and hoover the whole place. I thought this was quite a rigid schedule to enforce and how would this work once lectures started? quote:NTA! The calls prove you made the right decision. Did you tell all the family members your sister gave F 48 hours to get out or she would kick her out? op posted:Yes of course I told them that but she denied it. The messed up thing is they believe her because she is older than me so I must be the one lying...
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Cacator posted:r/relationships: Where is the sprezzatura? Must you all look so pained? Maybe I'm just easily amused but I've been laughing about this line for the last five minutes StrangersInTheNight posted:Maybe if it kept happening, but once? The first time, every time? How do you know they're not being provided at home, and just didn't forget it that day? It just feels like the exact right recipe to stigmatize menstruation as a hyper-individualised personal medical issue which is embarassing and should be hidden, when it's actually a social medical issue that those who menstruate and their allies share the burden with each other on. 5th grade is also on the early side for a first period. It does not seem reasonable to me to expect a 10-year-old to be carrying a pad around at all times for something that may not even happen for another 5 years. The parent was being an rear end but I don't think the girl not having a pad on her is a sign that they're neglectful.
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StrangersInTheNight posted:Maybe if it kept happening, but once? The first time, every time? How do you know they're not being provided at home, and just didn't forget it that day? It just feels like the exact right recipe to stigmatize menstruation as a hyper-individualised personal medical issue which is embarassing and should be hidden, when it's actually a social medical issue that those who menstruate and their allies share the burden with each other on. You're not from the US, are you? Teachers here are mandatory reporters, failure to notice and report abuse can cost you your career. Also, being overly friendly with children can cost you your career if you're a guy because "only groomers take care of kids" or whatever right-wing nonsense is currently infecting rural America. It could be better for the child if teachers were allowed to be real humans, but as a society we've decided against that.
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post/av combo not doing anyone any favors here
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vonnegutt posted:My mom is a beautiful Italian woman (Milan by way of Bolzano) and my dad is an insufferable Mexican from Montreal.
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StrangersInTheNight posted:Maybe if it kept happening, but once? The first time, every time? How do you know they're not being provided at home, and just didn't forget it that day? It just feels like the exact right recipe to stigmatize menstruation as a hyper-individualised personal medical issue which is embarassing and should be hidden, when it's actually a social medical issue that those who menstruate and their allies share the burden with each other on. I think the point is that the teacher just can't know. Maybe it's no big deal and someone forgot, or maybe there are specific medical and/or social issues that need to be addressed. The school has a medical professional to identify and deal with the medical issues, and this person will also generally be better equipped and have the privacy to address the social ones. Unless the nurse has a backlog it seems perfectly appropriate to just direct anything medical in that direction, even a well meaning teacher could miss signs of a more serious medical problem or not even know what to look for in the first place. It shouldn't be stigmatizing to get a child to the most appropriate adult resource available.
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Volcano posted:Maybe I'm just easily amused but I've been laughing about this line for the last five minutes The age of first period has been dropping for decades, it's currently 12.4, so a 10 year old is absolutely reasonable.
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Its reasonable that they'd be menstruating at that age, but not that they'd be good at the rigamarole of preparing and living through the monthly cycle. It takes practice to remember to prep. I kinda bristle at the whole 'medical' angle tbh, like yeah it's technically medical but also painting it as as only appropriate in a medical context causes lots of issues with menstruating people and their relationships with menstruation, yeah. Mentruation is just a thing that happens, like pooping and peeing, and its fine to tell the teacher when you need to pee, so it should be just as fine to say you need a pad. I get why it has to happen because of how hosed up our country is with expectations of teachers but yeeting it out to the medical professionals doesn't help when menstruating people are conversely working hard at trying to make it more of a normal everyday thing.
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Hughlander posted:My husband doesnt want to have intimacy with me unless it is to conceive kids I want to say it was cause of that Hasidic Jew thread in Ask/Tell that I learned Hasidic Jewish men can be absolutely terrified of sex once they get married, so honestly I can see this being a thing. Glad he’s going to seek help though! Nobody should be terrified of being attracted to their SO.
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tater_salad posted:I dunno if self posting is allowed or not but I want you all to hear my story.
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Volcano posted:Maybe I'm just easily amused but I've been laughing about this line for the last five minutes Grazie mille to whomever changed the thread title. Much like "get beefy bitch", this one is going to live rent free in my head.
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I change the titles which is why I like to see people suggest new ones here in the thread.
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Kurieg posted:F did not want any help getting her social security number (she was already told by the uni how to apply for it versus the fact that my sister wanted to make the application on her behalf) Cacator posted:Grazie mille to whomever changed the thread title. Much like "get beefy bitch", this one is going to live rent free in my head.
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Haven't a lot of schools stopped having nurses on site? Yup. As of 2015, only 52% of schools have a full-time nurse on site, and the numbers have been dropping further since then. A total of 82% had either a full-time or a part-time nurse. "Part-time" could mean anything from "every afternoon" to "once a week". So "send the kid to the nurse" may or may not be an option, sadly. I get that The Diddler is (rightly) concerned about being accused by parents because male, but I also think that a woman teacher who already has pads on hand is justified in replying "Sure, here's a pad" to a kid who asks about pads. 5th grade isn't actually early to be starting periods nowadays; anything between ages 10-15 is considered normal. However, this parent is angry about the teacher's having handed over a pad, which is frankly nutso. Whether or not the mother had told the child about menstruation, the child is bleeding right now and needs a pad.
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Pope Corky the IX posted:I change the titles which is why I like to see people suggest new ones here in the thread. Thank you for your service, colleague
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Calling comic thread goons! Someone get Little My... AITA for reading a book to my son? quote:So I(33F) and my husband(34M) had an argument about the book I read to our 7 year old son. I'm using a throwaway account because I don't like posting on my main.
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OP, escalate to Tom of Finland.
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Some good comments on these letters. quote:Dear Care and Feeding, Comment posted:MIL worries: one of the reasons why MILs are so often disliked is because a lot of moms have difficulty with the transition from seeing their kids as, well, kids, into seeing them as Real Whole Adult Humans. Obviously there's a spectrum on this, ranging from mild to fully pathologic, but most of the moms I've talked to have expressed something along the lines of "you may grow up but you'll always be my baby!" And from the Ask A Manager person writing at Slate: quote:“My interviewer said she looked forward to talking soon. Is that a sign I’m getting the job?” Comment posted:A big mistake people make in many situations, including the job search process, is viewing themselves as far more important than they really are. A candidate is usually one of many, and the company has a process. They are busy people, and they are sending candidates form emails to cover their butts and to categorize candidates properly for follow up or not. They aren’t crafting wink-wink emails with hidden meanings tailored to an individual candidate who they really like or really hate. A lot of patrons have been trying to follow up on jobs they've applied for recently so this was a timely one.
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I cannot believe that there is a person in this world who hates the moomins. What an utterly joyless existence that must be.
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Lmao why even marry a guy who doesn't like Moomins?
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Cowslips Warren posted:Calling comic thread goons! Someone get Little My... How does something like this sneak by you in all the time before you had a kid
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trickybiscuits posted:Some good comments on these letters. Jesus Christ, she’s not even a MIL yet and she’s already a nightmare MIL
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Pope Hilarius II posted:Thank you for your service, colleague I've always known this thread was a filthy papist conspiracy.
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Bubblyblubber posted:I've always known this thread was a filthy papist conspiracy. How can two popes be active colleagues? And on good terms?
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kimbo305 posted:How can two popes be active colleagues? And on good terms? conspiracy
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kimbo305 posted:How can two popes be active colleagues? And on good terms? You haven't obviously read the same conspiracy theories as I have
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Ensign Expendable posted:Lmao why even marry a guy who doesn't like Moomins? I would hope that Little My bites his ankle, except that she deserves somebody tastier.
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AITA for ending my childcare agreement with my sister because I don't want to care for her future stepkids who I never met?quote:I (27f) am a stay at home mom to my two little boys ages 5 and 1. I also take care of my sister's two children ages 8 and 6 after school and during summer break. She sends snacks for all the kids and pays me a small amount of money. I never asked for a lot because it was never a big deal to me and I enjoy seeing my niece and nephew. But now things have changed. My sister is engaged and her future husband lives out of state with his two children. My sister already told me they were hoping I would take care of them. I asked when I would be meeting the kids and she said they fly in just before the wedding and I would start right away. AITA for leaving when my mom forced me (22 Male) to meet my daughter? quote:Hi guys, this is my first post and english isn't my native language. Cowslips Warren fucked around with this message at 19:47 on Aug 30, 2023 |
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