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CitizenKain
May 27, 2001

That was Gary Cooper, asshole.

Nap Ghost

Evil Willow posted:

AITA for consolidating my boyfriend's soy sauces into one jar?

Unlike rice, you can't separate this grain by grain into the individual components!

Need to set this person up with the rice mixing person.

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John Wick of Dogs
Mar 4, 2017

A real hellraiser


I think that guy's Halmeoni is dead.

I also think the story is made up, she put so much emphasis on the Harmony part and then how her friend who takes a lot of foreign languages was horrified, without saying the language. Like setting up a little riddle for the reader

Pirate Radar
Apr 18, 2008

You're not my Ruthie!
You're not my Debbie!
You're not my Sherry!

John Wick of Dogs posted:

I think that guy's Halmeoni is dead.

I also think the story is made up, she put so much emphasis on the Harmony part and then how her friend who takes a lot of foreign languages was horrified, without saying the language. Like setting up a little riddle for the reader

Yeah, it seems like a really long-running misunderstanding to be going uncorrected to set up the moment. Like the joke in Arrested Development where the guy asks his brother to spy on his Latina girlfriend because he thinks she’s cheating on him with somebody named Hermano.

mllaneza
Apr 28, 2007

Veteran, Bermuda Triangle Expeditionary Force, 1993-1952




Ghost Leviathan posted:

It's not just autistic people who find it difficult to be even minorly confrontational especially with strangers over reasonable requests, especially involving food, due to expecting explosive angry outbursts over expressing any personal inconvenience or preference that requires acknwledgement.

Heard.

Troublemaker
Mar 12, 2007

Pirate Radar posted:

Yeah, it seems like a really long-running misunderstanding to be going uncorrected to set up the moment. Like the joke in Arrested Development where the guy asks his brother to spy on his Latina girlfriend because he thinks she’s cheating on him with somebody named Hermano.

Since I assume Harry speaks English with her, it'd be weird if he didn't explain to her that it was his grandmother's soy sauce, not his "Halmeoni's." Not to mention if he only had four jars, combining them only gets rid of three jars, nowhere near enough to solve his packed pantry problem. And by replacing those three with one big enough to hold the contents of all four jars, she's not saving any space.

The whole thing seems kind of like a racist joke based on the "l" and "r" sounds stereotypically mixed up in Asian languages.

idiotsavant
Jun 4, 2000
Yeah it's pretty much a lovely lolololol me rikey flied lice!!! joke. ugh

SulfurMonoxideCute
Feb 9, 2008

I was under direct orders not to die
🐵❌💀

Crocobile posted:

Thank god my mom refuses to learn technology.

I'm so loving grateful this poo poo didn't exist when I was younger. It was bad enough having a controlling possessive psycho of a mother before technology enabled 24/7 child stalking. My life would have been an unsurvivable nightmare.

Also, I have 3 (sometimes 4) different types of soy sauce in my pantry. They have different uses, and I often use them as ingredients to make glazes, sauces, and dips from scratch that would often be off if I used the wrong type. I'd be so goddamn pissed if someone mixed them all together, and that's without grandma's homemade version. That elevates this from YTA to an acid vat-worthy offense.

SulfurMonoxideCute fucked around with this message at 06:37 on Oct 8, 2023

ChickenOfTomorrow
Nov 11, 2012

god damn it, you've got to be kind

WIBTA for selling someone else's books?

quote:

I (23N) am a high school teacher. About a week before the school year started, a much more experienced teacher (probably late 50s-early 60s, F) decided to take an "indefinite break from teaching" which basically means she quit with no guarantee that she won't come back someday. I was the only person with the certification to teach her subject, so I didn't really have a choice and had to move subjects and classrooms.

The problem is, I'm in the classroom of the teacher who quit, and she left a LOT of stuff behind. I mean like a bookshelf full of textbooks that we don't even use at this school plus a pretty good collection of books that were probably part of her personal collection. I asked my department head at the start of the year and he said to give it a few weeks to see if she comes back to get them, and if she didn't then I could decide what to do with them. Well it's been two months and she hasn't come back for her things (my department head also tried to contact her about if she wanted the things she left behind, but she never responded). I'm planning to take some of the books to other staff members, but I don't think anyone is going to want the textbooks or the books that were personally hers.

So here's where I might be the rear end in a top hat: I'm considering selling her stuff to used bookstore that does exchanges. I figure I could get a little extra cash to spend on classroom supplies (and get the books to people who actually want them). Right now I'm between doing that or just donating them but both options make me feel icky. I just want them out of my classroom but I worry that it's overstepping my boundaries, especially since we don't know if she'll come back to teach in the future.

Megillah Gorilla
Sep 22, 2003

If only all of life's problems could be solved by smoking a professor of ancient evil texts.



Bread Liar

Chewbecca posted:

He needs to be civil - meaning he is polite and communicates with her appropriately as he would with any stranger on the street.

The fact the kid is scared to bring her up is a massive red flag tbh, it shows that when she brings up her mother, her father is hostile towards her (the daughter). That is in no way justified and ultimately the daughter is going to end up cutting off her father, regardless of the situation, or how much the father perceives he is in the 'right'

The OP shows he's hurting the daughter to hurt his ex-wife by trying to force 100% custody.

Guy's a piece of poo poo all round.

Blue Moonlight
Apr 28, 2005
Bitter and Sarcastic

Cowslips Warren posted:

AITA for my reaction to kids kicking my door?

This last Thursday, some kids came to my door and rang the doorbell a few times. I figured their ball had gone in my backyard or something, so I answered. They immediately launched into a rendition of “We Wish You A Merry Christmas.” I thanked them, and they ran off, giggling, saying “Merry Halloween.”

mllaneza
Apr 28, 2007

Veteran, Bermuda Triangle Expeditionary Force, 1993-1952




ChickenOfTomorrow posted:

WIBTA for selling someone else's books?

Burn the USA down, found a good country on the ashes.

QuarkJets
Sep 8, 2008

Blue Moonlight posted:

This last Thursday, some kids came to my door and rang the doorbell a few times. I figured their ball had gone in my backyard or something, so I answered. They immediately launched into a rendition of “We Wish You A Merry Christmas.” I thanked them, and they ran off, giggling, saying “Merry Halloween.”

That's spooky as hell

Shithouse Dave
Aug 5, 2007

each post manufactured to the highest specifications


Evil Willow posted:

[b]AITA for consolidating my boyfriend's soy sauces into one jar?

Nobody’s ever hosed with my various soy sauces, oils and vinegars, but last year I had a flatmate come home stinking drunk, and they opened the one bottle of wine I had from the summer I did hard labour in a vineyard, the 2016 vintage. I’d returned to my home county after my marriage suddenly imploded, and I’d signed on to welfare, so I was required to take any job offered to me, no matter how unsuitable. I was basically doing squats for 20 kilometres a day trimming and thinning and wire lifting, paid not by the hour but by the vine. The first few weeks nearly fuckin killed me, but by the time I landed a real job I was the fittest and thinnest I’ve ever been, at 35 years old. I earned that bottle with blood, sweat and tears, and it broke my heart to see it on the kitchen counter with one glass poured from it because my drunk rear end flatmate wanted a glass of wine they didn’t need.
Like gramma’s soy sauce, it is irreplaceable. Don’t gently caress with people’s bottles and jars without asking.

Pff
Aug 17, 2012
Nobody actually likes food that isn't chicken fingers. You just perform exposure therapy on yourself because of various pressures. Just eat the crappy thing until you like it.

Modal Auxiliary
Jan 14, 2005

SulfurMonoxideCute posted:

I'm so loving grateful this poo poo didn't exist when I was younger. It was bad enough having a controlling possessive psycho of a mother before technology enabled 24/7 child stalking. My life would have been an unsurvivable nightmare.

I wasn't aware it was a thing people did until I suddenly ended up with multiple clients who were full-time cyberstalking each other 24/7. Lots of discussions about enmeshment/differentiation and boundaries ensued. poo poo is loving wild.

Pope Hilarius II
Nov 10, 2008

Pirate Radar posted:

Yeah, it seems like a really long-running misunderstanding to be going uncorrected to set up the moment. Like the joke in Arrested Development where the guy asks his brother to spy on his Latina girlfriend because he thinks she’s cheating on him with somebody named Hermano.

When she was still a student, my best friend got a job at a diner. One of her co-workers was young immigrant from Africa who introduced himself as "Hotlove" and everyone called him that as well. By all accounts he was a very sweet gentleman. Only after a few months, when she accidentally glimpsed his id card, she learnt his name was actually "Godlove", but all the other co-workers were elderly ladies from a part in the country where the G is pronounced as an H, so they called him "Hotlove", which he just accepted as the seemingly local pronunciation of his name and rolled with it.

Sagebrush
Feb 26, 2012

ChickenOfTomorrow posted:

WIBTA for selling someone else's books?

A lot of high schools have this special room full of books. Like that's all that's in there, books on shelves everywhere you go, and people can go and look at the books and read them if they're interested. I forgot what it's called. But maybe she can ask her principal if they have one of those

for gently caress's sake

Crocobile
Dec 2, 2006

Sister-in-law told me my wife cheated while on vacation

quote:

The players in this drama. My wife who for the purpose of this post shall be called Anne (female 47). My sister-in-law (female 40) who we shall call Shannon. SIL's cheating partner (male mid 40s) known hereafter as Tony. And myself (male, so close to 50 that I can reach out and slap it). We shall refer to me as "me".
Usual disclaimers of cell phone and English is my first language, I just suck at it.

So my wife had to travel to her step father's house. He is in very poor health, and she went there to help set up home heath. She was there for a week, and we were in constant contact. Her sister is a drunk and a drug addict. At several points during the visit, we were on video chat when "Shannon" came into the room where my wife and her father were. She was buck rear end naked, raging drunk. In front of her father. I was mortified, and I'm sure he was too.

Now "Shannon" is married, but separated. She has a live in boyfriend. "Tony" is my father-in-law's primary care giver.

For the flight home, "Anne" missed her flight. "Tony" was driving her to the airport. There was an unusual amount of road construction, and they arrived late. She had to take a different flight. Not a big deal. After she was home for a few days, the following text exchange happened between me and Shannon.

Shannon: they hosed.
Me: who, and did you film it? We could make a fortune on pornhub!
Shannon: I saw him leaving her room and smiling. You know she didn't miss her flight! He ain't denying it.
Me: well, if they did, he's the luckiest man alive.

Now guys, I know that I have a better chance of creating a fart powered personal jet than this story has of being true. It's just not in her nature. That said, drat that woman to the depths of Detroit's South side for putting the idea in my head.

So, the question: how do I deal with a crazy drunk 80lb woman from 1000 miles away. I can't block her, because the rest of her family has. If something happens to the father-in-law while Tony is at work, I'm the only one she can contact.

Tldr: drunk SIL claims wife cheated. She didn't. I have to decide how to deal with her.

Sekenr
Dec 12, 2013




Evil Willow posted:

AITA for consolidating my boyfriend's soy sauces into one jar?

Unlike rice, you can't separate this grain by grain into the individual components!

There is no excuse for being stupid

The Diddler
Jun 22, 2006


Sagebrush posted:

A lot of high schools have this special room full of books. Like that's all that's in there, books on shelves everywhere you go, and people can go and look at the books and read them if they're interested. I forgot what it's called. But maybe she can ask her principal if they have one of those

for gently caress's sake

Most libraries are already stocked, in my experience. And most 'open space' in a school is already used to store something else.

AreWeDrunkYet
Jul 8, 2006

Sagebrush posted:

A lot of high schools have this special room full of books. Like that's all that's in there, books on shelves everywhere you go, and people can go and look at the books and read them if they're interested. I forgot what it's called. But maybe she can ask her principal if they have one of those

for gently caress's sake

Mileage may vary in the US

quote:

In the upcoming school year, the Houston Independent School District will eliminate librarian positions at more than two dozen schools and use some of the libraries as centers for students who have been removed from their classrooms for disciplinary reasons.

RC Cola
Aug 1, 2011

Dovie'andi se tovya sagain

Shithouse Dave posted:

Nobody’s ever hosed with my various soy sauces, oils and vinegars, but last year I had a flatmate come home stinking drunk, and they opened the one bottle of wine I had from the summer I did hard labour in a vineyard, the 2016 vintage. I’d returned to my home county after my marriage suddenly imploded, and I’d signed on to welfare, so I was required to take any job offered to me, no matter how unsuitable. I was basically doing squats for 20 kilometres a day trimming and thinning and wire lifting, paid not by the hour but by the vine. The first few weeks nearly fuckin killed me, but by the time I landed a real job I was the fittest and thinnest I’ve ever been, at 35 years old. I earned that bottle with blood, sweat and tears, and it broke my heart to see it on the kitchen counter with one glass poured from it because my drunk rear end flatmate wanted a glass of wine they didn’t need.
Like gramma’s soy sauce, it is irreplaceable. Don’t gently caress with people’s bottles and jars without asking.

Can I get the follow up on this? Did you murder your flatmate?

Festus The Fetus
Mar 8, 2010

Blue Moonlight posted:

This last Thursday, some kids came to my door and rang the doorbell a few times. I figured their ball had gone in my backyard or something, so I answered. They immediately launched into a rendition of “We Wish You A Merry Christmas.” I thanked them, and they ran off, giggling, saying “Merry Halloween.”
Congrats man, you live in a loving awesome neighborhood!

Cloacamazing!
Apr 18, 2018

Too cute to be evil

Crocobile posted:

Sister-in-law told me my wife cheated while on vacation

Well whatever you do, don't talk to your wife. Better ask a forum of random strangers.

QuarkJets
Sep 8, 2008

Crocobile posted:

Sister-in-law told me my wife cheated while on vacation

...I can't block her, because the rest of her family has. If something happens to the father-in-law while Tony is at work, I'm the only one she can contact.

just block her dude, your wife already has. Just block her!

Tell your wife "I am blocking your lovely rear end sister" and let her decide whether there needs to be some kind of contingency plan for her father

DreamingofRoses
Jun 27, 2013
Nap Ghost

Cloacamazing! posted:

Well whatever you do, don't talk to your wife. Better ask a forum of random strangers.

Apparently he did:

”Commenter” posted:

As unreliable sources go, she seems to check all the boxes. I would definitively tell your wife that her sister is trying to sabotage your marriage. Then both decide what’s the best course of action. I understand you completely trust your wife but seeing her reaction to the news could be telling.

”OP” posted:

I read the texts aloud as they came in. She's just as befuddled as i.

big dyke energy
Jul 29, 2006

Football? Yaaaay

RC Cola posted:

Can I get the follow up on this? Did you murder your flatmate?

Also, was the wine good?

Captain Hygiene
Sep 17, 2007

You mess with the crabbo...



AITA for letting the family dog run away - or more specifically, not actively trying to retrieve it after it got out and ran away?

quote:

We have a dog, it's about a year old and it's rambunctious. Constantly jumping about, gnawing on things, doesn't listen when called, etc.

I'm not really into animals to begin with and when my wife got it (for her and the kids), I explained that I'm not going to be involved unless absolutely necessary. For example she and the kids went out of town for about a week I walked it, fed and watered it, before dropping it off at a pet board when I left to rendezvous with the family.

So about an hour ago the dog got out and is running about the neighborhood... I live near some farm land so it might go there if it hasn't already, but long story short, it's 11pm and I really don't care to chase it down and coax it... I mean I gave it a shot, but it wants to run around and it seems like it wants to be chased... yeah, no. So I locked up the house and I'm turning in for the night.

My wife is super pregnant, like ready to pop anytime this week and can't go after it, although she tried a little. She said our kids will be bummed, but I told her they'll get over it - especially if the dog never comes back (for one reason or another).

Ultimately, I don't find the juice worth the squeeze to try especially since I explained from the get-go that this isn't my dog.

Redditor posted:

What actually happened here? This is the kind of verbiage toddlers use to avoid taking responsibility for their part in a problem. Ex., "My TV broke," or "The plate fell off the table."

YTA for not making any good effort to find the dog. When you agree as a parent to adding a pet to the household, there's no "I'm not going to be involved."


OP posted:

We have the dog's pen in the foyer of the house and unbeknownst to me, the gate wasn't closed properly, which let him escape when the front door was opened.


Redditor posted:

Almost there....when the front door "was opened" BY WHOM?


OP posted:

Yeah I opened the front door. The dog's gate should've been secured. I'm not checking the dog when I come in and out the house. I usually ignore it.

A resident-involved door opening is believed to have taken place immediately prior to the animal's departure

QuarkJets
Sep 8, 2008

lmao those are some good comments

Sagebrush
Feb 26, 2012

I hope the dog finds a new owner who gives a poo poo about him.

RC Cola
Aug 1, 2011

Dovie'andi se tovya sagain

Captain Hygiene posted:

AITA for letting the family dog run away - or more specifically, not actively trying to retrieve it after it got out and ran away?









A resident-involved door opening is believed to have taken place immediately prior to the animal's departure

I hope wife and children burn shitbag dad alive

Blue Moonlight
Apr 28, 2005
Bitter and Sarcastic

Festus The Fetus posted:

Congrats man, you live in a loving awesome neighborhood!

Right? :3:

The_Franz
Aug 8, 2003

The Diddler posted:

Most libraries are already stocked, in my experience. And most 'open space' in a school is already used to store something else.

Libraries throw away a lot of books because people treat them as book dumping grounds, and they don't need yet more boxes of random supermarket checkout lane softcore erotica. Odds are, a used bookstore wouldn't pay any money for some random, old, high school textbooks either, especially if they are long out of date.

RC Cola
Aug 1, 2011

Dovie'andi se tovya sagain
Reading through the letting to dog out on purpose fucko's post history he's also an Elon Musk stan and also an anti vaxxer so real upstanding person

Arsenic Lupin
Apr 12, 2012

This particularly rapid💨 unintelligible 😖patter💁 isn't generally heard🧏‍♂️, and if it is🤔, it doesn't matter💁.


The_Franz posted:

Libraries throw away a lot of books because people treat them as book dumping grounds, and they don't need yet more boxes of random supermarket checkout lane softcore erotica. Odds are, a used bookstore wouldn't pay any money for some random, old, high school textbooks either, especially if they are long out of date.
Furthermore, if you're a teacher or scholar, the odds are good that you've written in a book. That makes it worthless, unless they're famous enough that the annotations would make the book more valuable.

QuarkJets
Sep 8, 2008

The Diddler posted:

Most libraries are already stocked, in my experience. And most 'open space' in a school is already used to store something else.

My library won't accept donations of textbooks older than 5 years old, I'm certain that this school library won't want a bunch of ancient textbooks that aren't even used at that school

Also if there are annotations it goes straight in the trash

Ghost Leviathan
Mar 2, 2017

Exploration is ill-advised.
Feel like nearly any response is just asking for trouble there, so might as well box 'em up and drop em off as the supposedly retired teacher's last known residence.

The_Franz
Aug 8, 2003

Ghost Leviathan posted:

Feel like nearly any response is just asking for trouble there, so might as well box 'em up and drop em off as the supposedly retired teacher's last known residence.

Probably a good idea to check they actually still live there before you dump boxes of garbage in front of some random person's door.

oh jay
Oct 15, 2012

The_Franz posted:

Probably a good idea to check they actually still live there before you dump boxes of garbage in front of some random person's door.

What if the new resident has bad vibes?

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Crocobile
Dec 2, 2006

A tipping post that won’t start a tipping derail?

AITA for firing our family therapist after she asked for tips?

quote:

My ex and I have a 12yo boy who's going through some things. We found a therapist and we've been seeing her for a couple of years. It hasn't been life changing for me in anyway. In fact, it became more of a pointless chore like making your bed or folding your underwear. I might had gotten a few things out of it but would not do it again.

A few weeks ago, I had told our therapist that it's bizarre to not have to worry about money for the first time in my life. I make good money and don't have many bills. I'm saving like $1,000 a month.

Last week the therapist asked me if I could start making a copayment. I don't have a copayment because my insurance covers 100% of therapy sessions. I explained that to her. She said that was true but maybe I could start paying like $20 cash because she's not making a lot with what my insurance pays her. Like a tip.

I was at a loss for words. I said "and I suppose this has no relation to my telling you that I had disposable income from a few weeks ago?" She said of course not. It was like she was asking for a raise lol. I said I'd think about it.

I found nothing about "tipping" your therapist. I talked to my ex and said I was firing the therapist. She told me not to throw away 2 years of work and I said this therapist tried taking advantage of me. She offered to pay and I said I'm not stopping you but I'm not doing the sessions anymore and neither is are son. The trust I had in our therapist is forever broken.

I left a voicemail and text message explaining we weren't in need of services anymore. I haven't heard back. Guess what? Our lives didn't fall apart and the therapist replied that I totally misunderstood this whole tip thing.

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