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MagpieConcept: Feb 6, 2022

Captain Hygiene posted:

AITA for letting the family dog run away - or more specifically, not actively trying to retrieve it after it got out and ran away?

I had an ex who saw our dog who ran away on the street months later and I was like "oh!! so did you get him?" "No, I was just letting you know."

Never dumped someone so quick in my life.

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MagpieConcept posted:

I had an ex who saw our dog who ran away on the street months later and I was like "oh!! so did you get him?" "No, I was just letting you know."

Never dumped someone so quick in my life.

Did you ever learn why they didn't get your dog? Did your partner just hate dogs? That's some sociopathic poo poo.

# ? Oct 8, 2023 18:47

Blue Moonlight: Apr 28, 2005; Bitter and Sarcastic

The OP needs to get in writing from the department head, principal, whatever, that they consider it abandoned property and give the OP permission to deal with it as they see fit. That way, when the teacher shows up demanding her vintage 1993 textbooks and personal copy of �Hardy Boys Casefiles 2: Evil Inc.� the OP�s bases are covered.

# ? Oct 8, 2023 18:49

Cowslips Warren: Oct 29, 2005; What use had they for tricks and cunning, living in the enemy's warren and paying his price?; Grimey Drawer

AITA for refusing to plan my wife's birthday dinner around her family?

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My wife (26F) is the baby of her family and her birthday has become a bit of a sore topic for her. Ever since she was little she was asked to accommodate for her family when it came to birthday meals. Her brother in-law (married to her oldest sister who has been around since she was 2) has Crohn's Disease and of course they have dietary restrictions due to this. But my wife is the only person in her family who has to sacrifice for this.

My FIL only likes steak and potatoes. He is very strict with that and despises "weird rear end exotic food with weird sauces" and my wife is expected to accommodate him as well.

My MIL is huge into salads but like her husband doesn't like "exotic veg" aka Asian veggies. My wife is expected to accommodate for her as well.

Neither of the parents like spicy food or "foreign foods".

My SIL (not the one married to the BIL with Crohn's) doesn't like "heavy food" and no, I don't really know all the details on that. But again, my wife must accommodate.

This poo poo started back when she was 5 and back then her favorite meal was this chicken casserole dish her grandmother used to make. My wife remembers her parents asking if they could have steak and salads with soup for her birthday dinner instead of the casserole because everyone else would struggle to eat. She was upset and they saw that and she remembers a little pressure being added and she agreed and almost identical conversations happened every year after that.

When she got older they were all doing dinners in a restaurant for birthdays and my wife could never have either of her favorite places. She had two choices total and those two were the ones that could accommodate everyone else's food requests and she never got to have a meal she loved on her birthday.

I have known my wife for 9 years now and I have witnessed it year after year and she's lost a lot of joy or interest in her birthday. So this year I decided that I was going to take over planning her birthday celebration and I chose her favorite restaurant. Our friends and my family have all said they will come. But my ILs have complained about the restaurant of choice. I told them the venue had been booked and we will understand if they can't come.

I got replies back saying they want to come but can't and I said that was unfortunate. They told me my wife always makes accommodations for them. I confirmed that it was true and I pointed out they never return the favor. I asked why they should enjoy her birthday meal more than her. They said it's not like that and I said yes it is. I said they take advantage of her love for them and the fact she doesn't want to upset or leave anyone out. I told them they should be doing the same for her on HER birthday. I told them I would not plan her birthday dinners around them anymore and they will not change my mind.

They're pissed at me and are saying I will be the reason they won't be able to come.

AITA?

AITAH in leaving my wife after kids turn 18 because I was not sexually satisfied, even though she says she will change

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Me(44m) and my wife(43f) are married for over 2 decades. But I was not sexually satisfied for majority of marriage. I stayed because of kids. My youngest is about to go to college in about a year and I planned to divorce my wife soon after that. I thought of just telling her afterwards but I felt it was lovely to spring it on her like that so I told her that we are getting divorced as soon as youngest leaves home. In this way I thought she will have time to prepare herself mentally.

When I told her, she could not believe it. I think she could not process it so suddenly. Then when it actually hit her, she started crying, arguing and stuff. Not gonna lie, it took me by surprise too. Did she not see it coming. Turns out she did not. She started blaming me that I did not tell her that I would just leave otherwise she would have made more effort. She thought I was okay with amount of sex she was giving me.

I could not even get myself to argue at this point. I told her over and over again for like past decade that I am not sexually satisfied. She would just get defensive or ignore me. I am also not being opaque about my divorce plans. I have started getting into dating shape, hitting the gym and stuff. I told her that I am not arguing it with her anymore. I told her she did not listen, my responsibility is over.

Then she started talking about how she was busy raising my children. Which she was and I was too, she sacrificed her marriage for kids, I sacrificed my happiness. I chose it I do not regret staying because of kids. But now I want to live for myself.

She keeps telling me that I should have told her I would leave her, that I was not happy. I did give her ultimatums in fights. But even I knew I will not leave kids so I never really gave her a serious ultimatum. I knew I would not follow through. I guess she knew too.

Now she is doing trying to have sex but I am not really interested. I am neither in love with her, nor I am attracted to her. She has "let herself go". She said she will start taking care of her weight and she will become beautiful to me that she will have all the sex I want.

I am happy for her that she is taking care of herself. BUT I am not interested in her anymore.

She is begging me to give her a chance, that she will make it right. But I dont really wanna stay with her. I think I dont want her anymore. I dont love her.

Edit: Many People are asking about chores and stuff and whether she is SAHM. She is not a SAHM, we both handled chores and childcare almost equally.

I can't wait for the update in 6-10 months where homeboy finds the Hot Singles really are NOT waiting to meet him.

Cowslips Warren fucked around with this message at 19:05 on Oct 8, 2023

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