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My son opted to not have one so this will be my only opportunity.

quantumwell posted:

I refuse to believe a cat is shooting its wad with the volume and velocity and aim to get semen on her face. Unless the cat is Peter North.

Cowslips Warren posted:

AITA For Not Paying for My Friend’s Broken Glass Door?

Flared Basic Bitch posted:

I just want to know what a mamal is.

Mx. posted:

AITA for telling the mailbox store attendant to go home?

Agents are GO! posted:

Why would the direction of the Peter change the velocity?

Vim Fuego posted:

my son opted to not have one



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Malachite_Dragon posted:

Nah, they can gently caress off with the obnoxious sig or turn it off. Heaven forbid someone be told to not inconvenience others.

Issaries posted:

Sounds like that there should be a forums-setting that only shows signatures in certain sub-forums, not user settings.

Elviscat posted:

Why do you have sigs turned on? Like serious question.

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I(32F) have been with my longterm BF(35M) for 7 years now.

I am not religious, nor am I someone who thinks marriage is necessary in a longterm relationship, but I admit that the bureaucratic benifits are great. My BF on the other hand, is someone who believes in the institution of marriage.

When we started getting serious about 9 months into our relationship, we discussed marriage, and I made it clear that I have some conditions before I would marry him, chief among them, was that he should get rid of his debt, and improve his finances (not income, but how he manages them).

Now 6 years later, after a lot of effort from him, and help from me, he is consumer free debt, and almost done with his student loans (as in they would have been paid by February next year), and we seriously discussed getting married soon after. I made it clear that I wanted to not spend a lot on the whole affair.

Well he proposed Saturday, and it was a beautiful affair, and of course I said yes. Then we get home and I ask about my ring. He proudly informs me that ot cost $14k. At first I thought he took from our savings to buy it, and I was pissed, but I became even more pissed when he said that he got it on payments.

I gave it back, and said that I no longer accept his proposal, that I was infact rethinking our whole relationship, if he was going to go ahead and throw all our sacrifices down the drain for a rock. He got angry with me, said that he only wanted me to feel special, and I reminded him that for me, us being financially stable is much more inportant than a piece of jewellery.

Anyway, I am posting here to see if taking back my acceptance was really an AH move, or if it is justified.

Pope Corky the IX posted:

He's a loving idiot that will never learn. If her conditions for marriage were that he get rid of his debt and pay down his student loans then it would follow that she wouldn't be a fan of the idea to eventually pay $20,000 on a $14k ring.

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My wife [31F] an I [33M] have a 3-year-old boy. He currently goes to daycare during the day. I generally drop him off, and then my wife's mother will pick him up. My wife cannot drive so she unfortunately cannot take him.

I have found that if I get my son out the door by 8:45, I can get him to daycare and then be on time for work. Unfortunately, my wife tends to drag her feet with getting him fed and ready, so she has caused me to be late multiple times. I am in a field where I simply cannot be late, and therefore this situation is unacceptable. I have been late four times since he started going to daycare, and my wife has only gotten less consistent.

Last Wednesday, I realized that if I waited for my wife to get him fully ready, I’d be late to work. I simply walked out the door. She called me screaming angrily, but I told her that if she didn’t want him to stay home, she should have had him ready on time.

The next day she managed to get him out right at 8:45, but on Friday it became clear again that she was going to cause me to be late. I just walked out the door. She texted me multiple times, and when I got home at around 11pm, she had a lot to say about it.

I don’t think I’m the rear end in a top hat for my policy seeing as I simply cannot afford to be late to work, but I wonder if there’s something I’m not seeing here.

Theophany posted:

Two posts at the top of r/relationships this morning. First person is at a crossroads...

Paralyzed by indecision, should I call off a wedding?

The second is the ghost of future bad decisions...

My (46f) husband (45m) tells me that sex should not be tied to how he treats me.

Breetai posted:

How about you take these horrible, unentertaining and relentlessly depressing stories of abuse and stick them right up your clacker.

How many fuckin' times do people need to be told that this isn't a race to find pure awfulness. Fucks sake.

Theophany posted:

Two posts at the top of r/relationships this morning. First person is at a crossroads...

Paralyzed by indecision, should I call off a wedding?

The second is the ghost of future bad decisions...

My (46f) husband (45m) tells me that sex should not be tied to how he treats me.

Issaries posted:

AITA for making an “if he’s not ready on time, he stays home” policy against my wife’s wishes?


OP confirms following in the thread:

He works two jobs from nine to 11pm, she is a SAHM.

Breetai posted:

How about you take these horrible, unentertaining and relentlessly depressing stories of abuse and stick them right up your clacker.

How many fuckin' times do people need to be told that this isn't a race to find pure awfulness. Fucks sake.

Vim Fuego posted:

The parents should be glad they dodged the bullet. those grandkids would get put down in 12 years anyway

big mean giraffe posted:

You're welcome to not read them or the thread at all!

Pope Corky the IX posted:

Assuming you're not just making a joke, abuse stories aren't allowed in this thread and haven't been long before I showed up.

big mean giraffe posted:

Weird, like 99% of the stories posted in this thread involve some sort of familial or spousal abuse be it physical or emotional

big mean giraffe posted:

You're welcome to not read them or the thread at all!

Pope Corky the IX posted:

quote:

AITA for refusing to wear an outfit?

I (21M) am a model. I am not modelling at fashion weeks or anything like that, im still at the beginning of my career. I have modeled a lot, i take every opportunity i can to get experience.

So, I auditioned for this fashion show and got in. At the first fitting, the people organizing the event called me over, they were trying to find an outfit for me. They asked one of the designers if he had anything for me. He said he only has 4 outfits in this show and only one doesnt have a model yet, so he didnt have alot of options for me. We tried it on, and it fit, but i hated it.

The outfit was a mini dress and cropped jacket. The designer didnt care if a man or a woman wore it. Before i tried it on the designer told me its a quite feminine outfit, and asked if that was ok. I said its fine because i have worn womenswear and gender neutral fashion many times before. So i tried it on. It was cool, but i felt uncomfortable.

I voiced my concerns to the designer, he apologized since that was all he could offer me as an outfit. I said that i have worn femine clothing but that i am in a masculine era of my life right now. He said he doesnt want me to feel uncomfortable and that i should ask the organizers of the event if I could change, as he wasnt 100% incharge of who wears his clothes. These organizers had the final say. I changed my mind and said i actually think its cool and i need to step out of my comfort zone and be ready to wear anything as a model.

Fast forward one week later, its show night. We had a final rehersal the night before, but i didnt go. Some outfits were fixed and retried on, models switched around to be able to walk for multiple brands, etc.

A few hours before the show, i saw the designers,the outfits, the other models, and realized i didnt want to wear that outfit. I went over to the organizer and told her. She went to try to find another model with a similar size to me. I didnt not say anything directly to the designer. Then i went into the makeup chair. Im still walking in this show just for 1 brand instead of 2. Both of these brands were right next to eachother, so it was awkward putting on my outfit right next to that designer that i dropped, to awkward to say anything to him.

The designer didnt say anything about this to me, i dont know how he feels. but a few other models said i am an rear end in a top hat for not switching until 2-3 hours before the runway starts. I didnt know what happened with the outfit i dropped. Later i found out they found a replacement and that outfit made it on the runway.

Am i the rear end in a top hat?

I believe i may be the rear end in a top hat because i waited until last minute to not wear the outfit.

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My dad got married a little over a month ago. I (16m) met his wife and her daughter just under 2 months ago. They had a long distance relationship before that. Dad's stepdaughter is 4. The incident in question happened a week ago. My dad's wife's daughter wasn't home. I think she was with a friend of my dad's or something. But they did that so they could talk to me. Dad's wife told me that she and my dad needed me to know that her daughter would need me more than ever. She told me that while she was married to her ex husband she had an affair and that her daughter was born as a result of the affair and that her older kids all made it clear they were disgusted by her and found her repulsive as an affair baby and she said they made it clear they would never consider her a sibling or treat her the same as they treat each other because she's tainted by the way she was born and all this stuff. She told me that meeting my dad was the best thing ever and she was so grateful they had the chance to move so her daughter wouldn't grow up feeling hated every day and so she had the chance at a family who would love her and treat her the way she deserved to be treated.

I didn't really get why she was telling me at that moment and I felt like it was a weird thing to bring up to me. So I asked why this stuff was my problem when they were still practically strangers to me. They got mad and told me that was a horrific way to react to being told "my new sister" was treated terribly before and hated for something she could not control. They told me it should be obvious why I was being told, because they wanted me to make an effort to be her older brother and not just a stepbrother she lived with for two years and then turned his back on her once he was out of the house. They said I could be a great addition to her life and I should be honored that I get the chance to have a sibling because losing my mom so young and dad not finding anyone else special until years later meant I could have remained an only child forever. My reaction was not what they liked and then they told me my attitude was a problem and my reaction to being given relevant information as well as my lack of enthusiasm to be there for dad's new stepdaughter was painting me in a negative light.

Dad's wife told me I was lucky they had the foresight not to say this with her daughter in the house because it would be crushing for a little girl to pick up on my lack of affection for her. I asked where the affection was meant to come from after so little time and being thrown together as strangers.

The last week they have made comments about my attitude and my dad told me I was out of order being so rude and dismissive with my "why's this my problem".

AITA?

big mean giraffe posted:

That uh doesn't work the way you think it does bud