The_Franz posted:

None of the sports teams at my old high school were very good, so nobody really cared about them. The only real divide was basically between the college-bound kids and the druggies and flunkies who disappeared midway though high school either to drop out and all day, or went to the tech school to learn how to change oil.

My graduating class had about 300 people in it, and I probably never interacted with well over half of them.

Shanghaied posted:

Holy poo poo, that was her??!

Yeah no, all radio hosts who do prank calls deserve to be shot. Boring motherfuckers griefing working people who make a fraction of what they do.

Halloween Jack posted:

AITA for using a gift card that my roommate’s students got for her?

RON HOWARD: But there was not more to the story.

Pantaloon Pontiff posted:

IMO, the litmus test for whether something is a prank or just a dude being a dick is whether the person being pranked laughs at it afterwards. Clearly if someone dies or commits suicide that's deep in 'griefing' territory, but it doesn't need to be anywhere near that severe to not be an actual valid prank.

coronatae posted:

The Jubal show lets you call in to set up a highly personalized prank on someone and they sound so mean. Like one of them was a husband getting them to call his musician wife pretending that they'd damaged one of her instruments I think. Why would you want to do that to someone? I always switch stations when those segments come on

Mordiceius posted:

christ - the op just keeps digging with their comments "my family is wealthy but i was put on a strict financial plan because my parents say i overspent, no i have no control over my finances. its my parents fault for not teaching me proper skills. i was justified in taking it because it was sitting there"

https://old.reddit.com/user/Karmixloop/comments/

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Those coins were a gift from my grandpa, they have huge sentimental value.

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They aren’t money, the are called bolos or something like that. It’s the weight that’s important.

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No I don’t have the money to do that, my parents made me go to a financial counselor and I’m a strict plan to pay down my credit card debt. If I miss one payment on his plan my parents will cut off my tuition and rent.

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I had to lie to them that I sold them already, trust me I can’t sell them now or they’d be furious with me and they have a lot of sentimental value to me.

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I had to sell all of my handbags, couture clothes, my car, etc… to get them to agree to get me out of my mess. They would be furious if they found out I kept stuff and that there are only 8 left (my ex stole the other 42 or so).

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He showed up to my door screaming and freaking out that he was going to do something crazy. I said let’s go eat, chill out and talk it over and I grabbed the card and we left I also wanted to get him out quick because I didn’t want him to see my coins or my roommates boyfriend’s new PlayStation.

Shanghaied posted:

I mean I guess, that makes the OP slightly less of an rear end in a top hat??? She had to get her ex out of the house fast or he was gonna rob the place. She had to use the gift card as a distraction to save the PlayStation!

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Those were a gift from my grandpa and they are super special to him because he bought them from the Pawn Stars place in Las Vegas.

Chef Boyardeez Nuts posted:

That lady is some kind of trash elemental. Why can't she sell her family heirloom silver coins?

Chef Boyardeez Nuts posted:

That lady is some kind of trash elemental. Why can't she sell her family heirloom silver coins?

ApplesandOranges posted:

I want to know more about this ex and why he only stole 42 out of 50 silver coins.

Batterypowered7 posted:

I loving hate that segment but my wife loves it.

Kitfox88 posted:

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Yesterday, my wife didn't get a job she really wanted. She has a job at the moment, but wants to leave and this was a great job for her that didn't work out.

She loves tiramisu so I wanted to get it for her to make her feel better. Looked at a few places and one of them was highly rated but it was like $30 for it. I found another place where it was $15 and it was great, she loved it.

Later last night I said "oh I was actually going to order from that other place, but it was like $30 which is so expensive!" She didn't say anything to that but this morning called me an AH and said that statement ruined it for her. She said it made her feel small like she's not even worth $30 to me. I tried explaining that's not what I meant but it was more of a "can you believe how expensive some places have got?"

Was I the rear end in a top hat?

Mordiceius posted:

AITA for telling my wife the tiramisu was too expensive?

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I(43m) discovered my wife's(44f) infidelity 8 years ago. My two kids were in primary school at that time so I gave her another chance. It was somewhat genuine as I was open to exploring if marriage can be saved and if it cant be, my kids would be older and can take the brunt of divorce better. I also refused to budge on 3rd kid that she wanted. I was not gonna bring another kid in this marriage.

To her credit she has been an ideal wife since then, worked on herself but I never really forgave her. I just learned to be okay with status quo. Until now.

I had a NSTEMI about a year ago. That changed my perspective. I got my cholesterol and blood pressure level down, start taking my fitness seriously and I am now in best shape of my life. That triggered self improvement in other areas of my life. My style, my profession etc.

With that came a nagging feeling, I can get a better partner than my wife. I want to go into retirement with a woman who never betrayed me.

So I am leaving my wife, I was honest with her about the reason. I think I can do better than her that's why I am leaving her. I told her she is still pretty which is somewhat true, but what I need is a person who never cheated on me and she cant be that person. Since our kids are older now her utility for me is decreasing with every passing day. There is no point delaying the inevitable.

She is not happy is an understatement. She is accusing me of using her. She is also distressed about not having a 3rd kid. Thinks that I robbed her of a 3rd kid. Which I find most outrageous. She was willing to bring another kid in a broken marriage that she broke. And even if I left her 8 years ago, was she going jump on any dick to get a baby. Has she no consideration of other 2 kids?

I am basically ignoring her attempts to goad me into arguments and marching forwards with divorce. I am in best position to divorce now, kids are older, I can date easily.

AITA?

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He could easily go “I have it my best but after a near death experience I realize I can’t spend the rest of my life with a woman who cheated. I’m in good shape and my confidence is back and my kids are old enough now I can leave and not be worry.” That’s how I think most would have posted it even if they feel similar to him.

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"her utility to me is decreasing every day" he literally doesn't see her as a person, just as an object there for his use. That phrase was disgusting.

rotinaj posted:

Not because of not spending 30 or whatever, not because of comparison shopping, but when buying someone a gift, if you brag about how much money you saved on it, they will feel bad

ApplesandOranges posted:

I want to know more about this ex and why he only stole 42 out of 50 silver coins.

rotinaj posted:

Not because of not spending 30 or whatever, not because of comparison shopping, but when buying someone a gift, if you brag about how much money you saved on it, they will feel bad

trickybiscuits posted:

AITAH for divorcing my cheating wife now that its in my best interest to do so?


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Lots of discussion on this one

rotinaj posted:

Probably YTA but impossible to know without having heard the way the OP said it

Not because of not spending 30 or whatever, not because of comparison shopping, but when buying someone a gift, if you brag about how much money you saved on it, they will feel bad

Pantaloon Pontiff posted:

I've had partners and friends who feel better about a gift if it cost less or you got it semi-free (like with credit card reward points), generally they've had bad experiences with someone holding an expensive gift over their head in some way and knowing 'nah, these points are going to expire anyway' helps them not worry about that. But I think even those people wouldn't appreciate 'I picked the cheaper place because the more expensive one was too much to spend on your special dinner', that just gives an 'I don't care' vibe.

reignonyourparade posted:

Fact of the matter is when you're staying with someone for the kids, they basically are just a business partner in "Raising Our Kids, Incorporated", that kinda impersonal thinking is pretty drat common in that scenario, if he had described literally the same thought process in any other words, I don't think he would've gotten the same reaction.

That being said, oh my god, why would that be how you chose to word that?

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So I took my daughter out of her private school after finding out she and her friends were bullying another student who was not as fortunate, I also took her car away and put a strict curfew of 8:30 on days she works and 5 on days she does not work. My ex is furious, she feels this is overkill. I have primary custody.

Part of me is even thinking of giving the student she and her friends bullied her car, but logistically that would be harder to navigate

I explained to my daughter that I did not go above and beyond to provide every opportunity for her to succeed in life to find out she and her friend's lord said opportunities and luxuries over others. She will be going to a year-round school district, her private school follows the traditional schedule. Her new school will have fewer extracurricular activities.

My ex feels it is unfair to her future, but idc. She is acting like her mother where she mistakes another's fortune for her own. She is threatening to take me back to court because she feels this punishment is unfair and we should not use her education as a form of punishment.

I told her to take me to court, but I don't think a court can force me to put my kid in private school.

I was speaking with my dad, and he told me I should rethink this. He used to be a teacher and he told me schools have become far more competitive to get into, the lack of varied extracurricular activities and loss of prestige from her private school could harm her chances at getting into top schools. Since GPA and AP credit is not enough.

This got me thinking, but idk I do not think I should allow her to continue on the same path after she mocked another student who had less.

My father told me this could form a rift between us, (us being my daughter and I) and I could see that. My daughter said she rather be with her mom. I have told her many times I am not stopping her from being with her mom, her mom is what is stopping it. She did not want to have 50/50 custody. I did not want to fight, so I agreed to take primary and cover everything.

I left my wife because I did not notice how nasty of a person she was at the core, and my daughter has shown she has the same tendencies.

So aita?

Update: Tomorrow I will sit down and ask why she did what she did because people are right I should have noticed. Her friends always seemed nice, never got complaints from any parents in her friends or social groups. Teachers never complained.

I bought into my perfect little girl mindset. I will ask her, and I will see what is what. That being said my daughter knows how I feel about this stuff, her mom and I divorced because her mom did not like how I ran my practice and felt I was using family funds to cover the treatment costs for those who could not afford it because our insurance system regarding eye health is dumb.

She did not like that I chose to work longer hours and more days to cover my costs while also providing free to no-cost care for those in need instead of suggesting the hold-off treatment if they don't qualify for a loan.

I will sleep on it and ask her tomorrow. Thanks for the feedback and advice. I will say this I refuse to force her to apologize, cause it would be worthless. All it will do is foster the mindset that if I apologize when I gently caress up everything will work itself out.

I will not force her to volunteer or do charity work cause all that will foster is if she does something that appears to show she has changed or has learned something new all will work out.

Charity and volunteer work are not punishments, they should not be used to show people how others live. They should be activities people do because they want to not because they get rewarded for it, or to correct some wrong.

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So she'll have to work as hard as the other less fortunate kid she bullied does, since it sounds like their parents couldn't afford expensive extra curriculars. Sounds like a fitting punishment to me.

trickybiscuits posted:

AITAH for divorcing my cheating wife now that its in my best interest to do so?


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Lots of discussion on this one

idiotsavant posted:

I mean she cheated so she's the rear end in a top hat but also dude sounds like a fuckin psychopath the way he said it all

Ensign Expendable posted:

It's much more satisfying to identify, scope out, and carefully catalogue future projects than it is to actually do any of these projects. I assume that when you buy a house it's exactly the same, just on a larger scale.

The Maroon Hawk posted:

I do like how the Suddenly Hot dude never makes any mention of actually receiving increased female attention

Pantaloon Pontiff posted:

I've had partners and friends who feel better about a gift if it cost less or you got it semi-free (like with credit card reward points), generally they've had bad experiences with someone holding an expensive gift over their head in some way and knowing 'nah, these points are going to expire anyway' helps them not worry about that. But I think even those people wouldn't appreciate 'I picked the cheaper place because the more expensive one was too much to spend on your special dinner', that just gives an 'I don't care' vibe.

Grey Cat posted:

I have no mic, no cameras, also I'm 15. Money please!

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Throwaway for reasons that will become obvious if they weren't from the subject line.

I and my husband are in our late 20s. Recently, my husband and I were over at my grandparents' house to celebrate their 70th wedding anniversary (we've been lucky that they're with us, still in their 90s), and my dad made a toast to them and thanked them for founding a great family and for their attention to their many children (5), grandchildren (18), and great-grandchildren (4 currently, with one one the way from my cousin).

My husband leaned over and whispered something along the lines of, "I bet they'll be happiest when they see our kids, because our kids will be so pretty." I didn't memorize what he said, but it was basically that gist.

I asked him why he was so sure that our kids would be especially pretty compared to my siblings' and cousins' kids (the kids who already exist are plenty cute), and he said that he was sure because he's more attractive than my female relatives' partners and because his siblings' kids are cuter than my relatives' kids.

I love my husband, and I think he's very attractive, obviously, but I don't think he's objectively more attractive than my siblings' and cousins' partners. I also love my niblings-in-law, but I don't think they're objectively more attractive than my siblings' and cousins' kids. I don't normally think about the kids that way at all, and when I was put in the position of doing so today to consider how much of an AH my husband was being, it felt weird to me. They're kids -- they're beautiful because they exist, and then sometimes they act up, and are tiny AHs for a bit, but still beautiful because life is.

Anyway, his family and my family are the same ethnicity and race (Caucasian European), but we have very different coloring. His family is very light-skinned, with red or blonde hair and blue or green eyes (Scandinavian), and my family is darker skinned (Mediterranean) with brown hair and brown eyes. He thinks his family's looks are objectively superior to my family's looks. I had never encountered this opinion from him before, but now it feels very distasteful to me, like it's colorism or racism or, at worst, neo-N*zism (I don't think it's actually that, but it's still a concerning perspective that could be construed as such).

I asked him why he cares what the kids look like, as long as they're healthy and happy, and he said that it matters to the outside world. I asked him if he would think the kids were less attractive than his niblings if they looked like my side, and he was quiet and said we'd "handle that if it happened." I guess with hair dye?!

I told him I didn't appreciate the implication that I was less attractive than his entire family, and he insisted that that wasn't it but that he wants his kids to look more than like him than like me. I told him he should be with someone who looks more like him than I do, if that's the case, and he said I was being unreasonable. AITA?

ApplesandOranges posted:

AITA for telling my husband to have kids with someone who looks like him?

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Anyway, his family and my family are the same ethnicity and race (Caucasian European), but we have very different coloring. His family is very light-skinned, with red or blonde hair and blue or green eyes (Scandinavian), and my family is darker skinned (Mediterranean)

ApplesandOranges posted:

AITA for telling my husband to have kids with someone who looks like him?