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Desert Bus: May 9, 2004; Take 1 tablet by mouth daily.

I once dated a lady and her nephew was not allowed to lose. I didn't know that and was just playing the game and he freaked the gently caress out when the RNG hit and I took him out. How was I supposed to know that I should cheat and rig the game to spare the feelings of a child?

I got this whole talk about how I should always let him win after. I just stopped playing cause lol no that was a bit much.

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Halloween Jack: Sep 12, 2003; I WILL CUT OFF BOTH OF MY ARMS BEFORE I VOTE FOR ANYONE THAT IS MORE POPULAR THAN BERNIE!!!!!

I don't get these cases where the person who gets cheated on moves out of the bedroom or the house entirely.

# ? Mar 25, 2024 20:18

mystes: May 31, 2006

Halloween Jack posted:

I don't get these cases where the person who gets cheated on moves out of the bedroom or the house entirely.

Huh? You mean because you think they should get to keep the house and the other person should move out or because you think immediately moving out is too drastic?

# ? Mar 25, 2024 20:19

StrangersInTheNight: Dec 31, 2007; ABSOLUTE FUCKING GUDGEON

Yeah I think that's one of those, kids who grew up getting immediate responses and seeing their friends constantly location sharing, they get weirded out if it's not happening. Does that sound a hellscape where if they're not constantly available for each other, things go totally off the rails? 100%, I weep for the youth of today and the need to be always 'on' that digital culture presents to them, but I also have to accept that my standards for responses to messaging are considered 'old-fashioned'

# ? Mar 25, 2024 20:23

Larry Cum Free: Jun 3, 2022; move it or lose it dillweed

FMguru posted:

AITAH, For immediately dumping my gf because she lied

Having dealt with getting cheated on in HS, I made it very clear to her that I tolerate no level of cheating and any which case would immediately end our relationship.

It's funny how many reddit posts start like this. Does Relationship Court not accept a breakup on grounds of cheating if the breaker-upper didn't declare a "no cheating" rule at the outset?

# ? Mar 25, 2024 20:26

Clark Nova: Jul 18, 2004

idiotsavant posted:

I mean apparently he was right and all but why are you in a relationship with someone if your first reaction to things is to spend like a day and a half stalking them & going down a rabbit hole of relationship paranoia? Dude needs some fuckin therapy asap or needs to stop dating lovely people

Yeah, he needs some therapy. He sucks, she sucks, affair partner trying to bamboozle him about it ( :wtc:

) sucks, friends insisting he didn't collect enough evidence to convene a grand jury suck. Everybody sucks.

# ? Mar 25, 2024 20:29

zynga dot com: Nov 11, 2001; wtf jill im not a bear!!!

A dossier and a state of melted brains: The Jess campaign has it all.

Larry Cum Free posted:

I had a contested hearing to vary a parenting order on one day by like 4 hours so a 5 year old kid could stay longer at a birthday party, and not have to be picked up by dad after being dropped off by mom. I had the most bemused judge ever listening to opposing counsel list off the details of this extremely elaborate party for a kindergartener's birthday. My client got kicked out of the courtroom because he couldn't stop having demonstrative, exasperated reactions and muttering poo poo under his breath. I walked out of the courtroom and he was still pacing the vestibule, red faced. I greeted him with "we won, dumbass". Probably cost the parents $3000 between them and literally nothing was accomplished.

e: and these were people who had already finalized their divorce! Have kids? You can keep that legal battle going until all the kids are no longer eligible for support!

with all the joy being no longer practicing can bring: lmao

# ? Mar 25, 2024 20:44

mystes: May 31, 2006

Larry Cum Free posted:

I had a contested hearing to vary a parenting order on one day by like 4 hours so a 5 year old kid could stay longer at a birthday party, and not have to be picked up by dad after being dropped off by mom. I had the most bemused judge ever listening to opposing counsel list off the details of this extremely elaborate party for a kindergartener's birthday. My client got kicked out of the courtroom because he couldn't stop having demonstrative, exasperated reactions and muttering poo poo under his breath. I walked out of the courtroom and he was still pacing the vestibule, red faced. I greeted him with "we won, dumbass". Probably cost the parents $3000 between them and literally nothing was accomplished.

e: and these were people who had already finalized their divorce! Have kids? You can keep that legal battle going until all the kids are no longer eligible for support!

By the time the kindergartener is 18 they'll presumably have wasted the equivalent of 4 years of college on pointless fighting

# ? Mar 25, 2024 20:46

hawowanlawow: Jul 27, 2009

sorry for trying to bone your girlfriend bro, let's have a man-to-man about it

# ? Mar 25, 2024 20:46

rotinaj: Sep 5, 2008; Fun Shoe

Propaniac posted:

Carolyn Hax: Dad encourages their young son�s sore-winner behavior

I'm curious whether anyone knows what this lovely card game is that the OP is talking about.

OP just has a really lovely magic the gathering deck and is salty that she keeps losing, her five-color setup is totally gonna work any day now

# ? Mar 25, 2024 20:46

Spaced God: Feb 8, 2014; All torment, trouble, wonder and amazement
Inhabits here: some heavenly power guide us
Out of this fearful country!

Larry Cum Free posted:

It's funny how many reddit posts start like this. Does Relationship Court not accept a breakup on grounds of cheating if the breaker-upper didn't declare a "no cheating" rule at the outset?

I mean communicating boundaries are v important bc cheating has different definitions to people so defining what you consider cheating (lying, misleading) and comparing to what your partner considered cheating (actively being caught loving her friend) is definitely a good idea

For a healthy relationship with people who aren't assholes ofc

# ? Mar 25, 2024 20:51

Biplane: Jul 18, 2005

Larry Cum Free posted:

It's funny how many reddit posts start like this. Does Relationship Court not accept a breakup on grounds of cheating if the breaker-upper didn't declare a "no cheating" rule at the outset?

Well in this case, Relationship Court clearly ruled against him (he can't prove his girlfriend hosed that guy in the sleazy motel while smoking weed, and thus technically no cheating has occurred); it's only a matter of time before relationship police track him down and force him back into the relationship. :hai:

# ? Mar 25, 2024 20:53

Larry Cum Free: Jun 3, 2022; move it or lose it dillweed

Ugh, it's so awkward having to re-consummate the relationship with the relationship cops standing there watching to make sure it gets done.

# ? Mar 25, 2024 20:57

Pantaloon Pontiff: Jun 25, 2023

Fork of Unknown Origins posted:

Yeah dude is lucky he was right because it could�ve just as easily been her posting �I stayed home to take care of my mom and my crazy now-ex drove all over town looking for me.�

What would be her motivation to lie if she stayed home to take care of her mom? That is, if she was just taking care of her mom and happened to decide to turn off location tracking that day, why wouldn't she just say at some point that she's taking care of her mom when he asked, even if she didn't think to start the day by texting 'going to take care of mom, won't be on phone'? It doesn't make sense for her to cover up taking care of her mom, unless there's huge problems in the relationship that he doesn't see - but in that case, she should be glad he's cleanly breaking up with her instead of being crazy stalker ex- and should just take the win instead of trying to get him back.

Spaced God posted:

I mean communicating boundaries are v important bc cheating has different definitions to people so defining what you consider cheating (lying, misleading) and comparing to what your partner considered cheating (actively being caught loving her friend) is definitely a good idea

For a healthy relationship with people who aren't assholes ofc

If your partner is going to significantly lie to you unless you specifically say that lying to you counts as cheating, I don't think you have a healthy relationship in the first place. "Relationship court" might only allow things you've said count as cheating to be a reason for a breakup, but that doesn't mean you actually have to stay in a relationship with someone who lies to you.

Pantaloon Pontiff fucked around with this message at 21:01 on Mar 25, 2024

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oh jay: Oct 15, 2012

Me when my partner doesn't say cheating is a dealbreaker

# ? Mar 25, 2024 21:18

Invisible Clergy: Sep 25, 2015; "Behold, I will corrupt your seed, and spread dung upon your faces"

Malachi 2:3

Captain_Maclaine posted:

For the first decade or so* of Bolshevik rule in Soviet Russia, there was this thing called the "postcard divorce" where anyone could legally end a marriage with maybe an hour's worth of paperwork at the local registry office, after which the other partner would be notified by mail (if they weren't physically nearby) that they were no longer married to the one that had initiated the divorce.

*I don't remember exactly when this practice ended, but I'm pretty sure it lasted through the NEP period into Stalin's regime, and was certainly gone by the time he died.

Were there any downsides to this policy?

# ? Mar 25, 2024 21:25

ad090: Oct 4, 2013; claws for alarm

Update: AITAH for telling my mom she is dead to me if she mentors my bully?

quote:

To everyone who said my mom was sleeping with Dave... You were right.

Just kidding, yall are weirdos and watch too much porn.

A lot has actually happened since last week and while nothing is really fixed, I think things are going in the right direction. On Friday I got called out of class to the guidance counselor. When I got there, my mom and the assistant principal were there as well. The counselor asked me to sit down and said that me changing tracks from college to trade like I mentioned in my last post, was a big decision and she wanted to sit down with my mom and me to figure out if this really was the best for my future.

She first asked me if I would fully explain why I wanted to switch. I explained the whole situation from my perspective and about how I was being punished. I said that if this is how I was going to be treated from now on, I wanted to become independent as soon as possible and going to college would have me relying on my parents for longer than I would like. She then asked my mom if she had anything she would like to add. My mom tried to downplay the who situation at first and make it look like I was just being stubborn and disrespectful, but as the counselor asked her more questions, it became pretty clear that my side was truth.

After this the AP stepped in and said that a teacher's aide was not worth all of this turmoil and that Dave would be switched with another teacher. The counselor then asked me if this would help me to start working things out with my mom. I said not really because it wasn't even her choice and she hasn't even admitted she's done anything wrong. She then asked my mom if she was willing to apologize for anything that had happened. My mom gave a half-hearted apology where she said things had gone overboard and she never meant to hurt me so much. The counselor asked if I would like to apologize for anything as well and I said not really but nobody pressed me on it.

The counselor then said about my transfer, it was too late for this semester. What she suggested is that my mom and I and possibly my dad should go to a family counselor for the rest of the semester. I would stay in my current classes, my parents would give me all my stuff back, and we could see if we can come to some kind of peace before next semester. She then asked my mom that if after that, I still had not changed my mind, would she accept the class changes. My mom said no at first because she wanted me to go to college, but I told her that she had already failed me as a mother once, please don't do it again. She got really quiet and said she would agree to it if that was what I really wanted.

When I got home all my stuff was returned to me. I also started talking to my mom again. I just kind of felt like there wasn't a point to ignoring her anymore. I don't treat her like a mother or anything anymore, but I'll answer her if she asks me a question. It just feels like that now that I have a plan, a lot of my anger is gone and I just see her as a person who happens to live in my house. We haven't scheduled our first counseling session yet but I don't see it changing much anyway. The damage is done so I don't see myself changing my mind.

That's pretty much it. I probably won't update again unless something crazy happens or something. Thank you to everyone who gave me good advice.

# ? Mar 25, 2024 21:27

Baronjutter: Dec 31, 2007; Can't post for 6 hours!

Invisible Clergy posted:

Were there any downsides to this policy?

It benefitted women, and the early soviet union had a real radical feminist edge to it. It was short lived and the union quickly drifted back to patriarcal conservative nonsense.

# ? Mar 25, 2024 21:28

Midnight Voyager: Jul 2, 2008; Lipstick Apathy

ad090 posted:

Update: AITAH for telling my mom she is dead to me if she mentors my bully?

What do you know, the bully can simply be swapped to another teacher and not lose any academic opportunities, it was not 100% required for the mom specifically to mentor this exact kid.

It's incredible that the mom didn't even back down more than forced to once another adult was like "hey this isn't cool." She's absolutely lost in the sauce.

# ? Mar 25, 2024 21:31

mystes: May 31, 2006

ad090 posted:

Update: AITAH for telling my mom she is dead to me if she mentors my bully?

I'm honestly surprised at how well the school seems to have handled/deescalated the situation.

# ? Mar 25, 2024 21:39

DoubleNegative: Jan 27, 2010; The most virtuous child in the entire world.

Speaking of updates, here's another one.

AITAH for forcing my fianc� into cutting off his late wife�s family? UPDATE 2

quote:

Hey all!

So, seems I�ve been naughty because I got temporarily banned on here for 3 days. In chat someone was calling me every derogatory and sexist term imaginable but I was put in time out for defending myself. I appealed but the appeal took the ban time anyway. Oh well. Sorry this update is taking so long for reasons stated above.

So we drove down to the police station with our block of paperwork and had a couple hours talk. They were so sweet about everything. As some of you expected, they did say I should have come earlier but they didn�t really care because it was only a few days. They said that it often takes people about this amount of time to actually file charges if they weren�t in immediate threat or danger (so unless someone was about to throw punches.) I handed them everything and it looks like I�ve got plenty of evidence. They�ll be contacting my insurance on my behalf to get the ball rolling and so they can come to do a check of my car themselves. And then they can open a claim with me if I want. (They�re not filing a claim, they�re just notifying about the criminal damages) I�ve filed criminal charges for harassment and vandalism and they�ll notify me with more details about my restraining order this week. My fianc� told the police that he was planning on meeting with LWs family and asked if that would contradict my case and they said no. We�re not married at the time of filing so legally we�re too separate entities in the case. Or something.

So, my car is totalled. My mechanic friend, I�m gonna call him Tom because I can�t keep saying �my mechanic friend.� So Tom and his partner at the shop did a full check on my car and this is the damage they found:

Shattered windshield

4 slashed tires

Two broken windows

Paint (obvious, I think)

Unknown substance in the engine oil

Battered bodywork

They said with this amount of damage, I should just go for a new car so that�s what I�ll be doing. If anyone is curious, it was a Volvo. I�d always wanted one and managed to buy one new two years ago. Either they get me a new car if they�d be set back about 60k. Either way I�ll be alright. The amount classifies the vandalism as a felony so they could be looking at jail time too.

My fianc� met with the family on Saturday and Tom sat by the window. I currently live in a one party state so as long as my fianc� consents, the recording can be used in my case. While it may not be as drama filled as some of you may want, it was still pretty stressful to see.

They met at the same cafe that we did before and Tom sat a few tables away. Fiance arrived after their father and before them. For the best because they managed to have a calm conversation for once. Fianc� told him how he was feeling and FIL was very understanding but still trying to minimise. He was saying things like �you know they miss LW� and �they�ll come around and just need time to come to terms with you moving on.� He kept trying to initiate paying for the damages but fianc� wouldn�t talk about it until the sisters arrived. It was like butter wouldn�t melt with the 24yo but 19 came in like the Tasmanian devil.

My fianc� didn�t acknowledge anyone until it had all settled down where then he said this would be his last meeting with all of them and they�d be going their separate ways. He turned to the girls and said that he would miss who he thought they were but the way they could treat people horrified him, especially me. He said that this was all him and they needed to accept that I was not to blame. He even said that it was me who offered the apology in exchange for not filing charges.

The 19yo then interrupted asking what charges and that no one was going to charge them for �barely touching� a car. She was a dear in headlights when he asked what they�d done to the engine oil and the two looked at each other. Seems they didn�t expect me to find that out. Queue up the grovelling. 24yo actually tried to touch his hand and told him he had to stop me pressing charges because this would ruin her and interfere with 19yos college. He said it was too late and the cops should be issuing a warrant soon (it can take a few days. I thought it was an instant thing but apparently not.)

This is when their dad got involved again and said for everyone to calm down and fix this �like adults.� Now he wants his girls to be adults. I see. He asked if fianc� would convince me to drop the charges in exchange for that apology and he�d pay the damages. When my fianc� said it was 60k, the eyes he gave to those women would shave the hair off a cat. The video wasn�t the best but I swear I could see the colour drain from their faces. I may sound awful but I enjoyed it. Call me what you will.

They kept going on about apologising and that they�d pay but he just said it was too late and he was done. He�d tried to be civil but they were the ones that wouldn�t let it go. 24yo actually asked him to set up a meeting with me so they could get to know me and put it all behind us. He didn�t reply and after the silence they piped up again like �so she won�t even meet us? So she�s behind all this because she doesn�t want us around. We�ll see about that.� (Not using exact quotes because I don�t know if I�m allowed so not risking it.) Things like that.

They went on and on and frankly it was funny more than hurtful. But they did incriminate themselves more and more for my harassment case and the nail in the coffin was when 19yo said �if we can do that to a car, imagine what else we could do.� That, my friends, is both a confession and a threat of bodily harm.

My fianc� said one loud stop before wishing FIL well and telling the girls to not come near me. He then got up and left. That�s where the recording ends because we wouldn�t be able to use anything afterwards anyway.

As for moving, we�re pretty much all packed up and have a truck coming on Friday. We�ll be staying with his parents until we find a place. We�re looking at buying this time but might get an RV in the meantime so we�re not all stepping on each other. I doubt his parents would mind at all but.

This is the last update for a while I think. I have a wedding to finish, a venue to change, new invites etc and less than 2 months to do it. Send help. But thank you all for being ears and helping me get through this. If only to distract me from ruminating and digging a huge mental hole.

Also the "mother mentoring bully" update is just sad. "Didn't mean to hurt you so much" is such a loaded statement because it implies she was perfectly fine with hurting him some amount. :smith:

# ? Mar 25, 2024 21:58

rotinaj: Sep 5, 2008; Fun Shoe

Midnight Voyager posted:

What do you know, the bully can simply be swapped to another teacher and not lose any academic opportunities, it was not 100% required for the mom specifically to mentor this exact kid.

It's incredible that the mom didn't even back down more than forced to once another adult was like "hey this isn't cool." She's absolutely lost in the sauce.

I was informed by people in this very thread that this was the only teacher who would ever care about the bully

I was lied to and demand recompense

# ? Mar 25, 2024 21:59

B-Rock452: Jan 6, 2005

rotinaj posted:

I was informed by people in this very thread that this was the only teacher who would ever care about the bully

I was lied to and demand recompense

I thought it was only one person who swore an oath to always uphold the teachers code and was fine with Mom being like that

# ? Mar 25, 2024 22:07

Vim Fuego: Jun 1, 2000; I LITERALLY SLEEP IN A RACING CAR. DO YOU?
p.s. ask me about my subscription mattress; Ultra Carp

AKA Pseudonym posted:

AITA for yelling at my son for "not trusting us"

lol get wrekt

# ? Mar 25, 2024 22:12

rotinaj: Sep 5, 2008; Fun Shoe

B-Rock452 posted:

I thought it was only one person who swore an oath to always uphold the teachers code and was fine with Mom being like that

My joke may be undermined by it being one weirdo and not multiple people but nevertheless

# ? Mar 25, 2024 22:19

big black turnout: Jan 13, 2009; Fallen Rib

ad090 posted:

Update: AITAH for telling my mom she is dead to me if she mentors my bully?

How sad that the school had to step in to fix this lady's awful parenting, and there's no way to ever come back from it

# ? Mar 25, 2024 22:22

John Wick of Dogs: Mar 4, 2017; Can't post for 6 hours!

Satisfying updates on this page

# ? Mar 25, 2024 22:32

Farmer Crack-Ass: Jan 2, 2001; this is me posting irl

mystes posted:

I'm honestly surprised at how well the school seems to have handled/deescalated the situation.

my bet is that hearing "i'm giving up on college because i need to be able to support myself ASAP" was a huge red flag for the guidance counselor

# ? Mar 25, 2024 22:33

B-Rock452: Jan 6, 2005

rotinaj posted:

My joke may be undermined by it being one weirdo and not multiple people but nevertheless

To be fair they were very very insistent that mom was right to act like that

# ? Mar 25, 2024 22:37

Cythereal: Nov 8, 2009; I love the potoo,
and the potoo loves you.

I recently found out my ex-fianc� [28 M] of 5 years is terminally ill. Is it inappropriate for me [28 F] to go see him?

quote:

I'll try to keep this short and to the point but I'm very torn if I should go see my ex-fianc� or not, I know I'm going to get a lot of backlash for this.

When I first met Taylor 7 years ago my life was an absolute mess, I came from a very broken household and was struggling to get through college financially and mentally. I didn't have reliable transportation, I was struggling to keep my grades up and deal with my family and I basically had nothing going for me at all. We had 2 classes together back in undergrad chemistry 202 and some calculus together and we just kind of hit things off from there, he was like this perfect guy, funny, charming, extremely smart and hard working. He was at the time the only positive thing in my broken life, my parents were going through a nasty divorce and my younger sister was lashing out in high school because of it. Eventually finances got worst and my mom was forced to sell our current house and move into with relatives putting me nearly 2 hours away from campus.

Taylor had his own place near campus, inherited it from his late parents and as he got to know me invited me to stay as soon as I told him about my situation. He lived with his younger sister [16 F] and offered me an entire bedroom in his house. He wasn't pushy about it or anything, gave me space and everything I needed and it was lucky break that I had been looking for my entire lovely life. Just when I was about to give up my dream of going to pharmacy school it things started turning around for me, even though it was still a long shot. After about a year of dating, I officially move in with him as well as my younger sister so that she could finish out her school year. Taylor eventually convinced me to pursue pharmacy school basically saying that his parents always told him to chase his dreams and don't settle. He even foot the bill for me (we had been dating for about 3 years at that point). By this point my family pretty much loved him, see him as one of us and even my rear end in a top hat of a father can see what a wonderful influence was on me.

Long story short, I go off to pharmacy school and I do really well, meet a ton of new people and I just mature as person. My second to last year (engaged to Taylor at this point) of pharmacy school I met this guy, Fred reminded me a lot of Taylor he was really driven and hard working and I just really felt a deep connection with him. I felt so guilty about it but we were classmate so we studied together and spent copious amounts of time in school together. I guess before school I never really had many friends or peers I could speak openly with. I never cheated on Taylor at all but near the end of my school career I start looking for jobs out of state, particularly in the state where Fred is going back to.

Even now I don't really understand what was that was taking me away from the perfect guy but I never told Taylor about my plans, I regret so much the way I ended things with Taylor. After I graduated I stuck around for about a month because we had planned to get married, I broke down a day before the wedding and told him that I couldn't go through it and that I needed time to sort out my feelings. I few days after that (nearly 2 years ago) I left everything behind and flew out to Cali to be with Fred. My family pretty much disowned me dad's side as well as my mom's side, my younger sister was disappointed in me. I was an rear end in a top hat and I deserved all of it, I ended up having to get a new number and everything although Taylor never tried reaching out to me or anything like that, it seemed to me like he just accepted things the way it was.

My sister called me earlier this week out of the blue and told me that Taylor was diagnosed some terminal illness and that they say he didn't have much time left. She asked me if I was going to fly out there and see him before it was too late and I honestly said no immediately at first. I was and still am scared to see him, I don't know what will happen or if he even wants to see someone like me ever again but even after two years and a happy relationship with Fred my guilt hasn't faded at all. I broke up with him 2 years ago yet I feel no closure, I don't know how he handled it or how he felt or anything like that, how he was doing before all this. It feels almost selfish to show up not invited to see him so that I can have proper closure.

I'm not sure what to do. My sister tells me I should come before I regret it and even my new SO tells me to go but I don't know if I should or want to me.

Should I go? Am I allowed to show up?

TL;DR: Two years ago I broke up with my ex-fianc� of 5 years after he pretty much supported me financially and helped me turn my life around. I left him for a guy I met in pharmacy school and moved to an entirely different state, now he is terminally ill and I don't know if its right for me to visit him for closure.

But how do I make it about meeeeeeee?

# ? Mar 25, 2024 22:45

Pope Corky the IX: Dec 18, 2006; What are you looking at?

Yeah, gently caress that �All we can do now is try to make them comfortable� poo poo.

# ? Mar 25, 2024 22:48

420 Gank Mid: Dec 26, 2008; WARNING: This poster is a huge bitch!

Cythereal posted:

I recently found out my ex-fiancé [28 M] of 5 years is terminally ill. Is it inappropriate for me [28 F] to go see him?

But how do I make it about meeeeeeee?

Insane behavior and still trying to tear up scars to open up old wounds goddamn

# ? Mar 25, 2024 22:50

FMguru: Sep 10, 2003; peed on;
sexually

ad090 posted:

Update: AITAH for telling my mom she is dead to me if she mentors my bully?

That rarest of things - a Guidance Counselor who actually does something useful. Incredible.

Mom getting real quiet after OP said she'd already failed him once was pretty telling, as is the way she still hasn't offered anything resembling a real apology. Hope mom enjoys finding out about her son getting married when he posts pictures from the ceremony and reception on his social media.

# ? Mar 25, 2024 22:51

Tijuana-A-Go-Go: Aug 2, 2019; Doggles Aficionado

Cythereal posted:

I recently found out my ex-fianc� [28 M] of 5 years is terminally ill. Is it inappropriate for me [28 F] to go see him?
She asked me if I was going to fly out there and see him before it was too late and I honestly said no immediately at first.

Her sister apparently determined to start some poo poo before he dies

# ? Mar 25, 2024 22:52

Fork of Unknown Origins: Oct 21, 2005; Gotta Herd On?

Pantaloon Pontiff posted:

What would be her motivation to lie if she stayed home to take care of her mom? That is, if she was just taking care of her mom and happened to decide to turn off location tracking that day, why wouldn't she just say at some point that she's taking care of her mom when he asked, even if she didn't think to start the day by texting 'going to take care of mom, won't be on phone'? It doesn't make sense for her to cover up taking care of her mom, unless there's huge problems in the relationship that he doesn't see - but in that case, she should be glad he's cleanly breaking up with her instead of being crazy stalker ex- and should just take the win instead of trying to get him back.

If your partner is going to significantly lie to you unless you specifically say that lying to you counts as cheating, I don't think you have a healthy relationship in the first place. "Relationship court" might only allow things you've said count as cheating to be a reason for a breakup, but that doesn't mean you actually have to stay in a relationship with someone who lies to you.

I mean if he�d gone and done his searching and then she finally sees her phone or whatever and decides to answer back, before she actually lied. It�s a bad look if you�re going straight to detective mode.

# ? Mar 25, 2024 22:58

cat botherer: Jan 6, 2022; I am interested in most phases of data processing.

Cythereal posted:

I recently found out my ex-fianc� [28 M] of 5 years is terminally ill. Is it inappropriate for me [28 F] to go see him?

But how do I make it about meeeeeeee?

Does anybody actually call off weddings immediately before they're scheduled (barring something pretty bad)? Just do the ceremony and annul that poo poo, goddamn. You aren't getting out of paying the caterer.

# ? Mar 25, 2024 23:08

reignonyourparade: Nov 15, 2012

When someone goes into detective mode and ends up being right, chances are they did not, in fact "go straight into detective mode" but rather, Something Felt Off, and because of THAT they went into detective mode, and whoop, turns out Something Felt Off because something was, in fact, off.

# ? Mar 25, 2024 23:15

Clark Nova: Jul 18, 2004

Cythereal posted:

I recently found out my ex-fianc� [28 M] of 5 years is terminally ill. Is it inappropriate for me [28 F] to go see him?

I'll try to keep this short and to the point ***followed by an entire goddamn screen of text on my laptop***

# ? Mar 25, 2024 23:30

mystes: May 31, 2006

reignonyourparade posted:

When someone goes into detective mode and ends up being right, chances are they did not, in fact "go straight into detective mode" but rather, Something Felt Off, and because of THAT they went into detective mode, and whoop, turns out Something Felt Off because something was, in fact, off.

Yeah I think it's hard to criticize him for being suspicious given that he was actually right. We don't know what his interactions with his girlfriend were normally like, so I don't think it's really possible to judge whether there was enough basis for him to become suspicious aside from the actual outcome.

# ? Mar 25, 2024 23:33

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# ? May 14, 2024 19:00

Verdugo: Jan 5, 2009; Lipstick Apathy

the holy poopacy posted:

Peter Jackson literally added even more aimless filler on top of the already-meandering books, because he was supposed to have shot all 3 movies upfront but ran out of money to finish the second two. So he had to come up with ideas for random stuff they could add in so that he could go back to the studio to ask for extra shoots so that he'd have enough material to splice together a 2nd and 3rd movie, and since the first one was so successful they just let him run with it.

With all that he could have put freaking Tom Bombadil in. :/

# ? Mar 25, 2024 23:35

The Something Awful Forums > Main > General Bullshit > r/relationships: I have nothing against this baby.

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