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Quackles posted:It's a cat colony. Cats have more functional social boundaries and structure.
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Scathach posted:r/relationships: he fingered her in the treehouse Hahaha it's funny because the husband sexually assaulted a minor Seriously, what the gently caress
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# ? Apr 21, 2024 07:45 |
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Well the current thread title is also from a story that has abuse and other gross stuff in it so I guess it’s just keeping the theme going.
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# ? Apr 21, 2024 07:52 |
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Nobody checks if the stories they post are literal abuse stories but it is okay because the people cracking jokes about them don't read the posts either so really you can't blame anyone for any of it, ever
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# ? Apr 21, 2024 08:03 |
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gently caress yeah time for another of these god drat derails, lord knows we didn't already fuckin have one just the other week, to me my popcorn
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# ? Apr 21, 2024 08:04 |
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Yeah I didn’t catch that or read the comments, so I’ve deleted that. Mea culpa. Have other content instead, let’s change the topic. AITA For not lying to the police for my family? quote:Hey Reddit, I need some serious opinions on a situation that's tearing me apart. My family has always been close-knit, I'm talking great grandmother and below lives in the house, but lately, they've been swimming in deep waters.
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# ? Apr 21, 2024 08:08 |
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Malachite_Dragon posted:gently caress yeah time for another of these god drat derails, lord knows we didn't already fuckin have one just the other week, to me my popcorn Oh no a derail about how people shouldn't post abuse stories, cry me a loving river
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# ? Apr 21, 2024 08:16 |
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ApplesandOranges posted:Yeah I didn’t catch that or read the comments, so I’ve deleted that. Mea culpa. Sex Farm posted:Oh no a derail about how people shouldn't post abuse stories, cry me a loving river We've had this argument a thousand loving times. We *just had it*.
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# ? Apr 21, 2024 08:20 |
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Weird how it only seems to happen when Corky is asleep too, what's up with that
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# ? Apr 21, 2024 08:22 |
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ApplesandOranges posted:Yeah I didn’t catch that or read the comments, so I’ve deleted that. Mea culpa. Thank you for the deletion! That story is confusing. What could the family possibly want the OP to say that would help them in any way? It doesn't even seem like the OP is involved in any of it?
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# ? Apr 21, 2024 08:23 |
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ApplesandOranges posted:Yeah I didn’t catch that or read the comments, so I’ve deleted that. Mea culpa. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=d-7o9xYp7eE
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# ? Apr 21, 2024 08:23 |
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FMguru posted:A story in three parts. Warning: contains (redacted) ableist slur Is this a distinct subreddit for Am I Wrong?
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# ? Apr 21, 2024 08:23 |
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Malachite_Dragon posted:
Weird you have a bigger problem with people complaining about the abuse stories than with the stories themselves but whatever, you do you champ!
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# ? Apr 21, 2024 08:26 |
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Because I've got nothing to add that hasn't already been said. I agree they shouldn't be posted. Everyone has agreed they shouldn't be posted. It does not need to be relitigated for the fiftieth time.
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# ? Apr 21, 2024 08:29 |
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Get ready to get mad. AITA for not inviting my mentally unstable cousin to my wedding quote:I (25F) am getting married this coming spring. I've got a cousin named Rose (also 25F) who was around a lot growing up. Her mother (my aunt) is my mother's sister and they've always been super close, and my mom adores Rose and her siblings for some reason and we spent a lot of holidays and summers together when we were growing up redditor posted:Are you a psychiatrist or mental health professional?If not, you are diagnosing her based on...I dunno? A mommy blog? An unsubstantiated web md post? A tv show? OP posted:She posts a lot about social and political issues and awareness on her Facebook and BPD is one she mentions a lot, so I think it's the one she has. Like, she posted a lot during "BPD awareness month" redditor posted:How old was Rose when the original stuff happened? It wasn't great behaviour however it doesn't necessarily mean she is mentally unwell. She may have been a troubled teen who has now grown up. She has apologised, you don't have to accept it but her family are not assholes for standing by her and not coming. OP posted:We were both 12 when she moved away and she didn't visit that often afterwards. Even when her brothers came my aunt and uncle would just say that Rose didn't want to go out and they didn't want to push her. So what exactly did this 12-year-old hellion do? OP posted:Random things would set her off, like once she went into her room and pulled off the heads of all her barbies (and one of mine because we were playing together earlier) and another time at her birthday she was really happy opening presents and then she upwrapped a new dress my mom got her and started crying and wouldn't tell anyone why she didn't like it. redditor posted:Is Rose part of the LGTBQ community? Why did her brother call you a bigot? OP posted:I don't think her sexuality is relevant to this. One Month Later ... AITA for wanting security to accompany my mentally ill cousin at my wedding? quote:I (25F) am getting married in several months. Sorry if this sounds convoluted. I'm really stressed over this whole thing and it's sometimes hard to keep my thoughts together. OP posted:I don't want to cancel or downgrade, because I love this venue. She used to ruin things for me when we were kids, and I feel like cancelling now is just letting her win again. But also, financially, I don't want to take out a loan. OP posted:My mother thinks that she has changed, but I think she's too easily trusting. I last saw my cousin at Christmas, and my mom pointed out that my cousin had apologized then, but she only apologized after she realized she had not been invited to the wedding. She never apologized before about how she used to treat me. 24 hours later ... OP posted:I stopped replying to my AITAH post because it was clear that it was being brigaded and people even linked the subreddit that was brigading. I keep getting harassing messages on my other post and through private messages so I see that people are stalking my profile as well. Two weeks later ... How to get my (25F) cousin (25F) to attend my wedding to keep the peace? quote:I'll try to keep the summary short. Apparently the texts that OP posted show that, surprise surprise, the cousin goes by "they/them" pronouns and a new name and considers "Rose" to be a deadname. Wow, who could have possibly seen that coming? redditor posted:Hey OP, did you really think that posting texts of your deadnaming and misgendering your cousin were going to help your case??? I can clearly see the names you tried to block out. OP posted:It makes it sound worse when phrased like that. Two days later ... Update on my wedding quote:This was autoremoved from RA but I wanted to post it to thank everyone who tried to help so I'm going to copy and past it And the grand finale ... Two months later ... I was supposed to get married today, but my cousin sabotaged my wedding and my fiance called it off quote:I can't really blame him for calling it off, because it was for financial reasons. But I feel like I can't talk to him about it because I'll start saying things that I regret. OP posted:I would have been fine with a smaller wedding, but it was my aunt and mother who offered to help pay in the first place during the earlier planning stages. This venue was actually one where I had first only shown it to my mom as the type that I was looking for but cheaper (I don't want to give too many personal details and give away where I live, but it's really nice and outdoors with a beautiful garden and big historical building for the reception) It was perfect but I was fine for settling with a different one that had the same aesthetics. My mother was the one to encourage me booking it because she said I should have my dream wedding, and my aunt also said I should book it and she would help make sure I could afford it. Now, there's nothing that conclusively proves they had booked a former plantation, but ...
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# ? Apr 21, 2024 08:37 |
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A couple good ones here: r/relationships: I tried to explain that, rationally, r/relationships: Our family thinks it's fine and "brave" or whatever r/relationships: It makes it sound worse when phrased like that
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# ? Apr 21, 2024 08:43 |
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OP is amazing, just continually sideshow bob-ing into the countless rakes she herself has set out
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# ? Apr 21, 2024 08:49 |
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Moon Slayer posted:Get ready to get mad. Well you weren't wrong, this is utterly infuriating.
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# ? Apr 21, 2024 08:51 |
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There's this interesting dissonance where on one hand, OP makes it incredibly clear that she considers her cousin a woman because they were AFAB, but also very carefully avoids actually mentioning that her cousin is non-binary. So on one hand, she doesn't consider their identity valid enough to use the correct pronouns and new name, but she's aware that this is a bad thing, so she's trying to obfuscate it as much as possible.
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# ? Apr 21, 2024 08:57 |
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I'm glad it hosed up her wedding. I'm also glad she's still with her fiance, because he sounds as lovely as she does. Keep them out of the dating pool.
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# ? Apr 21, 2024 09:03 |
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Just a poo poo person all round - "you acted up as a child therefore you have a mental disorder and I can use this "fact" to treat you like something I scraped off my shoe". Even if you take ignoring their gender identity out of the story, this person is a poo poo.
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# ? Apr 21, 2024 09:03 |
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Just so many loving awful phrases. "You know how those people are." The insistence on saying female cousin over and over and over and over again. Absolute garbage person.
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# ? Apr 21, 2024 09:05 |
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Mr. Lobe posted:I'd probably not go to that funeral, personally They often have free food.
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# ? Apr 21, 2024 10:02 |
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WIBTA for taking a bribe?quote:I (F18) live at home with my mum, dad and brother. Step 1: get the car in your name. Step 2: "Hey mom, dad is cheating. I'm gay and moving out. My stuff is already gone. Gotta go, bye!"
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# ? Apr 21, 2024 10:55 |
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Moon Slayer posted:AITA for not inviting my mentally unstable cousin to my wedding Sex Farm posted:That story is confusing. What could the family possibly want the OP to say that would help them in any way? It doesn't even seem like the OP is involved in any of it? 1.) OP, we're going to lie about how we had no idea this involved money laundering for the Soprano family, we need you to back up our lie by telling the police you've never met Tony before in your life. 2.) Who wants to play a fun game of "taking the fall to keep the rest of the family clean"? OP, we're going to pin this on you and we'd appreciate if you just went with it because family.
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Fil5000 posted:Just a poo poo person all round - "you acted up as a child therefore you have a mental disorder and I can use this "fact" to treat you like something I scraped off my shoe". Even if you take ignoring their gender identity out of the story, this person is a poo poo. Yeah OP is trying to make her cousin out to be an incurable psychopath but her only evidence seems to be a couple Facebook posts and some meltdowns at age 12, an age when kids are obviously perfectly rational and mature.
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# ? Apr 21, 2024 11:42 |
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Fil5000 posted:Just a poo poo person all round - "you acted up as a child therefore you have a mental disorder and I can use this "fact" to treat you like something I scraped off my shoe". Even if you take ignoring their gender identity out of the story, this person is a poo poo. Even if you ignore both the mental health and the LGBTQ angles, it's still "my aunt is helping to pay for my wedding, but I'm not inviting her daughter because I don't like her". Even if you ignore all of the above, it still sounds like a plantation wedding. I would call OP a lovely person, but it's art at this point.
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# ? Apr 21, 2024 12:16 |
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extremely dumb hot take: while OP is incredibly awful the mother and aunt also dropped the ball, both in the past and more recently
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# ? Apr 21, 2024 12:22 |
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No you're right, the mum and the aunt should have had the cousin committed for pulling heads off dolls and crying occasionally. Edit: No, better yet, they should've just Old Yeller'd the cousin, because "you can't fully cure mental illness." Shanghaied fucked around with this message at 12:29 on Apr 21, 2024 |
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I think the OP and cousin's relationship was damaged in the past (for understandable reasons) and I think none of the responsible adults did anything to try to repair or maintain that relationship. further, come the wedding, they escalated the situation with threats even when the cousin had decided they would prefer not to attend anyway
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# ? Apr 21, 2024 12:36 |
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Or there was no indication to anyone other than the OP that their relationship was damaged? Everyone seemed taken aback by the OP's decision to not invite the cousin.The OP, who has a vested interest in making her cousin look crazy, couldn't think of anything worse than 1) complained about going to the beach, 2) pulled heads off dolls one time, 3) crying one time. All of this before either of them turned twelve, after which the cousin moved away. I've always been known as the calm, well-behaved, and studious one among the six kids of my generation of the family, and I'm pretty sure I've thrown far more than three temper tantrums up to the age of twelve. And if you single a friend or family member out and openly refuse to invite them to some event where everyone else was invited to for some lovely reason, double down, then only begrudgingly invite them later out of social pressure, get snubbed and then say "see, they didn't want to come anyway!", like yeah, it's not the moral victory you think it is. Like gee, I wonder why they don't want to come now. You must be so prescient.
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# ? Apr 21, 2024 13:06 |
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OP is having a traditional lava volcano wedding and the relative is tragically virginal and thus poses a safety hazard.
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Barudak posted:OP is having a traditional lava volcano wedding and aunts daughter is tragically virginal and thus poses a safety hazard. It’s the bride’s special day so the unicorn has got to stay focused on her at all costs
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# ? Apr 21, 2024 13:12 |
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Sex Farm posted:Nobody checks if the stories they post are literal abuse stories but it is okay because the people cracking jokes about them don't read the posts either so really you can't blame anyone for any of it, ever Maybe Reddit was a mistake
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# ? Apr 21, 2024 13:15 |
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The Alchemist posted:Maybe Reddit was a mistake I think that has already been firmly established at this point
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Moon Slayer posted:Get ready to get mad.
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Brother and I got into a fight about the 7th Harry Potter Book. Should I un-invite him to my wedding?quote:Last week I (F 35) was talking with my brother John (M 42) on the phone and he said he just saw a movie that I have been wanting to see. I told him "no spoilers." He said "I never spoil anything intentionally." I said: "haha, remember that one time when you spoiled the 7th Harry Potter book for me by telling me who dies after I told you not to." (I had read all the previous books and was excited to read the last one at launch. John didn't read any of them and a co-worker revealed to him which characters die. In one conversation he just blurted out who dies out of the blue after I sternly told him not to tell me). After I mentioned that he totally freaked out. He was like "oh my god why do you have a grudge," "this has been haunting you for 17 years," "you just had to get this off your chest and prove a point." I was like "holly poo poo, I just brought up a memory, because, a thing you said reminded me of it." I didn't say I felt angry or have a grudge or anything like that. After this he sent me a text apologizing. I was like "it's really no big deal and thank you, that means a lot." I wake up the next day to a huge text saying that he can't believe I have a grudge against him after 17 years and that he is not coming to my wedding! It's incredibly hurtful to hear that someone doesn't want to go to your wedding because of you. I call him and he still insists I have a grudge no matter how many times I tell him I don't and and I'm sorry if it came off as vindictive. He says that he is really pissed off I said "thank you" to his apology, because, there was nothing he needed to apologize for. I explain that when someone apologizes, you say "thank you."
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# ? Apr 21, 2024 13:47 |
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A heartwarming story in which a POC and a racist POS is brought together by the sheer stupidity of woman who doesn't believe in the concept of poison. AITA for calling my mom's husband a piece of poo poo? quote:My(18m) mom and dad separated two years ago.
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Shanghaied posted:The OP, who has a vested interest in making her cousin look crazy, couldn't think of anything worse than 1) complained about going to the beach, 2) pulled heads off dolls one time, 3) crying one time. All of this before either of them turned twelve, after which the cousin moved away. It's even ""better"" because with the cousin being NB and a tween at the time those examples actually are: 1) cried about having to choose between going to the beach (and likely wearing form-fitting highly gendered clothing) or being left out because of it 2) took apart a highly gendered toy (in a way that is easily fixable and extremely common to do even among cis kids) 3) cried when given gendered clothing while being unable/uncomfortable explaining it to people And those are the best examples OP had, too, I bet any other examples she could come up with were cousin being even more obviously uncomfortable with labeled a girl/participating in "girlhood"
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an expert posted:It's even ""better"" because with the cousin being NB and a tween at the time those examples actually are: mystes fucked around with this message at 14:15 on Apr 21, 2024 |
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