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hey gang AITA for refusing to buy my friend gold? quote:I (f/33) have a very good friend (f/39) who is Hindu and an Indian immigrant, and this year she invited me and my wife (33) to celebrate Diwali with her. My wife and I are white canadians and not religious. We’ve been friends with her for almost a decade, but in the last few years have become very close and now she is basically family. We happily accepted. I want to know what sort of commemorative coin it was. please post your guesses. 
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The most interesting part of the fish story to me was the kid realizing that going straight to nuclear sentimental destruction without any second thoughts might be an unhealthy thing and is asking his uncle to set up therapy. Impressively insightful of the kid.
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Ghost Leviathan posted:Not that surprising, family bullies tend to get by in inertia and people wanting to keep the peace, but when the peace is already broken and poo poo's blowing up due to someone getting the final straw, a lot of people are likely to remember the poo poo they've had to deal with from that person and realise they don't have to put up with it for the sake of presuming everyone else liked them. It's not just family stuff, it happens with friend group, gaming groups, coworkers, and so on. Someone gets away with throwing their weight around and everyone in the group is used to it and doesn't want to rock the boat, then when one person pushes back everyone says 'oh yeah, I don't have to keep coddling this jerk' or 'well, now it's not my fault if things start to blow up'. Before I was aware of this social dynamic, I blew up a WOW guild by accident, back when WOW was a new thing. The GM was being a hardass about something dumb (probably something like forbidding me to be silly in general chat) and gave me a 'you will stop that or you're out of the guild'. Since it was just a guild I randomly joined, I figured it was no big deal to leave, so I just said "OK, good luck guys I'm outta here". According to a buddy of mine who was in the guild, something like half the guild ended up leaving in the next couple of hours while the GM tried to threaten people into staying, which just made the problem worse. (Threatening to kick people if they leave is not the best strategy in the world).
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AITAH For telling my husband that his affair child is not welcome in our home and if he wants custody he will have to move out?quote:My husband and I have been married for 9 years. In 2021, we found out my husband was being sued for child support. Also one where I hate every single person involved except for maybe the parents but probably I do: AITAH for blowing up on my wife when she made a joke about wanting me to buy her a Porsche? quote:I married my beautiful wife "Hannah" almost a year ago. Now i love her more than anything, but she was a bit of a bridezilla and everything at the wedding had to be perfect. I work in an industry where rear end kissing and nepotism runs rampant, so we invited people I work with to the wedding. edgeman83 fucked around with this message at 04:40 on Apr 22, 2024 |
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ChickenOfTomorrow posted:AITA for refusing to buy my friend gold? Huge rear end in a top hat
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Moon Slayer posted:Get ready to get mad. This story was aslow burn for me. I am a clueless cishet bloke, so all of the transphobia went right over my head u till OPwas literally waving it in our faces. Then to add it was a "plantation" wedding? Im sure there were plenty of clues that pointed tohow much of an arsehole OPwas, but, as said, i am a dumbarse that missed them all. So when it hit, it hit like a punch to the face. gently caress op. I am glad her wedding was ruined.
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AITA for not Giving my Friends a ride if they Didn't Fasten their Seatbelts?quote:Last night, I (18m) was getting off work at 11:30 PM. My 2 other friends (both 18m) were also leaving as well and asked me if they could get a ride. I said sure. They all live within 1 1/2 miles from our workplace (a 3 - 5 minute drive / a 15 - 20 minute walk), and they both live in separate houses at different ends of town. It's a pretty chilly night at about 40 degrees and only a few cars are out and about. We all packed into my light blue 2004 Buick LeSabre. I waited to hear all of their seatbelts click which never came. I asked if they could fasten their seatbelts and they looked at each other with confused glances. After a solid minute, one of them broke the silence and asked "Wait, you're serious?" and which I said "Yeah?".
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Mx. posted:AITA for not Giving my Friends a ride if they Didn't Fasten their Seatbelts? They are 100% Nazis. Only Nazis have such strongly-held wrong principles. (See also: anti-vaccination, 5G hysteria, Second Amendment -lunatics) e: OP is a huge rear end in a top hat for using the dumb-poo poo hell idiot wrong temperature scale, tho. Probably also a Nazi, judging by that.
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Mx. posted:AITA for not Giving my Friends a ride if they Didn't Fasten their Seatbelts? Hahaha, gently caress those guys! OP did everything right here. First of all, they're just wrong. it's the driver that gets the ticket. It's a loving moving violation. Ticketing the passengers just doesn't make sense. Like how would that even work? Second of all, they're loving morons. That light blue 2004 Buick LeSabre does not have modern safety features (no disrespect. It just doesn't). Failure to anticipate the deadly and debilitating results of a crash is a simple failure of imagination. Like you come up to a green light and make a left turn going 15 miles an hour. Some dude absolutely blast the gently caress through the red light on his end at 75mph and T-bones you. You're gonna look like ground chuck after that. And if you don't have a seatbelt on, your body will become a projectile. At that that point your flying rag doll is a danger to other drivers and pedestrians. At least with the seatbelt on you have a chance.
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Yeah I would have kicked them out too. Tickets aside, if someone crashes into me or I gotta slam on the brakes because something moves in front of the car the last thing I need is unsecured idiots launching through the space inside the car.
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BrigadierSensible posted:This story was aslow burn for me. I mean other countries have different buildings that may or may not be built with racial, class or societal differences/exploited labour I don't read anywhere that they're explicitly American Jack-Off Lantern fucked around with this message at 07:36 on Apr 22, 2024 |
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My mother-in-law was mortified when I asked the priest from the Theravada temple to put his seatbelt on.
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DeeplyConcerned posted:Ticketing the passengers just doesn't make sense. Like how would that even work? If the passenger gets too many tickets, they lose their passenger license and can only drive.
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AITA for screaming at my gf because of the college she chose?quote:I 17M have a gf 18f and we both got accepted to go to UCLA. She also applied to Yale and Harvard she got rejected from Harvard and accepted to go to Yale and her parents are really pushing her to accept it over UCLA.
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edgeman83 posted:AITA for screaming at my gf because of the college she chose? L O L
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AITA for not waiting for my wife at the next subway station after I got on the train, and the doors closed before she got on?quote:So basically, wife and I were in a rush to catch our subway train to go to a brunch with my parents at our favorite restaurant. We were already 10 minutes late, and my parents are always super punctual and I didn't want to keep them waiting any longer for us.
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bee posted:Yeah I would have kicked them out too. Tickets aside, if someone crashes into me or I gotta slam on the brakes because something moves in front of the car the last thing I need is unsecured idiots launching through the space inside the car. You can tell these people never had road safety ads like this permanently burned into their brain growing up.
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Roller Coast Guard posted:You can tell these people never had road safety ads like this permanently burned into their brain growing up. gently caress  Ours weren't quite that graphic usually
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Pantaloon Pontiff posted:It's not just family stuff, it happens with friend group, gaming groups, coworkers, and so on. Someone gets away with throwing their weight around and everyone in the group is used to it and doesn't want to rock the boat, then when one person pushes back everyone says 'oh yeah, I don't have to keep coddling this jerk' or 'well, now it's not my fault if things start to blow up'. It's true, but I'd say the more common result is for the "peace-keepers" (i.e. enablers) who've spent many years successfully redirecting the toxic person's abuse towards the designated victim will pool and redouble their efforts to harass the victim into remaining such so that the rest don't become collateral for the bully/narcissist's frustration. A mate is going through this now with her aunt following the death of her grandfather, who played the role of father and kind of kept the aunt in line until now. My mate is fed up and going for a combination of standing up to the bully and grey rocking her, and thankfully the grandfather was savvy enough to organise the will to minimise the aunt's legal potential for bulldozer-level shenanigans, but so far the rest of the family is still in appeasement mode. It's always lovely when the straw that breaks the camel's back has the family come together and finally stand up to the self-appointed tyrant, but as far as I can tell, it seems to be the exception rather than the norm. Most people tend to have to go it alone when they stand up to a bully like that - the idea seems to be, "you've spent years/decades being our sacrificial lamb, why would you selfishly decide now to rock the boat and force us to deal with the monster we've created?" and they calculate that it's easier to just bully the victim back into submission.. which often works, sadly
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Technocrat posted:My mother-in-law was mortified when I asked the priest from the Theravada temple to put his seatbelt on. ...did he?
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edgeman83 posted:AITA for screaming at my gf because of the college she chose? This guy is clearly not Yale material
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bee posted:gently caress British PSAs are their own specific horror genre. If you ever have half an hour spare, I highly recommend "Apaches", a short film about the dangers of being a kid playing on a farm which includes both death by weedkiller and slurry pit. Edit: Oh poo poo it's directed by the same guy that directed The Long Good Friday. We used to be a country.
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Hughlander posted:Aiw for not being okay with some creepy guy having access to my soon to be stepdaughter and being angry at my fiancé for allowing it? BLOOD DAUGHTER is my favorite all-female grindcore band 
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I’m glad it’s over but please do not post animal abuse stories in this thread. I’m not going to get into a debate about what is and isn’t okay because the last thread become horrifying at times when assholes would show up to try and outdo each other by finding the worst examples possible.
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edgeman83 posted:AITA for screaming at my gf because of the college she chose? If they'd always planned to go to the same school then he probably applied to Yale too and is butthurt he didn't get in. Supporting evidence: Feeling the need to point out she was rejected by Harvard
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Samovar posted:...did he? Between my clunky Sinhala and some gestures, he got the message fortunately. I've been removed from priest-taxi duties since then
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ApplesandOranges posted:AITA for not waiting for my wife at the next subway station after I got on the train, and the doors closed before she got on? This guy sucks so bad
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Pope Corky the IX posted:I’m glad it’s over but please do not post animal abuse stories in this thread. I’m not going to get into a debate about what is and isn’t okay because the last thread become horrifying at times when assholes would show up to try and outdo each other by finding the worst examples possible. If anything this thread has the opposite problem, assholes showing up with thinner and thinner skin trying to outdo each other in feigning outrage
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Technocrat posted:My mother-in-law was mortified when I asked the priest from the Theravada temple to put his seatbelt on. Well I mean, there's a Chinese expression "早死早超生", literally "the earlier you die, the earlier you reincarnate"  It just means "to get it over with".
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BrigadierSensible posted:I am a clueless cishet bloke, so all of the transphobia went right over my head u till OPwas literally waving it in our faces. When he said "she probably has BPD" I figured it was either OP being the rear end in a top hat or it sibling was going to have done something spectacular and everyone would be like "yeah, it's OK not to invite the person who got angry and tried to set your apartment on fire", I didn't really think it was saying trans = crazy. When OP got to listing off the allegedly terrible mental health episodes, I didn't catch that they were probably trans related, just that they were such ordinary 12-year old things that OP was obviously being a complete dick about a mental health issue. So even if you take out the transphobia and racism, OP was still hitting high 'rear end in a top hat' numbers for me. edgeman83 posted:AITA for screaming at my gf because of the college she chose? AITA loves to give misleading titles, so I was expecting the usual 'twist' where it turns out he was screaming at her because a car was about to hit her because she was distracted looking at college letters or something like that. I was actually a little surprised when the title turned out to be an accurate description of the situation.
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John Wick of Dogs posted:If anything this thread has the opposite problem, assholes showing up with thinner and thinner skin trying to outdo each other in feigning outrage Opposed to you totally thick skin posters who break down and cry whenever a mod does the littlest amount of modding.
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John Wick of Dogs posted:If anything this thread has the opposite problem, assholes showing up with thinner and thinner skin trying to outdo each other in feigning outrage No one is interested in your whining. AITAH for being upset over my bf's dad making a joke? quote:I've been with my boyfriend for a little over a year and we've recently been spending more time with his parents, as they've moved to the area. Admiral Joeslop fucked around with this message at 13:49 on Apr 22, 2024 |
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ApplesandOranges posted:AITA for not waiting for my wife at the next subway station after I got on the train, and the doors closed before she got on? Sounds like someone's been going through Larry Davids wastepaper-basket.
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Admiral Joeslop posted:No one is interested in your whining. anybody who describes themselves as a "straight shooter" isn't, and anyone who says they "speak their mind" unfortunately isn't and typically what's on their mind is racism. we just talked about projection and here's this guy saying that she's gonna drive a wedge between him and his son like his actions aren't the problem. anyways, we should bring back struggle sessions
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ApplesandOranges posted:AITA for not waiting for my wife at the next subway station after I got on the train, and the doors closed before she got on? I've had this happen multiple times and every time I was able to mime/mouth something to the effect of "I'll wait at the next stop" or "I'll catch up, just get to the restaurant" or whatever without any trouble.
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Alternatively, if you absolutely have no means of communication whatsoever, waiting at the next stop seems like it would be the default option in a healthy relationship.
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Ominous Jazz posted:text them 
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Cloacamazing! posted:Alternatively, if you absolutely have no means of communication whatsoever, waiting at the next stop seems like it would be the default option in a healthy relationship. Nah I am with train guy. What if he gets off at the next stop, and then so does she, but they can't find each other in the crowd and they both miss the train? Or she gets off the train to look for him as he's getting on to look for her? It's simpler and therefore better to just proceed to the next prearranged meeting space which was the final destination. E: of course this presupposes they have never had the completely reasonable conversation of "hey if we ever get separated in a crowd we should [x]."
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