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Halloween Jack posted:There's a 110% chance that they're specifically going after her and eating her portion. I don't 100% know why but I'm guessing that it's about putting daughter-in-law in her place. This is MILs first granddaughter, the other 3 aren't his. 100% wants to get son and graddaughter back in her house so she can raise her new happy family.
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Kibayasu posted:No sex organs are pretty but my brain keeps telling me they are and I just go with it. I think that means they're pretty, then?
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AceClown posted:AITA (25F) for vetoing my partners (26M) gross icecream idea? This is just an eating disorder
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May 8, 2024 19:23
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lol @ pretty penis guy
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May 8, 2024 19:43
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I don't know if I'd describe a penis as pretty but I've definitely seen a few cute cocks.
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May 8, 2024 19:45
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I do a rendition of "I'm a little teapot" that has always gone over well with partners
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May 8, 2024 19:47
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every dick is a beaut
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May 8, 2024 19:59
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artsy fartsy posted:Lol at sex daddy. I once had a ONS with a guy who also couldn't shut up, but his thing was calling his penis pretty. Oh, do you like my pretty penis? Do you want this pretty penis? Isn't this penis so pretty? 
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May 8, 2024 20:08
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Ominous Jazz posted:every dick is a beaut All Cocks Are Beautiful He is choosing his career over mine quote:F[24] I have spent two years building towards becoming a full-time firefighter, attended college, lost weight, and left for 6 months to work as a temporary live-in firefighter out of state. My final test for firefighting/ certification is in January. Then I can be hired full-time nearly anywhere in my state. definitely quit everything in your life for the sake of the failcop
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May 8, 2024 20:08
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Yeah absolutely the reason he got blacklisted was because the police were not being challenging enough for him. Jesus christ of all the people who need to run from their cop SOs this one needs to run the hardest
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May 8, 2024 20:13
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Mx. posted:My (29F) Husband (27M) allowed his Brother (30M) to propose to his Girlfriend (23F) at our wedding after I said No. Is our marriage salvageable? So after the bride (OP) walked out of the reception, not a single family member other than her mother thought to check on her? gently caress them all.
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May 8, 2024 20:14
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How the gently caress do you get blacklisted from being a cop? They hire rapists and murderers as long as they're from another state.
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May 8, 2024 20:18
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Pope Corky the IX posted:How the gently caress do you get blacklisted from being a cop? They hire rapists and murderers as long as they're from another state.
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May 8, 2024 20:22
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Pope Corky the IX posted:How the gently caress do you get blacklisted from being a cop? They hire rapists and murderers as long as they're from another state. That's the only reason to think he was asking a valid question about being able to do his job better.
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May 8, 2024 20:23
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Pope Corky the IX posted:How the gently caress do you get blacklisted from being a cop? They hire rapists and murderers as long as they're from another state. Becoming a whistleblower is a surefire way, but from the profile she gives of this guy, that's probably not what happened.
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May 8, 2024 20:24
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mom and dad fight a lot posted:
This has big "SHE SUCC ME" energy.
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May 8, 2024 20:24
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Pope Corky the IX posted:How the gently caress do you get blacklisted from being a cop? They hire rapists and murderers as long as they're from another state. Failing a drug test and/or being openly progressive would do it in most jurisdictions. But unless she edits to mention the Free Palestine bumper sticker on his 2004 Crown Vic it doesn't sound like that applies to this guy, so he's just some sort of incompetence elemental. His current employer only hired him because they're that desperate and realized they can't do better with their applicant pool. She's not wrong to believe this is his last chance, no one operates with a lower bar than a rural sheriff's office in the middle of nowhere.
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artsy fartsy posted:Lol at sex daddy. I once had a ONS with a guy who also couldn't shut up, but his thing was calling his penis pretty. Oh, do you like my pretty penis? Do you want this pretty penis? Isn't this penis so pretty? So both of these guys seem to have some substantial amount of parrot DNA
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May 8, 2024 20:26
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The_Franz posted:Becoming a whistleblower is a surefire way, but from the profile she gives of this guy, that's probably not what happened. Yeah, after I posted that I remembered Frank Serpico and Adrian Schoolcraft.
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May 8, 2024 20:29
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idiotsavant posted:The immediate annulment feels weird cause like, didn’t you knowingly sign up to marry a guy with high-functioning autism? Who isn’t great in social situations? His toxic family ran over him in a social situation and you’re mad that he didn’t handle it well. Did this lady not think anything through when she decided to marry him? I think she didn't realize the extent his family had sway over his decision-making. It's one thing to know your partner has autism, it's another to know they have autism and were able to be talked into a situation you'd explicitly pulled them aside and requested not happen, and got convinced to hide it from you. That's learning that the family knows how to weaponize his autism to get their way, and that's honestly scary as gently caress. I definitely understand stepping away because it's not just that he is autistic, it's that his family knows they can overwhelm him and then in the confusion, get him to do what they want.
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John Wick of Dogs posted:So both of these guys seem to have some substantial amount of parrot DNA There must be someone out there in the world that refers to their dick as their Pretty Polly
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May 8, 2024 20:49
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The_Franz posted:They do this at wine tastings, but that's so you can sample several without getting drunk. Doing this with ice cream is just weird. What if it's wine flavored ice cream?
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May 8, 2024 20:49
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StrangersInTheNight posted:I think she didn't realize the extent his family had sway over his decision-making. It's one thing to know your partner has autism, it's another to know they have autism and were able to be talked into a situation you'd explicitly pulled them aside and requested not happen, and got convinced to hide it from you. That's learning that the family knows how to weaponize his autism to get their way, and that's honestly scary as gently caress. I definitely understand stepping away because it's not just that he is autistic, it's that his family knows they can overwhelm him and then in the confusion, get him to do what they want.
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Mordiceius posted:This has big "SHE SUCC ME" energy. But was he playing Cbat in the background?
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May 8, 2024 20:54
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mystes posted:I'm not sure him being autistic is even relevant considering all the other stories where people's spouses get talked into stupid poo poo that they've promised not to do the second they're in the same room with their family I mean, there's no one-size-fits-all flavor or autism, but the likelihood that he'd be a people pleaser kinda goes up yeh. Especially if he's high-functioning, the more modern term for that being high-masking. Masking is inherently connected to trying to please the people around you.
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StrangersInTheNight posted:I mean, there's no one-size-fits-all flavor or autism, but the likelihood that he'd be a people pleaser kinda goes up yeh. Especially if he's high-functioning, the more modern term for that being high-masking. Masking is inherently connected to trying to please the people around you. I admit without her confirming this I'm basically writing fanfic of the post, but as an autistic person myself I think it's the most likely explanation for what happened given he was saying his brother told him it would be fine as he apologized.
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TBLALV posted:Yeah absolutely the reason he got blacklisted was because the police were not being challenging enough for him. Being critical of how shoddy the policing system is is definitely one of the things that can get you black listed (along with things like working to deescalate a situation instead of firing wildly etc) quote:He was forced to resign from his job due to him protesting about lack of training. They forced him to go by himself on patrols after only TWO weeks out of academy, his trainer and him both stated he was not ready, and law enforcement should have a STANDARD of at least a year. They asked him to resign or be fired after 9 months out of academy.
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DreamingofRoses posted:Being critical of how shoddy the policing system is is definitely one of the things that can get you black listed (along with things like working to deescalate a situation instead of firing wildly etc)
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PetraCore posted:Given what he said as he apologized it sounds like the successful tactic his family actually used eventually was convincing him this wasn't as big a deal as he thought it was, he was misreading the situation, and his wife would be okay with it after. In that case, his autism is relevant, but not because he misread the situation from the start. It's relevant because his family might have used it as an 'explanation' for him 'misunderstanding'.. Yeah this was my thoughts for how it played out too. That's why it feels like the brother/family basically preyed on him. Because the truth is no, it definitely wouldn't be fine if he just says sorry, and the family knew that; but they also knew he could be convinced of this falsehood by close family members. Someone was mentioning how this is really like any toxic family dynamic (person gets pressured by manipulation tactics by toxic family members and caves), but I think the difference is they manipulated him by specifically using his disability - his inability to glean what's appropriate in this scenario - to their benefit. StrangersInTheNight fucked around with this message at 22:18 on May 8, 2024 |
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It's funny how people pleasers never seem particularly interested in pleasing their spouses
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I have a relative who works admin at a city and have been told they turn down a lot of cop applicants because they fail the psych exam, and not in the "you're too smart/kind to be a cop" way.
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mystes posted:If that explanation is true, then OP's fiance is clearly not suited to working as a police officer and should probably consider a different career
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I don't know how they could really get past that and stay in the marriage without problems. She now knows that he can and will be pressured into going against anything she says. No matter the reason for it, being unable to trust someone is not great for the ol relationship. It'd be easier if they dealt with it before the marriage and if it didn't happen over such a giant, dramatic thing. Midnight Voyager fucked around with this message at 22:56 on May 8, 2024 |
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Pope Corky the IX posted:How the gently caress do you get blacklisted from being a cop? They hire rapists and murderers as long as they're from another state. I knew a guy who got rejected after applying to a bunch of cop/sherriff jobs cause he was a little alt-right dumbshit going in with the explicit desire to shoot bad guys basically you gotta either be too intelligent + ethical or you gotta be real, real loving dumb
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if you got busted for a dishonest crime like theft, fraud or whatever in your recent past you can forget being a cop.
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Midnight Voyager posted:I don't know how they could really get past that and stay in the marriage without problems. She now knows that he can and will be pressured into going against anything she says. No matter the reason for it, being unable to trust someone is not great for the ol relationship. that's why the immediate annulment is kinda weird tho; like if you're actually eyes open going into it you should probably realize that you're going to run into struggles like this, where your dopey spouse doesn't really think things through "right" cause that's how his brain is wired, and you'll probably either have to directly manage the whole thing or just be able to accept what happens with as much grace as you can tbh kinda sounds like the bride got the rose-colored glasses smacked right off and is maybe figuring out that actually she can't do any of that
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It sounds like the guy was just bad at being a cop. Sure he probably didn't get enough training and wasn't ready to patrol on his own that soon but after 9 months it may be that this guy just wasn't getting it.
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My (26M) GF (26F) Won $30,000 and Spent It All: How Do We Move Forward?quote:Hey everyone, looking for some advice on a situation with my girlfriend. We’ve been together for about four years, and she recently won $30,000 at a casino. Originally, we talked about using the money for big future plans like a house down payment or a dream trip to Japan. But instead, she has spent it all on high-end personal items for herself—designer clothes, jewelry, a luxury car upgrade, and more.
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Mordiceius posted:My (26M) GF (26F) Won $30,000 and Spent It All: How Do We Move Forward? she ain't going to get any smarter bro
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idiotsavant posted:that's why the immediate annulment is kinda weird tho; like if you're actually eyes open going into it you should probably realize that you're going to run into struggles like this, where your dopey spouse doesn't really think things through "right" cause that's how his brain is wired, and you'll probably either have to directly manage the whole thing or just be able to accept what happens with as much grace as you can Okay but... you're acting like big breaches of trust are just to be expected for anyone with autism and I guess that feels kinda crappy to me. It's not rose-colored glasses to think autism wouldn't cause you to hear a no, be pressured into a yes, and then sneak around your wife's back to make it happen. There are plenty of autistic people who do not do those things. It's not just an "oh bother, dopey spouse's brain wiring has done it again!" thing. And "directly managing the whole thing" doesn't help if your spouse is lying to you and hiding things. What kind of management in this situation would have kept the proposal from happening? Just refusing to allow him to interact with his family?
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