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FMguru posted:The fifteen year old bouncing excitedly on her dad's lap whenever a car commercial came on is a pretty detail, as is the dad's claim that the car just happened to show up at the exact time of the OP's valedictorian celebration (car deliveries don't just happen at random times, those things are usually very tightly scheduled, and for obvious reasons). "Sorry we missed you! Your car has been left in [blue recycling bin]"
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Question for Sancho: is it widely understood in Israel that the IOF caused some/many of the October 7th deaths? And it’s just verboten to talk about? Or do people not even realize? (USER WAS PUT ON PROBATION FOR THIS POST)
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DAD LOST MY IPOD posted:Question for Sancho: is it widely understood in Israel that the IOF caused some/many of the October 7th deaths? And it’s just verboten to talk about? Or do people not even realize? ESH
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White collar dipshit tries to dunk on hardworking blue collar person, finds out the hard way just how lucrative being a handworking blue collar person can be. AITA for throwing how much my husband makes in my brother's face after my brother insulted his career? quote:I, F27, come from a family of white-collar career people. My Dad 60M owns his own business and my mom 57F is a pediatric surgeon. My older brother M30 is a lawyer and loves to boast about how much money he makes. He is always buying new watches and expensive suits. He also drives a Porsche and is engaged to who will be his third wife. I like the fact that no one is standing up for the brother, no one is telling OP she went too far and needs to apologize, and her phone isn't blowing up.
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# ? May 15, 2024 20:28 |
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FMguru posted:The fifteen year old bouncing excitedly on her dad's lap whenever a car commercial came on is a pretty detail, as is the dad's claim that the car just happened to show up at the exact time of the OP's valedictorian celebration (car deliveries don't just happen at random times, those things are usually very tightly scheduled, and for obvious reasons). Yeah the whole situation is pretty, uh, strange
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BOOTY-ADE posted:Had a hearty at this part One of the things people should learn in a corporate job is that if someone noticeably stands out or is treated different, there is a reason. Could be good, could be bad, but find out why before stirring poo poo.
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# ? May 15, 2024 20:31 |
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A Moose posted:Your family are Alabama people. you moved to NYC. You're like, turbo-dead to them. No day will work for everyone. This day mildly inconveniences a long-lost cousin no one has laid eyes on in years. She might not even bother to come, after all, she didn't bother to visit Nana before she died. They needed a Saturday (the day most people are available) in May (the month when the ground thaws). Of the 4 dates that qualify each of them probably inconvenienced someone. Having it on her birthday is a relatively minor inconvenience. Ruining a little kid's birthday would be bad, but "ruining" a grown rear end adult's birthday is barely anything. It isn't like she's missing out on cake and balloons.
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FMguru posted:A particularly egregious golden child/scapegoat story.
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I thought it was a "she", so I assumed Rent The Runway was involved.
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The_Franz posted:Remember when discount shoe brand Payless rebranded as 'Palessi' and trolled a bunch of dumbass fashion influencers? no, but I do remember when Panera release a purse called The Baguette (that perfectly fits one of their sandwiches) and it became a viral must-have item simply bc it was difficult to get: https://www.panerabread.com/en-us/press/press-room/panera-launches-the-ultimate-accessory-introducing-the-baguette.html https://www.glamour.com/story/panera-baguette-bag we live in a world where people have FOMO re: sandwich purses created by fast food chains. They timed the release with New York Fashion Week and it became one of the 'It' items of the week StrangersInTheNight fucked around with this message at 20:42 on May 15, 2024 |
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The Bramble posted:I’m kind of curious how the thread will land on this one. Personally while I think the OP may have some kind of sorta point about how her family doesn’t like her, she picked the stupidest hill to die on over it and is insufferably whiny and self-absorbed. Jesus h this person is just so unlikeable Any point they may have once had is really just buried by how self-centred they are being about this whole situation. Her poor dad isn't going to be feeling the best right now, funerals and family things can be difficult to navigate and she doesn't really know what conversations happened. Fair play to her if she doesn't attend, but she could maybe think about her dad a bit more in this and extend him some grace, drat. CitizenKain posted:One of the things people should learn in a corporate job is that if someone noticeably stands out or is treated different, there is a reason. Could be good, could be bad, but find out why before stirring poo poo. I don't understand these stories where people open their gob holes about a situation they don't understand, and then become all surprised that there are consequences. Also just as baffling is giving a hot gently caress about corporate uniform. What a narc lol Why do people in these stories lack curiosity, I areas just blasting their opinions into the world. Like you say, there's usually a reason why things are the way they are. Understand it and act accordingly.
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StrangersInTheNight posted:we live in a world where people have FOMO re: sandwich purses created by fast food chains. They timed the release with New York Fashion Week and it became one of the 'It' items of the week I don't remember the sandwich purse but I do remember Panera releasing a line of swimsuits themed after their soups. Literally a green one piece that says SOUP in big letters on the front. it was sold out before I could buy one
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gently caress, I want a SOUP swimsuit.
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Ask a manager! my coworker stabs office furniture with a knife and no one thinks it’s a big deal quote:I am dealing with a bizarre situation at work and could use some advice on how to proceed. The reply advice starts with a bewildered "What."
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At least he's not wearing a hoodie.
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Solenna posted:Ask a manager! I worked in a lab-type space for a while, there was my desk and another shared desk that various people would use. One morning I came in to find an honestly pretty large pocket knife stabbed into the cardboard glass waste container. It was just too creepy to leave there, so I hid it in the back of a common drawer full of old junk figuring I'd give it back to the owner if they asked for it and swear I'd never seen it before if anyone randomly chanced across it. I had a suspicion about who had left it there, honestly wonder if it's the same guy...
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Farg posted:i get weird vibes from the op...the sister never seems to actually do anything. she 'acts dumb', she got popular which is somehow the reason op couldn't go to prom? her dad goes shopping with her but the phrasing of "i actually dont like clothes from sweatshops" seems to imply her disinviting herself and not ever initiating her preferred activity...the sister had a boat party and she didn't, but was that because she wasn't allowed? certainly seems like the dad is thoughtlessly favoring the younger sister because she's more outgoing and has more in common with her, but the shock and horror they seemed to react with doesn't match up with your typical "shut up stop complaining" golden child stuff. I get that too, what stands out to me from all the similar stories like this one is that at no point does the OP ever mention that they have ever, you know, actually ASKED for anything. You normally see something like "I asked for a car and dad said that money was tight but then a new Porche showed up for my sister and I was called a brat for being upset" type things.
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that AAM op works in the third period detention room of high school from the sounds of it. surprised Charlie isn't just cutting class to go to McDonald's and draw graffiti in their bathroom instead
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AceClown posted:I get that too, what stands out to me from all the similar stories like this one is that at no point does the OP ever mention that they have ever, you know, actually ASKED for anything. You normally see something like "I asked for a car and dad said that money was tight but then a new Porche showed up for my sister and I was called a brat for being upset" type things. I don't come from a family where the kids were getting gifted cars or whatever so I don't know how normal that is, I would have been ecstatic if someone gave me a car, let alone one that was half my age, even from a smoker. But it's still lovely parenting to treat one kid like a princess and the other one like an afterthought, and "oh but you were always so quiet and never asked for anything, we always figured you preferred taking care of yourself" is a very common excuse for bad parents when they finally get called out on that
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boofhead posted:I don't come from a family where the kids were getting gifted cars or whatever so I don't know how normal that is, I would have been ecstatic if someone gave me a car, let alone one that was half my age, even from a smoker. But it's still lovely parenting to treat one kid like a princess and the other one like an afterthought, and "oh but you were always so quiet and never asked for anything, we always figured you preferred taking care of yourself" is a very common excuse for bad parents when they finally get called out on that Upper/middle class suburban families it's extremely common to get a car that's 1-5 years old, whether you need it or not, when you're 16. So much so kids are often ostracized in the nicer suburbs if they didn't get a car, and high schools have parking lots that have enough capacity for basically every single kid.
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There are some parents who you learn not to ask for things from/make noise at. Because the answer is always no and it's always a disappointment, so why bother. Asking never gets you what you want or need. So I don't think "they didn't ask for a car" stands out as weird,
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Chewbecca posted:Jesus h this person is just so unlikeable Yeah, I'm in the 'her Dad sounds reasonable, she sounds insufferable and self-centered' camp. He picked a weekend that worked in a large family that probably has some conflict on any given weekend. It happens to overlap with her birthday but she wasn't even close to this relative and didn't visit before her death, and she's out of 'birthdays are a huge deal' era and with a large family, it's possible that every Saturday in May is within a week of someone's birthday, anniversary, or other milestone event.
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StrangersInTheNight posted:we live in a world where people have FOMO re: sandwich purses created by fast food chains. They timed the release with New York Fashion Week and it became one of the 'It' items of the week Cyberpunk~!
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Pantaloon Pontiff posted:Yeah, I'm in the 'her Dad sounds reasonable, she sounds insufferable and self-centered' camp. He picked a weekend that worked in a large family that probably has some conflict on any given weekend. It happens to overlap with her birthday but she wasn't even close to this relative and didn't visit before her death, and she's out of 'birthdays are a huge deal' era and with a large family, it's possible that every Saturday in May is within a week of someone's birthday, anniversary, or other milestone event. The more I think about it I can see why the mother said don't bother your father with this poo poo. It must have been awful to hear words along the line of "I can't believe you are choosing to say goodbye to your own dead mother on a day that is supposed to be all about me, she didn't even like me, I bet you are all doing this on purpose". I think I'd say "don't come" too.
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Darn, I missed the Band Of Brothers talk. I rarely ever hear anyone talk about The Pacific.
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Pantaloon Pontiff posted:Yeah, I'm in the 'her Dad sounds reasonable, she sounds insufferable and self-centered' camp. He picked a weekend that worked in a large family that probably has some conflict on any given weekend. It happens to overlap with her birthday but she wasn't even close to this relative and didn't visit before her death, and she's out of 'birthdays are a huge deal' era and with a large family, it's possible that every Saturday in May is within a week of someone's birthday, anniversary, or other milestone event. I kinda thought Dad sounded unreasonable in the Disney story. Grandma said "don't come on this day, I won't be home" but Dad decided to "surprise" her so she would have to cut the outing short, making everyone miserable. And then blamed it on Grandma for not being there when they turned up out of the blue on the day she told them not to come?
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wheatpuppy posted:I kinda thought Dad sounded unreasonable in the Disney story. Grandma said "don't come on this day, I won't be home" but Dad decided to "surprise" her so she would have to cut the outing short, making everyone miserable. And then blamed it on Grandma for not being there when they turned up out of the blue on the day she told them not to come? Yeah I feel like that whole family's probably a bunch of assholes
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Rocket Baby Dolls posted:Darn, I missed the Band Of Brothers talk. I rarely ever hear anyone talk about The Pacific. Band of Brothers is an incredibly moving, powerful piece of media and I will never, ever watch it again. Someone upthread said that people who like war films are sociopaths, but I think BoB is pretty much the antithesis of that.
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I think OP has had a long time of her family treating things related to her as unimportant. She’s just mirroring what she was taught by her family.
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Modal Auxiliary posted:Band of Brothers is an incredibly moving, powerful piece of media and I will never, ever watch it again. Someone upthread said that people who like war films are sociopaths, but I think BoB is pretty much the antithesis of that. when I'm watching band of brothers I constantly think like "wow this looks so cool I wish I could be there" and things of that nature because that's definitely the kind of show it is
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Rocket Baby Dolls posted:Darn, I missed the Band Of Brothers talk. I rarely ever hear anyone talk about The Pacific. You should check out the milhist thread, WW2 Pacific theater comes up often, sometimes in a broad historical sense but sometimes looking at individuals or comparing movies and shows with real life. https://forums.somethingawful.com/showthread.php?noseen=0&threadid=3950461
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The Bramble posted:I’m kind of curious how the thread will land on this one. Personally while I think the OP may have some kind of sorta point about how her family doesn’t like her, she picked the stupidest hill to die on over it and is insufferably whiny and self-absorbed. I also don't get "my grandma said I'm too ugly for modelling but I still love her"
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All I know about WW2 is that Cotton Hill killed fiddy men.
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PancakeTransmission posted:Huh??? You're upset your parents didn't wish you happy birthday a week early? Going into the comments it looks like grandma favored her daughters and their children over her son.
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Modal Auxiliary posted:Band of Brothers is an incredibly moving, powerful piece of media and I will never, ever watch it again. Someone upthread said that people who like war films are sociopaths, but I think BoB is pretty much the antithesis of that. Be wary of anyone who really, really likes WW2 military history I always say BoB is mostly a story about divine male love, and a reluctant hero/leader
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Lol, someone else about to blow up their family: I (34M) did a paternity test on my toddler son. Results were…confusing. Should I ask my brother (32M) to also take a paternity test?! quote:As the title says…what should i do?? Do i try to get my brother to also do a paternity test ?!?Should i dare question they secretively had an affair?!
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Is there a name for the kind of manipulation where a husband says something kind of demeaning to his wife and then she says “Would you mind not saying that to me? I find it kind of demeaning.” And he blows up and shouts “WELL I GUESS YOU DONT WANT ME TO SAY ANYTHING AT ALL AROUND YOU, THEN!” ? It isn’t quite weaponized incompetence, but rather more like pretending, in bad faith, that the other persons position is much more extreme than it actually is and acting wounded by it, to get them to apologize and abandon their position. I’ve seen it in a bunch of these posts.
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It's called having a tantrum.
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Nebrilos posted:Is there a name for the kind of manipulation where a husband says something kind of demeaning to his wife and then she says “Would you mind not saying that to me? I find it kind of demeaning.” And he blows up and shouts “WELL I GUESS YOU DONT WANT ME TO SAY ANYTHING AT ALL AROUND YOU, THEN!” ? DARVO! To quote google because I'm lazy and it works: Deny, attack, and reverse victim and offender (DARVO) is a tactic a person may use to deflect responsibility onto an individual they have abused.
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DreamingofRoses posted:Lol, someone else about to blow up their family: Is that saying there is a 99% chance a male relative is the child’s father? I am definitely having trouble following that statement.
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