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Bifner McDoogle posted:I don't drink anymore (former alcoholic) and while this dude is a petty shithead and a bad friend I can't peg him as an alcoholic because his attitude was that this wedding would be a rare chance to have a night out with the wife and drink for the first time in God knows how long since he's got kids. He doesn't say that he drinks rarely, though. Just that it's a rare occasion for him to spend the night out with his wife getting wasted. Which is normal.
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FMguru posted:There were updates, much of which were abuse-specific and don't need to be reposted here (stepdad abused OP's husband, MIL looked the other way, he has a lot of anger about that for some reason), but husband decided to stay with OP: On the other hand, husband could have just said "it's about abuse, stop asking please" and she might have left well-enough alone. Some people just don't understand that this is the reality for some kids growing up. I hate that I know about some of the horrible poo poo out there.
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May 16, 2024 19:37
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Meanwhile, I'm sitting here wondering why they need to get a hotel for a wedding only 45 min away.
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atomicdream posted:Meanwhile, I'm sitting here wondering why they need to get a hotel for a wedding only 45 min away.
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May 16, 2024 19:43
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Halloween Jack posted:Yeah, you don't have to be an alcoholic to be a dysfunctional drinker. If you don't drink often but can't even imagine not getting completely wasted when you do, it's a problem. This is very accurate, if he's 'pre-gaming' for a goddamn wedding he has a bad relationship with alchohol, period. Really, 'I was pre-gaming for a wedding' is the kind of phrase that should inspire self-relection even if you spend most of your time stone sober.
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May 16, 2024 19:44
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wheatpuppy posted:AITA for telling my coworker that her clothes were inappropriate for the office? I can't imagine someone writing that out and not coming away thinking they were being an rear end in a top hat. The rear end in a top hat tone is just dripping from their writing style.
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May 16, 2024 19:49
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Bifner McDoogle posted:This is very accurate, if he's 'pre-gaming' for a goddamn wedding he has a bad relationship with alchohol, period. Really, 'I was pre-gaming for a wedding' is the kind of phrase that should inspire self-relection even if you spend most of your time stone sober.
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May 16, 2024 19:50
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Whorelord posted:AITAH for eliminating a rattle snake after it threatened my niece and nephew? quote:I felt like kind of a hero. Yeah this guy can go and get hosed. Ex and sister at least called him out on it but what a piece of poo poo to go hunt out an animal that's harming no one and kill it in order to feel like a big man.
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May 16, 2024 19:51
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mom and dad fight a lot posted:This is exactly what I thought it was, and I couldn't agree more. Bullshit, you don't have to explain yourself to anyone when it comes to going no contact with a family member.
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May 16, 2024 19:51
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The only thing more insufferable than dry weddings are the weird, puritan, neo-prohibitionist types who are convinced that anyone who enjoys drinking at parties is an alcoholic.
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May 16, 2024 19:51
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Yeah, and this same exact argument happens every time a dry wedding is mentioned.
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May 16, 2024 19:53
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Bifner McDoogle posted:This is very accurate, if he's 'pre-gaming' for a goddamn wedding he has a bad relationship with alchohol, period. Really, 'I was pre-gaming for a wedding' is the kind of phrase that should inspire self-relection even if you spend most of your time stone sober. Not to mention, isn't the point of the wedding the *people*? Shouldn't he care more about spending time celebrating with a friend on their big day? Someone he's supposed to love and cherish enough to go to said wedding? Instead of wanting an excuse to party and get drunk with his wife? Having kids is no excuse, plenty of adults with kids find a way to have a date night without making it their friends' problems, let alone on said friends' weddings. OP is the only rear end in a top hat here. Insisting that you be told if there's alcohol or not at any party and only getting pissy when it's said to be dry is the real silly thing to do. If you're used to making all your family events dry, you probably just forget to mention it on the public invites, if only because mentioning it can be triggering to recovering alcoholics. They're not assholes for wanting to drink, they're assholes for assuming that someone would provide the exact party scenario they wanted, and getting pissy/entitled when they didn't. The wedding couple didn't expect the OP to pay for all those things to attend their wedding. Would it be nice to state that a family event is dry? Yes. Is it rear end in a top hat behavior to not make it explicit on documentation? Not automatically, especially when it wasn't even like they were expecting the guests to pick between the wedding and say New Years or some other holiday associated with alcohol. It wasn't even a long wedding. The fact that OP stated that they probably would not have shown up at all if they knew it was dry is telling. Do you love your friend? Or just the excuse to get drunk? Goddamned weddings, man. Edit: Wanting a drink is fine, its the entitlement that is the problem. If it's such a dealbreaker for you if the wedding is dry, ask. If it's such a dealbreaker if the wedding is wet, ask. Don't assume, some cultures/religions forbid alcohol at all!
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Stoner Sloth posted:Yeah this guy can go and get hosed. Yeah, that's a terrible one, but based on the comments I think they're just trying to rile people up. I'll usually leave it be if I think a story's fake, but at least for this one, that means that I don't think a snake was actually bludgeoned to death.
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May 16, 2024 19:59
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Stoner Sloth posted:Yeah this guy can go and get hosed. 50 feet off the drat trail. Don’t go off the loving trails!!!
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mom and dad fight a lot posted:On the other hand, husband could have just said "it's about abuse, stop asking please" and she might have left well-enough alone.
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May 16, 2024 20:02
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The water to wine story in the Bible was actually assholes trying to pull a fast one and have a dry wedding. Fortunately Jesus performed a miracle and saved the day!
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May 16, 2024 20:03
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AKA Pseudonym posted:AITA for sending a venmo request for babysitter, hotel and uber reimbursement after a dry wedding? He's an rear end in a top hat for not using his brain. I had the same wedding experience and a lot of the guests were muttering, "WTF". The couple were most definitely drinkers. But instead of being a bitch about it a few of our cousins got together, pooled some cash, and sent two of us out to the nearest liquor store. Left the beer and wine coolers in the car, slammed a couple, then spread the word that if you wanted a drink to go out to our car. Pairs of people were discreetly stepping out for a few minutes for the rest of the night. The music and dancing was very good though. Fun.
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May 16, 2024 20:05
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Halloween Jack posted:Look I'm sorry but this kind of criticism drives me absolutely crazy. Why is it OP's husband's responsibility to make absolutely sure that there's no conceivable way his feelings could be misinterpreted by an utterly clueless loving idiot?
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May 16, 2024 20:07
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Internetjack posted:He's an rear end in a top hat for not using his brain.
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May 16, 2024 20:09
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Captain Hygiene posted:Yeah, that's a terrible one, but based on the comments I think they're just trying to rile people up. I'll usually leave it be if I think a story's fake, but at least for this one, that means that I don't think a snake was actually bludgeoned to death. Yeah I hope so. That poo poo makes me genuinely angry, I used to work with venomous snakes (getting their venom to make anti-venom) and unfortunately people do this sort of poo poo a lot. Partly it infuriates me cause someone else is taking genuine risks of getting bit in order to save some stupid rear end in a top hat doing this poo poo, but mostly cause snakes are cool and good and no one should treat animals this way.
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May 16, 2024 20:10
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Sweet, delicious payback. AITAH for announcing our pregnancy at my sister's engagement party after she ruined my proposal? quote:When my girlfriend and I decided to get engaged, we wanted it to be a special moment between us. So, I made it clear to my family, especially my sister, that I didn't want any grand gestures or interruptions during the proposal.
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I read that one this morning and I'm YTA on this. Why is this even a problem. Why is your sister interrupting your romantic dinner even a concern. When I proposed to my spouse the only people who could interrupt were swans. Was this romantic dinner at the only restaurant in a town of 100 people where OP's whole family lives? Baron Zephyrus posted:Not to mention, isn't the point of the wedding the *people*? Shouldn't he care more about spending time celebrating with a friend on their big day? Halloween Jack fucked around with this message at 20:20 on May 16, 2024 |
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May 16, 2024 20:18
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FMguru posted:Sweet, delicious payback. Wait, this person told their family where and when they were going to propose, somehow had the foresight to say, "don't crash our private dinner" because they knew that was a possibility (?), but didn't consider just not telling the sister where and when it was going to happen?
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May 16, 2024 20:20
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You need other person hiding in the bushes to take pictures of your proposal. If one cannot be located, the universe will instead gift you a Japanese tourist who happens to be walking by at the right time.
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May 16, 2024 20:26
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KoRMaK posted:how did the people getting married feel about this No one got poo poo-faced. They didn't have a clue.
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Pope Corky the IX posted:Yeah, and this same exact argument happens every time a dry wedding is mentioned. Right but THIS time everyone who's on the wrong side will be convinced and we'll have settled the argument.
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May 16, 2024 20:34
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Wii Spawn Camper posted:“California sober” specifically means you don’t drink but you do smoke weed, and maybe other drugs too. "I'm California sober" <slaps 5 fentanyl patches on, eats a pound of edibles>
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BOOTY-ADE posted:"I'm California sober" <slaps 5 fentanyl patches on, eats a pound of edibles> Gosh, people see one picture of a junkie on a bender in the middle of a street in <insert large city in CA because there's dozens to choose from> and they think everyone from CA is like that.
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SyNack Sassimov posted:Right but THIS time everyone who's on the wrong side will be convinced and we'll have settled the argument. I'm a big fan of Ben Shapiro's philosophy: wet wedding, bone dry wedding night
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May 16, 2024 20:46
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I 26F missed my bf’s 24M white coat ceremony (PA school) to go on a birthday trip. I regret it but he's ignoring me. How can I apologize?quote:I acted very immaturely and my friends talked some sense into me. My bf Mike and I have been with each other 4 years now. Our relationship is great but he feels that I don't prioritize him, and I think he was right. I did something dumb and he hasn't talked to me in a few days. After op receives a ton of comments deriding her: quote:I’ve admitted I was wrong. Why is no one trying to help me make it up to him? Womp womp
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DemoneeHo posted:I 26F missed my bf’s 24M white coat ceremony (PA school) to go on a birthday trip. I regret it but he's ignoring me. How can I apologize? quote:I know when I get back I have some serious things to do to make this up to him but Im open to ideas
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Ominous Jazz posted:i don't think there's a reason you could give that doesn't look bad ?? The guy said that they're busy parents that don't get out much, and so they thought it would be a fun night out where they could have a good time partying with their friends at a wedding and did the responsible thing and got an uber and a hotel room and a babysitter etc etc. A 45-minute uber both ways + hotel room + sitter would easily run you something like $400 or more depending on your area. I'd be pissed, too, if I spent $400 being responsible and found out that it was all totally unnecessary & a waste because the event was actually dry. He's a passive aggressive weeny for the dippy invoice poo poo but he's not wrong to be pissed off about it. If anything maybe people want to know that it'll be a dry wedding so they don't pre-game, cause showing up already lit to a sober wedding is a little loving awkward
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Wii Spawn Camper posted:
GOALS Hold wedding ceremony Greet guests Eat stuff Dance Leave THREATS/SOLUTIONS Rain/rent tent Bugs/bug spray as favors Great-Uncle Lenny's cha-cha/ask Lenny's wife to distract him Great-Aunt Agatha on the sauce again/NO SOLUTION POSSIBLE
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DemoneeHo posted:I 26F missed my bf’s 24M white coat ceremony (PA school) to go on a birthday trip. I regret it but he's ignoring me. How can I apologize? Lol, getting yelled at by the folks you're on the trip with is a fun new wrinkle, I was expecting the usual story of them helping convince OP that the trip would be more important to go on.
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Captain Hygiene posted:Lol, getting yelled at by the folks you're on the trip with is a fun new wrinkle, I was expecting the usual story of them helping convince OP that the trip would be more important to go on. quote:I tried to explain “sistas before mistas” and they told me to grow up, and said your bf of 4 years Is not a “mista”. Yeah, you don't usually get people on the fun trip saying "grow up, you idiot, your BF/GF is not just a mista/ho".
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Does she even like her boyfriend? What's the point of the relationship?
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Arsenic Lupin posted:GOALS SOLUTION: Set Great-Aunt Agatha up with the pre-gaming party couple who have a babysitter for the first time in 6 years and make everyone's dreams come true Pope Corky the IX posted:Does she even like her boyfriend? What's the point of the relationship? I feel like "my friends are more important than you always" maybe points to no, she doesn't
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SyNack Sassimov posted:Right but THIS time everyone who's on the wrong side will be convinced and we'll have settled the argument. He should have brought a GO bag (Gin Only) DemoneeHo posted:I 26F missed my bf’s 24M white coat ceremony (PA school) to go on a birthday trip. I regret it but he's ignoring me. How can I apologize? That is impressive, those Lord of the Rings movies are long
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Return of the CKing
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I think the specific fetish of the White Coat is kinda dumb, but that's not relevant, she just sucks.
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