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Ocean Book posted:unless im reading the post wrong, every incidence she described is she couldnt control her drinking and grey-ed out. if you mean the thing from before she started drinking, thats just regular human thought to occasionally be confronted by the arbitrariness of the conditions one finds oneself in, its not a symptom of a mental disorder. Is it normal to suddenly "not recognize your own life"??? I guess I'm not normal, then.
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Boyfriend (23M) overreacted to my(23F) prank or is that what he actually feels?quote:So my boyfriend usually loves to play pranks on me, like telling me things are not going to plan if I am looking forward to something...then take it so far until I am about to break down, and then he tells me it was a joke. It's been 3 years and now I usually take whatever he says with a pinch of salt.
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# ? Feb 18, 2018 00:25 |
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Hughlander posted:Boyfriend (23M) overreacted to my(23F) prank or is that what he actually feels? Pranks: not even once.
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I [28F] am dating a new guy [28M] who always talks about how great he is at oral. He's a nice guy but it's starting to creep me out. How can I get him to stop?Relationships 5 points 10 comments submitted 2 years ago by beachgirl877 to r/relationships I met him on Tinder (okay, I know...) and on Tinder he said hello and then quickly after regaled me with how he loved "pleasing ladies." He didn't get into graphic detail and he was very attractive, so I met up with him. On our first date, he brought up sex after a few drinks and it seemed somewhat natural. Then he goes "I'm not going to lie, I'm a vagitarian, and I sustain myself on pussy." I chalked it up to being a goofy thing he said when drunk, and since it takes a while for me to trust someone enough to have sex, I told him he'd have to wait a while. I think he has taken this as a fun challenge. We have been on four or five dates now. He hasn't pressured me to have SEX at all, but the next time we got dinner, he opened the menu and said "Is pussy on the menu? Huh? Huh?" and when I laughed and said no he goes "Well, I guess the quinoa salad will do." Then when the waiter came by to ask what he wanted, he said, "other than the taste of a woman, you mean?" and the waiter looked super freaked out. We've made out and he is a very good kisser, but I told him I'd really like to get to know him better as a person before having sex. He has a great job, is good looking and volunteers. We have a lot of the same interests, but whenever he has even ONE drink he talks about how great he is at oral. I finally hit my breaking point when I took him to a party where my friends would be. I go into the bathroom to pee and when I come out, he's taken one of the tartlet hors d'oeurves and is licking it out with ferocity, while making eye contact with my friends. When I asked him about it, he said he was just telling them about his favorite pastime...you guessed it...eating pussy. I told him I dont want to hear any more about it...he told me he would only stop talking about it if I let him do it. Now it just feels like extortion. I would get rid of him completely, but I'm a real introvert and it can be really hard for me to meet men, especially men with similar interests, good looks and good jobs. So what do I do? Is there any way I can get him to stop this without ending it? tl;dr: New guy constantly talks about how good he is at oral, it's freaking everybody out.
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quote:Me [35F] with my brother [43M] are having a difference of opinion with our parents willNon-Romantic For the love of god, set up an airtight estate.
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Pick posted:Then when the waiter came by to ask what he wanted, he said, "other than the taste of a woman, you mean?" and the waiter looked super freaked out. The waiter thought he was cannibal, otherwise he would've high fived him and said something about how nice that comment was, probably something like "Nice!"
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# ? Feb 18, 2018 00:48 |
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Welcome back Pick.
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dudeness posted:The waiter thought he was cannibal, otherwise he would've high fived him and said something about how nice that comment was, probably something like "Nice!" "im great at oral" is literally how guys tell u they have tiny willy honestly women would way rather hear "i have tiny willy but am a functional person and not an insecure wreck" however good luck with that
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Pick posted:I [28F] am dating a new guy [28M] who always talks about how great he is at oral. He's a nice guy but it's starting to creep me out. How can I get him to stop?Relationships Did she meet up with this guy? NWS https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lZneYxAjOsc
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# ? Feb 18, 2018 00:53 |
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Imo there are a lot of guys, whether they're submissive or whatever their deal is, who legit have a fetish for going down on women, but they're generally creepy about it (as in the example) plus they're always terrible at it because their goal is to please themselves and not you.
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# ? Feb 18, 2018 00:53 |
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The ultimate self own is continuing to date this weirdo but also not getting any oral out of it
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# ? Feb 18, 2018 00:57 |
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Anne Whateley posted:Imo there are a lot of guys, whether they're submissive or whatever their deal is, who legit have a fetish for going down on women, but they're generally creepy about it (as in the example) plus they're always terrible at it because their goal is to please themselves and not you. On the other hand, I've met way too many women, exclusively in the US and Canada, who are dead-set against receiving oral. Never happened in Israel, or with women who came here from overseas.
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Pick posted:"im great at oral" is literally how guys tell u they have tiny willy That and just saying they have a tiny willy when anyone discusses willy size.
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Absurd Alhazred posted:On the other hand, I've met way too many women, exclusively in the US and Canada, who are dead-set against receiving oral. Never happened in Israel, or with women who came here from overseas. American women have a very complicated relationship with their genitals. We literally have commercials for special wipes, sprays, and washes to lowkey tell you you should be worrying about pussy odors at all times. Your pussy is stinky is a mainstay in advertisement towards women.
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Absurd Alhazred posted:On the other hand, I've met way too many women, exclusively in the US and Canada, who are dead-set against receiving oral. Never happened in Israel, or with women who came here from overseas. Ewwww. Sin comes from there. Why would you want to put the lips you use to praise Jesus anywhere near such a vipers’ nest?
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# ? Feb 18, 2018 01:24 |
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Pvt.Scott posted:Ewwww. Sin comes from there. Why would you want to put the lips you use to praise Jesus anywhere near such a vipers nest? I'm not talking about deeply religious Christian women, who probably wouldn't want to date a secular Israeli Jew anyway.
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Absurd Alhazred posted:I'm not talking about deeply religious Christian women, who probably wouldn't want to date a secular Israeli Jew anyway. there are definitely some religious Christian women (and men!) who have a weird "thing" for Jews, secular or not, and I'm sure being Israeli only adds to the exoticism.
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Earwicker posted:there are definitely some religious Christian women (and men!) who have a weird "thing" for Jews, secular or not, and I'm sure being Israeli only adds to the exoticism. Okay? Anyway, I'm saying that's not where I think it was coming from, considering the women I've dated here. Anyway, this is getting kind of weird. My [32m] girlfriend [34f] has a unique way of coping with situations and its driving us apart quote:Tl;dr girlfriend emotionally pukes on me and it frustrates me. I dont know how to deal any more. Convince her to go to a real therapist?
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Absurd Alhazred posted:Okay? Anyway, I'm saying that's not where I think it was coming from, considering the women I've dated here. see the problem with putting the tl;dr first is i get disappointed when i find out no actual puking was involved 'venting a whole bunch' isn't a unique way of coping goddamit
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# ? Feb 18, 2018 01:39 |
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Absurd Alhazred posted:My [32m] girlfriend [34f] has a unique way of coping with situations and its driving us apart lmao at this guy who hasn't realized when your SO is blabbering away over the phone that you can just move it away from your head so you dont have to listen. just say "yeah" and "uh huh" and "right" every so often until the talking stops Brother Entropy posted:'venting a whole bunch' isn't a unique way of coping goddamit yeah it's pretty normal but this is exactly what therapists are for, people you pay to listen to your problems it's not a big deal to vent to your spouse so long as you can keep it brief. but otherwise your spouse is one of the last people you should do this to. friends are better, pets, even strangers on the bus https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7zvaBYIXa64 boner confessor fucked around with this message at 01:44 on Feb 18, 2018 |
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Absurd Alhazred posted:Okay? Anyway, I'm saying that's not where I think it was coming from, considering the women I've dated here. and change your phone number, because she'll just call you to vent about her dickhead ex boyfriend that dumped her for not listening to her.
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# ? Feb 18, 2018 01:45 |
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JFC, that isn't even venting. Why does she need the boyfriend to vent to if she wants zero sounds from his end and zero understanding of what's going on? Rant to a literal brick wall with a face drawn on.
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# ? Feb 18, 2018 01:51 |
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Midnight Voyager posted:JFC, that isn't even venting. Why does she need the boyfriend to vent to if she wants zero sounds from his end and zero understanding of what's going on? Rant to a literal brick wall with a face drawn on. Because sometimes just venting poo poo out is all someone needs and someone trying to play "fix it" is not what they need or want. It sounds like she needs more friends because her bf clearly doesn't want to fill this role. Just sit there and nod, at the end say something like "wow they really sucks," and move on
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# ? Feb 18, 2018 02:01 |
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Absurd Alhazred posted:My [32m] girlfriend [34f] has a unique way of coping with situations and its driving us apart
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Absurd Alhazred posted:I'm not talking about deeply religious Christian women, who probably wouldn't want to date a secular Israeli Jew anyway. Haha. There’s just a pervasive undercurrent of body and sexuality shaming in America, stemming in part from Puritanical and Great Revival roots. You don’t have to be religious to be influenced by it. It’s just there, expressing itself quietly. I was just funnin.
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# ? Feb 18, 2018 02:07 |
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Uhhh so way to body/sex shame the poo poo out of women when don’t like oral
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# ? Feb 18, 2018 02:16 |
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“It must be because other men put bad ideas in their heads!! Because I want to do it to them so it’s hosed up if they physically don’t enjoy that sensation!!”
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Absurd Alhazred posted:My [32m] girlfriend [34f] has a unique way of coping with situations and its driving us apart Yeah! How dare she expect you to take an interest in her life, when everyone should know by now that you're the only one who matters. Better now, because the next thing you know, she'll be talking about the kids and expecting you to take an interest in them, too.
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# ? Feb 18, 2018 02:19 |
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A woman doesn’t enjoy a sex thing? From a man? Oh no—she’s broken!
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# ? Feb 18, 2018 02:19 |
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I'm not crazy about it either (unless the dude is really, really good at it, and they all think they are and most are wrong) but you can't deny that way too many American women are at least halfway convinced our genitals are like unto the Bog of Eternal Stench.
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# ? Feb 18, 2018 02:20 |
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That is true but oral just isn’t that great and I’d rather be doing something equally exciting and more productive, like my taxes
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# ? Feb 18, 2018 02:21 |
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Khazar-khum posted:Yeah! How dare she expect you to take an interest in her life, when everyone should know by now that you're the only one who matters. Better now, because the next thing you know, she'll be talking about the kids and expecting you to take an interest in them, too. If that's how she talks about the kids she might be telling him about their whole schedule for the 300th time while neglecting to mention that she called because Barbara's ill and he needs to go pick her up. I think he's complaining about these rants being one-sided and full of irrelevancies, not because she dares try and talk to him about things that affect her.
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# ? Feb 18, 2018 02:23 |
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Usually the guys who brag about their oral skills have all the finesse of a jackass eating corn through a picket fence.
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# ? Feb 18, 2018 02:25 |
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its a good thing to vent, its not a good thing to vent to the same person every time
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# ? Feb 18, 2018 02:26 |
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Those guys usually finished establishing their routines 10+ years ago, and if you don't come nonstop the problem isn't their routine, it's you, why are you so broken, what's wrong with you, everyone loves this e: no I won't finger you instead, everyone knows women love oral so much more, it's their favorite thing Anne Whateley fucked around with this message at 02:31 on Feb 18, 2018 |
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Anne Whateley posted:Those guys usually finished establishing their routines 10+ years ago, and if you don't come nonstop the problem isn't their routine, it's you, why are you so broken, what's wrong with you, everyone loves this Yeah, if they're not adapting to their partners they're bad at the sex, no matter how long they've been doing it.
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# ? Feb 18, 2018 02:35 |
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There are also plenty of guys who don't really like oral either (or anal) but socially it's now a Big Thing because it's the Type Of Sex That Means [X].
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# ? Feb 18, 2018 02:53 |
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datajugend posted:its a good thing to vent, its not a good thing to vent to the same person every time if you're going to vent at least be entertaining, and keep it short. there's nothing wrong with venting. the problem is when your vent is a 20+ minute ordeal and you regularly inflict it on the same person like, imagine if every other day your spouse went on at length about a minor star wars character and you just had to sit there and be an active listener on a subject where you have no input. i used to date a person like this and a big reason why we broke up is that i had to block out thirty minutes of my day just to nod and say "that sucks" over and over as she complained about her lunch getting cold because she had to take a phone call, or her shoes were too tight all day and she wanted to take them off at work but she couldn't and etc.etc. etc.
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# ? Feb 18, 2018 02:57 |
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Pick posted:There are also plenty of guys who don't really like oral either (or anal) but socially it's now a Big Thing because it's the Type Of Sex That Means [X]. They could just assert themselves and say “no thanks,” but that’d take effort and a spine, two areas most /r men are deficient in.
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13Pandora13 posted:Because sometimes just venting poo poo out is all someone needs and someone trying to play "fix it" is not what they need or want. I never said they should try to fix it. But interacting like a person you are talking to who understands what you are saying. "Oh, that's your next door neighbor, right?" "Oh, that sucks," loving conversation filler that you have in an actual conversation and not a monologue. It also needs a bare minimum of consideration from the person telling the story to clarify points that the other person doesn't seem to know (Who's Brenda?) or move on when the other person indicates they know the basics of their job. If you're just vomiting words to someone who does not comprehend a word you are saying and you want no response whatsoever, that's not venting, that's being an rear end in a top hat. Go get a pet to talk to or something. The other person is clearly not needed for this. It feels weird to have to tell someone that ranting is still a conversation you are having with another human and that you should treat them as such.
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