loquacius posted:

I (45/M) kinda have a crush on this girl (n/a) who I met while out hunting but I think she might be Bugs Bunny (1/M) in a disguise. Advice?

Caganer posted:

Caganer posted:

datajugend posted:

of course it isnt real. how would you not be able to tell the difference between a grown man you have seen every day for 19 years and a teenage girl, a wig and make up isnt gonna hide that

datajugend posted:

of course it isnt real. how would you not be able to tell the difference between a grown man you have seen every day for 19 years and a teenage girl, a wig and make up isnt gonna hide that

Bogus Adventure posted:

You should pursue her, but bring a shotgun just in case.

Baronjutter posted:

That's about the age when serious mental illnesses crop up in dudes.

Baronjutter posted:

That's about the age when serious mental illnesses crop up in dudes.

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This is basically an open diary entry. But I'm sitting here having a sort of eureka moment.

Realizations: It's not the end of the world if someone doesn't like me. And getting to know people is the only way to take them off the pedestal.

Case in point: Randomly met an attractive young man a couple of weeks ago. He asked for my number, and I happily obliged. He asked me to coffee last Tuesday. I thought it went well, enjoyed his company, and he said "let's do this again sometime." So I was excited at the prospect.

Wednesday came and Thursday followed. Friday came. I started freaking out. I hadn't been thinking too much about it before Friday. By Saturday I was full-scale panicking.

Then I remembered on the coffee date, we realized his cousin is my good friend in town (small world). So on the date he had said we should hang out with her, then as we were leaving he repeated that we should hang out with her. I said, "I'm literally going to text her right now." Which I did, but I was just like "Guess who I just went out with?!" and didn't connect that I had implied I would make plans between the three of us.

Then I started spazzing and playing the game in my mind - 'Well, if he hasn't texted me since Tuesday and it's Saturday, he's probably not interested, so if I follow up I might look like a tool.'

And it was like... 'drat girl. WHY do you think you are a tool for following through on arranging a group outing he suggested that you implied you would set up? Just text him.'

So I was like, hey... I am going to see your cousin tomorrow then I'll group text you guys. He was like, 'Great to hear from you! Let me know.'

So even if he's not romantically inclined towards me, he's cool people and a friendship is valuable if we can forge one. I look forward to dinner with him and his cousin. Also since I don't actually know the guy, I don't need to freak out if he isn't in love with me after a coffee date!

I'm also realizing when you don't know someone, every single thing they do feels like a huge sign or comes off as way more significant than it may actually be. If the events aforementioned transpired with someone I wasn't romantically piqued by, I'd be like oh whatevs.

Thanks for listening, Reddit.

Caganer posted:

Realizing how much I put men on pedestals. (self.dating_advice)

andrew smash posted:

Why did you post that

Baronjutter posted:

That's about the age when serious mental illnesses crop up in dudes.

andrew smash posted:

Why did you post that

Buzkashi posted:

Incident at Street Fighter Tournament (Washington)


"I saw 'HONDA' and thought we were still fighting"

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Need outside perspective. My wife’s family owns an orchard, not big, but big enough to support a couple of families. Wife’s brother couldn’t deal with college, so he went back to the farm after a few odd jobs. He’s worked there for 10 years or so, maybe 5 years full time. Wife went to college, and stayed away for 14 years. She would come back to help during harvest. After the 14 years, she came back to the farm. About that same time we met and married. Our marriage is great. My wife’s life dream is to build a house in the farm, and we are starting with the designs. Now this is my dream too.

Three years ago wife’s mom, owner of farm, decides to let the kids work it full time. Wife and brother formed a partnership, and wife had high hopes. Wife’s brother seems to be all in, but conflict starts happening. Wife’s brother was never too excited my wife had come back, and had brought his feelings several times, but wife thought it was because of the heat of the moment. My wife probably worked 30% of her time on the farm because we have two toddlers, the brother was working the farm full time.

Last fight was the final straw for my wife, she no longer wants to work with her brother. It is clear to us he just wants my wife out of the picture so he can have the whole farm after his mom passes. Seeing my wife and her brother can’t work together, the mom decides to split the farm now, but gives the brother something like 75% and my wife 30%. My wife got upset because: 1. Feels brother has betrayed her, was really nasty to her, he has been sneaky and undermined her with her mom, he always wanted her gone. 2. Wife’s mom always had a preference for son, and this kind of reaffirmed that. My viewpoint was that, with 30% of farm and my job, we had enough. We could build the house, work our part of the farm and be ok. Wife’s mom had back and forths with son, who was trying to convince his mom to leave him more.

Wife’s mom called a family meeting today, with my wife and I, and her son and his wife. We did not know what to expect, but my approach was: let’s avoid all conflict, see what we get and be happy with it. So I told my wife to just be quiet and not respond to whatever her brother would say. During the meeting, my wife’s mom just explained herself and did not change much the division of the land, but my wife’s brother spoke like he had been putting a lot of effort into the partnership and that he is open to try again if we wanted. Obviously he is full of it, he doesn’t want that, but sounded really nice to his mom. My wife kept her promise and didn’t reply. I tried to be pragmatic and find a way to move forward.

My wife’s brother innocent stand really pissed my wife, and I think I blew it by asking her not to speak. I think my judgment was wrong and she should have just rebutted her brother. I’m certain that would have ended in yells and name calling, but maybe gave her a chance to say her piece. My wife says she feels like an idiot for not saying anything. Now she is certain she wants to go no contact with her brother. But if we decide to build the house and stay in the farm, we would be living really close.

Here are my questions: 1. Was I wrong in telling her not to respond? (I think so, but what you think?) 2. What would you do, give up the house dream and the farm and just go away, or stay and go no contact with brother even though he lives down the road? Any comments or related experiences welcomed.

tl;dr: My wife got a bad deal in farm inheritance, wondering if we should leave it all or stay and go no contact with her brother

Bored posted:

Did I miss something? Like, that is a huge dose of xanax, but it is not a hallucinogen. Did he take something else?

I never took more than what was prescribed when a psychiatrist prescribed it for me a decade ago, but I think I illegally took 10mg last year and just had a nice night where I made new friends laugh because I wasn't terrified of embarrassing myself.

I can't imagine getting angry or hallucinating on Xanax alone.

Skutter posted:

Yeah, if you read the thread, the guy is clearly mentally ill when he argues with the other Redditors about how the woman is definitely his dad somehow (because she can only see him after 8PM, when his dad is usually asleep, and she has a masculine build, something about how his dad might have two phones, etc.). It's really weird and really sad.

LadyPictureShow posted:

That is a huge dose, but since he says ‘inebriated’ I’m kind of assuming he’d been drinking too.

https://americanaddictioncenters.org/xanax-treatment/mixing-with-alcohol/

Looking on that site, it says if you’re blitzed on both it can make you irritable/aggressive and give you cognition issues.

Dude’s a dumbass either way. Don’t mix your downers, kiddo.

I was prescribed a high dose of Xanax back in my ‘prescribed every goddamn med to see if it helps’ days. It made me feel super-mellow and sleepy and all I did was crush a ridiculous amount of all-you-can-eat crab legs one night.

Caganer posted:

Caganer posted:

You really aren't supposed to prescribe it as a daily drug, you will get addicted. It's got really wicked withdrawal (or so I've heard) - I purposefully never take it 2 days in a row.

Ziv Zulander posted:

Benzos are one of the only two things that can kill you from withdrawal. The other is alcohol.

loquacius posted:

UPDATE: she bent the barrel back so it pointed at my face and now I'm all covered in soot and my hat is ruined

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Hey Reddit, first off I am sorry for the title-gore but I am very shocked, upset and unsure what to do about a situation that occurred today. I am using a throwaway and all names have been changed but here are the details.

My youngest sister, let’s call her Mary, is best friends with a very nice girl called ‘Alice’. They have been best friends for years and I was surprised to find out only a few months ago that Alice’s mum, let’s call her Meredith, is my son’s sports teacher at school. My son, let’s call him Ben, attends a Special Education school as he is autistic. He started Prep this year at this school and is doing marvelously. I am so happy and proud of his progress.

I am a single mother. Ben was raised without a father as his dad, let’s call him Max, unfortunately committed suicide several years ago. So I raised Ben alone and he has no memory of his father at all. I am an extremely private person, more so after that happened, but I have great open communication with Ben’s school and they had been nothing but supportive and wonderful with Ben and myself. The only time I have ever had to address questions from the school about Max was filling in Ben’s history form for his school file when enrolling him and in discussing with the principal and school psychologist. But that was it. No other teachers or carers have approached me with any question in regards to that matter.

But today that changed when Mary and Alice were driven by Meredith to an entertainment center for a day trip. The entire length of the trip, both there and back, my sister was barraged with questions by Meredith about Max, myself and Ben.

Questions such as: ‘So how is TeacherProblem's situation? (aka me being a young single parent) Does Ben remember his dad?’ ‘Does he know what his dad did?’ ‘Do you know how Max did it?’ 'Is TeacherTrouble doing anything to remember him by?' ‘What was his Max’s last name?’ ‘Where does Max’s family live?’ 'Are they local? I bet they are local.' ‘Does TeacherTrouble still keep in contact with Max’s family?’ ‘Do you think she is a good mum? I think it’s wrong how young she had a child…’

Question after question to try and wittle as much information as she could get out of my sister, who was a complete champ and answered none of the questions as she was very shocked about it all. But when my sister got home at the end of the day she immediately walked over to my house and told me all that had been said by Meredith. Also Alice had been very embarrassed about the interrogation but had not said a word during the whole incident.

It was upsetting for both of us, as I was absolutely furious that Meredith had put my sister in that position in the first place but that she felt it was appropriate to ask such questions when they do not relate to her role as a teacher to my son. Or anything in general at all except that she is being very nosy. It is very unethical and unprofessional of her to do so. But apparently it was not the first time that Meredith had spoken of me to my sister.

My son has a very strict diet and I work very hard, along with a wonderful nutritionist, to make sure my son gets all of his vitamins and minerals but will also enjoy his lunch, which I make every day. My sister said that Meredith is one of those ‘ scary health food yuppies’ where they believe there is poison in every food you are a terrible person if you don’t eat organic. But several times she has been very insulting about me towards my sister about the food Ben has in his lunch and that ‘if it were her, she would do things differently’.

I had met Meredith several times at school earlier this year and she had seemed like a very nice woman to me upon introduction. Maybe a little over-enthusiastic about some achievements Ben had made during sports and wanted to know everything about what I was studying at university, but nothing suspicious to have risen any major red-flags at the time.

I am very upset about this whole venture and I don’t know what to do. I am saddened my sister was put in that position, but even worse is that my son’s teacher is being extremely nosy and has overstepped her boundaries. I don’t know if there is a word to exactly what it is she has done here, but I only know that it isn’t right. Is there anything I can do? I have not approached her or any authorities at school as it is still term holidays, but school will start up again next week.

I don’t know how to go about this but it seems that Meredith is having an unhealthy obsession about all of this. Am I wrong? Am I over-reacting? What are your thoughts and opinions? Thank you for reading, I really do appreciate it.

tl;dr: My son’s sports teacher has been asking my sister very inappropriate questions about me while driving my sister and her daughter to places. The questions are about me, my son and his father who committed suicide a few years ago. I am hurt and shocked and want to know if there is anything I can do about this as I feel it is a breach of privacy.

Edit: Oh my goodness!!! I just got up this morning and I'm overwhelmed with how much attention this has gotten. Thank you to all who replied! I will make my way through every comment now.

Haifisch posted:

My youngest sister (f/16) told me (f/26) that my son’s (m/5) sports teacher (f/40’s), who is her best friend’s (f/16) mum, is asking inappropriate questions about me. I don’t know what to do…

loquacius posted:

We need a way to like double everyone's BMR, get The Scientists working on that one pls Simmering

Haifisch posted:

Me [41 M] with my wife [40 F], received a bad deal with family farm, wondering if we should abandon ship or stay

cock hero flux posted:

there's actually a drug that does this but it's been banned for human consumption for nearly 100 years because it turns out that massively reducing your body's efficiency when it comes to using energy from food causes you to release the unused energy as heat, and taking even slightly too much causes you to boil your own organs and die. also sometimes it makes you go blind even if you don't microwave yourself

needless to say people on the internet buy the stuff from industrial suppliers and snort it to lose weight instead of jogging or eating less food

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Plainly, I feel like I'm being followed by a friend of mine since about January, we've known each other (mainly online) for about 4 years in a manga translation group.
We're pretty close friends and have traveled to Japan together before in smallish groups, but last Dec/Jan most of them decided not to go and it was just as in the Airbnb room.
We had tons of fun together, she went to comiket for the first time in her life (because I wouldn't buy her gay hentai for her), and generally bonded much closer as friends.

Found out that she actually lives a lot closer than I thought, just a 40 minute drive away in fact, and we met up a few times. But since then we've had waaay to many coincidental meetups, like I first I thought that I was just noticing her more since I found out she lives close but drat it's literally almost every time I've left the house.
I don't go out often but we always seem to run into each other when I do, and she's always going out alone, and she always joins me. I'm literally counting 9 times out of 10 here.
One time that freaked me out was one night where she came to my apartment unannounced because she "was in the area and wanted to say hi", when there should be absolutely no way for her to find out where I lived. I asked everyone in our group if anyone told her and they said they didn't even know my address.

From talking to her I know she has few friends, if at all, besides me. She knows that most of the TL group don't like her because of her associated archetype and only "deal" with her because she's an extremely talented translator. On the other hand I find her extremely pleasant and fun to talk to
Is this just a really long series of extremely unlikely coincidences or is she actually following me and somehow tracking me down?
It's loving freaking me out because there should be no way for her to know where I live or where I'm going what the gently caress, if she is following me what am I supposed to do?

TLDR: Girl I knew for 4 years, but recently became much closer with, started appearing coincidentally everywhere I go. She somehow knew where I live and visited me even though the should be no way for her to find out. Is this just a lot of coincidences and I'm misunderstanding or am I being stalked/followed?

new phone who dis posted:

She probably hacked your "find my phone" app, dude.