MightyJoe36 posted:

Don't you mean Mike Pence?

Palemdromes posted:

No mention of horses; theory unlikely.

MightyJoe36 posted:

Guess I'm not current on my knowledge of uptight Republicans.

tactlessbastard posted:

If you think Mirthless was bad have you got a journey ahead of you

Haifisch posted:

My boyfriend [23m] is a huge stickler for rules and laws. I'm [22f] the opposite

Business Gorillas posted:

"My boyfriend is a fuckin nerd and I kick rear end, what do I do?"

tactlessbastard posted:

That's normal


It's even expected

Absurd Alhazred posted:

How do these couples get together is what I don't understand. What is the minimal commonality that they have that starts them dating and keeps them for a length of time?

Business Gorillas posted:

So did you read any of this post or did you string a couple words together and jump to a conclusion?

chippy posted:

I'm on page 2061 I just found this, and I'm determined to get to the end so I'm posting to say hi to my future self and also to say that Pick owns and I hope she still posts in this thread.

Also stfu Mirthless, Three Olives.

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(Other poster),

I wrote a couple of posts describing my life as a child used as a pawn to inflict pain on others and was a witness to both sides. It is common knowledge that grandchildren are usually treated like kings and queens as compared to the upbringing of their parents … it is a fact of life. So if your estranged son wants to deny this relationship, you know exactly what he is. If you need to do something for his children, pray for them because for all of the things he accuses you of, he will be 10 times worse to them!

Family = People who accept you as you are and you matter them. Family is not necessarily relatives.

I don’t buy all your son’s false bravado about protecting his children because the value of family ceases to exist in him. I am afraid that his value is more interested in inflicting pain and knowing that you are suffering. Charles Manson was kinder to his mother.

(Other poster), you do not have to remain in this situation. You can leave his sorry butt behind and your only loss is a poor excuse for a son, which is equal to a gain. I can only thank God almighty that I was spared the gut wrenching pain that you are enduring. I will not miss or long for a grandchild that I do not and will not know.

I am so sorry (Other poster) 🙁

Haifisch posted:

My boyfriend [23m] is a huge stickler for rules and laws. I'm [22f] the opposite

Pirate Radar posted:

The husband claims there’s no sex happening and no money changing hands and that his friend is a straight sex worker anyway... so why even mention that he’s a sex worker? Hmmmmmmmmmm

feedmegin posted:

I suspect that 'male sex worker who won't have sex with men' is a faaaairly slim demographic tbh

feedmegin posted:

I suspect that 'male sex worker who won't have sex with men' is a faaaairly slim demographic tbh

Splicer posted:

I screwed up and I'm about to lose everything [NY]

Baronjutter posted:

MightyJoe36 posted:

Don't you mean Mike Pence?

awkward_turtle posted:

I'm kinda bothered that the horses don't face the same way as the arrows in the second diagram. Is this the level of engineering were subjecting our horses to???

Play posted:

romney pence shlomney schpence they all the same

but you're right, pence is the dude that calls his wife "mother" and makes women extremely uncomfortable by telling them he can't be alone with them at any time

Beachcomber posted:

Their wives have the same problem.

A Wizard of Goatse posted:

Nobody will ever be impressed by or care about how you did your boring weddings 'correctly', or your "pro-tips", goons. Not even if they involve lizard loving.

Me [36F] with my husband [40M] Husband has been seeing a male prostitute for friendship? Need help understanding.

Nikita Khrushchev posted:

Back at it again reading r/childfree. Here is a dispatch from a dad who hates that his wife has become....a mom

https://www.reddit.com/r/childfree/comments/8ptqr1/cautionary_tale_from_someone_whose_wife_became_a/

Nikita Khrushchev posted:

Back at it again reading r/childfree. Here is a dispatch from a dad who hates that his wife has become....a mom

https://www.reddit.com/r/childfree/comments/8ptqr1/cautionary_tale_from_someone_whose_wife_became_a/

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[–]HenriLennui 353 points 4 months ago
Also, it seems clear that your wife sees the child not as a little person in her own right, but as an extension of herself. Your wife doesn't want to watch football with you, then of course your child doesn't either.

This is a red flag. If she tries to merge completely with the child, the child will not be able to grow up into an independent, mature person. It's a hell of a burden to put on a kid when the expectation is that the "cute baby" will fulfill all of Mommy's emotional needs.


[–]optoutsidethenorm 71 points 4 months ago
Seriously OP - PLEASE listen to this person. My mother did this to me and I'm still dealing with the psychological bullshit. PLEASE. Come on over to r/raisedbynarcissists and read a few stories if you need some convincing.


[–][deleted] 46 points 4 months ago
This made me think of codependency and r/raisedbynarcissists. I'm so sure that my mom was one of those people bc she won't even let me admire a man without telling me "he looks creepy" or "careful he doesn't rape you" which of course makes me too worried to consider dating without thinking of her ill-intentioned words. And she wonders why I'm never having children.

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Some background: My family has a long history of good spirited pranks for birthdays and Christmas. I'm not talking awful stuff where someone is the victim. Most of it is gift giving, and you usually know if you're the recipient of a prank, it's going to be a good gift.

To give a few examples, I got an XBox 360 that had been tucked inside a vacuum cleaner box (with the whole family talking about how nice it would be for me to be able to clean my apartment before suggesting I open it and "try it out"). My siblings and I often give presents wrapped in zip ties, duct tape and once even in a block of ice. My sister got her first iPhone that we put in the largest shipping box we could find, stuffed with crumbled up paper and packing peanuts that she had to dig through. We have a history of surprise parties as kids and as adults we often have surprise guests. Last year aunt secretly flew in for Thanksgiving and hid until she suddenly was sitting at the table when mom brought out the turkey. When my sister became pregnant with my parents first grandchild, she revealled it to the family via an acapella group. Like I said, this is all just good spirited fun, and no one has ever walked away hurt.

Soon after my brother became serious with the woman he eventually married, we came together to buy my brother a new motorcyle for his birthday. He was over the moon, but the actual key was in a box with two dozen fake keys. He was laughing the whole time he tried for the real one, but his girlfriend was appalled. She kept saying how mean this was. No matter how he explained it, she just thought we were bullying him. He loved it, and made Christmas ornaments out of the fake keys that year to give to each of us.

We have made a point not to include her in any pranks or surprises, but she still hates when we do it among ourselves.

She's so outspoken about hating pranks, she has just gone out of her way to ruin surprises. Thankfully, she isn't there for most holidays, so it hasn't been too profound. The worst was one of my nephews family birthday party. We left a note that his presents had been stolen by Bluebeard the pirate, and that he would have to unravel Bluebeards pirate map. This was going to lead to a series of puzzles, challenges and scavenger hunt activities that would take up the day... except she decided to ruin it. She took my nephew straight to his presents, saying we were mean to keep them from him. Instead of happy, he was devastated. We had done something similar for his sister, and he was looking forward to this. He still went through the challenges, but only after tears and it was half hearted without the prize at the end.

She doesn't get why what she did was wrong. ("He got his gifts and didn't need to do all that stuff!")

Which brings us to current date. My parents have retired, and we decided to do a huge family vacation to celebrate, and "give" them it for Christmas. This probably will be the most expensive thing we have done as a family. Obviously, we are booking now and arranging work schedules and passports. The plan is that we will each give them a present that's a "clue" to the big present and see if they can solve the riddle. Except, when my sister in law got wind of this, she said the day we book she is going to call my parents and tell them the whole thing. My brother is furious. My other siblings are furious. I've outright said if she ruins this surprise, she is dead to me. She is passive aggressively posting on Facebook about how we want to give an old couple a heart attack and she's the only kind one.

I don't know what words to use, how to make her get she is wrong here. Help?

Tl;dr: sister in law wants to spoil Christmas surprise. How do you stop a grinch?

Haifisch posted:

How to stop sister-in-law (24/F) from being a spoilsport.

Haifisch posted:

How to stop sister-in-law (24/F) from being a spoilsport.

Taima posted:

Wait you're like 70 and post in the r/relationships thread? lol

The Ferret King posted:

"Did my friend drug my husband?" I ask, as I post from my office on Reddit instead of from the emergency room where I took my presumably poisoned husband because I'm so genuinely concerned for his physical and mental health.

Have these people never heard of hospitals.

Blade Runner posted:

Let Bruce and Selina live their lives you fucks

Haifisch posted:

How to stop sister-in-law (24/F) from being a spoilsport.

Khazar-khum posted:

I'm nowhere near 70, sweetie. We got married young.

Haifisch posted:

How to stop sister-in-law (24/F) from being a spoilsport.

Haifisch posted:

How to stop sister-in-law (24/F) from being a spoilsport.