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Apr 25, 2006

Strong stroll for a mangy stray

Straight White Shark posted:

I remember overhearing my coworker's favorite radio host crowing all morning about the guest interview he had lined up with a former trans man who had detransitioned and was coming on the show to talk about her experiences giving up on transitioning and returning to life as her former gender.

He was so stoked about having a detransitioning story to gloat about, in fact, that he didn't really do his homework about the very well-adjusted and happy trans woman he had invited for what she thought was an interview about her successful transition.

kill your coworker

MasBrillante posted:

People have been annoying their partners with this since AT LEAST the existence of Polaroid instant film. Sometimes people just don’t have compatible ways of enjoying outings. It’s not some social media boogeyman.

It's nearly a mental illness to be incapable of enjoying something without feeling the need to show it to everyone. They ruin the good time by excessively trying to document it. It also doesn't say flattering things about the person's self-confidence and general groundedness. It's tiresome and immature and I know for sure I couldn't date a girl who was overly involved in that kind of thing.

Biohazard posted:

Yeah, I mean that much is true. Monsters don't come out of nowhere, they're pretty consistently made by other monsters.

Monsters come out of nowhere all the time. There's a bit of nature/nurture. Genetics and mental illnesses cause people to be monsters just as a person's environment and upbringing can.

Motherfucker posted:

Turns out you don't need to spend much when you contribute nothing to the maintenance of your household or the raising of your kids, who knew.

You don't need to use your mother pick up lines on us, motherfucker

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Peanut Butler
Jul 25, 2003



goddamn but that detective pikachu boy is a sad tale of the male inability to form close personal bonds with friends that they dont wanna gently caress, close enough that they can go out together and see a movie

also lol dude loving sucks, and will keep eating poo poo like that probably

Antivehicular
Dec 30, 2011


I wanna sing one for the cars
That are right now headed silent down the highway
And it's dark and there is nobody driving And something has got to give

Vim Fuego posted:

What's that, buried in this thread?

OH, IT'S THE LEDE

I feel like this isn't the first "parents never tell their child about a childhood psychiatric diagnosis" story we've had in this thread, and oh boy are they awful.

Motherfucker
Jul 16, 2011

I certainly dont have deep-seated issues involving birthdays.

Play posted:

You don't need to use your mother pick up lines on us, motherfucker

that was 21 pages ago...

DemoneeHo
Nov 9, 2017

Come on hee-ho, just give us 300 more macca


Vim Fuego posted:

What's that, buried in this thread?



OH, IT'S THE LEDE

Ooo, those parents really suck.

Guillotine them

MasBrillante
Dec 3, 2005

by Jeffrey of YOSPOS

Play posted:

kill your coworker


It's nearly a mental illness to be incapable of enjoying something without feeling the need to show it to everyone. They ruin the good time by excessively trying to document it. It also doesn't say flattering things about the person's self-confidence and general groundedness. It's tiresome and immature and I know for sure I couldn't date a girl who was overly involved in that kind of thing.


Monsters come out of nowhere all the time. There's a bit of nature/nurture. Genetics and mental illnesses cause people to be monsters just as a person's environment and upbringing can.


You don't need to use your mother pick up lines on us, motherfucker

Regardless of how you feel about people like that, they are not new people created in the crucible of Instagram is all I’m saying.

Haifisch
Nov 13, 2010

Objection! I object! That was... objectionable!



Taco Defender
Can a marriage (24F/24M) last if you don't watch TV together?

quote:

So, weird title I know but let me explain.

My husband and I have been together 4 years, married 1. No other relationship History for either of us.

We have next to no overlap in terms of movies, TV, music, books, games, etc. For a while we tried out what each other enjoyed but that was pretty unfulfilling for both of us. For instance, my husband loves heavy sci Fi movies and I don't even like movies at all. Seriously, I can't sit through movies or TV shows unless it's a cooking show or something. On my end, I love books but my husband hasn't read a book since high school. I love music but my husband hardly listens to it, except for video game soundtracks. The chasm is so wide there's basically no overlap at all.

So we just kind of do our own thing. We go out together, but in the house we just sort of share space.

The reason I'm worried about this now is because I've noticed that as people get older, the thing they tend to bond about is the media they consume. Shared shows, etc. My husband and I have none of that. I'm worried that as we get older, have kids, run out of time and energy for anything, we won't even have a show to fall back on or something.

Does anyone have any advice for me? I admit that my husband has tried, and occasionally he will watch jeopardy with me or something, but it's not something I really reciprocate. Anime just isn't my thing.

Tl;Dr my husband and I don't have movies, tv, books, games, or music in common. Wondering about long term health of our marriage.
Is it possible to bond over things that aren't passive media consumption? The world may never know.

coolskull
Nov 11, 2007

Haifisch posted:

Can a marriage (24F/24M) last if you don't watch TV together?

Is it possible to bond over things that aren't passive media consumption? The world may never know.

consider trying new hobbies together to spice things up. things like sitting quietly, digestion, and chores.

Pinecone Sample
Oct 12, 2010

THIS ACCOUNT HAS BEEN SEIZED
by the United States Federal Bureau of Investigation in accordance with a seizure warrant issued pursuant to 69 U.S.C Sec. 420
HELP! I'm a Gryffindor; he tries to eat pre-chewed gum off the sidewalk.

Beachcomber
May 21, 2007

Another day in paradise.


Slippery Tilde

Pinecone Sample posted:

HELP! I'm a Gryffindor; he tries to eat pre-chewed gum off the sidewalk.

They call those Hufflepuffs.

Barudak
May 7, 2007

That woman is greedy as hell. The average couple can barely afford an "our song" and she wants an entire show?

empty sea
Jul 17, 2011

gonna saddle my seahorse and float out to the sunset
He watches anime.

:sever:

Admiral Ray
May 17, 2014

Proud Musk and Dogecoin fanboy

Haifisch posted:

Can a marriage (24F/24M) last if you don't watch TV together?

Is it possible to bond over things that aren't passive media consumption? The world may never know.

quote:

I love music but my husband hardly listens to it, except for video game soundtracks.

:sever:

what the gently caress lady

:sever: :sever: :sever:

a good hobby you should try is divorce.

Beachcomber
May 21, 2007

Another day in paradise.


Slippery Tilde

Haifisch posted:

Can a marriage (24F/24M) last if you don't watch TV together?

Is it possible to bond over things that aren't passive media consumption? The world may never know.

She probably hasn't tried to find a nice sci-fi book they could both read.

Also, who doesn't like visual media?

Edit: I don't usually listen to videogame soundtracks, but every so often they're good for a nostalgia trip. Sim City 2000 got me right into the mindset again.

Beachcomber fucked around with this message at 01:29 on May 24, 2019

Barudak
May 7, 2007

Beachcomber posted:

She probably hasn't tried to find a nice sci-fi book they could both read.

Also, who doesn't like visual media?

Blind people?

dudeness
Mar 5, 2010

:minnie: Cat Army :minnie:
Fallen Rib
Nothing wrong with this, its just means their eventual children will learn to equally appreciate fine literature and City Escape. It's called a well rounded education.

Beachcomber
May 21, 2007

Another day in paradise.


Slippery Tilde

Barudak posted:

Blind people?

I almost mentioned that but I didn't want to deny someone else the pleasure.

Barudak
May 7, 2007

Beachcomber posted:

I almost mentioned that but I didn't want to deny someone else the pleasure.

I honestly was hoping you had a chaos dunk of an insult lined up. Now I feel like a dog who caught the car.

Fur20
Nov 14, 2007

すご▞い!
君は働か░い
フ▙▓ズなんだね!

Beachcomber posted:

They call those Hufflepuffs.

look man hufflepuffs are huge stoners but i've never seen one get so high that they'll eat gum off the sidewalk

Ghost Leviathan
Mar 2, 2017

Exploration is ill-advised.

DemoneeHo posted:

Laffo, getting side piece so you won't watch a movie alone

"Jenny, oh Jenny
Joy, oh Joy
A one woman man's what I wanna be,
But there's two perfect girls for me!"


I'm glad I'm not the only one who immediately thought Brock and how if he got into an actual relationship it'd almost immediately end like this. Maybe that's what happened with Professor Ivy.

Midnight Voyager
Jul 2, 2008

Lipstick Apathy

chitoryu12 posted:

UPDATE - My [29F] girlfriend [27f] of 4 years just told me that she's pregnant...I'm a woman, so it can't be mine. But she swears she didn't cheat. What do I do?

gently caress that first doctor, jesus. What's with these fucks and just refusing to believe symptoms or the word of their patient? She's a lesbian, Harold! She doesn't gently caress dudes! GO DOWN FARTHER IN YOUR LIST OF POSSIBILITIES.

When I was in high school, I broke a finger. The x-ray technician just kept trying to get me to admit I'd hosed before and might be pregnant. She did everything to get me to confess this, and when I didn't, she put the lead apron on me anyway. "Just in case". If you're gonna do it anyway, don't interrogate me about my lack-of-gently caress life!

Beachcomber
May 21, 2007

Another day in paradise.


Slippery Tilde

The White Dragon posted:

look man hufflepuffs are huge stoners but i've never seen one get so high that they'll eat gum off the sidewalk

The gum is magic.

Barudak posted:

I honestly was hoping you had a chaos dunk of an insult lined up. Now I feel like a dog who caught the car.

Sorry, I didn't think that far ahead. A+ reference, though.

FactsAreUseless
Feb 16, 2011

Midnight Voyager posted:

When I was in high school, I broke a finger. The x-ray technician just kept trying to get me to admit I'd hosed before and might be pregnant. She did everything to get me to confess this, and when I didn't, she put the lead apron on me anyway. "Just in case". If you're gonna do it anyway, don't interrogate me about my lack-of-gently caress life!
My girlfriend has had a lot of the same experiences, I'm assuming it's universal at this point.

Pirate Radar
Apr 18, 2008

You're not my Ruthie!
You're not my Debbie!
You're not my Sherry!
Hahaha dude from last page’s parents just up and not telling him he’s autistic like he’s not gonna notice there’s something wrong at some point

Barudak
May 7, 2007

I dunno, doctors are always asking me to not wear the lead liner

Literally A Person
Jan 1, 1970

Smugworth Wuz Here

Barudak posted:

I dunno, doctors are always asking me to not wear the lead liner

WHY DO I KEEP WEARING THIS OCTO-MOM T-SHIRT!!!???

cumshitter
Sep 27, 2005

by Fluffdaddy
I guess media couple could just play and listen to Va11-Ha11a exclusively as a compromise.

Vim Fuego
Jun 1, 2000



Ultra Carp

Pirate Radar posted:

Hahaha dude from last page’s parents just up and not telling him he’s autistic like he’s not gonna notice there’s something wrong at some point

It's a classic from the "Big book of pranks to play on your disabled child"

value-brand cereal
May 2, 2008

FactsAreUseless posted:

My girlfriend has had a lot of the same experiences, I'm assuming it's universal at this point.

It is, extremely. I went to a dermatologist about my eczema and he asked if I was pregnant. Then he refused to believe I wasn't pregnant and suggested poo poo like baby oil for my skin condition. Eczema needs actual medicated ointments, not loving baby oil. I wouldn't be spending money on doctors if I could buy 7 bucks worth of baby shine.

Still kinda mad about that. Sorry, it's not you. Male doctors suck poo poo when it comes to uterus equipped people.

Scathach
Apr 4, 2011

You know that thing where you sleep on your arm funny and when you wake up it's all numb? Yeah that's my whole world right now.


I went to a doctor for a nasty ear/throat thing last week and got a ton of "are you sure you can't be pregnant? We'll prescribe safe medications. just in case."

I told the lady that I was incredibly sure because my fiance's sperm count had been absolutely ruined from chemo and radiation he went through as a teen. He's about as sterile as you can get. I'm sure I embarrassed her but gently caress it, put it in my file "married to sterile guy and never wanted kids anyway, don't skimp on the lifesaving meds plz."

13Pandora13
Nov 5, 2008

I've got tiiits that swingle dangle dingle




"I'm not, and if I were I'd be aborting anyway," is my go-to if someone gets lovely with me about medications.

Moon Slayer
Jun 19, 2007

These stories always make me realize how lucky I was growing up that my parents worked for the Mayo Clinic so I basically got the highest quality care you can get without being a billionaire in America. My mom was diagnosed with erythromelalgia recently and it was basically "you'd better see the world's leading expert on this condition, he's just down the hall."

value-brand cereal posted:

It is, extremely. I went to a dermatologist about my eczema and he asked if I was pregnant. Then he refused to believe I wasn't pregnant and suggested poo poo like baby oil for my skin condition. Eczema needs actual medicated ointments, not loving baby oil. I wouldn't be spending money on doctors if I could buy 7 bucks worth of baby shine.

Still kinda mad about that. Sorry, it's not you. Male doctors suck poo poo when it comes to uterus equipped people.

I'm currently working for a dermatologist and this blows my mind. Sorry you got unlucky and found such a lovely doctor :(. I hope you got some good topical steroids eventually.

HazCat
May 4, 2009

It's not lovely doctors, it's male doctors. Plenty of very experienced and very specialised doctors are still big dumb sexists who will happily chalk up 'debilitating pain' as women being big whiny babies and then not even apologise later when it turns out it was cancer or vertebrae grinding on each other or whatever easily discoverable thing it turned out to be.

If you're a woman and have had good experiences with doctors, that's down to luck more than money. And if you're not a woman, you don't really understand just how bad it really is, and how little control women have over the outcome.

Pretty much all the women I know will not see male doctors at all because their experiences with them have almost universally been awful.

dudeness
Mar 5, 2010

:minnie: Cat Army :minnie:
Fallen Rib
That's why you should go to Omegaverse Regional Hospital, much more empathetic.

The Lone Badger
Sep 24, 2007

There is a significant body of research showing that doctors are bad at treating anything other than white men.

As Nero Danced
Sep 3, 2009

Alright, let's do this
Also going back to the young lady/my dear thing, I'm a dude but my voice is a bit high, so I get ma'am'ed a lot on the phone. Normally I either correct them or let it pass if they're older, but whenever they call me dear it's skeevy as gently caress. They always think they're charming their way into something until I tell them I'm a dude. I don't know what it's like to live that all the time but I can totally understand being uncomfortable with people forcing pet names and poo poo on you.

On the plus side I can blame all my mistakes on an employee that doesn't exist.

As Nero Danced fucked around with this message at 03:19 on May 24, 2019

Scathach
Apr 4, 2011

You know that thing where you sleep on your arm funny and when you wake up it's all numb? Yeah that's my whole world right now.


The one I had trouble with last time was a woman and honestly I was a little shocked. Told me if I had strep or another bacterial infection they wouldn't give antibiotics to adults because they only give them to kids so they don't spread it (I work with the elderly) then my test came back and they said they knew for a fact it wasn't strep but couldn't tell me what it was or if it was contagious.

So I'm two weeks in, finally just coughing up goo, and finally able to walk without being dizzy. Whatever it was, it turned into a nasty sinus infection and I was out of work for a week because I couldn't risk getting the elders sick and the doctor really didn't believe in giving meds because "adults don't really spread infections."

Kinda pissy about that one. I spend 12hr days taking care of an 85yo woman. She can not get sick.

FAUXTON
Jun 2, 2005

spero che tu stia bene

gently caress Your Website posted:

On the plus side that 15 year old girl now gets to feel edgy as gently caress for freaking out an old with her punk rock attire, which is tremendous validation at that age

a parent's grunge shirt is a kid's punk attire

good lord are today's 10 year olds going to go around wearing lounge shirts

FactsAreUseless
Feb 16, 2011

FAUXTON posted:

a parent's grunge shirt is a kid's punk attire

good lord are today's 10 year olds going to go around wearing lounge shirts
Our children will unironically believe Bush did 9/11 in the same way Millennials are all pretty sure the CIA killed Kennedy.

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FAUXTON
Jun 2, 2005

spero che tu stia bene

FactsAreUseless posted:

Our children will unironically believe Bush did 9/11 in the same way Millennials are all pretty sure the CIA killed Kennedy.

I don't think GHWB was formally CIA in '63

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