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gtkor posted:Destination wedding question. Maybe it's just because I am British and so from a land where tips are way less compulsory, but I am not quite sure why you feel you should leave a tip - it's a hotel, it's a business, they will be used to having a full house and will have charged you for rooms, use of facilities, and so on at the appropriate rate for what you are doing. I don't think it's any different to separate groups all occupying the same space with one using it for a wedding.
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LLSix posted:Can anyone recommend a honeymoon fund provider? Honeyfund looks fine so far, but just now I'm wondering what catch I'm not seeing yet. Forgive my ignorance, but could you not just give people the details of the bank account you'd like the money to go into, and your address for those who'd like to send cheques? Also/or a box at the wedding for people to pop money in? Bollock Monkey fucked around with this message at 22:23 on Jul 22, 2015 |
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Veggie (and tofu?) skewers, obligatory mushroom dish, stuffed peppers, some nice rice or cous cous dish?
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Aug 20, 2015 11:48
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Koivunen posted:What did you/your bride do about shoes? Our wedding is outdoors so I don't want heels that will sink into the ground or get stuck in a wooden deck, and I also get blisters with the slightest irritation, so adorable bride-ly pumps are out of the question. I have a pair of thick heeled shoes that don't match my dress at all but are sort of comfortable and give me a few inches in height. How obvious are shoes in the big picture, especially with a long dress?
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My partner has ordered the ring and I know it'll all be 'official' after a big holiday we're going on in November. We've been together for seven years and known each other for 12. Knowing I'm going to become one of the engaged is really weird though, it's nothing like having cold feet but it's strange wrapping my head around what will ideally be a forever commitment... Even though that's what it's been for a long time now. I assume this is a common feeling?
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Sep 22, 2017 17:26
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That is weird. That's the sort of thing I used to do when I was a proper nutter. Definitely weird.
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Oct 5, 2017 13:54
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 I joined the legion! Anyone have useful UK-centric links for (alternative/non-traditional/etc) wedding planning things? Trying to keep this low-budget, we have some ideas but no clue where to start.
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Nov 11, 2017 11:24
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Please tell me more about organising playlists! I know our first dance song and I know a few others I definitely want, but some tips on how best to actually organise things so the music goes smoothly would be much appreciated.
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Feb 28, 2018 22:20
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Koivunen posted:My husband's ring has damascus steel and was like $900. This was the company we got his ring through, but we got an in-store discount for getting both our rings at the jewelers': We're thinking about wedding rings and my partner has always wanted something more unusual than the standard plain band so thanks for this! He's really enjoyed being introduced to this style and I think it's stunning too. It's got me wondering whether damascus steel can be shaped to fit my engagement ring too...
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Apr 4, 2018 19:08
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I'm getting married in a non-traditional venue (a brewery - having the whole day there) and I am struggling to know how the day moves from a to b and so on. I figure that you employ a reliable friend to usher people outside for photos or whilst the chairs are switched around, but what about stuff like putting out a dessert table? I've only been to a few weddings and they've all been super bog-standard and traditional so venue staff have done all of that stuff that usually just appears and I'm not sure where to start. I'm also not sure what the timeline should look like - we have the venue for 1.5 days and will have someone coming in the morning to dress it then back the next day to take everything down. I've seen a few different timelines but they seem to vary quite a lot. I was thinking 2pm arrivals for a 3pm ceremony, food around 5pm until 6ish, then... socialising/dancing and intermittent speeches/toasts from then until end of play around 11:30pm. But I also want to do a couple of brewery tours of what I assume will be 30ish people. What would your ideal day look like using these vague times as a guide? I'm part of a friendship group that isn't really into marriage on the whole so I don't have many people to bounce this sort of thing off. Any input greatly appreciated!
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Jul 18, 2018 18:53
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Cart posted:gf good with money... But if there's one area I don't want to appear cheap it's while asking her hand in marriage, and if every girl dreams of a Tiffany proposal then I'd re-evaluate things Have you considered shopping online? My ring is from an Etsy seller and I love it, and my partner got great advice and service. If you don't know the type of proposal your partner dreams of then it might be worth having some of those conversations before committing to marriage...
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Jul 24, 2018 18:41
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Guildenstern Mother posted:So I started my registry, which of course means I spent 4 hours last night reading reviews and rankings of towel and bed linen reviews because I apparently smoke way too much weed after work. What are you kids asking wedding santa for? We've already booked our honeymoon and paid up for hotels and flights but have asked for something towards that. We're doing a once-in-a-lifetime style trip so any contribution will be great. We've lived together since 2012 so we don't need towels or a toaster. Though my partner does have his eye on a plug-in pizza oven...
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Apr 8, 2019 20:42
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Hadlock posted:Edit: can confirm, plug in toaster ovens are super rad, won one at a college raffle, used the poo poo out of it. I pretty much only know of toaster ovens because of these forums, they're just not a thing in the UK. I was referring to this!
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Apr 10, 2019 18:43
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Thumbtacks posted:We're probably going to see if we can stay under 10k for the whole thing, but that still inevitably leads to some feelings of resentment (unfairly, but you can't help how you feel sometimes) because hers is going to be way cooler probably. Although I know her and it's going to be WAY over the top and not like me and my fiancee at all so I don't think it's going to be a "man this is my dream wedding" feeling and more of a "jesus christ this is expensive" feeling so I don't think it's really jealousy, more like something i'm going to feel like we need ours to "live up to". I'll get over that too, I just need to self reflect and talk about it more. Our wedding came in at around £7k in total and it was the best wedding I've been to, which I mean to say without the obvious bias... This was backed up by everyone commenting on how unique and personal and fun it was compared to lots of other weddings. You do you, don't feel pressured into upping the budget - so much of the cost associated with weddings seems to be for the traditional aspects like the princess dress and the chicken-three-ways catering at a fancy hotel, which don't have to be part of your day if you don't want. Your guests will enjoy your wedding for what it is, and I'm sure hers will for hers, and that is ok.
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Jun 15, 2019 11:30
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My husband bought mine for £600 from Etsy and it was shipped from the US to the UK. It's got a rough diamond at the centre, tiny sapphires on the band, and is made of white gold so you can get very nice pieces for not too much money if you look around. I had also said I didn't want an expensive ring and this has been perfectly hard-wearing for the last two years. I made a Pinterest to help guide my husband as I also trusted his judgement but he didn't know where to start. I've ended up with something I probably wouldn't have picked myself but that I love much more. Embrace the challenge, do a bit of research, and you'll smash it!
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Sep 10, 2019 00:08
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Charitable donations sounds like a good idea to avoid being given random crap, just make it super obvious and easy for people to do. We asked for honeymoon fund donations and people very much gave what they could, but I don't know your friends. Our guests also paid for travel and hotels.
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Sep 17, 2019 10:54
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Our ceremony and reception were at the same place. Our timeline looked like this: 13:40 - Tuk tuk pick up from hotel 14:00 - Guests arrive 14:20 - We arrive 14:35 - Ceremony starts 15:15 - Post-ceremony photos 15:40 - Brewery tour with wedding party 17:00 - Food 17:45 - Speeches 18:30 - End of speeches 19:30 - Golden hour photos 20:00 - First dance 23:00 - Carriages
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Oct 6, 2019 07:50
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We got married on the Friday and took off both Wednesday and Thursday, but we also had a travel day on the Thursday because our wedding was far away. We then enjoyed a relaxed weekend before going back to work on the Monday and it felt like enough time. If you don't need to travel very far I think taking just one day off before would be fine, and possibly one day after just so you can chill for a bit. We were both really tired for the day after the wedding and spent most of it sitting around in silence (bliss after a busy run-up and a busy day-of!)
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Nov 11, 2019 18:25
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We used these guys as we found that, of the many portfolios we looked through, theirs had a focus on candid rather than posed shots, and they said that they prefer to mingle at the event rather than being The Photographers. Because of the vibe we wanted we felt they fit really well, and they totally did mingle and get lovely, candid shots as well as some more posed ones. It depends what your priorities are in terms of posed/candid as well as the overall editing, lighting etc.
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Dec 30, 2019 13:42
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"The guest list is up for us to decide, not you." And then ignore their input and suggestions.
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Axqu posted:All of you are lovely; thank you so much. I am marginally less of a screaming frog now which is a very good thing! Weddings really bring out the insanity and apparently I am no exception. I found the Rock 'n' Roll Bride website and Facebook group helpful as resources for ideas, support, and a view into weddings that aren't centred around a white princess dress on a skinny bride (amongst other things!). There's more US-based stuff on the website than on the Facebook group but both are worth a look. Our wedding actually got featured on the site too, which was pretty snazzy. You have plenty of time, don't rush yourself and also understand that there's this dead period a few months before where everything's basically sorted but your vendors don't want the final bits of info until 6 weeks before the date. That was one of the worst bits for us - all of this planning momentum and then dead air for what felt like an eternity! What kept us sane was sacking off the 'Wedding Planning Wednesday' stuff we saw other people doing, but still being methodical and setting time aside to look into/book/discuss stuff. By giving yourself a good bit of planning time you will save so much stress. We had 18 months between engagement and wedding day and it wasn't really too stressful at any point. If you are taking on wedding helpers who are friends, make sure you pick the most trustworthy people who love you to bits, and try to put your faith in them to do a good job. Second-guessing everyone can be really tempting and hard to avoid but it's guaranteed to bring you stress.
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Thumbtacks posted:19 days left oh god oh gently caress My first vow was "I promise to keep tolerating the football and to try not to get too annoyed when you watch Match of the Day in bed." You'll be fine!
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Traxus IV posted:So we've been engaged for three weeks and have done zero wedding planning, no idea what we want on almost any level. We hit up a little wedding expo thing in our area to get some ideas and literally everyone we talked to wanted to know the date before almost anything else, some got really dismissive when we didn't have one which like I get because they're there to make connections that will lead to making money and not to chat with an apparently totally unprepared couple, but jeez. It made us feel pretty lovely! What's your budget? What are some must-haves? What do you absolutely not want? The budget sets the location, number of guests, type of food etc to some extent and is a great starting point. After that, think about what you want from the day - is it lots of dancing? A great meal? Superb drinks? Lawn games? And so on. A bit self indulgent perhaps, but our wedding was on Rock 'n'Roll Bride and shows some of how we prioritised and how that linked the the eventual plan. Have fun with it, dream big, and budget for a fun day but not a forever-in-debt experience.
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Awesome. Remember as well that you do not have to have anything! So many wedding checklists had, I dunno, robes for getting ready and corsages for flower girls and fancy chair covers and engraved hip flasks and and and... We sacked off so much of what we felt was superfluous and didn't miss any of it. You pick the bits of tradition, if any, that you want and don't feel like your wedding has to be in any set format.
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hobbez posted:Hello friendly wedding goons. First time poster. Is it normal to have anxiety over how much your spending on you’re wedding even if you can 100% with a doubt afford it? Like….. to spend this much on one day is just insane to me. If you don't want to spend loads of money, then don't? We spent about £7k all in for our day, the idea of spending any more of that was insane to us when e could use that money for so many other things. There's a lot of nonsense that you can get wrapped up in but if it's not for you, that's cool, do what you want with the budget you want to set.
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If you're close enough to the couple to be in the wedding party, discuss this with them? We didn't pay for anything for our wedding party, and they didn't give us anything special other than the usual card and a small contribution to honeymoon fund where they wanted to. They still helped organise parts of the day and the combined stag+hen do. I think there's a lot of utter nonsense out there about weddings/wedding gifts/funding various parts of the experience for people beyond arranging the day itself. You and your mates should surely be on the same page.
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We did 75ish people at a brewery wedding for around £7k all in. Rock 'n' Roll Bride takes some sifting but is good for inspiration. I've probably posted about my wedding in here if you look at my post history. We wanted fun over tradition, and for the whole vibe to avoid that maudlin thing some weddings end up having. We had a quick registry office legal bit, which saved a lot of money as then we didn't need to be beholden to a licensed venue. It also meant our proper vows were much more personal. I heard recently they meteorite rusts like buggery, so do have a google around that. From my research, opal/opal-alikes are simply too soft for daily wear. I ended up with a rough diamond, which I love.
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I think asking them is your quickest option for finding out. Regarding insurance, might they be covered by your home insurance? Worth checking your policy.
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