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Laserface
Dec 24, 2004

regularly smoking has had the opposite effect for me. I last ages while high, and that is now bleeding into not-high stamina.

Probably because stoned sex > not stoned sex.

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Laserface
Dec 24, 2004

Any hot tips for discomfort/pain during sex due to a retroverted uterus? my girlfriend experiences pain in most positions, particularly missionary and cowgirl. Given that cowgirl is her favorite she is pretty bummed out. The last time we tried she ended up with abdominal pain that lasted for a while after :(. lubrication isnt an issue either.

The only position that seems to work is her laying on her side with her knees up while Im on my knees but shes not getting any stimulation on her clitoris at all which is important for her. I know toys etc will be suggested but she prefers weighted blunt contact on her bits as opposed to vibrations.

She's also never experienced an orgasm, ever, despite trying her darnedest on her own or with partners. She describes the experience as a rush of sensitivity and sensation that then dissipates rather quickly and leaves her no longer wanting sex/pain starts if we keep going. Shes not a fan of oral sex, due to being unable to handle soft or direct contact on her clit.

Lady goons, what do you think?

Laserface
Dec 24, 2004

Liquid Communism posted:

Just a pro-tip man, you've got thumbs, or at least palms if you're a flipper baby.

They can manage weighted blunt contact fairly well.

Even Thumbs can be too much for her. its gotta be palm or bigger, and the few positions we have dont really lend themselves to making palms easy.

Laserface
Dec 24, 2004

its more that she cant handle the sensation of a tongue doing anything. Ive never had trouble with giving oral before with others (actually been told Im pretty good at it by a few, but not to brag)

she is just stupidly sensitive. shes been thinking about it and could be related to an injury she sustained as a kid. she slipped and fell crotch-first onto a hand railing or a pole or something (she cant really remember) and ended up with a scar on her inner labia right next to her clitoris. so now she has a super sensitive spider-man clit due to some freak accident we guess?

When it comes to climaxing she seems to have trouble 'letting go' as they say. I was going to suggest weed or sniffing poppers to see if either could help get her over the edge - The only thing I am doing is not focusing on making her climax a priority because it'll throw her off. It does seem like shes going to have to give one to herself before anyone else can though, so shes looking into getting a new vibrator with a good G-spot shape and clitoral stimulator.

At the very least we have had a lot of sex lately just trying new positions so :)

Laserface
Dec 24, 2004

I just Imported okamoto skinless skins. They are really good.

Laserface
Dec 24, 2004

I mean most girls i have been with on BC usually grab a tissue or go to the toilet and push out the cum so it doesnt come out at an inconvenient time later but none of them ever 'cleaned it out' thats for sure.

Laserface
Dec 24, 2004

Im sleeping with a woman that is a squirter.

the internet seems divided - is squirt piss or not?

like im not offended or disgusted by it, but I would like to know what got in my eyes/mouth at least.


second question - anyone here do onlyfans or similar with their partner? shes very curious about getting a side hustle going.

e: to add to the dick drugs chat, I have found Viagra to give harder boners vs cialis but cialis will last me nearly 3 days whereas viagra only lasts only for 8hrs. combined with some weed and speed, its a drat good time regardless. the weed generally makes my nose stuffy anyway - use some decongestant spray to clear your airways (which in turn helps your breathing and your sex)

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Laserface
Dec 24, 2004

dexter6 posted:

Can someone recommend a lube that doesn’t start feeling like a sticky mess after a few mins?

Wet Stuff Gold has been my go to forever. if it gets too tacky, add a few *drops* of water.

Ive never found silicone lube any good for sex things.

Laserface
Dec 24, 2004

credburn posted:

I'm too depressed to maintain an erection. I've been trying Cialis but it doesn't seem to do anything. I can only keep it up if I'm very drunk; the moment I become aware of ~ real life, everything stops functioning, no matter how much boner pills I've freebased right into my dick vein.

Try Viagra? I found it to be more intense but shorter duration vs. cialis.

*I dont really have problems getting a boner though, i just use them to get better boners.

Laserface
Dec 24, 2004

what on earth could not be appropriate for the website that spawned swap.avi?

Laserface
Dec 24, 2004

FilthyImp posted:

My dude, do not pressure the 35 year old Catholic into sex because you will cause an immensely damaging crisis that will upend their life while you move on to the next conquest.

Counterpoint, religious girls are the horniest/most depraved I have ever encountered.

Laserface
Dec 24, 2004

I had a partner that was not into sex at all most of the time, outside of a very few certain periods where she rediscovered her sexuality and leaned into it real hard. she couldnt really orgasm, always said she felt something building up but then it just fizzled away and she would still feel but not find the feelings pleasurable.

it was not something I had any ability to predict or trigger. I dont think even she had control over it. the only thing i really noticed that seemed to be a constant in these situations was her trying on new underwear (push up bras specifically, because she never wore them) and seeing herself through a sexual lens. she didnt really like flaunting her femininity, always dressed pretty modestly (no cleavage, no short skirts, legs always covered) so maybe seeing herself sexualised made her want sex? we split up years ago, but as of our last catch up she still has no idea how/why it happens.

Im not saying that is the case with your partner but my point is that some peoples brains just arent really wired with sex as a thing front and centre or even mid-rear centre. whether they suppress it, its their upbringing or it just isnt their biology doesnt really matter. sometimes they stumble into something that lights the fire in them. I suggest if it ever happens, dont make a big fuss about it, just roll with it, enjoy it for what is and dont draw attention to it too much after the fact. that seemed to help keep the good times rolling, in my case.

I should also point out that we had a totally normal, horny honeymoon period for the first 6-9 months so maybe you are SOL, OP.

Laserface
Dec 24, 2004

GoGoGadget posted:

Not sure where you got that impression. I'm going to be proposing to her at the end of this month.

Anyway, as an update, I finally just spoke to her more openly about this. Essentially, the outcome was her thanking me for being patient with her, letting me know just how much she loves and cares for me, and letting me know she is "always down to make out" and that she's happy to be physical (at least as far as we have been) more often if that's something I need in the relationship; she just can't read my mind and I need to let her know these things. She did re-affirm that we most likely will not be having sex before marriage, but I'm fine with that. She has gone above and beyond to address my concerns since I brought them up. I'm now more comfortable than I ever was with her and in our relationship.

The issue with not being able to bring her to orgasm is still there, but as we've done more we're both continually learning about what makes her feel good. I'm not as concerned about it as I once was, so long as I know she is enjoying being intimate with me with or without orgasm. I also did find out she had been less physically intimate before me than I previously knew. She had only ever given a couple of guys a handjob before me, and one of them was once or twice while the other was a handful (pun intended) of times, but only when they got drunk.


if you cant get her off with your fingers or your mouth you definitely aint doing it with your dick dude.

Pilfered Pallbearers posted:

I don’t think that’s an issue here.

The issue is her deriving basically no to little pleasure or enjoyment from any sexual activity, then expecting PiV sex to go any better.

The odds are pretty drat high that if she has trouble receiving pleasure from solely focused on her stimulation it’s going to be even less enjoyable with actual PiV.

this.

never had a partner that didnt prefer fingers/oral/toys over straight dick. not saying they dont exist or that women dont enjoy PiV, but to pin your hopes on dick and dick alone getting her off is pretty foolish. in fact most of my partners could only get off on dick if they got one or two under the belt before PiV to get good and ready for some smashin'. anecdotal but still.

sex isnt just about cumming for women but if shes not even really sure if shes enjoying what you're doing then maybe theres something else going on.

I would not be getting married to someone who was not sure of what they like about sex or if they even like sex at all, if i myself cared about sex.

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Laserface
Dec 24, 2004

Do we really need not safe for work warnings on the sex mega thread? I mean this NSFW tag is right there for that very reason.

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