Nazzadan posted:

Tyler?

It's far from legit, he hams it up for money. The dude has a constant stream of donations coming in every 5 seconds or so literally all stream.

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I [18 F] left my laptop open and my sister [15 F] replaced everything in my "Hobbies & Passions" section on my resumé with just "garlic bread" as a joke. I unknowingly sent it out to about 20-30 businesses and now I have no idea what to do about it.

Pearnicious posted:

Maybe I don't really give a poo poo what you think?

Cough Drop The Beat posted:

And yeah, I would slap that kid so hard across the face if that were my teenage son. I get that he's a 15 year old kid, but that is some horrid behavior over not getting the right robot video game.

Gaunab posted:

corn on the cop posted:

ArbitraryC posted:

I wonder how common that scenario is and if most people just don't say anything. lovely situation all around but it was the wife who cheated that guy just loved her.

ArbitraryC posted:

Prolly didnt want to antagonize anyone just dealing with the reality that he lost his loved one and lost her before they even had the chance to have their relationship out in the open. I think he should have kept quiet about the affair of course but I doubt his motivations were strictly malicious.

mobby_6kl posted:

With the lawyer cuckold, funeral, and ring guy we're getting a very strong end of the year, maybe 2016 won't be a total waste of time after all!

WampaLord posted:

Here's another illuminating tidbit from the OP:

tater_salad posted:

No way live in single hot lady down on her luck who is apparently horny kuz she's wearing clothes that are asking for it.. and a intamately cold wife who feels sex more than once a month is rape.



Then hook up with younger hotter horn dog sister.

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I'm using my throwaway to ask this for my sister because I thought you guys might be able to give her some good advice:

My friend Lucy has always been really into romance and weddings and all that stuff. So when she got engaged I figured she would have some very specific ideas. Thus began the problem. A few years ago we both went to a party a mutual friend threw and it turned out to be a surprise wedding. It was nothing fancy - just a house party and nice food. Everyone had a really great time.

Lucy recalled that event and decided she wanted to do the same thing, only fancier. She spent a lot of time figuring out decorations, how she would reveal the wedding, sneaky catering, all that stuff.

Unfortunately she failed to remember that our mutual friend is an extremely sociable person who never fails to show up for her friends. Lucy is not like that. She frequently responds that she will come to parties and then does not come. She mostly likes to take care of herself. That isn't a problem most of the time.

This time it was. She sent out the invites for the wedding the way she would a regular party - on facebook. Some people responded that they wouldn't be able to make it, and she seemed to accept that, though the number of people who declined was higher than she would have liked. Then there were a few maybes. We all know what maybe means on a facebook event. A reasonable number of people said they would come, but about a third of those didn't end up coming.

The wedding went ahead but she was in a bad mood for a lot of the day. Now she's angry at basically all her friends, including some of the ones who came because they apparently should have made the others stick to their word and come. I tried to tell her that as far as they knew, it was just an ordinary party (and at a busy time of year too!) but she just won't have it. She's starting to get mad at me for making excuses. I don't know what to do. What can I say to calm her down?

tl;dr: Friend threw surprise wedding and not many people came. Now she's mad at everyone. What do I do?

letter writer posted:

I manage a team, and part of their jobs is to provide customer support over the phone. Due to a new product launch, we are expected to provide service outside of our normal hours for a time. This includes some of my team coming in on a day our office is normally closed (based on lowest seniority because no one volunteered).

One employee asked to come in two hours after the start time due to her college graduation ceremony being that same day (she was taking night classes part-time in order to earn her degree). I was unable to grant her request because she was the employee with the lowest seniority and we need coverage for that day. I said that if she could find someone to replace her for those two hours, she could start later. She asked her coworkers, but no one was willing to come in on their day off. After she asked around, some people who were not scheduled for the overtime did switch shifts with other people (but not her) and volunteered to take on overtime from others who were scheduled, but these people are friends outside of work, and as long as there is coverage I don’t interfere if people want to give or take overtime of their own accord. (Caveat: I did intervene and switch one person’s end time because they had concert tickets that they had already paid for, but this was a special circumstance because there was cost involved.)

I told this team member that she could not start two hours late and that she would have to skip the ceremony. An hour later, she handed me her work ID and a list of all the times she had worked late/come in early/worked overtime for each and every one of her coworkers. Then she quit on the spot.

I’m a bit upset because she was my best employee by far. Her work was excellent, she never missed a day of work in the six years she worked here, and she was my go-to person for weekends and holidays.

Even though she doesn’t work here any longer, I want to reach out and tell her that quitting without notice because she didn’t get her way isn’t exactly professional. I only want to do this because she was an otherwise great employee, and I don’t want her to derail her career by doing this again and thinking it is okay. She was raised in a few dozen different foster homes and has no living family. She was homeless for a bit after she turned 18 and besides us she doesn’t have anyone in her life that has ever had professional employment. This is the only job she has had. Since she’s never had anyone to teach her professional norms, I want to help her so she doesn’t make the same mistake again. What do you think is the best way for me to do this?

response posted:

What?! No, under no circumstances should you do that.

If anything, you should consider reaching out to her, apologizing for how you handled the situation, and offering her the job back if she wants it.

I’m not usually a fan of people quitting on the spot, but I applaud her for doing it in this case. She was raised in dozens of foster homes, used to be homeless, has no living family, and apparently managed to graduate from college all on her own. That’s amazing. And while I normally think graduation ceremonies are primarily fluff, I’m hard-pressed to think of anyone who deserves to be able to attend her own graduation ceremony as much as this woman does. You should have been bending over backwards to ensure she could attend.

Rigidly adhering to rules generally isn’t good management. Good management requires nuance and judgment. Sometimes it requires making exceptions for good employees so that you don’t lose them. Sometimes it requires assessing not just what the rules say but what the right and smart thing to do would be.

One of the frustrating things about your letter is that despite rigidly adhering to the rules with this person, you were willing to make an exception for someone else (the person with the concert tickets). I’m at a loss to understand how concert tickets are an obvious exception-maker but this person’s situation wasn’t.

And you note that she was your “best employee by far”! She never missed a day of work in six years, she was your go-to person, she covered for every other person there, and she was all-around excellent … and yet when she needed you to help her out with something that was important to her, you refused.

There’s a lesson to be learned here, but it’s not for her.

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I work at a small branch, which is part of a larger company. My office has a manager, an assistant manager, a receptionist, and nine other employees. I have been diagnosed with cancer. I am able to schedule my chemotherapy on my regular days off. Since my job has no physical labor and we don’t deal with the public at all and only deal with coworkers from other offices by phone or email, my cancer and treatments have not interfered with work and I’m still able to go in as normal. My coworkers know and have been understanding.

Each of us has a calendar where our days off (or in rare cases, meetings at other branches) are shown. The manager is supposed to have access to this, but our manager, Robert, is on the road most of the time and is rarely in our office. The receptionist, Osha, also has access so she can know who is in and who is out so she can direct calls appropriately. No one else is allowed to have access. The assistant manager, Ned, is not responsible for our schedules and is only responsible for dealing with employees who are in the office on a given day.

Recently while I was having chemotherapy, Ned showed up at the clinic and started asking me about work matters. I was completely surprised that he even knew where I was and that he was asking me about work on my off-time. The things he was asking about were not emergencies or work with deadlines. When I went back to work after my days off, Osha was waiting to speak with me and apologize. She was almost in tears because Ned had asked her about my schedule and whether I was on days off or at a meeting. She didn’t want to tell him at first because the calendars are supposed to be confidential, but he threatened to fire her if she didn’t tell him, and he also demanded the name of the clinic after she admitted that she knew what clinic I was getting my chemotherapy at.

I was really upset that Ned had threatened to fire Osha for following the rules and trying to keep the calendar confidential, and for coming to ask me about work stuff on my time off while I have having treatments. When Robert was actually in the office, I complained to him about Ned’s behavior and he assured me it would be dealt with. Well, him dealing with it was firing Osha for revealing confidential information that was on the calendar when she wasn’t supposed to. He gave Ned access to the calendars instead, so now Ned has access to my schedule and will come to the clinic when he has questions about work.

Robert says Ned isn’t doing anything wrong and when I complained to the company’s HR person about both Ned and Robert, I received the same answer. HR said that Robert was within his rights to terminate Osha since she breached confidentiality and she knew that doing so was a breach of our code of conduct. They said that if she had an issue, she should have spoken to the manager instead of taking it upon herself to release confidential information. HR also said that in regard to Ned coming to the clinic, “he is well within his rights” to seek my knowledge on workplace-related matters and “if the manager and assistant manager deem this necessary, it is up their discretion and not a matter where I can advise them to do otherwise.” I have since found out that the HR person is a family member of Robert’s.

I feel bad that Osha got fired and I don’t know where else to complain or what to do next because Robert, Ned, and the HR person are all against me on this.

Also, I have asked the clinic not to admit Ned, but sometimes he comes in anyway or waits until no one is looking before he comes in. There have been times when the nurses have asked him to leave or told him to get out of the room I am in. Sometimes he lies to them and says it is an emergency, and one volunteer told me Ned told the nurse on duty that he was family. I keep trying to tell him that he is disturbing me during my treatment but he either doesn’t listen or makes veiled references to me losing my job (which would also cause me to lose my benefits). His behavior is stressing me out even more than I already am.

WampaLord posted:

If they're paid, it invalidates the whole "firing them is easier than dealing with the problem" cop out that blackmet fabricated.

Firing paid employees over such a trivial thing would be extremely bad management. Imagine the cost of re-hiring and re-training.

naptalan posted:

No, this is a good derail. Let's talk more about appropriate professional attire.

I [19M] and issues with my business-systems lecturer [46F]; it affects me and my in-class partner [20F].

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Been together 8 years, married 6. My wife is wonderful, beautiful, smart, and is a doting wife. Sure we all have our flaws, but overall she's one of those people you would consider a catch. People love her, she's generous, no one has anything bad to say about her, she has no enemies.

That love extends to my family. My parents treat her like she's their own daughter, she's a favorite aunt, she gets along with my sisters. All of this only makes me feel worse and more guilty. I'm not attracted to her sexually, AT ALL. In fact, she repulses me. I feel like poo poo.

She has a good body (not super fit, but she's not overweight), she has a beautiful face and stunning features, a killer smile...but it does nothing for me.

When she tries to initiate sex, I'm immensely turned off. I don't want to touch her. I don't want to kiss her, it's even an effort to hold her hand.

We've been going to therapy for this as of course my wife is extremely hurt and just trying to be patient with me in case this is a phase. But I know she can't go on much longer and I don't blame her. She deserves someone who's crazy about her.

I used to be crazy about her. I couldn't keep my hands off her. Our sex life was really good.

This is why I feel so guilty and crazy. It just fizzled out. I have nothing concrete to complain about. She's trying so hard with working out more, buying lingerie, taking care of herself. But I look at her and I just feel...nothing. She might as well be my sister. To make things worse, I AM attracted to other women and want to have sex. I masturbate fantasizing to other women. I don't want to cheat on her.

If there was a magic wand, I would love to be attracted to my wife again. Divorce would upset so many things and sex is the only sore point in an otherwise great marriage. We get along so well. She makes me laugh, we like the same things, she's my best friend. I'm really hoping there are some other long term relationship people here who have gone through something similar. Have you ever completely lost attraction for the person you were with but still powered through it? Did it come back? Is it lost forever? Is this why people open up their marriages?
I feel like a piece of poo poo because she's such a good person, but I'm also incredibly unhappy.

What I wouldn't give to just feel SOMETHING for her. Really hoping to find someone who understands where I'm coming from. Thanks.

tl;dr: Not one ounce of me is attracted to my wife, but she's a wonderful person. I feel horrible. Hoping someone can relate.

Jeffrey of YOSPOS posted:

Me [35M] with my "child" [15F] who reached out to me, seemingly randomly. How exactly do I handle this?