Einsteins Kegels posted:

im bi and bitter

hamjobs posted:

One of the people who bullied me pretty badly in school for being queer just came out on Facebook and sincerely apologised to me.

This has been a good moment.

hamjobs posted:

One of the people who bullied me pretty badly in school for being queer just came out on Facebook and sincerely apologised to me.

This has been a good moment.

ulvir posted:

Olive! posted:

well, my dad was making a fuss about having to use 'they' pronouns for an acquaintance and i got maybe overly upset about it and welp now i've come out to my dad.

Robot Made of Meat posted:

I hope that went well.

Robot Made of Meat posted:

I hope that went well.

Olive! posted:

well, my dad was making a fuss about having to use 'they' pronouns for an acquaintance and i got maybe overly upset about it and welp now i've come out to my dad.

Olive! posted:

i think it went well. he was really apologetic about the pronoun thing. it was mostly a lot of hugging and crying.

he's the first person i've ever told and while there's a sense of relief, now i feel like i've burdened him with a secret to worry about :/

Olive! posted:

i think it went well. he was really apologetic about the pronoun thing. it was mostly a lot of hugging and crying.

he's the first person i've ever told and while there's a sense of relief, now i feel like i've burdened him with a secret to worry about :/

Robot Made of Meat posted:

That's great to hear, Olive!

And it's not a burden, it's an honor.

Robot Made of Meat posted:

That's great to hear, Olive!

And it's not a burden, it's an honor.

Splatmaster posted:

I'm going to share a story about myself, I suppose it's several stories, really- explaining my reasoning for supporting Gay Pride.

As a kid growing up sexuality hit me hard and fast at the age of 10. I had no idea what was going on, all I knew was I had urges and desires that I didn't have in the 5th Grade, while dealing wth the newness of the 6th Grade.

My peers had thier definition of what and how I should act, and I had no clue. I suppose I had a slight skip to my walk ( I was almost always optimistic and care free) and my voice wasn't very deep. I loved Disco, Soul and R&B but all the other white kids were supposed to like Rock, and most of my friends were African-American. I was polite and courteous, especially to teachers and my elders.

Obviously, this all meant I was gay. It also meant I should get my rear end beaten. My neighborhood kids and fellow students were happy to oblige. Rather than fight back (Sunday school said to turn the other cheek) I ran.

I could describe many such beatings, dispensed simply because someone decided I was gay, and that I should get my rear end beaten because of it. I won't. As I got older I started lifting weights, put on some muscle and learned how to defend myself.

Then I joined the US Air Force, where I felt I would be safe from bullies and senseless beatings. I was wrong. Long story short, while on active duty and in the barracks of an Air Force Base someone else decided I was gay, because I had a friend who I spent a good bit of time with. We were both heading back from a date we had, he with his fiance and me with my girlfriend (after a break-up with my own ex fiance) and this guy mouthed off and came charging down the hall at me. He was drunk. I thought he was just messing around. He clobbered me right in the jaw, knocked me back a good 10 feet and screwed up my spine pretty good. When I came to he was on top of me screaming he was gonna kill me. I don't think it's hard to see how this could trigger PTSD. I also spent a good bit of time at a military mortuary, but that's another story.

The exchange went like this:

rear end in a top hat (to my friend, who I just walked in the other door with on the other side of the dormitory): Hey, you suck dick!

Friend: gently caress you! *he goes into his room, I'm walking toward Airman rear end in a top hat*

rear end in a top hat: Hey, Splatmaster, you suck dick too!

Me: gently caress you!

Him: I'm gonna kick your rear end!

Me: Go for it!

That's when he charged and came running down the hall at me. I never got out of the way or defended myself, because I never figured anyone would be that stupid to hit someone, for literally no reason other than he was drunk and wanted to beat on someone. He decided in his small, bigotted little mind that my friend and I MUST be gay, because we hung out a lot together. Truth is, he and I were on snow removal duty, and he knew I have a serious driving phobia so we stuck together during the winter and had a common interest (Sunday adults only skating, back in '84-86 or so. Lots of beautiful young ladies, before I met my wife...)

My reward for not doing anything was at least herniated 3 discs in my lower back and ruptured discs in my neck that were so bad (in 2005) I had to have surgery to fuse 3 vertebrae together to prevent spinal cord erosion. In the end I've gotten a decent VA disability rating because of the incident, it doesn't make it better but it makes it easier to deal with. I'm not gay, but I'll be damned if anyone else is going to be stopped from living life on their terms...

A few years before I joined the Air Force I moved out of the neighborhood that was filled with so many painful memories to a place that was the complete opposite, the High School had students that were mean, but nothing compared to living in the Projects. I became good friends with Tim, and when I got back from Basic Training he asked me to meet him someplace. So I did. He was there waiting for me, with a letter in hand. The letter stated that he was gay, and that if I was disappointed in him, he would understand.

Dissappointed in him? For being gay? What he poo poo? I hugged him and told him he can be as gay as he wants, and that's when I realized how special the moment was- it was the first time someone came out to me. It made me realize that for some people, it's a struggle to want to live life one way, but they have to act another to appease everyone else.

He was of the mistaken impression that since I was in the Air Force, we couldn't be friends, because at the time the military was struggling with zero tolerance to don't ask don't tell.

I met a few folks in the military that were gay, but had to keep quiet about it because while don't ask don't tell was in force, you could still end up having a bad time of it if your supervisor wasn't pro-Gay. They talked to me about it because they needed someone to talk to, and I made them feel comfortable. I'm glad I was able to ease their minds.

I wrote a lot, if you made it this far thanks for reading it.

You guys make me feel comfortable enough to talk about it.

Farecoal posted:

not making fun of you for this but I just got a funny mental image of you going "dad, I'm gay!!" and then immediately pulling out your phone to tell byob of this development while your dad looks confused

Korean Boomhauer posted:

im bi as heck and probably am a few other letters but im still exploring i think.

Chasterson posted:

im gay and 26 years old and still dont know how gay and it's embarassing

feel like I should of figured poo poo out by now,

being gay is great though

Robot Made of Meat posted:

Be what makes you happy. Be who you are. Exploring is good.

Chasterson posted:

im gay and 26 years old and still dont know how gay

paul_soccer12 posted:

everyone in the idf must die

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Olive! posted:

i'm a gay high cowboy

Olive! posted:

i'm a gay high cowboy

Zwei Dunkel Jungen posted:

hi i just want u to know that jolyne cujoh is my absolute QUEEN which makes u my best friend now

happy pride month new best friend

Olive! posted:

update: now out to all my immediate family members. also down some pounds, probably because of how nervous I've been for the past few days about coming out. maybe that will be quelled a little now. not that I can't afford to lose some weight, but I don't think nervous starvation is a good way to do it.

Olive! posted:

update: now out to all my immediate family members. also down some pounds, probably because of how nervous I've been for the past few days about coming out. maybe that will be quelled a little now. not that I can't afford to lose some weight, but I don't think nervous starvation is a good way to do it.

Olive! posted:

update: now out to all my immediate family members. also down some pounds, probably because of how nervous I've been for the past few days about coming out. maybe that will be quelled a little now. not that I can't afford to lose some weight, but I don't think nervous starvation is a good way to do it.

blaise rascal posted:

Idea: Make a gay nightclub called "Hell" so that when people say "gay people are going to hell" you can respond by saying "heck yeah we are. it's $2 margarita night"

Korean Boomhauer posted:

im bi as heck and probably am a few other letters but im still exploring i think.