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IAMKOREA
Apr 21, 2007

Flavius Aetass posted:

gotta admit, although i know it's irrational, i'm low-key worried about my kid getting coronavirus. there's no reason to put any thought to it now, but i really don't want to live through some spanish flu situation.

There hasn't been a single death under the age of 10. Kids will be fine. Their grandparents, on the other hand....

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IAMKOREA
Apr 21, 2007

Good soup! posted:

Officially a dad as of 45 minutes ago and I can't stop crying I am beyond happy

good job dad goon

IAMKOREA
Apr 21, 2007

Juchero posted:

It's me, I'm the white person sending my children to school.

And I'm loving terrified.

I have one child who is non-verbal on the spectrum who can't be homeschooled or do virtual learning(we genuinely don't have the training for it), and I mask him up every day worrying. My older kid just completely burnt out of virtual school until he was depressed, and I basically had the choice of letting him fail or sending him to physical school(I know because the cops showed up at my house to make sure they would attend). He gets a mask too, and gets made fun of it by children of chuds who want their progeny to suffer and their grandparents to perish. This is Florida by the way, so we opened back up after summer break and never stopped.

I wish I could sleep well at night again.

edit: both are masked up in at *least* n95/kn95, but they make them take them off from time to time and it drives me insane.

dude that sucks so much. i'm sorry.

IAMKOREA
Apr 21, 2007

oxsnard posted:

do you have a baby carrier yet that is designed for newborns?

if not, this one is great https://ergobaby.com/omni-mesh-pearl-grey

ergobaby carriers are great, the best design of the several we tried, and having a carrier is a great way for dads to bond with newborns. my wife breastfed our daughter exclusively (and heroically), I don't think that we even owned a bottle, so the front carrier was my best way to bond with her as an infant. or maybe that's normal, idk, i guess i just have assumed that feeding from a bottle would be a good bonding experience too and i didn't get to do that. in the winter if you have a baggy jacket you can zip it up over the carrier when you go on walks or hikes and get all snuggly its great.

IAMKOREA
Apr 21, 2007
re: bad words, it owns living in a country where the language we speak at home (English) is different than the language they speak at my daughters kindergarten. we don't know how to swear in the native language, and if my daughter drops a 'gently caress' or a 'poo poo' at school i'm not going to hear about it from her teachers because they could care less. but she seems to have a pretty good handle on the purpose of swear words and who should use them and when, so honestly we probably wouldn't have a problem even if we were at home. we've just never made it a taboo.

IAMKOREA
Apr 21, 2007

Benagain posted:

I am uncircumcised and got bullied for goddamn near everything but that, and none of my sex partners have cared.

Don't circumcise your kid would be my advice.

like how do you even bully an uncircumcised kid? i'm pretty sure as soon as you start trying to make fun of them you realize a doctor cut off part of your dick for reasons that have nothing to do with your personal well being and shut the gently caress up real quick.

if your sex partner cares, then you hosed up, because your sex partner is an american, and you will never get the gently caress out of america by loving americans. you need to be loving europeans or asians so you can get a passport for a good country, and those guys/girls will be used to uncut dicks.

and as far as the std and uti stuff, let them choose when they become sexually active. its their body. and its probably bullshit, anyway.

IAMKOREA has issued a correction as of 21:11 on Aug 24, 2021

IAMKOREA
Apr 21, 2007
like if you're worried about your son getting made fun of for not being circumcised, try teaching them this cool phrase: "stop looking at my dick weirdo"

IAMKOREA
Apr 21, 2007

Benagain posted:

It's an extra 3 seconds in the shower if that, just make sure it's part of their hygeine routine from an early age.

This always comes up and I'm just like... Do circumcised guys not wash their dicks? How is this something extraordinary?

IAMKOREA
Apr 21, 2007
i've been missing playing rpgs and i found one for kids called 'amazing tales' and i tried starting a 'campaign' with my 5 year old today. it was loving AWESOME. she spent about two hours creating her character. we are just doing the intro story the book recommends (you are either a faery or a talking animal, owl parents come to you to ask for help because a witch kidnapped their baby owl, the twist is that the witch did so because she was lonely, my twist is its not a witch but a baba yaga [a witch who lives in a hut with hen's legs, russian folk tale]). all you need is a 6 sided dice to play. the character has 4 skills that they use to roll to succeed or fail at their skill and advance the story. the basic rules for the game are free and the full book (which is 100 pages long with lots of tips for being the DM for a 5 year old) is like 5 bucks. super awesome, i heartily recommend it. i think it would probably be great from about 4 to 8 or 9 or 10... the upper age limit would just be whenever more advanced rules would become appropriate which will depend a lot on not only age but personality.

e: to make this more cspam, i gotta think of another campaign now that has to do with some marxist or anarchist mice colony or something

IAMKOREA has issued a correction as of 17:58 on Aug 31, 2021

IAMKOREA
Apr 21, 2007

poo poo POST MALONE posted:

is it adventure tales or "amazing tales"? I'm not getting a lot of hits for the former.

oh sorry it's "amazing tales"

IAMKOREA
Apr 21, 2007
Make sure you give your toddlers vitamin d supplements. It's insanely common to be deficient. Ours was also constantly sick and se blood work found her deficient. Smooth sailing since starting vitamin d drops. Also adults should supplement too, particularly in winter but let's face it computer toucher goons aren't getting much sun in summer either.

IAMKOREA
Apr 21, 2007

BonHair posted:

Our really good parent friends have decided to move back home to Iceland because of this. They've lived in Denmark for 10+ years, but having his parents around is worth it to them. And they're super into city life too, which they, by their own admission, won't be getting in Iceland (they're not moving to Reykjavík). It sucks, because they're super chill to hang out with.

oh man moving from one of the best countries in the world to another one of the best countries in the world to be with family there, that's real fuckin rough

IAMKOREA
Apr 21, 2007

BonHair posted:

Yeah, I'm being selfish as gently caress, I'm just gonna miss them. The point I was making is that having grandparents around when you have young kids is a godsend. And apparently worth sacrificing a lot of your adult life for, including friends, career and lifestyle.

Oh for real, my wife and i struggle with the same thing. But what sucks for us is neither of us want to raise a daughter in our own countries. So it's either live in a good European country with no grandparents, the USA (lmao), or the Balkans (which i loving love, but life is hard there).

IAMKOREA
Apr 21, 2007

BIgDevine posted:

just wondering if any other fathers have bought there child a decorative crib. Mine likes to sleep in it for an hour and then decide to get in my bed. if it’s not just me, how on earth did you break this cycle!?

Our five year old still ends up in our bed pretty often. She's getting better about sleeping in her own bed through the night but it's taking a while. I just don't worry about it or really care. Its normal to put kids in separate rooms and beds at an early age in our culture but that's a very recent phenomenon in human history. Most mammals sleep together in big piles and so did our ancestors.

Alternatively, every time they get in your bed at night, burn something they cherish.

IAMKOREA
Apr 21, 2007

Johnny Cache Hit posted:

with my kids we started with cosleeping and then worked on transitioning to their own beds, but I’d still end up with two kids in the bed by midnight more often than not. even with a king sized bed two kids, two adults, and a small dog sucks. we knew we had to change something when we all realized nobody was sleeping well. we tried taking them back up and sitting until they slept but it always ended with me trying to sneak out at 2 am, then hitting a squeaky board and having to starting over. or lots of times we’d just say gently caress it and not even try because it wasn’t worth the effort.

what has really worked for us was putting an extra bed in the kids room. we do bedtime and tuck them in their beds. eventually they come down, and my wife or I would tuck them back in their own beds and go to sleep on the new bed. I think us being in the room is enough comfort for them. we’ve done this for a few weeks now and have had a few nights where they sleep the whole night, which has been wonderful

Yeah we have a queen and size and it can definitely get crowded as they get bigger, often my wife will end up in our daughters bed (it's right next to ours, 1br apartment). I more meant that i don't think it's an important developmental milestone or anything but if no one is getting a good night's rest you definitely have to take action, whether it's a bigger bed or whatever.

IAMKOREA
Apr 21, 2007

CloFan posted:

We can't get her to sleep in the basinet at all... As soon as she's laying flat she wakes up and if she's been fed within the last 90 minutes will start spitting up regardless of how much we burp her. Sleeps great on my chest, in her swing, on our bed, all of those always with one of us awake and watching her of course. Both bassinets we've tried are just an instant ON switch, like one of those dolls whose eyes open/close depending on orientation only backwards

Huh man it's almost like human babies are meant to sleep right next to their mothers... We started cosleeping at about 6 months, we had put our daughter in a baby sleeping thing someone had gifted us because of the dangers of cosleeping before that. It was later recalled for killing multiple babies lmao

Edit: i am *not* suggesting anyone should cosleep. What we ultmately did was get a crib from Ikea that was the same height as our bed and take off one of the sides and attach it firmly to our bed next to moms side. That worked really, really well and i understand it to have had very minimal risk.

IAMKOREA has issued a correction as of 22:36 on Oct 17, 2021

IAMKOREA
Apr 21, 2007

Greg Legg posted:

The lab just called and said our one year old has anemia and I'm freaking out

Replace their toys with iron pipes. Exposed threads are encouraged as the large surface area will lead to greater iron leaching.

IAMKOREA
Apr 21, 2007
Dragomino and Carcassonne kids edition are both hits at our house. I have heard good things about the kids version of ticket to ride, that might be for Christmas...

IAMKOREA
Apr 21, 2007
Is there any evidence that recovering from COVID provides better protection than the vaccine? Given that the vaccine only lasts a few months, what's the end game here? To vaccinate kids until adulthood? But there might be vaccine escape at some point. Is it possible it's best to just let kids get COVID (obviously all adults around them should be vaccinated)?

I'll probably get our 5 year old vaccinated as soon as it's approved for kids in the EU but I don't know it doesn't seem obvious to me what the best course of action is, what do you guys think?

IAMKOREA
Apr 21, 2007

The Nastier Nate posted:

i forget which grade it was when i was a kid but i remember the teacher telling us that the Vietnam War was the only war the united states ever lost and even then i was like "well that doesn't sound right"

Actually the US didn't lose it because it wasn't a war! Just like how we didn't lose Iraq, or Afghanistan, or any other of the wars we've lost!

God I'm so glad I emigrated. I've thought about moving back but the thought of my daughter saying the pledge of allegiance in the morning makes me sick, gently caress that poo poo.

IAMKOREA
Apr 21, 2007

Yadoppsi posted:

My sister is giving birth for the first time soon and asked the family to get gifts to help with the upcoming baby instead of her or her husband.

New parents, what were some things you ended up needing that you may not have thought you did or what are some things you knew you needed but got way too few of?

Infrared thermometer.

IAMKOREA
Apr 21, 2007

Dreylad posted:

baby poop is also hilarious and weird

except the meconium. gently caress that stuff

You can extract valuable plastics from it idk what you're complaining about

IAMKOREA
Apr 21, 2007

BonHair posted:

My kid really likes watching a Russian cartoon (Masha and the bear). I am not particularly fond of Russia these days. On one hand, I feel like I should probably boycott Russian media, but I really don't know how to explain global politics to a 4 year old in a way that makes him okay with losing his favourite show. Plus, it's actually the best thing he's watching in terms of content, with the primary competition being paw patrol. I also don't know if it's actually supporting the Russian government, since it's on Netflix anyway.

It's not a big thing, but I kinda needed to vent it somewhere...

Lmao dude no loving way source your quotes

IAMKOREA
Apr 21, 2007

Polgas posted:

So I was playing disco elysium with my niece in the same room, she usually plays with her tablet or some toys and ignores the tv when her parents are watching but she seemed interested in new and unknown words after I asked her to read a few lines to practice some english like dictatorship of the proletariat. Thankfully I was just talking to the old lady in the hotel lobby so nothing too crazy was happening.

She seems interested in governments and understood the idea of rich people running the government and this new idea of a worker government.
I was showing some old propaganda posters and some clips of the internationale in different languages to give examples of why a worker government would emphasize worker solidarity across countries which she found so different from the usual.
She got mildly annoyed when she tried to read russian and realized it wasn't in english.
She was of the opinion that the USSR dissolving was ages ago and so old.

I asked her if she wanted to learn more and she said yes so I wanna ask what exactly is my next step in explaining government and socialist concepts that I can explain to a kid.

Also, she took one look at Kim's portrait and asked me why my partner is a nerd.

I forgot your partner in DE is named Kim and thought this meant you had a portrait of Kim Jong Un the wall and then thought "this dude's partner rules" lol

IAMKOREA
Apr 21, 2007
Once during COVID here a weirdo who was mad about lockdowns called in a bomb threat on a kindergarten and they closed every school in the country the day after. Active shooter drills are a huge factor in me not raising my kids in the US.

IAMKOREA
Apr 21, 2007
Do you now have to legally register your 3 hole punch as a deadly weapon?

IAMKOREA
Apr 21, 2007

meanolmrcloud posted:

I have one niece who attends a pricey stem (yes these exist) Montessori thing, and has from 2 through age 6, and another niece who was with a stay at home mom until recently attending kindergarten.

I wasn’t really convinced about the benefits of overpriced programs, but the stem niece is really leaps and bounds better with numbers and approaching things creatively. it could still be just innate differences between the two, and the other niece is smart and amazing too but it’s pretty stark when they are next to each other. I was very scared for a while, and still lowkey worried that I’ll be robbing my own daughter of exploring her potential but also screw paying almost double my mortgage to have my daughter count blocks in new ways.

I think the bottom line is, as always, help them be decent and happy and it’ll be ok.

That's not really a fair comparison though, and I say that as someone who sent his daughter to a Montessori until kindergarten. It could also just be the extra socialization, kids learn a ton through just playing and especially with other kids. Being in any school is going to give more opportunities for that given how unfortunately atomized and nuclear society and families are in modern america (and europe).

IAMKOREA
Apr 21, 2007
Well for some good news about these types of difficult decisions and how they may impact your child's future make sure you check the biosphere collapse thread

IAMKOREA
Apr 21, 2007

Bar Ran Dun posted:

why? I have an eight year already very upset about that who independently reached that conclusion on his own because animals and ecosystems are a thing he hyper focuses on. early existential crises are another thing for kids like this so it’s kindof a



situation.

It was an "it don't matter, none of this matters" joke. Just a dumb joke.

IAMKOREA
Apr 21, 2007

Bar Ran Dun posted:

l have also had this conversation. this is very normal for a gifted kid. here’s another one: does she dislike movies with too much emotional tension or believable protagonist peril (Disney films are good example)?

I can't stand them personally lol am i on the spectrum
???

IAMKOREA
Apr 21, 2007

Struensee posted:

My 3 y/o yesterday: "I don't want to walk on the sidewalk, I wanna get run over"

Wow your kid is already reading cspam?

IAMKOREA
Apr 21, 2007

Cabbages and Kings posted:

yea, you can see the yellow splatter above it, which is lead negative

makes sense: hard water + soap line gradually eats away at the finish, eventually lead containing poo poo that's been enameled away starts to leech in. Motherfucker, though.

This is my state health dept's lead brochure: https://www.healthvermont.gov/sites/default/files/documents/2017/01/ENV_AL_leadhazardsinhometemplate6.18.08PDF.pdf -- no mention of this

https://www.epa.gov/lead/protect-your-family-sources-lead -- EPA doc, similar.

However, if you google "clawfoot tub lead" then you find a lot of information, and a lot of it is from people who sell re-enameling or bathtubs so of course this is in their interest and these are not peer reviewed studies, but one company said they tested a bunch of clawfoots and found lead in 100% of them.

:allears:

...the replacement tub will probably be acrylic microplastic soup!!

Man that's hosed. Like i think in lead pipes an oxide layer builds up so there is very little leaching, but in a tub that you regularly scrub and clean as a normal rear end adult/parent who is responsible that oxide layer would never persist and you would get leaching. poo poo sucks dude. Anyway man you keep like blaming yourself in these posts and you need to let that poo poo go it's not your fault.

E: also real talk I'm honestly blown away as a chemist/chemical engineer that the leaching from that small exposed area on your tub could cause worrisome lead levels in your child. Not a lead expert but it just seems surprising to me. There might be another source. Have you gotten rid of the tub yet? If not, you should fill the tub as you normally do and take a sample and test that. Or ideally test 5 samples so you can get a std dev. I would do it both before and after adding soap, however much you normally out in your child's bath. Because it will suck if you replace the tub and don't see any improvements in your kids tests and can't figure out wtf is going on... Idk of your strips can test water but you should be able to send them to a lab somewhere for an assay...

E2: the other thing about this is, if you know the ppm of lead in the bath water and the ppm lead in your kids blood you should be able to do some super rough calculations and see if it makes sense. Like if your kid has X mg lead in their body and the bath water has Y ppm lead in it they must have swallowed Z ml of water which would have been A ml per bath over an estimated B number of baths in their lifetime.

And if you end up with a super crazy wrong (low) number then you know to look for another source of lead. If the number seems about right you can be calmer and pretty confident replacing the tub was all you needed to do.

IAMKOREA has issued a correction as of 20:13 on May 5, 2022

IAMKOREA
Apr 21, 2007

Cabbages and Kings posted:

Yay! The follow up blood test that's more accurate was much lower -- 2.1 ug/dm, instead of 14! Just a little ~6.5x margin of error. That's within the "normal" range except that no amount of lead is normal especially not in a small kid, but that gets into a range that both worries me less from the perspective of harm already irrevocably done, and makes it more likely the bathtub could be the only problem.

I will do the bathtub water test, and other than that, I think we just replace it, do a follow up test in a couple months, and there's not much else to do. But, the state dept has a number and if they are willing to send someone out here to look around for anything we've overlooked, by all means.

So I guess the good news is our kid didn't get nearly as badly poisoned as the initial test indicated, also I'll probably be able to sit down in my own bathtub in some short period of time.

In other dad news -- trying to sell my motorcycle tomorrow. It pains me, but, these days any time I have to touch paved roads with cars in the other lane at 50, I just have a sense of "this is stupid, I am too clumsy to be doing this poo poo at 41 years old". I am not ruling out getting a (probably electric) dirt bike at some point down the road, but, I think it's time to say "hey, I've been dicking around on these things for 12 years now, I've ridden them into the ground on dirt and pavement and managed to not be badly hurt, and I'd rather not become one of the bad statistics".

Dirt bikes worry me a lot less, yes you can gently caress yourself up bad but it's more hardcore safety gear (lock-rotation helmets), generally lower speeds, and basically no risk of being clobbered by something bigger than you unless you hit a moose (which I came close to once lol).

That's good news about your kid. Hope that testing the bath water gives you peace of mind.

IAMKOREA
Apr 21, 2007
I play botw with my almost 6 year old now and it's the best thing ever. She is kind of timid about playing but is getting braver, she helps me think through shrine puzzles and is really into the story. It owns, solid one on one time we both look forward to and actually easy to do after a long day of work and chores. At first I felt like I was being lazy because I wasn't like doing some active thing with her but gently caress it I have great memories playing NES with my step dad at that age so I don't think there's anything wrong with it.

IAMKOREA has issued a correction as of 07:02 on May 12, 2022

IAMKOREA
Apr 21, 2007

sonatinas posted:

if you engage your kids while playing and talk to them so they can use their skills(even as simple as how many coins do I have or where is this?) then it’s a great time to have with them. my kid loves fishing games or games with fishing in them and open world nature games. she asked me if we can get a switch and I told her until you can read better we’re sticking to Apple Arcade and the occasional wii. she would probably love watching me play Zelda but I get tired reading all the text out loud.

now in real fishing I’m horrible I’m trying not to let her down. this year though we’re gonna catch fish.

Yeah for sure like in BOTW she likes to fast travel and it's good practice for the cardinal directions etc...

We also had a lot of fun in Stardew valley

I tried animal crossing with her but that was wayyyyy to much reading gently caress that

Also we play on an emulator lol, i think i can largely attribute my computer skills to warez so i figure might as well get her started on that too

IAMKOREA
Apr 21, 2007

bitmap posted:

when did your kids start playing video games? my 2 year old has a hard enough time mustering enough attention to watch ghibli films.

My almost 6 year old can either move around or move the camera in BOTW but not both at the same time yet

IAMKOREA
Apr 21, 2007

Another Bill posted:

Letting my kids play minecraft was a mistake, they're both obsessed BUT so is every other drat kid their age.

At some point it feels like you're being mean by not letting them do the same things as their peers.

We use it to talk about addiction and too much gaming with them, but the problem isn't playing too much it's that they act like complete cranky assholes afterwards. It's shocking how consistently that results.

e: I should add that we have people in our extended family who have had children's services involved in their lives because they (the parents) were so addicted to video games, so its not something we take lightly.

Why are they so cranky afterwards? Are they playing online in toxic environments? That's not a snippy question I legit have no idea about the modern state of Minecraft, when I played it like a decade ago or whatever it was pretty chill but there was no multiplayer at that point unless you like set up a lan with your stoner roommate which again, was pretty chill

IAMKOREA
Apr 21, 2007

Another Bill posted:

They don't even play online, just split screen.

I think it triggers a strong dopamine release. They really act terrible afterwards. The only other time they act that way is when we let them stuff themselves with sugar all day. Literally they could play any other game for hours and not behave the same as after 60 mins of Minecraft.

Wow that's crazy, how old are they?

IAMKOREA
Apr 21, 2007
Warrior poet will actually be a prestige profession soon thanks to impending climate collapse

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IAMKOREA
Apr 21, 2007

pushpins posted:

My kid swallowed a coin and I am upset by this

Oh that sucks what did the doctor say

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