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- Cythereal
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Any topic that polls well on Reddit is going to. I do wonder how many parents there really are who don't realize grandchildren are produced by children, though.
Adult children have minds of their own and make choices and have their own identities.
Grandchildren are cute, stupid, and easily molded into extensions of yourself provided your adult children do not unduly interfere.
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Oct 20, 2021 16:15
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quote:The big catch, my mom isn’t willing to help pay for anything for the baby since it will not be her responsibility once it’s born. I had argued, told her to give the baby up for adoption and she thinks that heartless, because the baby, when they find out they’re adopted, will think their birth family hated them and wanted nothing to do with them.
Well, the baby sure as hell wouldn't be wrong about their biological parents.
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Oct 21, 2021 14:58
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- Cythereal
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Got linked to the old thread in discord and thought this story was too good to leave buried.
My BF[28m] caused my[24f] parents to file for divorce
quote:u/bfparentbreakup
So some back story to start. I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years and we've been living together for 1.5. We've had our bumps but for the most part the relationship has been going really well. I've never known him to be vindictive or cruel hearted, he's always been sweet to me.
I guess the drama started when my sister announced her wedding to the family. My parents agreed to pay for it and my mom has been very stressed, planning the wedding with my sister. She wants the pictures to be perfect and is concerned about my BF. He's had a pretty big scar on his face since he was young, and my mom finds it hideous. I don't know why, she's always had a weird obsession with it that I hide from my boyfriend, but he catches her staring.
So last week she texts him "How to tell someone they need cosmetic surgery". He didn't tell me about it before he texted back "How to tell someone they're in a loveless marriage and their husband is cheating when he goes on business trips". I told my BF that this was my mom's biggest fear, she's constantly worried he's cheating on these trips. I remember hearing her crying a few times late at night when I was growing up. I trusted him with this and he used it against her/me. He did this while my dad was out of town.
So she calls me at work crying about what he said to her. I try to calm her down, reassure her that dad isn't cheating. Well afterwards she calls him up and accuses him of cheating, he tells her that he's tired of hearing her accusations while he's trying to provide for her, that he wants a divorce. He told me that he can't handle her anymore, he dreads picking up her calls when he's out of town and that he's not going to return for her. He really is filing for divorce.
Now he won't talk to her or come home and I'm caught in the middle. My sister is also obviously not getting her dream wedding and is very upset about it. My boyfriend defends himself, saying that it was bound to happen eventually and that he's not going to take poo poo from her. I'm pissed that he used something I trusted him with and destroyed my family with it.
I'm so emotionally drained after taking care of my mother this weekend, I don't know how to confront my boyfriend. Sometimes I don't even know if he's that much of an rear end in a top hat for doing this. Is this a red flag, what should I do?
tldr: My Mom sent a nasty text to my BF, he sends back a nastier text that eventually caused my parents to start separating.
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Oct 23, 2021 00:58
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- Cythereal
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This thread is absolutely spectacular at making me extremely glad to be gay.
Fear not, I got you covered!
AITA for leaving my pregnant fiance homeless?
quote:Was engaged to my fiance for six months after dating for five years. Last month she found out she was pregnant. We're both women, so yeah.
We tried counseling, we discussed options, she wants to keep the baby, I want nothing to do with her, called off the wedding, and made arrangements with my sister to move in with her temporarily. I talked to apartment management today and told them I wouldn't be renewing the lease (lease expires in three months).
Ex-fiance broke down in tears when I told her. Says she has nowhere else to go. I suggested the baby daddy, she says he won't unless she has an abortion. She doesn't have any family in this country and says she'll be homeless, she can't pay the lease on this apartment and take care of a baby. I told her tough poo poo and left.
My sister and brother in law think I'm being heartless for abandoning her like this after five years together, I think she made her choice when she had an affair and apparently let him raw dog her or whatever.
AITA?
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Oct 23, 2021 13:13
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- Cythereal
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So what does everyone think, porn or gambling?
Mistress.
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Oct 24, 2021 17:10
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- Cythereal
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AITA for accidently causing a kid to be outed to his parents?
Well that's about the worst possible way he could have handled it. Congrats on ruining Kyle's life and probably giving your daughter a bi/homophobic complex.
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Oct 24, 2021 21:06
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- Cythereal
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Man, there's been so many stories along those lines where a parent has a few kids and one of them is autistic so suck up 99% of the parenting energy with the rest of the kids left with scraps at best. Plus of course the kids being expected to become the autistic kids caretaker once older. Then the kids end end fleeing.
It's also a situation where I honestly have a bit of a hard time blaming the parents, too. Being a parent is incredibly goddamn hard at the very best of times, and an autistic child is the exact opposite of the very best of times. In most of these stories the autistic child is also the younger sibling, which further complicates things.
In my mind, this kind of situation is one where I'm not comfortable calling the parents bad parents. They're probably average parents, in a situation where average just doesn't cut it.
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Oct 25, 2021 12:23
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- Cythereal
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If a child repeatedly collapses and the parent goes, "no doctor for you", I feel very comfortable calling them a bad parent.
If the family dog did that, it would get a trip to the vet, but hey, hospital is expensive. We gotta save that money for the dog.
Fair call in this specific case, I was speaking more generally since this kind of story is such a staple of this and the estranged parents threads.
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Oct 25, 2021 19:23
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- Cythereal
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Yeah, it's a known thing that religious counselors deal with regularly. Shockingly, it turns out that when you scream at a woman her whole life that sex is degrading and painful she's going to have severe psychosomatic problems with it even once it's supposedly okay. And it says a lot that this guy is being patient with her instead of, well, what conservative religion expects the husband to do.
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Oct 26, 2021 22:39
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- Cythereal
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Edit: oh obviously they're overweight too
This is my guess. Doesn't live close to her family, doesn't talk to them on social media, refers to going to see her family as 'driving down' to them? Good odds she's Southern with a standard-issue white trash family who went to college further north and improved her life substantially.
The crab mentality is real.
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Oct 27, 2021 16:21
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Today's selection brought to you by the USMC!
Worried about Marine boyfriend craving something new in his love life.
quote:My long-time boyfriend (19M) and I (18F) have been dating for two years.
Recently he enrolled into the Marines and now we’re long distance dating. Every six months he gets about two weeks of leave. However, this will be continuous for five years.
I’m absolutely infatuated with him and love everything about him, which makes it hard during those six months. I’m worried about him wanting something new or fresh in his love life, as I’m absolutely set on waiting for how long I need to.
But I tend to overthink: I do struggle with my self-esteem, but I keep it in check as to not bother him. What should I ask him if he is sure I’m the one he wants to be with for the rest of his life without seeming overwhelming or overbearing?
TL;DR - I’m in love with my boyfriend, but being so young I worry that he may crave something or someone new in his love life.
Bf (M25) doesn’t want me (F24) to model and uses offensive language
quote:I was about to break up with my bf a month ago. He kept referring to things as “gay” and nonchanlantly refers to people as “faggots”. I also caught him using the n word as well. Told him I didn’t like, and he said he would stop. His excuse for using this language was because it’s been a habit since he was a kid, and also because it’s Marine language. With this being said, he is away in a different state for Marine training. When we FaceTime, he lets these words slip. I haven’t heard him say the n-word though. But it still seems like he says the other words behind my back.
Also, he doesn’t want me to be a model (bikini and lingerie). He said, “If you’re okay with showing yourself to the world and not saving yourself for me than maybe we’re not compatible” and “I’m just trying to have our bodies and sexual image reserved for just us.” He just seems very possessive. When we were FaceTiming, I literally saw him zoom into a pic of a sexy model’s rear end through the reflection of his glasses. I didn’t tell him what I saw. But it doesn’t bother me because it was only once, and I’m not insecure about it. So he can stare at sexy girls online, but I can’t pose bikini or lingerie?
Just thinking about breaking up at this point...any advice?
TLDR; Bf uses offensive language behind my back when he knows I don’t like it- and he doesn’t want me to become a model because he wants my body to be for his eyes only, but I’ve literally seen him looking at pics of other models. Any advice and should we break up?
My boyfriend [31m] of 1.5 years just told me[21f] he was involved in a "contract marriage" while in the Marine Corps.
quote:I have been seeing by boyfriend since September 2015. We quickly fell for eachother and before I knew it we were texting all day/ every day, and I found myself over at his house mostly every night. Here we are in 2017 and not much has changed. As you can imagine we have spoke about intimate and very personal things... Tonight he dropped something on me that shocked me! He told me he was involved in a "contract marriage" while he was in the marines.
Back to when we first met... We spoke a lot about our age difference. (he was 29 when we met and I was 20.) I remember asking him very specifically when we first met had he been married or if he had kids. It was a solid no. I haven't thought anything about that until tonight.
We were chit chatting on the couch tonight like we normally do... Then the conversation shifts to a topic that isn't spoke about a lot- his time in the military. Sure, I knew basic things about this part of his life like how many tours he did in Iraq, ect but that was about it. Well he was really letting it all loose with me tonight. He was talking about how miserable he was, but also telling me some funny things that happened. He then started talking about how the higher up people (sorry I'm not familiar with terminology here) didn't like him. I was so happy to be learning about this time in his life that I was asking tons of questions... So I asked him why they didn't like him. He gave me a few reasons before saying, "mostly they were pissed I was in a contract marragie and I was getting paid more than them... They also were telling me they knew what I was doing, but I let them know that they couldn't prove love and as far as they knew that was my wife." What the actual gently caress.
I am so upset how this could be failed to be mentioned to me... Not that I care he's been married, but that he lied to be and didn't tell me for a year and a half into our relationship. I also can't wrap my mind around how someone could do something so wrong. Marriage without love to me is just wrong... Not to mention that was illegal as hell. I just didn't see him doing something like that.
After my hour long drive home from his house I am just going crazy. I have a bad habit of changing the subject when I'm uncomfortable... Which I did with this. I feel like I want to know more though... Should I bring this back up? If so, how? Is this a major thing to be left out about him? Now I'm just wondering what else he's left out about his life... Is this normal?
Tl;dr; S/O of 1.5 told me he was involved in a contract marriage back in 2005 and divorced after his last tour in Iraq.
Trying to deal with my (29M) family learning that my gf (28F) did porn
quote:My gf 'Ali' and I both come from bad homes. We both reacted poorly as adults, she did porn professionally and I enlisted in the Marines. We both developed substance abuse problems. We both left our respective careers and have tried to clean up.
We met through our rehab programs for substance abuse problems last year and started dating shortly afterwards. We both want to get better. Ali is a cook at a local restaurant, I'm now a car mechanic. Last week we celebrated my first year sober. We're talking about getting a cat.
I'm still feeling out my relationship with my family after my abusive bio dad died while I was overseas and my mom remarried. I don't know her husband well, and I want to make a good impression. When I celebrated my first year sober I included Ali in my photos as my girlfriend, the first time I've mentioned her to my family.
My brother called me a few days ago to congratulate me and discuss Thanksgiving plans. It's the first time I'll have seen my family since I started rehab. While we were bullshitting on the phone my brother joked about how Ali looked just like a certain porn actress he used to like.
Ali is that actress. My brother said her stage name. She doesn't dye her hair anymore, and she's at a healthy weight now, but it's easy to recognize her as the same person.
We're not sure what to do. Ali isn't ashamed of her past to me, we both hosed up pretty hard. She doesn't want my brother telling anyone, but we agree that he's going to recognize her and maybe tell my mom and stepdad.
Advice?
tl;dr: planning Thanksgiving with family I haven't been close to, brother recognized my gf as a former porn actress, don't want brother to tell family, don't know how to go about it
I 25f was super into this guy 28m until I found something out that I'm not sure if I can get past. Thoughts?
quote:Long story short I have been using an online dating profile for about a year. About 3 days ago, for the first time ever, I started talking to someone and there was a click and we could hold an actual conversation. We have a lot of interests in common and I was excited to maybe meet him in person (also something Ive never done)
This was until he gave me his last name so I could creep his facebook, that's when I saw that he supports Donald Trump.
I just... I don't know if I can take him seriously anymore. I asked him about it and he sent a 15 page text defending his view. He said that since he was a marine for 8 years and his number one priority is our citizens, he thinks trump would wipe the deficit and that needs to come before social issues. After he wipes the deficit he wants to see trump impeached and Sanders in for the social issues.
I honestly don't know who I am supporting or voting for, I just know there is no loving way in hell it's Donald Trump. I told him I respectfully disagree though I did see his point but I couldn't get behind it for 1,000,000 moral reasons. He then sends like 5 more pages of text about how he's liberal and the deficit is a problem and lets just not talk about politics.
Guys. I just don't know.
What do you think?
I mean....maybe just sex?Im so lonely haha..
But...there's got to be other people for that
EDIT/UPDATE: Thank you so much. I didn't know if I was being irrational for writing off a guy for his political choice. I haven't dated for a lonnnng time. Thank you for the quick and hilarious comments for the wake up call. I will not pursue this any further. I will respect myself and not sleep with or continue to talk to this guy. On to the next!
TLDR: Met boy online. Prior to meeting in person found out he's on the Trump wagon. I just don't know about it.
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Oct 28, 2021 22:18
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- Cythereal
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Goddamn, breaking up with your boyfriend at age 19 since he's not earning enough. Woof, where even to begin?
I'm gonna go with: That girl better look absolutely stunning in a ballgown, if that's her plan in life.
Choosing to not be engaged at 19 years old is generally a good idea and should be supported.
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Oct 29, 2021 18:02
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- Cythereal
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AITA for leaving a family without childcare because the child called the police on me?
White parents not knowing that calling the cops is attempted murder, goody.
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Nov 1, 2021 14:31
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- Cythereal
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How do I get my boyfriend’s (25M) conservative Mormon family to like me (25F) without converting?
quote:Not too long ago my boyfriend and I made things official (25F and 25M). We’ve been dating for about 3 months now. He also told me that he loves me and can imagine a future with me. We’re both looking for something that could be forever and lead to marriage and have talked about that.
That being said, I’m also trying to take things more slowly and get to know him since I got both married and divorced very young (married at 22 divorced by 24). I ended up in a terribly abusive marriage and was rushed into it because of his visa status after graduation. So after this horrible relationship and lots of therapy to help heal from it I want to avoid any more bad situations or heart break if possible.
Everything with my new boyfriend really clicks. It was an instant connection and our life goals and interests really line up and I haven’t seen any major red flags. However, I’ve become worried about the fact that he comes from a Mormon background. He’s said that he’s no longer Mormon because he doesn’t agree with everything the church teaches and believes it can be too extreme but he appreciates his upbringing.
I’m personally agnostic but was raised Lutheran. I don’t have a preference to my partners religious beliefs as long as they’re not too extreme and they don’t try to convert me (my ex husband’s family very much tried to make me Catholic.) He’s said he loves me the way I am and wouldn’t want me to convert but his parents are a different story. He hasn’t been able to figure out how to tell them about me yet and that I’m not Mormon.
I really care about him and can see a future with him but I’m worried his parents will absolutely hate me and this will eventually get in the way of our relationship. Generally parents love me and I’m very easy to get along with, but I’m a colorful haired, tattooed, agnostic girl who’s divorced (so clearly not a virgin). I’m so worried that even though he’s no longer with the church that me not being Mormon could get in the way of our relationship. I would also never want to come between him and his family since he’s still really close with them. Is there any way to win over a conservative Mormon family without converting? I’m still trying to hold out hope that they’ll see how much I care for him and that could be enough.
tl;dr How do I get my boyfriend’s (25M) conservative Mormon family to like me (25F) without converting?
Girl, you don't. Either you convert, your boyfriend severs from his family, or you sever from him. Make your choice.
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Nov 4, 2021 03:23
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- Cythereal
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AITA for refusing to get engaged until he gets divorced?
In which a woman is on the cusp of realizing that she is the mistress.
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Nov 6, 2021 21:33
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- Cythereal
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I don't want to victim-blame here, but I'm pretty sure if I had someone in my household regularly who experienced uncontrollable urges to pick up and chew random metal objects, I wouldn't leave my body jewelry out in plain sight. Get a box or something, Jesus
Did you miss the part where she did put it in a box next to her bed? That's what a bedside locker is. She just clearly didn't lock it and her niece went into her room and opened it.
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Nov 11, 2021 13:22
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- Cythereal
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AITA for telling my husband I expect him to put me above his mom?
Congratulations on having two children!
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Nov 12, 2021 16:09
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- Cythereal
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Everyone participates in the food preparation and cooking process, it's part of the ritual and also it's hard not to participate when the conversation is in the kitchen and it's obvious who isn't pulling their weight.
This. I have a big family that gets together for the holidays, and the kitchen is a constant madhouse of people ducking in and out to tend to whatever they brought or helping out with whatever, bitching over oven times and temperatures, retrieving the cat that snuck in to steal some turkey, etc.
In a functional, loving family, the whole insanity of the family getting together to share and cook Thanksgiving/Christmas dinner is all part of the fun and memories.
The OP of that story is not part of a functional, loving family.
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Nov 18, 2021 13:31
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- Cythereal
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Clicked on my bookmark of the old thread on accident, then went to a random page and found a good story about a complete loving idiot getting what's coming to him.
I [35 M] caught using a hidden camera to peek at my sister-in-law [22 F] naked. I'm as hosed as hosed can be.
quote:I don't know where to begin. I'm 35 and married, no kids. Wife is also 35. My wife's sister, whom we'll call Stephanie, is often over at our house with her husband. I didn't mean to, but I always found myself staring at Stephanie and being extremely attracted to her. I really couldn't help it. I'm devoted to my wife, but Stephanie looks just like my wife did a decade ago, so how was I not supposed to be attracted to her? Besides that, Stephanie and her husband like to come over and use our pool and all those times of seeing her in her bikini didn't help.
Well today I royally hosed up and now our whole extended family is probably going to implode.
Stephanie and her husband are putting in some fancy new shower and tub. They only have one bathroom and they could be without theirs for a week or two. Well, Stephanie called today and asked if she could pop over and take a shower.
I don't know what came over me. Something about the thought of her being naked, right here, almost close enough to see, just sent me into overdrive. I'm not trying to make excuses, but I honestly don't think I've ever been that horny. It really clouded my judgement and if I had just went off and jerked off or something I know I never would've done what I did next.
I have this motion-activated pen camera. Records on a mini memory card. Looks just like a normal pen except for one little dot where the lens is that you'd never really notice. I don't have it for any nefarious reasons. I bought it several months back when I was dealing with a situation at my work where I needed to protect myself legally.
Well, my dumb rear end ran and got that pen and planted it in the bathroom before Stephanie came over. She arrived, and I puttered around in the garage while she showered. Honestly, I wasn't even nervous, just excited. I really didn't even consider the idea that I'd get caught. She finished showering, I assume told my wife bye, and I saw her leave from inside the garage.
Well, when I went and retrieved the pen and downloaded the video a little later, I was in for a horrible surprise.
The video showed Stephanie come in, undress, shower, the normal stuff. After a few minutes, she got out and started doing the weird naked lotion rituals that women all seem to do.
That's when she stopped mid-lotioning and stared intently at the camera for several seconds. You can imagine my reaction when watching it. I went from being more horny than I've ever been in my life and excited at finally seeing the object of my lust naked to feeling like I was going to throw up. I knew what I was seeing, but I didn't believe it. But then Stephanie reached out and picked up the pen and brought it in close to her face and I knew I was completely hosed. She stared at it for several seconds and it was obvious from her shocked expression that she knew what it was and then she quickly put it back down with the camera pointing down and the rest of the video was just blackness.
I don't know how she noticed it. The only thing I can figure is that my wife must have told her about the pen at some point and told her about my work situation. Maybe she even showed it to her. You'd never suspect in a million years that this pen had a camera in it, though, even if you picked it up. So somehow she knew about it.
And now, hours later, I'm sitting here in hell waiting for the other shoe to drop and feeling sick. This will destroy my extended family. My wife, I have no idea what she'll do. I don't think she'd leave me over simply peeking at someone naked, but if the fallout with her family is bad enough she might.
The waiting is killing me. I know it's coming. I assume Stephanie hasn't seen her husband yet tonight (he works late) or he'd be over here trying to kick my rear end right now. He's a big jealous guy and not the type to let this sort of thing slide AT ALL.
Should I just preemptively tell my wife and beg for mercy? Should I try to talk to Stephanie and beg her not to say anything? I have no idea what to do. I just want to crawl in a hole and die. I wish I had a time machine.
tl;dr Got super horny and planted a spy cam to check out my sister-in-law naked. She found it. I'm hosed and waiting and don't know what to do next.
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Nov 24, 2021 00:30
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That or it was written one-handed, that'll teach me to not scroll past the original post.
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Nov 24, 2021 00:56
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Yeah the cousins are joking about asking that so as far as they are concerned it's obviously a possibility, but dinner with your SO's mum and cousins is not the right time to start boasting about your sex life.
Also, speaking Urdu means they're from (or in) India. So assume regressive social norms and a double helping of racism.
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Nov 29, 2021 13:22
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I(18M) fell in love with an lesbian(18F)
quote:I've just created a second account to tell everything that has happened without getting tracked by my friends.
I was a platonic guy who had fallen in love with a girl who showed no signs of sexual attraction to me. We graduated from the high school 1 year ago and today I finally told her my inner feelings about her after 5 loving years. It turned out that she is a lesbian.. It all makes sense right now. I thought there is a chance that she is lesbian or asexual but never took it seriously. I don't know what to do, please say something guys. I cried a lot and need your help. I'm always the unluckiest man on earth. I feel like my 4 years of high school wasted because she was the only girl that i truly love in 4 years of studying high school. She has never told me anything about her sexual preference before. I'm stunned.
I know that I cannot push her to be with me anymore or something and actually I'm thinking about ending my friendship with her and stopping the contact forever but she's very lonely and if I stop my contact she will be devastated but it's even more devastating to sit next to her, a lesbian woman that was my first crush, and talk like nothing has happened. I'm truly hosed.
Tl;dr i've fallen in love with a lesbian
Oh, teenagers.
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Nov 30, 2021 00:45
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AITA for telling the kids their dad took this year's Christmas away from them?
Start saving for a divorce lawyer, lady.
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Nov 30, 2021 16:54
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who gets fired from a gas station for lack of drive and passion?
Sounds like HR speak for 'repeated no call/no show' or 'flatly refused to do his job.'
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Nov 30, 2021 17:12
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My(27m) ex fiancee (24f) has come out as a lesbian and I want her back
quote:Tl;Dr my ex fiancee says she's gay now and I want her back.
My fiancee and I broke up about 5 weeks ago. We were together 2.5 years , engaged for 5 months and we're living together.About 6 months ago she came out to me as Bi.
Last week we caught up, I had hoped to get back together but she's saying she thinks she might be gay, as she feels nothing kissing other guys but does with girls. She said "it's either you or girls" I pushed the "you" part in hopes of getting back together but she put up a wall after that.
I think she's confused and I want her back but thinking it's all but impossible now. Just to clarify Im not homophobic at all but obviously in this situation I want her to be into guys.
Has anyone been in this situation before.
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Dec 1, 2021 03:56
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Today's search term in legal advice: 'Christmas tree.'
Ex roommate and the 4-Year-old Christmas tree
quote:This will get rather long, so please bear with me as I feel this is incredibly insane. I am going to dial back for 4 years 2016. I was moved out of my father's and placed in assistance for behavioral health to work on my independence, in New Jersey. A little bit about me, my mental health was enabling me to care for my physical and mental state as it was my father who had to choose this to help me find my way to adulthood. Now I state that because I was first moved into the two-floor house with one female roommate and two older men on the first floor.
I'd would like to state that we as low-income are in this housing for all different reasons. I was about 22 at the time and my roommate was 40. Within 2 weeks it was a disaster, I caught her doing illegal drugs, she threatened me, she was explosive and could not control any of her emotions, she was this giant roller coaster eating my food, taking my belongings and insulting me. 10 months she was evicted.. but the summer before her eviction a neighbor across the street gave an old Christmas for free because he could not sell it at his garage sale. I remember so clearly he kicked it to her and said "Here have it?" and she was delighted. During her eviction, she never took the tree. Ok, I like to clarify it is Law that she had 30 days to probably 6 months to take that drat tree... poo poo.. should have taken 4 years in the process... Because 4 years later my assistance moved me to my apartment after my roommate after my prior roommate (2016) got pregnant not under the regulations of this assistance. SO HEY, the assistance moved me into my apartment and it took time to adjust but I also brought an emotional support animal, I succeded in independence. The great catch is out of more than 10 of my neighbors in this complex my ex-roommate of 4 years is one of them and YES I TOOK THE TREE, to my new apartment. She has been spreading rumors that the tree was 300 dollars. She said I was a Slut 4 years ago and I sleep with multiple men. She has called the assisted living office and corporate office about this tree. She called my a f**King BTCH about it and told the police I stole it and that the assistance gave me the Brat a 300 dollar Martha stuet tree and I could laugh on how this white tree is practically turning yellow..... I believe this tree is more than 4 years old... I think the irritating thing is that I heard from 4 neighbors, 1 counselor from my assistance and the maintenance guy?? I hope from reading this you could understand she has a reputation. Everyone knows she suffers severely... but no one wants to handle her and I wholeheartedly understand why. Now I do not know why I have the support her behavior as I was told to give the tree back... I said no and I meant it when I said "She can pick it out of the trash when I buy a new one" NOW it has escalated I constantly am told what is said about me which is the judgment of my character and all this time I waiting for it to boil in her where she can be less of a coward and say something to me.
She did, she told me I stole her NOW 500 dollar tree. She told me I was corrupted and I was part of this scheme ( Don't ask I know her crazy paranoia) I was a brat and a thief and I should look out because she going to sue me.
Mind you this is when she was walking her pitbull.. and I was walking my dog. I walked away and said nothing because publicly is was frightening and embarrassing.
So i'd like to ask.. can i make a case against her? Because this behavior is what i recorded physically living with her and THAT GOT HER OUT. I don't care about getting her out! i care about not rewriting history. What can I do? CAN RECORD? Should i document? I can't even walk my dog...
Thank you C:
[FL] I broke my brother's face with a Christmas tree, family threatening legal action to pay for the hospital
quote:Very early yesterday morning (as in, 5 AM or so, I normally get up around 7), I was woken up by car noises outside my apartment. While I was trying to go back to sleep, I heard the apartment door open (I live alone) and someone enter the apartment.
I shouted who was there, got no answer, and grabbed the heaviest object I could find, a battery-powered Christmas tree I keep on my dresser. I walked out of my bedroom and saw someone moving in the kitchen. I shouted again who was there, they didn't answer, and I threw the Christmas tree at the person and knocked them down.
It turns out it was my brother, and he was silent because he was hoping I hadn't seen him. My family and girlfriend were in the car, they'd used my girlfriend's key and were planning a surprise birthday party.
My brother had to go to the hospital, where it turns out my thrown Christmas tree broke his nose, knocked out a few teeth, and did various other damage to his face. My family is threatening legal action if I don't pay for his hospital bills and any surgery he needs to restore how his face looks.
I think this is an empty threat, there's plenty of evidence that I repeatedly screamed at my brother to identify himself as he entered the apartment without warning (my girlfriend said she could hear me shouting from the car), but I'm not sure.
Do I have anything to worry about?
My husband drained our accounts and wants to kick the kids and I out of the house in a week.
quote:HI- they told me in r/relationships that this is illegal, and that you guys would have advice. We're in Ohio. I need a divorce lawyer. On Wednesday, I bought him a loving Christmas present. On Thursday, I found out he gave me a STI. On Friday, he admitted he's been cheating. Yesterday, he drained our accounts. He says I need to be out of the house by Christmas Eve.
We have four kids, 8, 6,5 and 2. I haven't worked since the oldest was born. Our relationship has been bad since before my youngest daughter was born- we hadn't meant to get pregnant. This week, I tested positive for an STI. I investigated, confronted him and he admitted it. We had a huge fight, he stormed out of the house. Yesterday, my credit card was declined at the grocery store, and I couldn't get cash. He has EMPTIED all of our accounts. I was in charge of the bills and finances; I know exactly how much was in our checking, savings and money market account. He's changed his password for his 401(k). He didn't respond to my frantic texts all day, but just sent me an email saying I had a week to get myself and "my kids" out of "his house", and I had better get a job or go "back to my parents" if I expect to feed them. We bought the house together, before the kids were born and I paid half of the down payment. I have no money or credit cards, so I can't even get a lawyer. I am sitting here staring at a Christmas tree, crying and wondering if I'll have to return my children's presents for food. I have no idea how this happened. I live two hours away from my family, so even if I got a job, I'd have to pay for day care. Should I sell my wedding and engagement rings? Do I make a resume and apply for a job in my old field (accounting) or just get a job at Starbucks or McDonald's? Can he do this?
tl;dr: I'm a SAHM and my husband has taken all of my money and is going to kick us out of the house. I am simply in shock.
Husband is kind of a nut, has security cameras pointed at neighbor's houses.
quote:Asking here from the Glorious state of Missouri, about an hour south of St. Louis in a town of around 7000 souls.
So, yeah, he's harmless, but man, does he love his cameras and motion detection lights. Our house lights up like a goddamned Christmas tree whenever someone drives by. The security cameras our on our property, pointed at our car and our lawnmower shed, but you can clearly see the two of our neighbors' houses. There are only four houses on our street, and we're been on pretty good terms with everyone, more or less. He's spoken to the owners of both of these houses to brag about his cameras, let them know he's got them on video, and told them that if anything happens to their places he's be glad to hand the footage over the cops if they asked.
One of them, directly across from us, seemed less than happy about this. I can understand her point of view, I don't know that I'm entirely happy about it either. But in order to film our cars, we pretty much have to get her house too.
He's a combat veteran with PTSD, and I think the cameras are a symptom of this. I don't really think we need them, we're not in a high crime area. But he really loves them. So... how legal is all of this? He's also considering hardwiring high wattage flood lights around the place to make the place even more secure. If it helps with his anxiety (which he does have meds for) then I guess it's harmless enough.
Assuming it's actually legal, that is. Well, off to work, will reply to any responses or questions in the middle of the night.
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Dec 8, 2021 22:41
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I'm someone who doesn't really dance, specially not in public. My wife always hated this because she adores dancing and could not understand why I wouldn't want to always dance in public or felt embarrassed about it. I've done a lot to get over it, but if that husband was anything like me then being seen dancing is about on a level as being filmed doing nude yoga or something in terms of embarrassment and violation. Not sure I'd smash up the house but I could imagine a similar level of rage and betrayal if I was in his shoes a few years ago.
Call me crazy, but I get the feeling from the post that this is something they'd argued about many times before and her recording him and then posting it publicly without his permission was the last straw.
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Dec 17, 2021 19:33
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WIBTA if I approached my daughter's boss/workplace about her terrible Secret Santa gift?
I said aloud 'yes' as soon as I saw the title but uhhh well the body and seeing creepy McCreepison giving underaged girls lingerie at work sure changed my mind.
Definitely alert the company to the pedo working for them.
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Dec 17, 2021 20:34
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My (26F) husband (26M) told me that he thinks being married to someone in his field would be a better fit and won't compromise with me on going to counseling.
quote:My husband and I have been together for 6 years, married for four months. I thought everything was perfect. We had some communication issues in the past but we worked through them and I really thought everything was going well. We’re both Post-docs in different fields of STEM, and I always thought having different interests enriched our marriage but, well…
The other day we were in the kitchen cooking dinner and he was telling me about this project one of his colleagues was working on. I kept having to ask him questions because even if I don’t know much about his field, I am interested in what my husband does and try to be engaging in our conversations. He then randomly blurts out, “You know sometimes I wonder what it would be like if I was married to another [title of scientists in his field]. I feel like it would be such a productive marriage.” I was super appalled by that statement because I feel like he low key told me I was stupid for not understanding him and also holding him back. I said “oh, you mean like one of your coworkers?” He replied, “Yeah, I feel like they would understand me more we could collaborate on projects. It would be so cool and overall a much better fit.”
I called him out on this immediately. I said, “you know that is an incredibly insensitive thing to say to your new wife. You basically told me that you’re questioning how well we work together.” He didn’t quite realize what he had said and tried to backtrack saying “that’s not what I meant. You’re taking it the wrong way. I just wish you knew more about my field of research.” I asked him why he is saying this now, and if he felt this way while in grad school too. He said no, because he was mostly working with men in the past and he never thought of what it would be like to work with his partner.
At that point, I left the kitchen to go snuggle my bunny because I was so freaking upset and sad that my husband just told me he wanted me to be a different person and would prefer it if I was more like his female colleauges. I told him that I was hurt and he needed to give me space but he followed after me and we started fighting. I told him he shouldn’t have said it. It’s okay to be interested in other people and have these “what if” thoughts, but you wouldn’t have said it if it wasn;t something you were seriously bothered by. I know I am not interested in his subject, but I try to understand what he is saying because I love him and want to know what he is doing, but if it were not for him I would have zero motivation to learn about what he does. I told him that he is not remotely engaged in my subject and I understand why. It’s not his passion, but I’m fine with that. I love how excited his work makes him and he had told me he felt the same way. I feel like he is questioning our marriage and he isn’t truly happy with me. He told me he loves me and he didn’t mean it that way, but I told him you can’t back track and the damage is done. It’s nice to know you are having these regrets. Thanks for being honest with me, but I am very hurt and I need a little time to feel comfortable.
He has basically been silent about it since then and I just can’t look at him the same way. Whenever I see him texting his colleaugues, my stomach churns. I don’t want him to touch me, I don’t want to look at him. I’m usually the one with the high libido but I had to turn him down the last few times he has initiated sex because now I feel so used. I told him that I think we should go to marriage counseling because I can’t get over feeling inadequate now. Maybe I am taking it far, but this is what I need to feel “safe” in our marriage again. He said he would prefer to try and work on it ourselves and I said this is not an option. I have been in relationships where I felt unappreciated before and I am not willing to do it again. He has never been great with expressing his feelings but he doesn’t have anything else to say beside “I’m sorry, but you took it the wrong way.”
I can’t let it go! I just can’t stop feeling like my husband wished I was someone else and the fact that he doesn’t want to go to counseling so we can work through OUR problems is so devastating for me. He kept telling me I was blowing things out of proportion and I snapped and told him that if he doesn’t want to have our marriage annulled, he will do this with me because my image of our relationship is shattered. Am I over reacting?
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Husband told me that he thinks about what it would have been like to marry someone in his field and that it would ultimately have been a better fit for him. I am so hurt by those words and requested marriage counseling but he refuses to go. This is my hill to dies on. Am I being unreasonable?
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Dec 22, 2021 02:17
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I've [25 F] become a lot more successful in my career, than my boyfriend [25 M] has in his. He got really jealous and nasty about it while drunk.
quote:My boyfriend and I are both engineers. We've been together since college (6 years). I always thought he was the smarter one, and I think he did too. He was the type to live and breathe engineering, and I was the type to want other hobbies, and really not immerse myself as much. But, I've ended up more successful, and he's jealous.
I got into engineering when I was directionless in college, and was thinking "Oh poo poo, I'm gonna need money... I guess I'll give this engineering thing a try, it apparently pays well and I'm OK at math." Of course I worked hard, but it wasn't like my passon or anything. I just jumped into it because I was scared of being broke after college.
And I got my job at a company I'd never heard of basically thinking "Sweet, they gave my dumb rear end an offer, I guess I'll give it a try. I need a job."
And somehow I lucked into doing something super interesting to me, with flexible hours, good pay, and lots of travel to other countries. The work travel even includes lots of time for sightseeing, because I am working on systems where the customers really want to minimize down-time, so they won't shut stuff down for us to work with for too long. So sometimes I'll travel for several weeks, and only spend half of those days working. So I'm getting to see a lot of the world without paying for any of it, and I love it.
My coworkers and boss think pretty highly of me too, though I suspect a big part of that is that I'm more of a "people person" than some engineers, and I've been told by a lot of people that I'm very easy to work with.
On the other hand, my boyfriend was a super dedicated student, plus all his extracurriculars were related to his studies. He understood a lot of our academic subjects much more in depth than I do, and his studies came more easily to him.
But when he graduated, he struggled finding work at all, let alone something he enjoyed. He moved in with his parents for 6 months when job searching, hated his first job, and continued job searching till he found somewhere else.
The place he works now is a more well known company, but he basically says they don't trust him with anything other than menial data entry stuff; there are a few long term employees who boss everyone else around, and there's a lot of turnover of new hires. His manager is a hardass about his hours, and his job doesn't involve travel.
He's applying elsewhere, still, but not getting too many interviews.
The jealousy issue came up slowly, then all at once. For a while, he'd been saying stuff like "Isn't that nice for you" a little passive aggressively when I'd talk about something exciting happening at work. I thought he must just be frustrated with not having many perks to his job, so I tried to lay off stuff that sounded like bragging.
But then, we went to a party and got good and drunk. I was joking around with a friends and being self depricating, saying "Yeah I still cant believe they let my dumb rear end design [Thing my company makes]... Last week, I made a cup of coffee all over the ground because I forget to put a cup under the Keurig at work."
And then my boyfriend doubled down on my joke, quoting a couple dumb things I said in college when I was struggling with my studies. My friends started to cringe a little because it came off more insulting than funny.
In the walk home, I told him that what he'd said about me being dumb wasn't very nice. He said that I made the joke first, so he didn't get why I was so sensitive.
I told him that it's different coming from him, it sucks to hear your boyfriend joke about how dumb you are. I asked if he really thought I was dumb. He started by saying "No, but..." And then continued on this rant that kind of shocked me. I'll summarize it, because I was too drunk to remember his exact words.
He thought my job seemed like it was out of my skillset, and I didn't have the technical skills to do what I've been doing properly, from what he'd seen of my understanding of stuff in college. He said I don't do well under pressure also. He started to wonder to himself if I had been hired because there's a push to get more women in engineering. Overall it sounded like he thought I was undeserving of my job.
I cut him off there, and said "If any of that was true, why would they still keep me around? And pay a poo poo ton in airline fees to fly me to do on-site work? Nobody's gonna do that for someone dumb as bricks."
He then started to ramble about the stuff he knew better than me, and why was he strugging to start his career when I was succeeding?
I started to realize he was being bitter because he was jealous. I sent him home to sleep because I didn't want to argue more drunk. And that's the last we talked about it. I've been trying to think through whether it's something I can get past.
On one hand, I see why he's frustrated in his career. But I hate how he tried to tear me down as a result.
TLDR - My boyfriend's way smarter than me academically, but I've had more career success so far. He insulted my intelligence, I think out of jealousy. quote:I think you have a point about this kind of thing affecting self esteem. It's always felt like he was the smart one, so I am sometimes surprised by myself, with how much I can accomplish, or surprised by my successes... Because I still have that pesky little feeling that I'm stupid.
My boyfriend is doing more online application than networking, he kinda looks down on "schmoozing" as he puts it. That might be running his chances honestly.
I personally got my job through what he thinks of as schmoozing; I met a recruiter at a college career fair, and talked to a bunch of employees at the career fair before I ever applied. And I think that helped me stand out from the "faceless" online applications
Another engineer defeated by such concepts as 'networking' and 'being pleasant to other people' and 'people skills.'
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Dec 27, 2021 23:10
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Ex sent pictures to my employer trying to get me fired, what recourse do I have? Ontario
quote:Hi. I got out of a very toxic relationship a few months ago. I ended it and told him never to contact me again. All of our communication since then has gone through my new boyfriend (who is a mutual acquaintance). I've been out of work for a while and only recently got back into the job market. I finished my training to become a security guard last month and now I am gainfully employed doing something I enjoy. I posted about this on facebook and my ex discovered my employer and sent pictures of me to them, with my name attached, and stated that they "cast a very poor light on the company". He took a screenshot of the email and sent the picture to my current boyfriend, who showed me. These pictures have never been posted publicly and only my ex and a few other people have ever seen them.
I'm terrified of going into work. I have no idea how my boss will react to these pictures and I really can't afford to lose this job. I don't have any savings left and if I don't get paid this month I won't be able to make rent.
Edit: I got a couple hours of sleep and like 10 PMs asking what these pictures are (and one that asked to "send nudes", really?). People speculating that it's drugs or something illegal. I wasn't going to mention it because I don't want to be judged but I'm screwed anyway apparently so whatever. No, last summer I met up with some internet friends with an edgy sense of humor at a cosplay convention. Let me start by saying I'm not a racist, or a nazi, but two of my friends dressed up as SS guards and had a bunch of swastika armbands. (They weren't allowed into the con so we did all of this outside on the street.) I posed with them, wore an armband, did a nazi salute, etc, and one of them took pictures that he shared with me later. I sent them to my (now ex) bf because I thought he'd find it funny. I didn't think he'd save them and use them against me, or even remember. I wasn't cosplaying that day so my face was visible, but I made sure none of my friends put them up on the internet publicly so I assumed I was fine. Now my ex has already sent them to one employer, and without any explanation or context, implying that I'm a neo-nazi or something. My boss is POC, my landlord is POC, by current boyfriend is Asian, I'm seriously not racist but my ex is trying to ruin my life with just those couple of pictures and I need some way to make him stop.
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Jan 10, 2022 23:19
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Like Im happy for the two of them but thats some lovely behavior to a friend being nice.
Sounds like Hailee has self-confidence issues and was struggling with her sexuality, as teenagers (it sure sounds like teenagers, or maybe young college students) are wont to do. OP prodded her at a delicate moment, she lashed out, and everything's back to normal once she sorted her poo poo out.
It's lovely, but it's kind of understandable and it sounds like neither of them are holding it against each other.
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Jan 12, 2022 17:19
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kid didn't get that way on her own. Mum and Dad did that. Mum fought HARD for custody, didn't want OP involved in raising the stepdaughter, and presumably pushed stepdaughter in that direction. Kid was like 9 when OP and Dad got together, and presumably younger when her folks got divorced, and this after being brought up by a mother who by all accounts is a complete piece of poo poo. THEN, after several years of being mums Special Little Girl who Dad is barely even allowed to see, Mum marries an arsehole, gets pregnant again and rejects the stepdaughter. She's sent away, to live with people she has been conditioned to reject and distrust.
I'm not saying she's safe to be around, she clearly isn't, but she was made this way, and the adults in the situation need to take responsibility for that.
This is my read on it. Stepdaughter is a teenager, or just barely past it, who's been weaponized as a football between her parents since she hit puberty. No goddamn wonder she's a mess.
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Jan 14, 2022 13:22
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AITA for exposing my brother’s “counseling” business?
Well, well. If it isn't the consequences of my own actions.
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Jan 17, 2022 22:13
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I went hunting for a heartwarming one.
I'm (27F) concerned about attending my sister's (30F) wedding after major lifestyle changes
quote:Using a throwaway because I don't like people knowing about this part of my past:
I used to be severely overweight in school and college. I had a lot of personal issues growing up, and reacted in very unhealthy ways. I ate far too much, never exercised, and when I got to college I started drinking. P much everyone in the town I grew up in knew me as the fat party girl.
A couple of years ago I moved away for a new job and started seeing a therapist. With her help, I started making lifestyle changes and getting a grip on myself. Part of this was going LC with my family, who I realized in therapy were major contributors to my issues. I do not use social media anymore, and haven't seen my family since I moved away.
Another part was finally coming out of the closet, and my new girlfriend has been hugely supportive and a big help in getting me into fitness and eating better. It's still a lifelong journey.
Point is, since the last time I saw my family I've lost well over a hundred pounds (probably closer to two hundred), have come out of the closet, and dyed my hair.
Today I got a wedding invitation for my big sister and her long-time boyfriend as part of a long email catching me up on what's been happening in our hometown since I left. Part of that email were some of the jokes we used to make about my weight, and drinking.
I don't know if I want to go back to a pit of what I now understand was full of emotional abuse and unhealthy coping mechanisms, and I'm afraid that I might be seen as 'upstaging' my sister. My mom always used to make fun of 'people who think they're better than us.'
My girlfriend thinks it might be good to get some closure on this part of my life, and patch up what relationships I can, but has promised to support me whatever I decide to do.
Has anyone been in a situation like this and know whether it was worth it?
tl;dr: used to be the fat party girl in a small town, got better after leaving home, invited back for sister's wedding who don't know that I've changed, not sure to accept or not
UPDATE I'm (27F) concerned about attending my sister's (30F) wedding after major lifestyle changes
quote:OP: https://old.reddit.com/r/relationships/comments/rzzk0q/im_27f_concerned_about_attending_my_sisters_30f/
Thank you everyone who gave me a lot of good advice! Sorry for not responding in that thread, real life's been a whirlwind lately, yay someone at the office testing positive for covid.
Long story short, I did as redditors suggested and did a zoom call with my big sister, ostensibly to catch up but really to get a handle on how things have changed.
My sister was actually really great and supportive about my lifestyle changes. She apologized immediately for the 'jokes' when she saw how much weight I'd lost and was super supportive about me not drinking anymore and coming out of the closet. She is not the problem, at all.
The problem is our parents. From what my sister said, my mom especially has been steadily alienating everyone in the family. When I left, she found a new target in my little brother. When he joined the military and left, she started going after my cousins. My big sister, the one who's having the wedding, has always been my mom's favorite, but she says that she's opened her eyes to how my mom treats people and is planning to move away herself after the wedding (our parents are paying for most of it).
I've agreed with my sister that I'm not coming to the wedding. We agreed that it would give mom a new target to make a huge scene over, and there will be an open bar at the wedding when I don't trust myself to be around that kind of thing.
We're now planning for my sister and husband to come visit me in my new city sometime after the wedding.
Thank you for all the advice and support!
tl;dr: zoom called big sister, she's great, I'm not going to the wedding but my sister will visit later
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Jan 24, 2022 01:54
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Are there any reasons for "no sex before marriage" that aren't religious or "traditional" (read: quasi-religious) brain poisoning? Obviously people should have sex when they're comfortable, but the whole idea that waiting for government certification makes it more "special" just screams neuroses or unprocessed sex issues. Neither of which will be fixed by any amount of delaying. Not to mention enshrining virginity as a virtue, which is Grade-S vintage bullshit.
The main practical concern is pregnancy, should birth control measures fail/people gently caress up and they decide not to abort. It's a good idea in so many ways for children to be born into stable families that will be able to care for them. Not to say that single parents, and parents who aren't married, can't take care of children well, or that married couples are automatically going to be good parents, but that's in theory where much of this stuff comes from.
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Jan 24, 2022 16:48
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This is really nice!!! Yeah,a big thing with toxic families is often the Golden Child isn't a jerk, but rather totally ignorant to how the whole thing is going down
It's nice they family had their eyes opened, so etimes a common enemy is what you need haha
The OP noted in the comments that her sister had enough pattern recognition to realize her mom was going from scapegoat to scapegoat as people wisely fled to escape her bullshit.
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- Cythereal
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I love the potoo,
and the potoo loves you.
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AITA for refusing to take my hijab off for a wedding?
My, my. If it isn't the consequences of my own actions and inability to stand up to my racist family.
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Jan 26, 2022 03:50
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The parents don't want a relationship with their child, they want a relationship with their grandchildren (and, probably, turn them against the grandkids' parents). Stories like this turn up time and again in these threads, parents disapproving of the kids' relationships for whatever reason and becoming estranged, then the moment they find out about grandkids they want in.
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Oct 20, 2021 15:44
