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I wouldn't be suuuper shocked if the 16 year old girl was a relative of one of the nerdmen, and OP didn't bring it up because he was trying to keep the impression they were grooming her. That said, I also wouldn't be suuuuper shocked if the 16 year old girl wasn't a relative and was just a high schooler who met the group through local anime conventions, in which case uuuh there need to be a lot better boundaries going on.
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value-brand cereal posted:As a trans person of color, specifically asian, holy gently caress this is evil. Yeah I'm going by your dead sister's name which isn't even my race, because playing dress up in another persons culture is so much fun XD
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Oct 25, 2021 06:26
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PancakeTransmission posted:Yeah as someone who's ex had it, his solutions are divorce or anal since she apparently doesn't want to do therapy or go to a doctor to fix it I really dunno if anal is going to help given the source of the problem.
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Oct 26, 2021 23:11
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Midnight Voyager posted:Or that she's been told forever that it will hurt as one of the ways they try to scare kids from having sex... and so trying to start it DOES because she's clamping up tighter than a bear trap.
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Oct 26, 2021 23:45
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It is entirely possible for an otherwise empathetic person to blank and gently caress up in one of the most stressful and sudden situations to be in. That hypothetical person would not blame her for being mad at him.
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Oct 31, 2021 01:00
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Funktastic posted:AITA for being annoyed when my nephew always orders the most expensive food on the menu?
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Oct 31, 2021 02:57
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Solenna posted:Holy poo poo that is rude of the kid. If they're going to talk up cultural values and expect OP to pay for everyone they need to tell their kid to quit being a shithead and show some respect. EDIT: Like they should have intervened the first time he pulled this or at least intervened after and apologized to OP, 11 is plenty old enough to decide what you want to eat but not if you're going to say 'everything' and then throw away the extra.
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Oct 31, 2021 03:00
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AngryRobotsInc posted:It has been a minute since I last took a child psychology course (and in full disclosure, I never finished the psychology program, and dipped out fairly early), but RAD was pretty much solely considered to be caused by some form of incorrect caretaking. Like, if an infant is consistently made to "cry it out" (not a one shot time, but just consistently failing to provide the reassurance and comfort needed), or the sort. It was not considered a biological condition, but a condition caused by circumstances, in this case the child-parent/guardian bond not appropriately forming.
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Nov 1, 2021 17:39
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Bonster posted:It's a response to neglect or abuse (predominately neglect) in infancy and early childhood. You sometimes see it in children who have experienced extensive hospitalizations or other types of institutional care, where the neglect may not be intentional but is just a case of too many children per caregiver, or in children who have experienced severe traumatic adjustments. It is not considered to have organic causes, but may be influenced by neurological changes that occur due to neglect (so the neglect causes the brain to develop differently which both causes and is influenced by the child's ability to attach). RAD is uncommon, and in some cases symptoms are better explained by PTSD, oppositional defiant disorder and other anxiety disorders, although it can also be comorbid with them.
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Nov 1, 2021 19:32
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limp_cheese posted:What in the gently caress? Outing a dude as a pedophile on national Tv and there were not immediately cops there to arrest him? And the show knew about this beforehand? Just what the gently caress....
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Nov 7, 2021 00:58
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Ralph Crammed In posted:This got skipped over in soda chat cause goons love to talk about junk food, but I really wonder what is the actual story here. How do you get committed to a mental institution on the word of your teenaged daughter? There's a lot of stuff she skims over, like the 'lies' the roommate told about her to her daughter and her anger that the roommate was hanging out in her room all day and 'sneaking around, which is like, if your roommate is crazy you think you'd want.
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Nov 8, 2021 20:25
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Halloween Jack posted:Given that she swore off anal sex "after a particularly painful incident," I'm guessing he's going about it in the dumbest way possible. Probably in ways that professionals won't be willing to accommodate.
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Nov 15, 2021 19:02
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DemoneeHo posted:In case you ever have a tiny bit of sympathy for her dad or think maybe OP went too far with her revenge, here are some key details she left out of the initial post:
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Nov 17, 2021 18:51
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I mean the real answer is they're not the rear end in a top hat for feeling uncomfortable and wishing they could do a different job and hopefully they'll be able to get one, because even if their religious codes allows for them to handle the food in a circumstance where they can't get another job I'm sure it feels mentally uncomfortable. Having worked in food service before unless they work at the all bacon product cafe there's plenty of other work they can do at almost literally every point in time to make up for someone else taking point on the bacon when someone orders it. It's just they're looking for external validation in a pretty lovely place for it and asking for it pretty badly. EDIT: At the same time yeah I don't think they're doing anything wrong by handling bacon, just if the question is 'am I the rear end in a top hat for feeling upset about this' the answer is no because it's... entirely subjective...?
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Nov 22, 2021 05:08
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Barudak posted:I mean, it is pretty clearly haram for her to be selling Bacon products in the first place, so, uh, why is she even at that job. The real question is what the heck sort of retail job doesn't consider food service experience valid.
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Nov 22, 2021 05:12
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I thought it was a caffeine thing with Mormons, my understanding is they're pretty strict on any sort of 'mind-altering substance' no matter how normalized/mild, which can cause problems when someone has a legitimate mental disorder that needs medicating. I don't know if there's any official doctrine over taking psychiatric medication in case of serious medical need, but my suspicion is that psychiatric problems are considered something that needs to be prayed away even if there'd be understanding over someone needing to take, say, insulin. Hopefully that can shift in the future with more recognition of mental illness as potentially a physical problem and not a 'spiritual' one. EDIT: From googling around I also suspect it depends on specific like, sect and stuff, it sounds like mainstream Mormonism is understanding that some issues require prescribed medication to deal with whereas some stricter sects might... disagree.
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Nov 22, 2021 06:22
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Hellblazer187 posted:I don't understand how someone can be "extremely against infant adoption" to the point that she can "rant for hours about how it should be banned."
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Nov 24, 2021 19:19
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Yeah frankly generally the people who hate kids but know they hate kids so they're not going to have any are doing alright or at least are the rear end in a top hat for other anti-kid actions they take, two people having 0 interest in having a kid but having one anyway bc it's what is done usually ends up pretty badly.
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Nov 30, 2021 06:05
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Hughlander posted:Wall of text but you're never going to know where it'll take you:
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Dec 7, 2021 23:21
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Mr. Lobe posted:I just don't understand how a person spends more than 20 dollars a month on weed, that gets me blasted out of my mind 3 times a week every week in a month. Flower heating vape pens work very efficiently. Or maybe I am just blessed with low tolerance?
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Dec 8, 2021 18:31
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packetmantis posted:His description of her body is boiling my blood, christ. Like... just enjoy being friends, OP, because she can make you happy and really click with you, as friends. If you can't manage that because you're also attracted to her, that's on you!
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Dec 12, 2021 06:56
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Cowslips Warren posted:AITA for not wanting to waste my winter break to go somewhere with my sister?
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Dec 13, 2021 01:25
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Uncle Enzo posted:I'm sympathetic to the 15 year that doesn't want to spend 2 weeks in a hotel with his family. I spent 3 weeks with my family in a nice hotel in a strange city when I was 16. It suuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuucked. This was pre-smartphone, but there was a pool and a legitimate breakfast every morning and I've never been so out of my mind with boredom. There wasn't anything near the hotel and I didn't have any money if there had been. My parents were busy and had other stuff on their minds, me and my siblings just went stir-crazy.
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Dec 13, 2021 03:40
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It sounds like they both had a lot of personal stuff going on and Jess just noticed OP a lot more than OP noticed her and got into a cycle of comparing herself negatively to OP. Like OP probably was a raging rear end in a top hat to Jess sometimes but it sounds like she was a raging rear end in a top hat to everyone? I don't even know what she can do about it, like, idk if it would come off as blame dodging for OP to go 'I was never involved with that guy, and I'm really sorry you were struggling with an ED, I was struggling with one myself.' Like the thing is memory is a lot more subjective than people think and it's very possible OP made some heinous comments about Jess that hit right in her weak spot she genuinely doesn't remember making.
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Dec 13, 2021 05:29
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reignonyourparade posted:From the comments the whole thing about "no it needs to be a specific apology about these things, and also I want you to text it" it really sounds like she doesn't want an apology, she wants an admission of guilt But there's nothing OP can really say to that other than clarifying that she wasn't involved with that guy, because... facts won't really work against that narrative, because it sounds like Jess developed mental illnesses (ED) but then identified OP as the cause of them. She's not a regular person to Jess, she's The Rival. And you can't trust anything The Rival says! She's just doing this to ruin the protagonist, Jess!
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Dec 13, 2021 05:41
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Shoulda gotten paid up front, but NTA for doing a trim.
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Dec 14, 2021 06:25
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Chloe Jessica posted:AITA telling my ex's daughter the truth about why I can't see her anymore
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Dec 14, 2021 22:09
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Pookah posted:I'm guessing he didn't have this weird 'picky eating' thing when he was living with them, he only became 'difficult' when he got married or just moved away and this is them asserting that They are the ones who decide whether his gut issues are real. Yeah they haven't seen him since his 18th birthday, funny how that works. EDIT: 'It's normal to feel tired all the time! If you can't focus on your homework you're just lazy! I can't believe you're pooping so much just to spite us!!' PetraCore fucked around with this message at 17:57 on Dec 15, 2021 |
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Dec 15, 2021 17:55
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ScienceSeagull posted:That reminds me, what was that story where OP received a live octopus from their boyfriend?
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Dec 19, 2021 02:11
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Dazerbeams posted:This is secretly a blessing in disguise because the girl needs to get as far away from her father as possible. Both really, but somehow I don't think the one sharing a bed with Daddy is going to come to that realization anytime soon.
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Dec 19, 2021 04:56
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It sounds like it was a good idea to send her kids to live with their father because she couldn't care for them. She couldn't! And repressing her grief was loving her up and I doubt she was actually even hiding it as well as she tried to! Parents are people too and sometimes intense grief can render a person unable to provide support for others for a time. Everything after that point sounds like a lot of compounding bad decisions that are now enshrined in her mind as Tradition, and I wonder what the gently caress sort of grief counselor she has that she hasn't been guided away from this self-destructive rut.
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Dec 21, 2021 22:53
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the holy poopacy posted:well yeah,
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Dec 21, 2021 22:58
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StrangersInTheNight posted:yeh it's quite interesting to see bc if you know anything about trans folks, it's that we're big on respecting people's names and not just telling people to get stuffed and get used to another one. like, it's pretty important to trans folks to respect people's names. i'm not saying it could never happen (plenty of people misunderstand the heart of things, trans folks are as human as anyone else and can absolutely be assholes about poo poo), but uhhhhhhhhhhhh it definitely raises flags for me as fearmongering
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Dec 22, 2021 18:50
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Foo Diddley posted:AITA for not giving up my inheritance for my brother
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Dec 22, 2021 19:20
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GI_Clutch posted:Unless I am not comprehending this, I don't get what the dude's problem was. Her father is dead. Either:
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Dec 25, 2021 21:38
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Armitag3 posted:Ime when cats show tou their belly they're trusting you. It's a form of affection. Do not abuse that trust.
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Dec 26, 2021 01:50
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PinheadSlim posted:Same. One day their kind will die and hopefully future generations will point and laugh at them for their hosed up ideas the same way we laugh at puritans of the past for freaking out about seeing a womans ankle or whatever.
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Dec 26, 2021 06:11
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Obviously his crime is going to have lasting social consequences beyond the legal debt he's paid but is this really the thread to discuss kids getting raped out of nowhere, some of us have lived through some bad poo poo and don't need the reminders.
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Dec 28, 2021 20:19
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Dr. Stab posted:I totally support having more opportunities in life and less stigma for ex cons than we do presently, but he's a loving child rapist. That should follow you around. You don't become a kiddy diddler by circumstance.
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It's also pretty possible that the reason everyone except OP is so sure is because... their relationship was exclusive while it lasted and he's the only possible father. There's definitely value in getting a DNA test if that's not the case, but OP seems a lot more paranoid about this than his son is for some reason. It's also pretty blink and you'll miss it but OP's son has had a relationship with OP's grandson for years at this point, the kid has visited every summer for years before moving in, and OP just adamantly refuses to bond with him or refer to him by anything but 'the boy'.
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