- Pomme de Terror
- Sep 30, 2021
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AITA for telling my girlfriend to leave the house because shes not cooking
There was an update on this one:
quote:Update:
She came home, She cried. She apologised (i said it back too) and hugged me, Told me she loved me. She said she didnt know what came into her. She said she acted like a cun*. She said she would cut off the friend(toxic in many ways, I never really liked her in the first place) And asked me to forgive her. (She had gone to another friends place who lives closer to us not the one in the OP). She says she was just tired of being at home doing nothing, we'll talk about it later, and we might be getting a pet
I said it was ok and that I was a cun* too. She kept crying, and is now asleep hugging me. thank you for the comments/dms, couldnt read most of it, but i appreciate it a lot
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- Pomme de Terror
- Sep 30, 2021
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AITA for reverse trick or treating with my wife?
quote:Good evening.
This happened a few nights ago, but I just heard it was causing drama today.
My wife and I moved into our neighborhood a few weeks ago, and we live somewhat rural. We're in a small town, under 5,000 people, but have about 4 dozen homes within a 20 minute walk.
We know there aren't any kids in the neighborhood, and were told to expect no trick or treaters.
So, my wife and I dressed up in costumes we had easy access to, nothing controversial or inappropriate, and stocked up on candy. We made little baggies for each house in our neighborhood with about a dozen fun sized pieces of candy in each.
On Halloween night we went from house ot house, and about half the people opened for us. We'd give them candy, introduce ourselves, and move on. We started around 6:30 PM and finished around 8:30 PM. (We started far out, and moved back in towards home, towards a few people we had casually met.)
Today while getting the mail, my wife overheard a group of people talking about the new, weird, neighbors, who decided to take up a chunk of everyone's evening on a Saturday night.
That mixed with two of the houses on our route telling us that people don't do that kind of thing in our neighborhood, and one telling us we're going to burn in hell for celebrating a satanic holiday, has me thinking that A. We have at least one loony neighbor, but B. maybe we may have crossed a line in going out in the evening?
I'm dismissing the satanic panic right away, but with multiple people telling us we weren't welcome, and the stuff my wife overheard, I'm wondering, were we out of line?
Are we the assholes?
Thank you.
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Nov 5, 2021 23:07
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- Pomme de Terror
- Sep 30, 2021
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AITA for not letting my brother and SIL see my daughter after they threw away her medicine
quote:I have a 4 year old daughter, Emma. I am an alcoholic and I’ve been sober for 2 years. My brother was Emma’s court appointed guardian from when she was 15 months old to just before her 3rd birthday.
I had to fight for almost a year to get her back. My brother and SIL are still upset that I “took Emma from them” and have called CPS on me numerous times and make it clear that they don’t trust me to take care of my own kid.
They love Emma and Emma loves them so I try to take her to see them a couple times a month.
A couple weeks ago, Emma caught the stomach flu from someone at her preschool. I’m in school full time and had a midterm that day so I asked my brother to watch her for a couple hours so I could take my test. They said they were happy to take her so I brought her to their house that morning with her medicines, a schedule saying when she’s supposed to take which medicine and the dosage, a bottle of pedialyte, and a few changes of clothes.
I came to pick her up after the midterm and half her medicines, her clothes, and her pedialyte were gone. When I asked about it they said they threw away all of her medicines and the pedialyte because they were liquids and they were already opened so I could’ve put something in there to make her sick/sleep (not that it helps much but I never hurt my daughter or gave her anything that wasn’t recommended by her pediatrician). They also said I shouldn’t be giving her Tylenol and Motrin (again, her doctor said it’s fine) so they didn’t buy her any Motrin.
Then I asked about the nausea medicine (prescription) and they said they didn’t think she needs prescription meds for the stomach flu.
They also felt her clothes weren’t good enough for her so they gave it to their neighbor for their garage sale and bought her new clothes, meaning they most likely took her shopping when she was sick and should’ve been resting.
I left with Emma and haven’t spoken to them since except to tell them they will not be allowed anywhere near my kid unsupervised.
I’m working on thanksgiving so I was going to drop Emma off with my parents so she could see my family but I still don’t want her to be around them without me so I’m leaving her with her babysitter instead.
Now my family is giving me a hard time for not letting my brother and SIL see Emma and are excusing what they did by saying they were just worried about her.
AITA for not letting my daughter see my brother and SIL
Bonus from the comments:
quote:They don’t know this but Emma and I are moving across the country in February. I think the space will be good for us
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Nov 24, 2021 13:00
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- Pomme de Terror
- Sep 30, 2021
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AITA for calling my sister a manipulative b*tch?
quote:I’m 24f and my sister is 26f. I’ve been with my boyfriend ‘Ben’, 29, for 3 years. He’s a stripper. I always knew because I met him when he was hired at my friends 21st birthday party.
I’m used to women throwing themselves at him. I can live with it because I know that he comes home to me every night and tells me about his day. He has a no touching rule about the ‘you know.’ So it doesn’t bother me about what he does.
Here’s the problem. I’m not in his league and my sister uses this at every turn. He met my family a few months after we met and she wouldn’t stop flirting with him. She kept mentioning that I need to be careful he’ll cheat.
He came to a Halloween party as Aquaman (he’s Samoan with long hair so he looked the part) and my sister made inappropriate jokes. She’d say things like ‘I’ve got $1s in my pocket.’ It was making him uncomfortable so we left early. I text her that he is a man, not just a stripper, and to treat him like it. She told me I was imagining things because I’m paranoid he’ll leave me for someone more attractive.
The next time was last Valentine’s Day when her then boyfriend asked us all on a double date to a small casino opening. He was awesome so I thought her attention would be on him. She would sneak in between me and Ben as we were playing so she could be near him, she’d ‘blow on his dice for good luck’ etc. Completely forgot about her boyfriend the whole night. My boyfriend is still friends with him to this day.
Last weekend, her best friend held a bachelorette party that my sister had to organise (as the MOH). I don’t know many details but I know it was the classic bachelorette. I didn’t know when it was, where or anything like that, so when Ben told me he was hired for a bachelorette party, which he often is, I didn’t put two and two together.
He got home and said ‘we need to have a serious talk.’ I thought he’d cheated at work, so I was on edge. He told me that my sister had used her friends details to book him and that he didn’t know she was the one who hired him, or he would have passed it to one of his friends. She was all over him, giving him money and encouraging him to ‘take it all off.’ She knew he didn’t take underwear off. It’s one of the first questions she asked when he met my family.
I drove to her house and confronted her. She told me he was the only stripper she knew and that she had an obligation to hire one for her friends party because she was like a sister to her. I AM her sister. She said he was lying about the night and that she took a back seat. She said it was all in my head because I knew he would leave me. I called her a manipulative b*tch using her friend as a way to get what she wants and for trying to put this on me out of jealousy and she closed the door and called my father, that just so happened hated me being with a stripper anyway.
They’re both pissed at me for making it personal and causing drama in the family.
I’ve just had a talk with ‘Ben’ and we’ve discussed it. I asked if he wanted to take a break until I make my sister not, well, be her. He didn’t want that. I said I would support him taking legal action against her but he’s convinced him being a stripper sets him back already.
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Dec 4, 2021 14:02
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- Pomme de Terror
- Sep 30, 2021
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AITA for telling my mom about a message her bf sent me
quote:For context, I (20f) received a text late last night from my moms (57f) bf (53m). They’ve been together for a few months and mostly it’s been good, but there have been a few fights here and there. For example, a month or so ago, he was making jabs about my moms weight and that really hurt her feelings, and frankly, really pissed me off. But he apologized and we moved past it, or so I thought.
The other morning, they were arguing before they went to work and I asked her later that day when she got home what the argument was about. She told me he had gone through her phone and that really upset her because it was a breach of trust. I understood, and I left it that.
However, last night he sent me a message around midnight out of blue. It was pretty long and kind of convoluted, but he basically said that while he was surprised my mom was a “BBW” when they first met because her photos were “so beautiful”, he’s grown to love her as a person, inside and out, the more he’s got to know her. Already a weird start, but bear with me. He then went on to say that he needed me to know the truth, and that my mom was actually cheating on him, and that he loved her, but didn’t trust her.
Now for today, and the reason I’m asking if I’m TA. This morning, I showed my mom the message, and she got really angry and showed me proof that he was lying, and that he went through her phone for 5 hours straight while she was sleeping and found nothing but messages to an old hookup from 6 months ago, before they got together. He then pretended to be my mom to this guy and see if he could get info out of him, which was really weird in my opinion, and also, he got nothing.
She ended up breaking up with him for trying to come between us and lying to me about her, but I don’t know if I was out of line for telling my mom or potentially being the catalyst to their breakup, even if he was lying. AITA?
Edit: I forgot to mention that in the message, he also brought up his ED and that maybe if he was “able to have sex with her” that “she wouldn’t have looked elsewhere.” Which, she didn’t, and also, your ED is none of my business.
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Dec 16, 2021 11:53
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- Pomme de Terror
- Sep 30, 2021
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AITA for telling a co-worker to shut the gently caress up for making fun of my stutter?
quote:Ok so I've never made a post like this before so I'm sorry if things seem out of place.
I have a stutter that i've dealt with since i can remember, it was a lot worse when i was younger and i've learned to really control it since then (lots of breathing techniques, mindfulness, ETC.) and for the most part you wouldn't really notice i have one, until the rare chance where i stutter or hang on a word for longer than most people would.
These can lead to some moments that range from incredibly funny, to horribly awkward. Example would be trying to say thank you to someone, and hanging on the "Th" in thank you for 5 seconds and looking like I'm making a weird rear end face, or stuttering on a hard "G" word and sounding like I'm about to drop a hot beat.
Anyways, today I was helping out a new guy at work by showing how to operate some of the machinery we use and i happened to stutter on a hard "G" word and he made the joke everyone makes when they first hear me stutter. (He will be NG for New Guy)
NG: "T-t-today junior!"
I let it go because quite literally everybody ever always makes that same joke. I always let it go the first time but make it obvious I don't find it very funny by giving people a straight faced single monotoned "Hah". We move on from that and everything is fine, I continue explaining a few things and I happen to stutter again, and he makes the same loving joke.
NG: "T-t-today junior!"
Me: "Good one, here's another. S-S-Shut the gently caress up and G-G-Get a new loving joke."
NG: "Woah sorry dude i was just joking around! You don't have to get so serious its not like i was making fun of you."
Me: "I dont care, i didn't find it funny the first time i don't find it funny now. Stay here and ill get someone else to show this to you."
After i said that i left, went and got my supervisor and asked them to explain the machine to the new guy, and went on to explain why and what happened. He asked me if we should re think his hiring and i declined because I didn't want to risk this guy losing a job over a stupid joke, even if it really is a stupid loving joke.
But yeah thats it i guess. Am i the rear end in a top hat for telling him to shut the gently caress up? Or was i in the right? and could i have handled this better?
TL;DR New guy said "T-t-today junior" and i told him to "S-s-shut the gently caress up".
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Dec 18, 2021 16:16
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- Pomme de Terror
- Sep 30, 2021
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AITA for not making my uncle a gift this year because of what he said last year?
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My family likes to make homemade stuff for gifts. My grandma grew up poor and gifts she made for her kids were homemade. That’s still something we do today, where most of our gifts are made by us. Of course, if someone wants something specific, someone will buy it. The thing I (16m) make is bracelets. My grandma makes blankets, my mom makes necklaces, and my aunt Morgan (40f) makes custom t-shirts
I am very close with my aunt Morgan, and she helped raise me until I was about 10. I often sleep over at her house to babysit her kids, Eva and Eli (twins, 8m&f) but I make it a point to avoid her husband, my uncle Dylan (48m) because I don’t get along very well with him, and we don’t have any sort of bond.
Last Christmas I, as usual, made bracelets for everyone. This was Dylan's first Christmas with my grandmas (he usually spends it at his moms with his family without Morgan and the twins) and I made him a gold & silver bracelet with the coils twisting around each other. All my money last christmas was babysitting money, and I worked extra to be able to give Dylan something I thought he’d like.
Well I give it to him and he thinks it's a joke. When I explain Im 100% serious he says he doesn’t wear “gay poo poo like this.” Im gay, and he knows this, I’ve been out for 3 years. He told me to get a watch next year. Well, I didn’t get him anything this year.
We did Christmas early this year (today, the 19th) because my other uncle Ben has to leave the states for his job a few days before christmas.
I also got a job this year and was able to afford Morgan a ring similar to one she bought on her 18th birthday but had lost a few years ago on a vacation (I knew it wouldn’t replace her old ring, but I thought she’d be happy to have one similar) . I had been saving up slowly for 3 years now, my new job really helping.
Anyways we gave out gifts and I delivered Morgan's gift last because she was sitting farthest from the tree. I give it to her, it's a bracelet with a ladybug charm, and the ring. She cried happy tears when she saw the ring, so I think it was a success 
My uncle Dylan then asked where his watch was. I said I didn’t get him one because he insulted my gift last year. He sulked and ranted to my uncle Ben about it (I make Ben a pretty simple bracelet when he visits, per his request) and Ben called him a ‘dickless ingrate’ because of what Dylan said last year. Dylan sulked the rest of the night and my very sweet grandma suggested I make him a simple bracelet or give him a cheap watch next year, which I’ll probably do. I’m just upset that Dylan thought he was entitled to a watch from me after a rude comment last year, but I do feel bad for leaving him out.
AITA for not giving my uncle a gift this year?
edit: tysm for the kind words and petty gift suggestions, i’ll be talking with him about it on the 27th, with morgan by my side, I’ll probably post an update then! Yall have been so sweet i cant
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Dec 20, 2021 11:00
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- Pomme de Terror
- Sep 30, 2021
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AITA for kicking out bf because of his dog?
quote:I know the title is going to get people riled up, but hear me out on this. I (31f) have been dating "Dude" (29m)for 8 months. It has been great. He has a dog that is 8, that he has had since she was a puppy. I have nothing against dogs, I'm just not a fan of owning them simply because 1. I live in an apartment and I feel they need a yard and 2. I don't want to do all the clean up that is involved with them.
He takes his dog most places with him, which is fine. She is very well behaved and has never caused any problems. In my place, I have an elderly cat as well as a guinea pig (and gerbils, 3 fish tanks, and a partridge in a pear tree). I usually go over to his place to hang out for the sake of his dog.
The other day he offered to come over to my place to hang out and help me install a new wall mount. I said it was fine. Without asking if it was okay first or even bringing it up to me, he had brought his dog with him. My apartment doesn't allow dogs even as guests, so I had a bit of anxiety about it. His dog was doing fine, when suddenly she started barking like crazy which seemed out of character for her. Dude then said, "oh I forgot, you should put your animals away in a locked room." I asked why and he laughed and said with a smile, "dogs name is a murderer. She killed my ex's rabbits. She got into the cage and everything. They aren't safe until they are locked in a room."
I was pissed. He knew I had small animals. This wasn't a surprise thrown at him. And he knew about this issue, and brought his dog over without permission or warning. I told him he needed to leave now, and take the dog with him. He isn't invited over anymore.
He got upset at me and called me a dog hater, said that is just how dogs are and I should be more accepting of her. I didn't respond, just continued to push him out the door.
AITA here?
ETA: my friends are chipping in, telling me this is just my "anti dog mentality" coming out, and that I should be more open to "doggos". It is really frustrating. I don't understand how some people can be so love blind to a dog.
ETA2: holy poo poo this blew up. I'm on break so work rn but a quick answer to to question many have raised about what if when the time came for us to move in togerher: moving in with a partner is not an end game goal for me with relationships. In all of my relationships, even serious and long term, I have preferred to love separately, so the pets having to live together would never be an issue
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Dec 30, 2021 11:06
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- Pomme de Terror
- Sep 30, 2021
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The power move would be to show up with his gf in a wedding dress.
AITA for not telling my girlfriend sooner that she couldn’t move in with me?
quote:My girlfriend had been rubbing my roommates wrong. She’s been on this zero waste kick, and it’s been an issue. She doesn’t live with us and is becoming preachy. She’s still in student housing until June, when she graduates with a degree in political science. She casually talked about moving in with me several times. I haven’t said anything because June is six months away, and I thought of getting our place. I live in a big 5 bedroom house. It belongs to one of my roommates, Mindy’s grandparents. It has a heated pool, a library, and an indoor conservatory. I lucked out because I met my friend from college.
Recently my girlfriend has been making herself at home like it’s her place. She told Mindy, who likes to take baths in the evening, that it’s terrible for the environment. She can hear Mindy, who has the rooms above mine, take a bath.
This latest fight yesterday came around on dish soap. My girlfriend bought a glass jar and said we should all use this type of soap only. Using soap in a plastic bottle is bad. She also got mad because no one was using the compost bin she brought us for Christmas. She told people in the kitchen, “things are going to change when I move in.” Mindy was like, what? My girlfriend said when she moves in and June, she will make sure we are a zero-waste home. Mindy laughed and said, you are never moving in. Ever. My girlfriend starts well my boyfriend lives here so I will be here. Mindy points out her grandparents left her in charge of the home, and she will decides who lives here and not.
She tells my girlfriend that she overstays her welcome 99% of the time, and she only puts up with it because I’m a good tenant. She will not put up with her living there. My girlfriend yelled at me and said I thought you settled this? I want to live here. I told her I thought we could get a studio and move in together, just us. At the word studio, my girlfriend got even angrier and said she wanted someplace with a pool and a nice kitchen. She starts on a rant about how everyone is always destroying her dreams.
It ends with her crying and going back to her dorm room.
Mindy calls my girlfriend a gold digger, and I need to wise up. Mindy says I should not have let her think she could have moved here. It wasn’t going to happen.
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Jan 6, 2022 14:24
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- Pomme de Terror
- Sep 30, 2021
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^That kid is gonna haaaaate that mom once they're old enough (the instagram one)^
AITA for agreeing to go to a restaurant that only serves spicy food when I can’t handle anything spicy?
quote:My (37M) wife’s (35F) birthday was this past weekend and she wanted to go to this specialty Sichuan restaurant because she is from that region. Sichuan food is known to be really spicy, and is a lot more than I can handle. She knows I can’t do spicy, and we’ve been trying to work on my tolerance with her cooking, but it’s still not that good.
I told her this and suggested we go to a regular Chinese restaurant, but she claimed it’s not the same. She said there will be non spicy options and at worst, she can ask them to make it not spicy. She clung to me and gave me those cute eyes that I couldn’t say no to, so I gave in and agreed. It’s her birthday so I didn’t want to ruin her day.
Well turns out I did anyway. We were at the restaurant and the entire menu was in Chinese. They had an english one but it didn’t really tell me what was spicy and what wasn’t. I let her order a few dishes, the food came, and it was all spicy. Even the ones she said weren’t. I tried to eat it, but I couldn’t so I asked her if she can ask them to make it less spicy. She told me to take it slowly and to eat more rice. But I wasn’t enjoying it and asked her again. She got a little huffy but called the waiter over. The waiter kind of gave me a look, like one of those confused “why are you here?” looks, but took a dish back. It came back out and it was not as spicy but still has a kick. I think it was the sauce they’re using or something.
I told the waiter it’s still spicy for me, and the waiter said they can’t make it any less spicy than that. My wife was getting embarrassed I think, because the tables next to us were all looking now. When the waiter went away, I asked her if we can go to another restaurant. She said she didn’t want to, since we’re already here and we already have food on the table. I may be TA here because I started getting frustrated and saying that we’ve been out all day, and I haven’t eaten and now I won’t be able to eat because everything is spicy. She told me to just eat the rice and we’ll get something for me after.
I got really offended by that and got up and left, walked around for a bit to cool down then came back to see her by our car. She was furious and said I embarrassed her. I said she knew I couldn’t handle spicy, and she said I shouldn’t have agreed to the restaurant.
AITA for agreeing? In hindsight, I could’ve probably eaten the dish that came back with a lot of rice…but I wouldn’t enjoy it. I don’t think I can get used to spicy food.
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Jan 13, 2022 13:53
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- Pomme de Terror
- Sep 30, 2021
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I want to know more
AITA for refusing to watch my sister's stepkid and exposing her lies to her husband?
quote:My f/21 sister Jess, f/30, is married and has a 5 yo stepson. her husband works full time and she is a sahm.
Every monday, she'd call my mom at 9am to get her to go over to her house and watch her stepkid for few hours, I live at home with my parents and so I've noticed this routine for weeks now.
Last week mom went out of town to visit some relatives, and yesterday (monday) at 9am my sister called asking me to come watch her stepkid for few hours because she had an important thing to do. I said no because I had to go study and also she does this every monday so clearly it wasn't important or urgent but she insisted it was, I told her sorry but no. She ended the call then I went to the university.
Hours later, I got a call from my brother in law asking where my sister was, I said I had no idea. he proceeded to tell me he just came home at 1pm and found his son by himself at the house. I was in shock that my sister left her stepkid by himself so she could go God knows where. I told him about the conversation I had with her and he got angry.
In the evening my sister came over and started making a scene by yelling at me for bailing on her after she sent me a text message telling me she was already out the house to force me to come watch her stepson. I didn't see the fb message til she told me but she said I did this deliberately and also, exposed her to her husband because she told him she'd be at home with the kid. Not just that, but I also told her husband that mom comes over every monday morning to watch the kid for few hours which caused a huge fight between him and my sister. She yelled that I was petty and selfish and just stirred poo poo and caused issues in her marriage by tattling to her husband. I couldn't keep arguing I went into my room and started playing music. My dad and the others said I was to blame for not helping my sister and now being the reason she and her husband are in conflict.
AITA?
Okay guys so I saw few questions asked multiple times so I'll just put the answers out here for all to see.
My brother in law's wife is deceased.
brother in law is always at work when my sister calls my mom to get her to come over and watch her stepson.
most of you guys are asking where my sister goes every monday, and I even saw someone mention that I was YTA for not finding out, but I don't know anything, I have no idea what's going with my sister and I thought it was non of my business.
UPDATE: Guys! I've decided to try and find out what is really going with Jess. I'm not the type to snoop and it's not my business but she already made it my business by turning the family against me because of something she did. Ngl I came here thinking I was going to get toast but I wrong, thank goodness for that. I'll update as soon as possible. Thanks
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Jan 19, 2022 16:00
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- Pomme de Terror
- Sep 30, 2021
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AITA for interrupting at my Fiance's sleep and yelling at him for locking out my cats for 4 hours?
quote:I [F30] own 3 senior indoor cats in the house I live in, My fiance "Jacob" [M33] isn't too fond of them and he...sometimes picks fights with them but does this in a lighthearted way and say he's just venting about the stuff he thinks they do wrong.
He's a cop, he covers night shifts during the week then gets home in the morning and gets some sleep, while I'm at work.
For the past few weeks he's been complaining about my cats not letting him sleep by either playing on his feet, or pulling the sheets, or dropping stuff and causing him to wake up. He said because of this he now suffers from lack of sleep and rise in anxiety.
Yesterday I got home at 2pm, Once I pulled in the driveway I noticed my cats sitting near the Garage, The weather was cold at the time and I was confused why they were outside. I came to discover that both the front & backdoor were locked from the inside. I used my key to get my cats in and went into the bedroom and found Jacob asleep.
I woke him up to ask why my cats were outside and he said he locked them out himself so they wouldn't interrupt his sleep. I was fuming, basically started yelling at him while he was trying to go back to sleep. I asked what the heck was wrong with him, he said it wasn't a big deal the cats were just "chilling" outside for about 4hrs while he got some sleep since they didn't stop interrupting it. I said he had no right to do this but his argument was that this was temporary solution since... I ignored his complaints about how the cats are causing him to be sleep deprived when he should be resting after a stressful night at work.
he called me selfish to interrupt his sleep and yell at him and said that I shouldn't be mad at him for trying to bring order back into the house. I called him a jerk and he said something which stuck in my mind since he said it and it was "I deal with the worst kind of people in my life and you're one of them". He then went to stay at a hotel to get the rest he needed.
He started texting about how I have no respect for him, his job, his time, his sleep and wants ME to apologize for blowing at him. AITA this reaction?
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Jan 20, 2022 20:21
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- Pomme de Terror
- Sep 30, 2021
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AITA for telling my son i’d rather have his ex wife as a daughter than him as my son after he got cut out of the will?
quote:16 years ago my son Matthew had a daughter with his now ex wife Josie. I have always thought of Josie as my own daughter, so when they divorced 7 years ago due to my son cheating, I was conflicted and disappointed. Josie wasn’t particularly close with any of her family, so My husband and I naturally took them in. Josie was an angel, she had insisted that we didn’t have to lift a finger more than before we had taken them in and though she was hurt, she kept civil around Matthew.
My husband and I held a huge hand in raising their daughter Ruth, because Matthew remarried less than a year later and now has a four year old son after disowning Ruth. Two years ago my husband was diagnosed with lung cancer, it was hard on everyone, especially Ruth. They were extremely close, she told him about her girlfriends and boyfriends before anyone else and has always wanted him to be the one to walk her down the isle at her wedding. Matt rarely ever visited and didn’t answer our calls often saying that we had other kids so it wasn’t like my husband was dying lonely.
Last night Matt stopped by to talk about inheritance, he never mentioned Josie nor Ruth and hinted that he thought he should get more inheritance than his siblings the entire time. My husband and I shared awkward looks until he decided to cut in, he explained that everyone would get a piece, but he’d focus more on Ruth and Bonnie (one of our other grandkids). Matt got angry and said that Ruth was just a bastard and that his son deserved more than her, my husband got furious after that and left the room saying that he wouldn’t include Matthew at all.
Matt yelled back and turned to me saying that Ruth wasn’t worth it because she’d just grow up to be a whore like her mother, I told him that i’d rather have her mother as my daughter than him as my son and insisted that he leave. I’m getting phone calls from Matt’s wife and family friends saying that my husband and I overreacted and he was just angry that we were playing favorites.
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Jan 21, 2022 17:30
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- Pomme de Terror
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AITA for going to IKEA with my girlfriend and then refusing to pay half?
quote:My girlfriend(23F) and I(24M) just moved in together yesterday. I moved into her apartment that she had shared with her roommate before I moved in. So the apartment was half furnished since her roommate took half of everything.
I lived in an incredibly small bachelor style studio so the only things I really had was a queen bed, a couch (that she hated) and a tv. We agreed to keep my bed and bed frame since she had a full.
She suggested we go to ikea to restock the house and she was super excited about it. When we got there she filled our entire cart with furniture, kitchen and bathroom stuff.
She was asking my opinion on stuff and I was happy to give it but I saw the bill racking up pretty quickly. She ended up getting so much stuff that I saw as pointless. Like bathroom rugs, a soap dispenser, a dresser even though she has one, she got a second matching beside table for my side of the bed, some art for the apartment and TWO giant rugs! One for the bedroom and one for the living room. And this is just some of the stuff I didn’t think we needed. There was plenty more.
We ended up having two full carts of stuff and before we even went to checkout she said “everything else we can just get on Amazon.” I was genuinely in shock she thought we needed even more then all of this crap.
But we went to checkout and just like I thought the total was almost $1,400. She asked the cashier if we could split the bill half way on two cards and I was horrified. I told her no way was a I paying half for all of this. She looked surprised and we quickly began to argue. She told me this was for the both of us but I disagreed and said I didn’t need half of this stuff. After about 5 minutes of arguing and holding up the line she paid and we left.
The entire hour ride home we argued and when we got home I was given the silent treatment after being called a cheap jerk. Am I the rear end in a top hat here??
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Jan 23, 2022 00:50
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- Pomme de Terror
- Sep 30, 2021
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AITA for slamming the door on my mother’s friend.
quote:Edit: this is a throw away account as some people mentioned have Reddit. I apologize for the formatting as I’m on mobile.
I (ftm19) live with my mother(55f), boyfriend(19m), and sister(31f). My mother has always let her friends-in-need stay at our home for a few days at a time, which is perfectly fine since she’s been doing it since before I was born, until recently.
Her friend “N” (43f) has been coming over for maybe three days, leaves for two, then comes back. I get it, we’re still in a pandemic, sometimes life is hard and people just need a little help. I never had an issue with her until she started getting a little too comfortable.
The thing is, she just opens the bathroom door (there’s no lock so we knock) while someone is in there, no knocking at all! One day I heard my boyfriend scream and when I opened my door (adjacent to the bathroom door) I saw her just staring at him, I asked her what the hell she was doing since the shower curtains are TRANSPARENT and she said “I need to pee, but I got caught off guard by your boyfriend, he shouldn’t scare me like this!” I told her to get out and wait until he’s done but she insisted she needed to pee now. I pulled her out and shut the door and told her she’s making him uncomfortable In his own home. She said he doesn’t need someone to speak for him and he can tell her how he feels to her face. I told her to knock because this isn’t her home.
Onto the issue, I was showering today and when I had gotten out, the door slightly opened, now I have extremely quick reflexes and immediately hit the door shut, I’ll admit pretty hard, but I was butt-naked! She screamed, I quickly covered myself and opened the door, She started screaming at me, I tried to get her to calm down but I was also pissed that she again invaded my personal space, I told her it’s her fault for not only not knocking, but just opening the door in general as she knows we keep our bathroom door open if it’s not in use and that she needs to take the drat hint.
I told my mother who agreed she needs to stop doing that, but admitted I was out of line for slamming the door in her face, and that I should have said I was in there, I tried to explain previous incidents and that she doesn’t even give me time to say anything with how she basically whips the door open, my mother acknowledged it and still said I need to apologize for slamming the door. AITA? I don’t want to apologize because it’s literally invading my privacy, and making me on edge in my own home!
Edit: WOAH, There sure are a lot of you helping me out and I wanna say thanks! For people considering a lock, there was an issue with the lease stating no interior changes were allowed, but yesterday I had my mother contact the owner for specifics and we now have a lock!! I can be with nature in peace!! Thanks for all the legal advice in lease agreements! As for the lady she’s no longer welcomed here, thank the stars above. And for some of you asking, she knows I’m trans, and once tried to convince my boyfriend to “talk some sense into me” by yelling at him, he has high functioning autism and absolutely hates sudden loud noises, so he ran away and later I told my mother about, so people who were suggesting she was doing it on purpose for some sort of ill intended reason, might have been right. She’s also never walked in on my mother or sister. Thank you all for your responses and tips on which sort of locks to get!
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Jan 23, 2022 14:51
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- Pomme de Terror
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Give me your garden
AITA for being pissed that my Boyfriend set up a chicken coop in my garden?
quote: So my boyfriend and I have been dating for a year and a half and things are going great, we don't live together yet but he sleeps over here a couple nights a week as I own my own place while he has roommates, there is more privacy here, we've talked about moving in together in the future and when that day comes he'll be moving in here as it makes the most sense we're just not fully ready to move in yet.
Due to our arrangement he has his own key and can let himself in and out as he pleases and this has never caused any issues and i'm fine with him being there as a surprise sometimes, the issue however rose up when I got home from work two days ago and he called on me from the garden, I went out to see what he wanted figuring maybe he'd set up the hot tub for us to relax in but was shocked instead to find out he'd set up a chicken coop and inside were three hens. He went on to explain to me how they were former battery hens and how this was great and we could have eggs all the time while helping them...and how he'd wanted to surprise me.
I was not so happy and asked him what the gently caress he was thinking and why he'd not ask me first, that this was really overstepping as i'd now have to fully take care of them and that I didn't want chickens, he has promised he'll clean out the coop, feed them and take care of their general care and has brought up how I don't use my garden except for the hot tub but I feel like he's missing the point on why i'm so upset. He has told me he'd have taken them to his but he has no garden for the coop.
Is it unreasonable of me to be pissed off at this? I know he meant well and thought he was doing a good deed helping them but it's the fact he can't see why this upsets me that really gets under my skin.
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Jan 26, 2022 00:30
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- Pomme de Terror
- Sep 30, 2021
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AITA for not equally splitting my deceased mother's fabric in quilts I made for my siblings?
quote:I (m39) am the youngest of six children. I was a surprise kid late in my parents' life, and I was a young teen when my mom started to get antsy and want to get out of the house more.
She started taking hobby classes. I got dragged along to each and every one. Because of this, I have a wide array of very weird crafting knowledges. Crochet, knitting, basket weaving, quilting, cake decoration, oil painting. While I'm not a master of any of them, I fairly competent. After my mother died, I started using her old crafting supplies to make gifts for my siblings out of her things. Everyone got an afghan, scarf, egg basket, etc. It was my way of making sure mom was still there every year.
The quilts are where things get a little hinky. I made three quilt tops before I ran out of fabric. There wasn't enough to make them all, and I didn't realize it until I was too deep into the project. I ran out and grabbed some fabric. I did my best to get a really broad variety of scraps to keep it from being obvious. I did a few adjustments, split two of the existing quilt tops, and added on more using the new scraps. I wanted everyone to have at least some of mom's fabric in their quilt.
When I wrapped them, I didn't bother to put names on them. Everyone just grabbed a package and were delighted to have a nice quilt. It was the last of my mother-son crafting projects, and I was glad to be finished with them all.
I ended up mentioning to my sister over dinner last week that only one of the quilts was entirely mom's fabric, because I had run out of fabric. She immediately asked me which one, and I said that I wasn't sure who had gotten it (I didn't, at the time) and explained again that there just wasn't enough fabric to go around. She starts to get annoyed, wanting to know why I didn't make sure to give the one that was _entirely_ mom's fabric to her, since she was the oldest.
You can see where this is going.
This snowballed. My sister called my other siblings to solve the 'mystery,'' and now, siblings are all texting and posting pictures of their quilts, trying to figure out who got the 'real' one and whose were 'fakes.' (I now know, thanks to all the pictures, exactly which one is made entirely of her fabric, but I'm playing stupid. You can't have that much fabric laying in your lap for months without recognizing it.) I've gotten more than a few nasty messages about it from the peanut gallery, and all my siblings' friends seem to think that it's insanely rude that I would pull a 'trick' like this.
I realize now that I probably should have just broken down all three of the quilt tops to spread things around. But god, it was so miserable rushing for months to get them done, only to have to split two of them just to expand them back out again.
So: AITA for not giving my siblings an equal 'share' of mom's fabric in their Christmas quilts? At this point, I feel like I should have just made three quilts and explained the problem and let them fight about it.
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Feb 10, 2022 23:38
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- Pomme de Terror
- Sep 30, 2021
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AITA For refusing to give my boyfriend my PIN number after he took my Credit Card without consent?.
quote:Title sound horrible but give me a chance to explain.
I f24 have been seeing my boyfriend Martin m30 for 8 months, He's super funny and sweet. He's currently out of job for health reasons but he's actively looking for a new job. This our first major fight and I'm not sure wether I was at fault here.
2 days ago, we spent the night together and he went to the store early in the morning to buy some groceries. unbeknowest to me, he took my credit card to shop with it. I got woken up by him calling asking me to give him my credit card PIN number, I was confused I asked why and he said he went grocery shopping with my card and forgot to ask me to give him the PIN before he left, I got mad and felt quite violated, I told him I was sorry but I gave no permission for him to go out and shop using my card, he sounded confused and said he was just trying to buy us breakfast and it only cost $20. I said I was sorry but refused to give him the PIN number. He obviously sounded upset and asked why. I told him because he didn't consider getting my permission to take my card and use it. He said "alright then, guess no breakfast for us" then hung up. I called and called but no response. He returned and handed me the card back then, went on to complain about how he was just trying to buy us breakfast and that he wasn't intending on making a huge purchase. I said I understood but it's all about consent to me, He seemed pretty irritated and upset though he said it was fine, He left after this and hasn't returned my calls.
He then texted that he wasn't intending on stealing from me and that he thought that I wouldn't make such a fuss about it and that he DID get my permission when he called to ask for the PIN number but I feel like it's just me feeling like he violated my boundaries. He's been upset since then saying I ruined our time together by making a huge deal out if it and embarrassing him at the store by making him return the stuff he bought at the register.
Gosh! I feel like I was such an rear end in a top hat here but ontoh I think that he could've asked first.
I wanna hear what you guys think of this. AITA or not?
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Feb 28, 2022 01:11
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- Pomme de Terror
- Sep 30, 2021
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AITA for calling my husband out infront of my friends on planting a recording device while we were having a GNI?
quote:This happened last week, I told my F26, husband M31, I was planning on having a girls night in at home and he initially was like "No not here...get a hotel or something" I said I couldn't afford a hotel + no need for a hotel. He asked if he could join us if he's going to allow it, but I said no, this isn't how GNIs work. He eventually agreed to let me have it and even said he'd go out so my friends could be comfortable.
I invited the girls over and most of them had a lot of heavy venting to do, at some point things got a bit emotionally charged and there was crying, lots of it. After that we brought in the food and drinks, When I went to turn the TV on, I spotted a small device tucked on the side, I took a look and found that it was actually a voice recording device, I was in disbelief, I knew my husband put it in there to listen to our private talk which felt highly violating.
I didn't hide it from the girls, I showed them the device, called my husband to get him to get home and confronted him right there infront of the girls. The girls were shocked and my husband denied after I flipped out and called him out, then said he was feeling curious to know about what we were talking about and wanted to make sure we weren't "trash" talking him specifically. The event was cut short and the girls left.
I kept lashing out at him for ruining the night and possibly my relationship and trust with my friends, I said that not only did he violate my privacy but my friends' as well. because they were talking about very personal stuff, He argued that it was no big deal, That I should've let him join us if we "had nothing to hide" and that this was ON THEM for opening up about private matters to begin with. He went on to talk about how I humiliated him to call him out infront of my friends, I told him they deserved to know who he really is after what he's done. We argued some more and he went out again.
We're in conflict til today and I feel like I made a mistake calling him out like that aside from how I felt about it. He claims that my friends will no longer respect him after that. AITA?
I need a bigger red flag
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Mar 2, 2022 01:06
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- Pomme de Terror
- Sep 30, 2021
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AITA for telling my dad to kick out my step mom & step sister?
quote:My (21f) step sister (21f) slept with my (now ex) boyfriend of 1.5 years during a family vacation back in December. He broke up with me in January, then we started talking again in February. He kept telling me he loved me, wanted to get back together etc. I went through his messages one morning and that’s how I found out. They slept together on our vacation and then continued to flirt, sext, talk crap on me, and talk about how they wanted to be together until the end of January (So while we were together and broken up). The last messages sent were on the day he came to get his things from my apartment; i’m assuming the day he realized he “missed” me.
This whole thing has been a poo poo show. I’m an absolute wreck. I called him when I found out and told him I was having his friend get the rest of his things and to never speak to me again. I haven’t talked to my sister, but she knows I know because the first person I called was my dad. Turns out, my step mom knew about it. She allegedly (according to my ex bf and sisters messages) told her to “do whatever makes her happy” and that she “deserves to be happy for once.”
I told my dad I can’t be in the same house as them whenever I come home for college. He offered to divorce my step mom and kick them both out, and told me I will always come first. AITA if I tell him to do it? am I taking things too far?
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Mar 6, 2022 07:56
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- Pomme de Terror
- Sep 30, 2021
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AITA for wanting the house built a certain way without paying?
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Im in a shaky relationship with someone (3 1/2 years). We've talked about marriage but he says his dream has been to rebuild his family house, so he wants to get married after his house is rebuilt. While he saves up money to rebuild the house, I was covering utilities and food for both of us. He intends to use all his money to rebuild the house but in the past has asked me to borrow a few thousand from my parents to help pay for the house. I said no since we arent married yet and if we break up, I lose a ton of money.
My mom is a contractor/renovator so Ive seen house flips all my life and like to think I know enough to help build a great house. He's asked me to build all the furniture for the new house because he doesnt know how to and I have the experience from helping my mom. On top of that, Ive shown him some sketches showing what kind of house he could build with the space he has and he says he doesnt like it. I accepted that since its his money, he gets to have final decision and just let my sketches go.
Recently though, I brought up that since I am the only one in the kitchen (He's cooked maybe once or twice this past year.) that maybe the kitchen could be catered to me/how I want it. He flat out says no, that it's his house, his dream, and that he doesn't like how I want the kitchen. (He wants a metal counter, like a restaurant, but I want literally anything but metal. I also want a built in mug wall to show off our small collection of mugs, but he says he wants the kitchen to be bare and have no decorations.)
This made me start thinking that since he only sees this as 'his' house, even if we get married, I will never be able to safely call it our home. I don't like anything hes planning on doing with the house and hes given me nothing in terms of what I wanted in the house. This led to a fight and when I brought up that me handling the monthly utilities and food should count for a part of the house, he made us start paying 50/50 instead so he could keep it the way he wants.
So AITA for wanting a part the house to be catered to me even though im not technically paying?
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Mar 8, 2022 04:44
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- Pomme de Terror
- Sep 30, 2021
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AITA for lashing out and berating my boyfriend for taking my mails home and opening them?
quote:I have a terrible habit of leaving my mail sitting in the mailbox over weekends, BUT I didn't think anyone in the neighborhood would touch it, cause it's been like this since I've moved here except for a month ago, I started noticing that some of my mails were going missing, it was so confusing because I already reported it but it was confirmed I recieved them in my mailbox which led me to believe someone's been taking it.
Some of my mail contains...what I call important and private stuff, like bank account information and other personal information that I wouldn't want anyone else to look at. I started going to the postal service office to get my mail as a temp solution.
Now, About my boyfriend "Jalen", 34M, We've been together for 2 years, long distance relationshion but he moved to my town not too long ago and started spending time at my place.
This past week, He invited me to his apartment for dinner with 2 of my girlfriends. Dinner went great and I helped with cooking,; I walked into his bedroom looking for something. I opened one of the drawers, and there they were...every single one of my missing mails. I felt very confused, I don't know why but I grabbed them and went to confront him INFRONRT of my friends. I started yelling at him about taking my mails and snopping at them and violating my privacy. He stared in shock while I kept lashing out at him. he calmly said "oh I'm so sorry I forgot to give these back". he said he was keeping them for me when he visited bht I wasn't hkme and promised he was planning on returning them, but forgot and they've been sitting there for a month. I said he shouldn't of touched them much less take them home and leave them in the drawer for a month! I said only snoops do that!, my friends watched while I berated him. He just walked away looking red in the face.
After my friends left he said I embarrassed and made him look bad. We argued then I got my stuff and left. He texted me a bunch about how hurt he was by how I treated him earlier. My friends were split on this, One said I handled this badly and humiliated him in his own home, while the other said she's been feeling creeped out by Jalen since she met him and that he deserved me yelling at him but I'm not sure if I went too far.
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May 14, 2024 02:29
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- Pomme de Terror
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AITA for not telling my daughter im aware of her lifestyle until almost a year later?
quote:My daughter is 25, she lives a fairly wealthy life and when asked by family she says she invests, stocks, crypto, etc. I know she does, but thats not even half of her income. She does onlyfans, and twitter and PH. Im aware of this because i will admit a single man in his 40s has needs, and i reconized it as her right away. I clicked on the twitter profile and her face was the profile picture. I blocked her, made a note of the names so i wouldnt come across them anywhere else and felt kind of weird of myself, but i didnt bring it up to her. That was a year ago, and a few days ago she finally admitted at a family function what she does. Mixed reactions and anger aside, I did let her know i knew, and i respected her choice to as long as she was being safe and knew she was okay with this being online forever. She got really upset with me and told me i shouldnt be watching those kinds of things and that im disgusting, vile, etc. She hasnt talked to me since and i get her disgust in it but is it really that bad that i never told her?
AITA for not telling my daughter i know what she did for work?
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