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- Mordiceius
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If you think calling me names is gonna get a rise out me, think again. I like my life as an idiot!
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firstly the pyramids were specifically not built by slaves and secondly this is a cop-out response people use to get out of caring. "oh come on, EVERYTHING sucks" is lovely and carries an implied "so get over it, stop bringing it up" even when preceded by "i don't necessarily disagree"
Even if we pretend for a moment that the pyramids were built by slaves, I think there is a level of separation since the pyramids are from a civilization/society that is thousands of years old and no longer exists. And the pyramids didn't "stay in the family" of slave owners and poo poo like that.
Plantation homes are relatively recent history and part of a nation/society that is still here. It loving sucks that they're glamorized by people.
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Apr 18, 2024 00:00
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- babypolis
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most people play it wrong too. Playing by the original rules makes it go much faster but people keep putting money in free parking or not auctioning off properties when they don't or can't buy them.
ive played it like this and its not really any different, game heavily incentivizes you to buy anything you land on so its rare for anything to go to auction. you could reduce initial cash to force more auctions but that just turns the game into more of a slog
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- Biplane
- Jul 18, 2005
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Monopoly (derogatory) (the game) should be made illegal.
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Apr 18, 2024 00:09
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- babypolis
- Nov 4, 2009
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firstly the pyramids were specifically not built by slaves and secondly this is a cop-out response people use to get out of caring. "oh come on, EVERYTHING sucks" is lovely and carries an implied "so get over it, stop bringing it up" even when preceded by "i don't necessarily disagree"
no obviously plantations are monstrous places that should be burned to the ground, but it feels sort of hypocritical to think that of plantations and not the parthenon or whatever (this includes me and is not an insult)
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Apr 18, 2024 00:09
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- Ghost Leviathan
- Mar 2, 2017
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Exploration is ill-advised.
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Ask A Manager once shared an amazing story about a holiday party featuring magic (I don't know why men think magic is impressive to a date, I know the thing I look for on dates is to be an appreciative audience for someone's hijinks)
Gravity Falls has a great punchline with 'Never date a magician.'
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Apr 18, 2024 00:47
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- sullat
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no obviously plantations are monstrous places that should be burned to the ground, but it feels sort of hypocritical to think that of plantations and not the parthenon or whatever (this includes me and is not an insult)
Parthenon was already burned to the ground so way ahead of you
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Apr 18, 2024 01:04
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- tactlessbastard
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Godspeed, post
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It’s from at least three versions of the thread back, but my favorite one was the woman slowly driving herself crazy with disgust about what a liar her husband is.
The lying in question being his enthusiastic ease and skill at small talk and other social situations.
Or the OG Pete story, of course .
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Apr 18, 2024 01:25
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- Troublemaker
- Mar 12, 2007
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That rear end in a top hat that packs children's gifts in broken glass and rusty nails is infuriating. Maybe put it in a puzzle box or something they have to figure out to get to the gift, fine, not too egregious. But to make kids dig into an actual physical hazard where there's a good chance they could (and have!!) seriously injure themselves -- who the gently caress would enjoy that except an absolute sadist. And then later in life, to pick out the one person with a physical disability and force it on them. Good on OP for saying gently caress it, not playing this game anymore, no gift is worth it and just chucking it. gently caress that guy.
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Apr 18, 2024 01:26
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- Pope Corky the IX
- Dec 18, 2006
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What are you looking at?
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MY (27f) husband (27m) of 6 months are on our first cruise. I thought we'd do activities and excursions but to him it's been a literal food orgy. Is this gluttony just normal cruise behavior or do I need to address this?
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Hello from the Caribbean where it's lovely and gorgeous and the sun is shining and my husband's prime rib flatulence actually caused me to sleep on a chair by the pool last night.
So basically I didn't want to do a cruise, it seemed a little hemmed in and not really my thing but my husbands parents just got thier "diamond status" and offered to pay for our stay on the ship, we just had to pay airfare. I can handle a good deal. I actually got excited when I read about some of the excursions and ports.
First day on the ship my husband husband and I went to a buffet and he had the biggest salad I've ever seen with a measuring cup worth of blue cheese dressing and a slice of prime rib 2 inches think (which he ate everything, including the huge globs of fat) and 4-5 deserts. He passed out that night--I was hoping for some romance on our private balcony.
We stopped in a really neat island the next morning but he said he had a food hangover and couldn't get up so I did the beach ATV ride by myself. I got back and there were stacks of plates outside our cabin. I guess he not only ordered room service breakfast but also went to the buffet. i really wanted him to hang out with me in the gym and pool area but he said a major "cruise tradition" for him is to order a BLT and a milkshake and try to find the cheesiest movie he can find and relax. So I went to to the rock climbing wall, he watched "Snow Dogs." This was about 24 hours into a 5 day cruise and I was already sick of this.
Last night he had the same prime rib, salad and desert combo but added probably 30 snow crab legs with drawn butter as well. I was so grossed out. I went and played poker and he passed out. When I got to the room, it smelled like he was farting and sweating crab juice so I came up to sleep on a pool chair.
My husband is a very active and in shape guy and would never act like this at home, so I'm willing to just grit my teeth and get through this and enjoy myself as best I can. Or do I need of put a stop to this now? I don't want to ruin his vacation but obviously we had different expectations and nether of us addressed these before we left.
What should I do here?
Tl;dr: husband is in the middle of a literal food orgy on our cruise vacation. I feel left out and neglected because he's either always eating or recovering from eating. What should I do?
Here’s a classic I haven’t seen in a while but the term “farting and sweating crab juice” has been burned into my brain for years.
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Apr 18, 2024 01:29
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- Vertigo Ambrosia
- May 26, 2004
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Heretic, please.
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no obviously plantations are monstrous places that should be burned to the ground, but it feels sort of hypocritical to think that of plantations and not the parthenon or whatever (this includes me and is not an insult)
Do people enjoy getting married at the Parthenon or the pyramids? Or host company events?
They literally still have cotton there, which honestly surprised me. There's no reason it should have, except that it means that dude could take real field slave cosplay photos because actual slaves picked actual cotton right there.
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Apr 18, 2024 01:31
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- MagusofStars
- Mar 31, 2012
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dude has a problem with forfeiting and then cites chess, people forfeit chess games on the reg
At least when we're talking about the average player. If you're an Elo-rated master or something, fine, you can safely trust your opponent will close it out appropriately, but you'd be shocked at how often casual or intermediate players will have a clearly winning scenarios and completely face-plant.
AITA for arguing/getting upset at a zookeeper, during a private tour of the zoo?
What also made me laugh was a zookeeper showing up in the comments confirming that, yes, the big cats do in fact create ungodly waste horrors that can make visitors vomit on a good day, even providing proof I'm too scared to click on 
This also reminds me of one of my favorites from the last thread, someone who somehow went to college for zoology without any understanding how animals work:
AITA for abruptly quitting my volunteer work with pelicans?
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I study zoology in University, and as part of our degree we're supposed to get a certain amount of field experience (also most good zoos / animal internships demand it). So when our ornithology professor mentioned a volunteer opportunity with pelicans through some local group, I thought that sounded cool and I signed up, and was one of two students chosen. It was supposed to be us 2 and a professional helping to "band" young pelicans for research, where you slip a little band around their ankle that's unobtrusive to the birds but useful for tracking purposes.
So the three of us got out to the island, for a long day of pelican-banding. The professional showed us how to do it and how to deal with an uncooperative pelican, and then I gave it a try on one and did it right...but then the third pelican I tried it on vomited all over me as I was doing it. I let it go and started gagging, and felt really nauseated. My whole lap and shirt were covered in it and the smell was horrendous. I just sat there retching and trying to wipe it off but to not much avail. After a few minutes the professional said "Hey, come on, we've got a lot more to do...I've been puked on too already, nothing to worry about." But I said no, I'm not going to go get puked on 10 more times today while doing this, I can't handle that.
He got annoyed and said "really, you're going to leave 3 people's work with just 2 people for the day? We said it would be messy work," I thought well, not this messy... So I just sort of sat there for a few hours while they worked and tried to distract myself from my vomit-stained shirt with my phone until it was time to leave...the trip back was hell too, they both stunk so bad I couldn't take it. Needless to say my professor is mad at me but I'm not sure what I was supposed to do, I would have gotten sick myself if I kept at it...so I feel like I did the best I can.
Maybe I'm naive but I highly doubt day-to-day zoo work could be as foul as getting fish-puke vomited on you all day...I've volunteered with animals before and been fine, this was just too much.
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Being vomited on is literally a good 70% of zoo work.
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Apr 18, 2024 01:44
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- titty_baby_
- Nov 11, 2015
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It was something like how the love for a spouse will always be stronger than the love for a child. They would go on multiple month long vacations every year and just let the child be raised by the grandparents.
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Apr 18, 2024 01:57
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- Cythereal
- Nov 8, 2009
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I love the potoo,
and the potoo loves you.
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If we're posting faves from the old thread, here was a low-key heartwarmer that I enjoyed (that isn't just clueless lesbians):
How do I (17F) tell my mom (36F) that I know her 'best friend' (30s-40s?F) is her girlfriend?
quote:Using a throwaway just in case.
My mom (36F) has raised me as a single mom since my piece of poo poo dad ran off to marry some chick he met on deployment. She has worked very hard and I love her to bits. She's never talked about remarrying and has never even dated to my knowledge.
Two years ago she met Kim at one of my swim meets and they became instant friends. I found it kind of annoying at first, but the last couple years she's been happier than I ever remember my mom being. They go out to dinner once a week, they talk and text a lot, etc.
Earlier this week I had to fix a software problem on my mom's computer and I opened her browser history and saw a page about having safe sex for two women. All of a sudden everything clicked. My mom working late hours at work a lot recently, my mom hiding her laundry from me, things like that.
I want to tell my mom that I'm really happy for her that she has a girlfriend and she doesn't have to hide it from me, but I feel like going 'Hey mom, I know you're munching Kim's rug' wouldn't be good.
Advice?
tl;dr: Pretty sure my mom's 'best friend' is her girlfriend, how do I tell her I know and she doesn't need to hide?
quote:There were way more replies than I could keep up with! For the day off today we decided to order dinner for takeout, and when my mom told me her order I asked her if I should put in an order for Kim as well. My mom asked why I thought Kim would be eating dinner with us, so I told her they hang out so much Kim is practically her girlfriend and I'm really happy for them both and they don't need to hide it from me.
Turns out I was right about my mom dating a woman but wrong about it being Kim. About the same time she met Kim, she also met Jin at a professional conference of hers, and they've been dating for a few months now. My mom invited Jin over to dinner and it turns out they kept all their mushy stuff on my mom's smartphone, I knew they were friends but turns out half the time my mom's 'gone out to dinner with a friend' lately it's been Jin.
My mom hadn't told me for a few reasons. She grew up in a super conservative area and was kinda forced to marry my dad right after high school. She's not sure if she's bi or gay or has an exception or what, she's still working through a lot of stuff about how she feels and what she wants to call herself.
She also didn't want to tell me until I turned 18 because she's pretty sure my grandparents and aunts and uncles will disown her when she comes out, and make me choose. My mom wanted to wait until I was legally an adult and could make my own decisions about my relationships with my family.
I hugged my mom and told her I don't give a poo poo what some hateful, miserable antediluvian cretins yammering from the primordial ooze say, she's my mom and she's awesome and I love her and Jin seems like a great woman. I told her that if the crabs in the bucket want to pull her back down, make crab cakes with rainbow sprinkles.
Jin laughed her head off but my mom asked me to please not say anything in public. She's working through personal poo poo and she'll come out in public when she's ready, so I promised I wouldn't say a word to anyone.
Except to you guys, there was so much awesome advice. Thank you, reddit!
tl;dr: right about my mom dating a woman, wrong about which woman, mom's working through personal stuff before she comes out publicly but knows I love and support her
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Apr 18, 2024 02:15
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- babypolis
- Nov 4, 2009
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MY (27f) husband (27m) of 6 months are on our first cruise. I thought we'd do activities and excursions but to him it's been a literal food orgy. Is this gluttony just normal cruise behavior or do I need to address this?
Here’s a classic I haven’t seen in a while but the term “farting and sweating crab juice” has been burned into my brain for years.
is this another one were the twist is that they are both 300 pounds
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Apr 18, 2024 02:28
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- Sex Farm
- Nov 17, 2017
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is this another one were the twist is that they are both 300 pounds
Read the post, it specifically describes the husband as fit
Read the post! Read the post!
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Apr 18, 2024 02:46
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- limp_cheese
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Nothing to see here. Move along.
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I hope I'm not too late to the post old favorites party.
A totally not gay circle jerk.
My wife [30F] thinks I'm [33M] gay? [/33M][misunderstanding]
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While posting on an "adult" message board for erotic film enthusiasts I brought up how turned on I used to be as a kid about the prospect of seeing naked women in playboys and films like Porky's and how watching porn today can be a joyless almost numbing experience.
We all agreed that the most fun we ever had watching porn was during sleepovers at friends, one of our friends would bring out the tape and we'd see the hot chick on the box cover covering herself with a pillow and I'd have to stamp my feet as fast as I could on the carpet and chew on my t-shirt to keep from screaming for joy. The first time the woman would get naked we all couldn't believe it and we'd pause the movie and we'd have to cover our boners with our pillows and then go use the bathroom so we could jerk off.
Looking back on those sleepovers I don't think I've ever been happier in my entire life, and it has been impossible to recapture that sense of naive joy and erotic wonder, even my first time having sex with a woman was a letdown by comparison.
We all agreed this was true and I came up with the idea of holding "sleepovers" and pretending we're 11 years old again, and several posters who lived in my area agreed this was a great idea.
A few dozen posts later we were able to work out some ground rules. One big rule is that we all had to be at least 18 years old (most of us are 35 and older). Each member has to try to hold at least on gathering every 3 months (there are 12 of us) and we have to stay in character at ALL times so as to not break the spell. (kind of like live action role playing)
The host of the party has to provide the material, usually old playboy tapes, Penthouse Magazines, and hardcore porn (must be from 1992 or before, preferably 80's "golden age" porn.
We all have to wear pajamas and bring chips and pop. We tend to play old nintendo games for an hour till the hosts "parents" go to bed then the host goes "look what I got guys!" then takes out the porn and we all jump around and high five and then wait with giddy expectation. During the movie we turn to each other and grin and talk about how horny we are and comment on the "action". Like if a woman with huge breasts disrobes for a shower we have to pause the movie and go "whoaaaaa!" "I'd like to suck on those" "Imagine if you touched her boobs with your penis!" "I heard that girls will put their mouth on your penis and lick it!" etc. There used to be a no masturbation rule but that was quickly nixed, the whole purpose of the gatherings is to feed of each others erotic energy the pent up erotic energy is too much to resist, we tend to whip down out pajamas at the same time and masturbate. We try to keep a silly naive quality though and jokingly point at each others members and try to shout out different things about their penises. "That sure beats Super Mario Bros.!" is my ejaculation catchphrase.
Since starting these gatherings I have never felt more alive and my sex life with my wife couldn't be better, that is until one gathering where she caught an early flight home for the purpose of "surprising" me and ended up walking in on a dozen men masturbating in her living room. I will never forget the shocked look on her face and she immediately left and stayed at her sisters house.
I managed to talk to her and explain what she witnessed but she isn't really buying my story, she keeps going on about how I am having "gay sex orgies" behind her back (we never touch each other!) and that I am living a lie. She has even started to indicate that she wants a divorce!
Is there anyway I can get her to understand what I have been doing? I love my wife and ironically have never been more attracted to her than I am now, I realize I had been somewhat childish and now realize that I have a gorgeous voluptuous woman that my 11 year old self would have sold his Super Nintendo and Bike just to be able to touch her naked breasts and I could loser her. Please help me get her back!
I forgot about Evangelion brother.
I [19 M] discovered my twin brother [19 M] doing something absolutely crazy (but realistically harmless) and I don't know what to do...Non-Romantic (self.relationships) submitted 6 years ago
quote:Not much backstory, I am twins with my brother. We live in small house together and we are both freshmen in college. I have always been the "more successful" brother, with my brother living the lifestyle of a fat otaku until about a year ago when he went a serious metamorphosis, starting to work harder and act more serious, losing weight, etc. He has seemed much happier and I was always very glad for him until yesterday.
He came from his job and I was masturbating in his room because my shift was cancelled we just cleaned the floor in mine and it still smelled like chemicals. I wasn't expecting him to come, I knew he wouldn't know I was home and I didn't have more than fifteen seconds to react and I was in shock so I just pulled up my pants and jumped into his closet.
It is one of those louvered doors but he didn't see me because he didn't check and it was dark. I could partially see him at his desk and I sat and waited for him to go eat or something. So I wait like ten minutes and then my brother pulls out a bunch of papers (which I realized a bit later was homework), his laptop, ,and a shoebox.
So first he goes onto his computer and the theme song from Evangelion starts playing. My brother and I were very big fans of the Evangelion series when we were younger and we enjoy it very much. We'll rewatch End of Evangelion once every two months or so and the series over the course of a year. It's a very shared treat between us.
So his laptop starts playing evangelion and he pulls out of the showbox a ton of very detailed evangelion toys. I didn't see them all but over the course of the next several hours I saw Unit 00, 01, 02, 03 (that was Toji's), several shinjis, asukas, reis, two misatos, a ritsuko, gendo, a kensuke, plus models of almost every angel.
So after he plays the opening he goes and plays the "battle approaching theme" on loop (can't link it but youtube "evangelion angel attack") while playing with the toys and narrating.He starts doing his homework and working over in the story that the only way to beat the angels is if he completes his homework. He is pretending to be shinji and does terrible impressions of all the other characters He does this with an two essays while essentially arguing with the NERV operators, Misato and Asuka about the actual technical details of his essays (one was a philosophy essay about what the purpose of philosophy is to our daily lives and one was a similar one but about ecology.) while he fights the angels. He'd narrate literally every word of his essay while doing this. Like literally every point. At one point he caught a spelling mistake and 'asuka' says "Mein Gott! That isn't you spell logistics! What are you stupid?" before going back and fixing it. He got the perfect nuances of the character voices and the way they talked but his voice was so horribly ill fitting so it sounded terrible. Over the course of three hours he does this, every time he finished an assignment he'd switch out the angel and when the situation changed with what was going on in the story he'd change the music. When he brought out what he said was the final angel and his third assignment (which wasn't an essay but several tough calculus problems by his description) he turned the music into the "things are desperate" type of song (the beast) and went into full crazy mode where he rapidly listed every single math move he was making while doing it. When he got on the final problem he switched it to a "we are about to win song" (the beast II) and went even faster. Then he beat them and I swear to loving god he played the final song of the show (good, or don't be) while he had every character he used say "congratulations" before putting them back in the box. Then he played the trailer music (jikai youkou i think) while voicing misato and saying what was going to happen 'next time". During the whole thing I had several chances to leave when he got drinks and went to the bathroom but I was so entranced by the whole thing. At the end he left again without a word and I left too.
I said a casual "goodnight" to him before going to bed (this was yesterday) and I haven't said anything to him about this. Is this a cry for help? Should I talk to him or something? He seems happier than he has ever been, and was clearly depressed several years ago, although he seemed to have gotten over that after lots of exercising and improving himself and boosting his self-esteem. Should I worry about this?
tl;dr: my twin bro held a three and a half hour evangelion roleplaying session with himself while doing his homework and I'm worried he may be depressed or something. should I do something?
I also don't care how much people say this is fake, for whatever reason this is the funniest poo poo to me.
My (25M) subs (23F, 26F, 22M, 28M, 28M) have unionized
quote:I have been in a committed polyamorous dominant submissive relationship for the past three months. I’m the Dom and I have 5 subs, three men and 2 women. It’s been going great, it’s all consensual and everyone if having a good time. We do not live together, but we hang out at my apartment almost every day. It is not a purely sexual relationship either. We all share an emotional connection and it’s like any other relationship but poly and bdsm. Of course, as the dom, there are some rules. They need to call me master. No kissing anyone except for me. If i tell someone to do something, they do it (within bounds of course). The punishments depend on the person, some of my subs get whipped, some publicly humiliated. It all depends on what I agree on with each sub. We have safe words too, and we stop the roleplay whenever anyone says one. It seems weird to vanillas but this is what we enjoy and we like to be open about it. Everything has been great. At least I thought everything was going great. I woke up a couple days ago and told one of my subs to get me a cup of coffee. He didn’t do it. I told him that I was going to punish him (public humiliation which can be easily resisted) and he said that he wouldn’t do it. Now, if one of my subs acts like this I break it off with them so I threatened him that I would kick him out of the relationship. The other subs chimed in and said that if I kick him out, they all leave. That’s right; my submissives have unionized. They handed me a sheet of paper with a list of demands. The demands included (I’m not sharing all of them for their privacy), “Allow kissing between subs” and “Demands are to only be followed after 8 pm”. I tried to negotiate, but they were firm in their demands. I couldn’t punish them. My hands are tied, and I have no power anymore. I told them that I would think about it for a couple days. They haven’t left me yet, they still stay overnight, but this list of demands is lingering over our relationship and our sex life. They want to keep a dominant, and no one has stepped up to replace me. They thought about finding a new dom online but only if I don’t give into their demands. I want to negotiate because I don’t want to give up too much power. I offered “kissing subs only after 6 pm” and “follow demands after 1 pm”. I also offered following each demand separately but not both together. I really do have feelings for them, and they have feelings for me. But the power balance was shifted when they unionized and I don’t know what to do. The relationship isn’t as satisfying anymore and I don’t know if it will ever be. What should I do. Do I let them get a new dom and leave them? Or do I give into their demands and relinquish some of my power?
I was going to post the one of the woman who turned [every[/i] interaction with her kids into a teachable moment to the point that the one in pre-K didn't understand what "fun" was but that seemed too depressing.
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- Hughlander
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Didn't see it in the google doc and nobody's posted it, so does anyone have a link to/the text of the dog barbarian cousin? I always loved the poster's seething jealousy of her cousin who was just going through some poo poo
It's there...
I [16F] feel like my "cousin" [16-17M] is ruining my life, how can I make my Mom understand?
quote:I live with my Mom [40], my sisters [14/12], my Aunt [30's] and her daugter [6] who are not actually related to me. My Mom and her moved in together after my father was out of the picture, after my sisters were born. We've all lived together since I was 4, we're a happy and healthy family.
I should say I'm pretty shy and suffer from anxiety.
Here's what I've pieced together: My Aunt got pregnant when she was 17 to a man from Australia that she had just met. They decided to stay together, it didn't work out and a year later she let him take the baby to Australia. She said she spoke to the father on the phone maybe half a dozen times since then, and the boy only once when he was a child.
Last year my Aunt starts getting calls from police-type people about her son, looking for birth records. The father had died and no one wanted to take him, so the Australian child protection had gotten involved and discovered he was a US citizen and had no visa or anything and were trying to figure out what to do with him. My Aunt organized to take him, and some months later we were driving out meet his plane.
My Mom and Aunt had sat as down and explained this to us, that he'd be coming to live with us permenantly, all my Aunt knew about him was his father said he was 'gifted' and 'quiet'. From that I was expected a little nerdy kid my age, I was actually excited to meet him, I thought we could be best friends! When we finally met him, I almost had a panic attack.
• He's got to be at least 6'5" and he's brawny as hell, like a muscle guy. He's huge compared to any of us. I remember thinking "I don't know this person, and he could hurt me easily", he's not a boy, he's a man.
• Literally the only question he had asked my Aunt when they talked on the phone about him coming was if he could bring his dog. She said of course he could. Turns out his dog is a giant German Shepherd thing. But it's bigger than any German Shepherd I've ever seen and is fluffy like a husky or wolf or something. It's as imposing as he is.
• He didn't say more than 3 words the entire way home from the airport. He regularly cuts people off with things like "I don't need your life story" or by just walking out of the room while you're trying to talk to him. He wears headphones all the time and pretends he can't hear you.
• He moved into the basement. My sisters and our friends had set the basement up as our space for hanging out and playing games and watching anime, we used it every day, but it's pretty large and my Mom had said we would probably be able to keep using it like that even after he moved in. There's nothing technically stopping us from still using it except for the stranger and his giant wolf sitting in the corner making us uncomfortable.
• Speaking of his dog he's weird with it. It follows him everywhere, he carries it around on his shoulders (This is the worst. Ever have a man twice your size wearing a dog as big as you as a hat loom over you while you're trying to eat breakfast?), it sleeps in his bed under the covers, and I swear he takes it into the bath with him to wash it. All this might be adorable if it wasn't a giant beast. My Aunt says it was a support animal in Australia but I don't know if I believe he actually needs one.
• One night not long after he came my Aunt said he was sometimes too much like his father, and he exploded at her, saying things like it's too late to complain about that now and she should have thought of that before. It was the most he'd said at one time since he'd moved in. She burst into tears and he just walked out of the house. Super rude when she's taken him in, and it was really scary to hear him start yelling out of nowhere.
• They put him in our school, he started junior year with me. He started skipping classes on the second day, one morning he wasn't dressed, and my Aunt told he was going to be late for school, and he said he decided not to go that day and went back downstairs.
• He leaves the house whenever he wants, never says where he's going. He goes out in the middle of the night. Doesn't even sneak out, just walks out the front door.
• He drinks. Like actually drinks. He bought beer and put it in the fridge. He will drink beer with dinner and sometimes lunch.
• He watches actual horse races at night on the tv and makes wagers over the phone, and plays cards on his laptop and I'm pretty sure its for real money.
• He buys expensive things buy won't talk about where he gets the money from. My Aunt was worried he was selling drugs when he first moved in.
• Not long after he moved in, everyone was on edge and my Mom told my Aunt she needed to get him under control, and my Aunt said she didn't know how. How do you discipline someone bigger than you who pretends he can't hear you speak.
They were talking about if and how they could make him leave, and I was so relieved. Then all of a sudden they decided he wasn't so bad:
• He started spending time with my cousin, his half sister. Like a lot of time, he looks after her more than my Aunt does. His dog now follows her around the house when he's not home. He literally talks to her more than he talks to all of us combined, and she loves him. My Aunt adores him for this and when he started doing it she cried tears of joy and is now adamant that she won't kick him out.
• My Mom lays dow the law and says he has to go to school. I don't know the details but instead he had my Aunt sign some forms and organized to take a test and got an acceptance letter to my first choice college in the city (That I'm worried I won't even be able to get into at all). He's going to start this coming Fall. I don't even know how it's possible and he acts like it was the easiest thing in the world. My Mom and Aunt now think he's a genius and chalk his weirdness up to being a savant or something. I thought at least he'd be moving into the dorms when the semster started, but nope he's not allowed and has to live at home.
• Suddenly my Mom is judging my acedemic performance much harsher, and saying I need to work harder. She used to support my hobbies (My friends and I cosplay), now she comments about how much time I spend on it.
• He started doing things around the house. First just chores and stuff, then he started fixing things. He painted the kitchen, and repaved the driveway with new concrete. My Mom started talking about how nice it is to have a man in the house, like it's all we've been missing for 12 years. Now she makes me feel like total trash if I forget to do a chore because there's this freak squatting in our basement who can somehow make a new driveway by himself?? I'm supposed to compete with that??
• He offered to start paying rent. Still won't say where his money is from, we're now assuming it's gambling because it's all he does.
• He was invited to Thanksgiving, and sat with the adults. My Grandfather and Uncle loved him and made plans with him. I felt so stupid being the oldest at the kids table.
• He got everyone expensive gifts for Christmas. He got me a Macbook. I mentioned to my Mom how it was weird how he could afford it and she called me ungrateful, and told me to go thank him. (I said thank you but he wouldn't take his headphones off and just ignored me)
• I feel like he hates all of us except my niece. My Mom just says he needs some time to adjust and how he's never lived with anyone but his Dad and he must be mourning still and we have to be supportive. But it's been months and he's still like a stranger.
• After this my Mom overheard me joke to a friend that we couldn't use the basement because it was flooded with sad boy tears, and she went ballistic on me. I tried to explain that I'm having trouble coping with him and she just called me a brat.
So my Mom and my Aunt now love him now, even though he is still the same scary creep they wanted to kick out a few months ago. It's like living with a wild animal. I've tried to tell my Mom how uncomfortable he makes me and how I don't like how much he's changed our life and she says I'm selfish.
I feel like my Mom doesn't care about my feelings at all, or how I'm coping, and I hate that I'm being compared against him, even though he gets a pass on all the things he does, ranging from rude to illegal.
How can I make my Mom understand? And ideally get him out of my house?
tl;dr "cousin's" (not really related) dad died, came and lived with us, everyone hated him and was going to kick him out, now they all love him and are treating me differently, causing me anxiety but my Mom says I'm being selfish.
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- Kenshin
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Cruise ships are a blight in many ways, especially environmental, and I judge people that go on them. I don't say anything on social media to people I know that post about going on them, but you better believe I'm judging them harshly.
It's the bottom of the barrel, lowest effort and engagement possible "tourism".
"Cruise ship tourists" are the most widely despised visitors of almost any place cruise ships make port, and for good reason.
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- Mordiceius
- Nov 10, 2007
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If you think calling me names is gonna get a rise out me, think again. I like my life as an idiot!
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AITAH for wanting to divorce my wife because she got a reduction?
Babe your disgusting b-cups, scars, and desire to control your own body are giving me the ick and violating my boundaries of you not being a hot piece of rear end. You are creating an abusive gaslighting dynamic that violates my autonomy.
Oh hey! This piece of poo poo wrote an update!
(Update) AITAH for esnting to divorce my wife for getting a reduction?
In case anyone was on his side even the slightest. Don't worry, he's arguing with every commenter as well.
 NEW UPDATE
(Update) AITAH for divorcing my wife for getting a reduction?
quote:Well, guess who found the post. My soon-to-be ex-wife came home today, came into my office, and just stared at me. It caught me off guard after weeks of silence. She told me that she wanted to read a reddit story to me. Alarm bells started going off, but this is something we did often throughout our relationship, so I didn't sweat it until she started reading my own words to me. It was bold, I didn't expect her to do that.
After she read the post, I confirmed it was my post. She started sobbing. I guess divorce never crossed her mind, which is actually surprising to me. She cried, and she pleaded. She asked what she could do to stop me from divorcing her. I told her literally the only thing she could do was go back in time and stop her from getting the reduction. She got mad and pleaded with me to give her a way forward. I sat there for about 10 minutes trying to actually figure out if there was a way I could overlook her bullshit. She actually suggested getting implants. I was loving floored. I somehow respected her even less than before. Not only was she willing to throw away our marriage over a terrible decision, but the fact that she was actually willing to get implants tells me that she didn't even have conviction to stand by her decision. It felt spineless. I told her that the last thing I wanted was for her to throw away her morals and convictions just to appease me. I told her that I wanted her to actually admit to me that she regretted her decision and was only trying to get me to validate her decision, so she felt it was worth it. She kind of stopped talking and started pacing the room. She broke down and told me that she felt like she had made a mistake. In some way, I felt relieved, like I wasn't crazy for feeling that way. Another part of me felt sick because this whole series of events didn't even need to happen. I asked if she felt that her life had improved since the surgery. She told me it hadn't. I asked her if I was the source of that. She told me that I wasn't.
I had asked her if she knew why I was mad at her. And thanks to the lovely input of you guys, she was under the impression that I said that I was mad because she made her boobs smaller. I told her that my issue is the fact that she lied and kept secrets from me for months. I told her that the whole reason why I gave up some of my more expensive hobbies was so that I could save up for a new house, that she wanted to get so that we could both have our names on it. I told her that I was upset because she constantly pushed my boundaries and refused to find a solution with me that could work for both of us. I told her that I was upset because she has shown a severe lack of good decision-making skills. I told her that I couldn't trust her to make good decisions, and that cripples our relationship. She asked if we could try couples counseling, but I'm not sure that will fix how I feel. Understand, she made a life altering unilateral decision without my input, and I can't trust her to come to me with another issue. Like, if we had a child, how do I know that she will come to me and tell me news I don't want to hear? How do I know she won't just hide it from me until it blows up in our faces? She didn't have a response to that. After a few minutes of just waiting for her to say something, she asked if I would have had a problem with her getting the procedure if she came up and talked to me about it. I told her that I still think her reasoning for getting the surgery was pointless, but itd her body. I admitted that I probably would have just suggested therapy because I dont think her issue would ever be solved with a redeuction. Back pain? Sure, that makes sense. Cancer? Of course, we do what we have to do. But to stop people from glancing at her? That's not it. I asked if it occurred to her that maybe people might glance at her because she's beautiful? She didn't have an answer for me. I asked if she had self-esteem issues or body image issues like so many of you said. She told me that she didn't. She just found it annoying when people looked at her chest. I asked if that made her self-conscious or if that caused her anxiety. She told me that it didn't and that she never felt unsafe or anything. She just moreso wanted to have a more slender body type because that was the body type she always wanted. Turns out she never really liked being thick. I told her that to my ear, it sounds like she had body image issues. She was kind of wishy washy about it, so I suggested therapy.
We talked for the majority of the afternoon. She asked if I was still going to divorce her. At that moment, I wanted to die. It felt like a hole opened up in my stomach. Up to this point, I had conviction that I would divorce her. I guess seeing her in so sad person made my armor crack a bit. I told her that today was emotional and that I shouldn't make any decisions at the moment. She asked if we could sleep together for the night, but I wasn't in the headspace for it, and I told her so. She looked like she was about to throw a fit, but I guess she thought better of it. I told her that she didn't have to move out immediately, but she should start looking for a new place or ask her mom if she could live with her. She doesn't have a job at the moment, because she lost it during all this. She asked about the car, and to be honest, I don't need it and I have savings so I told her that she can drive it for now. If I follow through with the divorce, I plan on just giving her the car as long as she just signs the paperwork. So for now, she'll be staying in the in-law suite.
Regardless of whether we stay together or not, I still think I'm due for a vacation.
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- Beachcomber
- May 21, 2007
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Another day in paradise.
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My [22F] boyfriend [23M] hates my clothes.
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Together for 3 years. So when I first met my boyfriend, I wasn't really into fashion and I generally just wore jeans, T-shirts, sweaters (not that they looked bad, but they weren't really "me.") I started reading the FFA sub (used throwaway bc he knows my real username) several years ago and got way more into fashion.
Now this means that physically, I look really different than I did when I met my bf. My hair used to natural and collarbone length, now it's very short (pixie I guess)? My body doesn't look any different but I definitely dress it differently. I like to wear colorful bow-ties with suspenders (I call it "Six Flag Old Man style" haha) and I also have a fuzzy bucket hat that I sometimes pair with it. Generally if something is deliberately "unflattering" and stands out, I want to wear it. I know it looks weird, that's the point, but it's me and it's what I feel good in. My style is basically over-the-top colorful little old British man haha...i wear lots boxy menswear in vibrant colors with deliberately weird hats and accessories and Dad sneakers.
Anyway, my bf doesn't say anything about my clothes unless I ask him, but recently when we were going on a date night I wore this outfit that was like a vintage 90s print vest, bright trousers, and button down shirt with Dad sneakers (I posted a pic on another sub where I asked this question but I can't link here). I asked him what he thought of the outfit. And he said "Honestly, I'm not really a fan of it."
Now, I know I asked him, but if he loves me, how can he "not be a fan" of something that makes me happy? I probed a little deeper and asked him how he felt about my other clothes and he admitted that he loved me regardless of how I dressed/looked, but he preferred my hair longer and preferred my old way of dressing.
Obviously we didn't go to dinner that night. He still wanted to, but I just wanted to sit in bed. I didn't even want to look at him.
Now obviously he's allowed to have preferences- but I'm not a stranger, I'm his girlfriend. It feels borderline controlling to tell me he's "not a fan" of my style. Because what am I supposed to do? I'm obviously going to keep dressing this way so I have to think about in the back of my mind that he doesn't like it. awesome.
I don't even want to look at him now. He should have just told me he liked it. And more than that, he should have actually liked it because if he likes me, he should like anything that makes me happy.
I told my mom about the situation and she says that she agrees with him, she also isn't a fan of my style, that I can still dress this way if I want but that I can't expect everyone to like it. And that's fine, my mom doesn't have to like it. But a SO should definitely like it, or at least pretend to.
Am I overreacting?
TLDR: Boyfriend being controlling about my clothes, not sure if I am overreacting
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Apr 18, 2024 04:01
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- Malachite_Dragon
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Weaving Merry Christmas magic
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"My boyfriend isn't into my wardrobe being heavily inspired by the Six Flags guy, what gives"
(you can dress however the hell you want, obviously, but people are not required to like it)
E:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WGV8DcuiZGo
Getting ready for the big date night
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Apr 18, 2024 04:17
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- Sex Farm
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"It's not that your boobs are smaller, babe, it's just that I don't find bodily autonomy sexy and I'm like totally upset you made a decision that doesn't affect me at all."
*swings fists over head and hoots; runs into forest to throw poop at the other apes*
I'm so mad at this man. So mad. gently caress this guy. I hope his wife finds a better person that loves her no matter what. My loving ex was like this and I honestly shoulda chopped my tits off to spite him (yes I still have them, yes I still hate them.)
He is a turbo dickhead but she did do something that effected him, he is no longer attracted to her sexually. They both need to get away from each other and find partners more suitable for them!
I'm sorry you had a dickhead ex like that and I hope you do what you can to be more comfortable and happy with your body and yourself.
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Apr 18, 2024 04:19
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- cult_hero
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My [22F] boyfriend [23M] hates my clothes.
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"My boyfriend doesn't realize he's dating Blippy"
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Apr 18, 2024 04:28
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- Cliff
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My wife [30F] thinks I'm [33M] gay? [/33M][misunderstanding]
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Each member has to try to hold at least on gathering every 3 months (there are 12 of us)
So.... literally every single weekend? I never did the math on this one before.
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Apr 18, 2024 04:37
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- Butter Activities
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https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KAwyWkksXuo
At the 25 second make I was wondering exactly what the deal was and then when the beat dropped I was cry laughing so hard thinking about what loving to this song would be like I scared my cat
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Apr 18, 2024 04:47
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- Sex Farm
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AITA for telling a parent at a youth hockey game to STFU
Nah gently caress that woman into the sun. Canadian hockey parents are the loving WORST of all sports parents. There should be absolutely 0 tolerance for parents yelling anything at any time during any sports game
Edit: I wish to clarify something I said in this post. I do not wish that the angry hockey mom would literally be "hosed into the sun". Obviously this would be a terrible thing to happen to her, and a frankly unwarranted escalation of the situation.
I was using a bit of hyperbole to bitterly complain about hockey parents, and angry sports parents in general, who ruin the love of sports for so many talented children across the globe.
Sex Farm fucked around with this message at 05:05 on Apr 18, 2024
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- Butter Activities
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AITA for telling a parent at a youth hockey game to STFU
Fun and unrelated fact it is generally against forums rules to wish violence upon real people.
Anyway that guy sure sucks. I hope she divorces and realizes what a psycho he is
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ADBOT LOVES YOU
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- ApplesandOranges
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Thankee kindly.
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The fact that reduction guy’s wife found his post, read it out loud to him, and he posted his update using the same account (where she could easily read it) spills it over into fanfiction bait territory for me. Or pure, undistilled obliviousness.
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