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wheatpuppy posted:My (35M) gf (35F) tells her coworkers that we are cousins OP is a special kind of fool, but introducing someone as your cousin when they aren't related to you is odd
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idiotsavant posted:If you’re just gossiping with whoever then sure, but if you’re talking about relationship stuff with a close friend/confidant?? As long as it isn’t the kind of close friend who immediately blabs all your poo poo to everyone I think it’s fine; people should be able to have outlets for that sort of thing. she said it while joking around with her friend group unless your confidant is your therapist then the only person you should be discussing that stuff with is your partner
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A_Bluenoser posted:I must confess I don't get the whole "you can't discuss your relationship problems with your close friend, but only with a therapist" thing. it's because the whole argument is a tangent from the actual original situation, where the gf was casually joking around with her friends about her partner's intimate pros and cons. therapy-friends were brought up to distract from the bad take that the op should just shut up and be grateful the relationship exists getting other people involved in your relationship disputes is fine, but some issues are I think too intimate for discussion behind someone's back. I have listened to my friend talk about his partner's difficult relationship with her family - I have not and wouldn't ever want to hear about any problems in the bedroom, especially without her consent
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Apr 12, 2024 21:58
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InediblePenguin posted:why do the people who want to post abuse stories want that? not sarcasm. genuine autism question. is it like "this is a learning experience showing what abuse looks like" or is it fun or what, genuinely most of the stories itt are abuse- or abuse-adjacent stories, abuse being more a matter of degree than of kind. in this recent story about the postponed wedding, the fiance is a victim of a manipulative relationship, but apparently it hits differently for most posters. now it's a title quote people with healthy relationships don't post on the internet about it. this is the thread for gawking at the ruins of other people's lives, and every one of us is a carrion-eater. it's fine to be squeamish but if we had any genuine sense of ethics none of us would be here
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Apr 16, 2024 19:49
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InediblePenguin posted:i feel like you are making an argument against something that i was explicitly not saying. are you feeling defensive? this reads as defensive. i literally told you, this is an informational question i am asking because my brain problems often make the behavior of other people a mystery. you are replying with something about being squeamish and every story is abusive, which i feel isn't true and also doesn't answer my question at all? no, I'm just cynical
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Apr 16, 2024 20:09
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The Bramble posted:accidently accused my wife of cheating on me, but actually it was just my daughter - and now we may divorce. counterpoint if the daughter didn't want anyone else to know maybe she could buy her own stuff. or perhaps the wife could have just not made a promise she could never keep. like there's a couple of points of failure before we get to screaming in a restaurant
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Apr 19, 2024 18:40
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extremely dumb hot take: while OP is incredibly awful the mother and aunt also dropped the ball, both in the past and more recently
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Apr 21, 2024 12:22
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I think the OP and cousin's relationship was damaged in the past (for understandable reasons) and I think none of the responsible adults did anything to try to repair or maintain that relationship. further, come the wedding, they escalated the situation with threats even when the cousin had decided they would prefer not to attend anyway
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Apr 21, 2024 12:36
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the wife sounds utterly tedious. get a grip, woman
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Apr 24, 2024 19:50
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big dyke energy posted:what???? it's not that complicated. he is leaving his wife because she made a go bag. the rest of the post is only indirectly related, and it's just him yelling at reddit for being testerical idiots that give bad advice
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I think he wasn't able to work through his feelings about it because everyone he asked about it screamed at him that he was an abuser. possibly he should have asked somebody apart from reddit like, the obvious solution was to recognise that the wife was stupidly imitating a social media thing and it meant nothing. unfortunately the internet was far too successful in convincing him otherwise and now no one involved is getting what they want
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