Regulation Size posted:

i thought it was shut down because of people seriousposting about stupid poo poo like whether bi people exist and how big an average-sized dick is.

Regulation Size posted:

I (19M) should probably dump my GF (19 F) for my possible soul mate (19 F)

phasmid posted:

No, it was not shut down for people talking. Derails were near-constant. It was "shut down" because GBS was trashed and reincarnated as this...whatever this is.

DOMDOM posted:

Dial-a-Dog posted:

I think what angers me the most about these /r/relationships posts is that my brain constantly misparses the age/sex part in brackets. I feel like it should go before the person it's describing and it drives me crazy when all the people are grouped close together. Maybe I'm just coming down with a touch of the tism.

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(Throwaway so nobody can figure out who I am in case someone on campus knows my reddit name) This semester I started university on a basketball scholarship. I came from a small private school with a great basketball problem and academic program so most people in my high school were mostly focused on their goals a lot more so than relationships. I've only been in two relationships in my life, one where the girl cheated on me and told me I felt more like a "friend" and one that ended because I was leaving for college.
Now, as a member of the team, they've added me to the team "group chat" on whatsapp. The discussions however are very rarely actually about basketball. It's just constant stuff about how many girls each guy on the team is banging, nudes of the girls, screenshots of how they lied and hosed them over, etc. Now, for me these guys are absolute assholes but obviously to be a team player I just have to shut my mouth and just observe. But since coming to college in August, I haven't been having anything close to the same luck. Girls will even approach me, say I'm cute, etc, but after one hangout they seem to lose interest. My teammates keep telling me really misogynistic stuff to do to get girls (they honestly sound like the real life equivalent of TRP even though I assume they don't read that stuff), and while I feel like that's not my style, insanity is doing the same thing over and over again, and I'm here feeling alone while my teammates have women fighting over them while they treat them like poo poo. Is there anyway I can be myself and still enjoy the college lifestyle?
TL;DR Starting college, struggling with girls while my teammates have women just hanging off them and it's started to ruin my perspectives

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As the title said we have been dating about 2 years. His family lives overseas. We are on a trip where I have finally met his family. Now we at the hotel after meeting and he had kissed his mom straight on the lips at least three times. I find it really weird, kind of disgusting. Is this usual? We gave a gift and his mom kind of snuggled between us and put her arm around me. When we left he gave his father a kiss too!?
Tl/dr: My boyfriend kisses his mum and father on the mouth. Is this gross?

Jeffrey of YOSPOS posted:

Nah it's really bad and ambiguous when they write things like "My [24f] SO with his [32m] MIL(52F), brought home unwanted ferrets", the first one is ambiguous so you gotta read until the second one and then go back. It's like reading the sentence "the old man the boat" where you gotta stop and re-parse the first part after reading the second part.

Lockback posted:

Me [27F] with my boyfriend [28F] of 2 years, he kisses his fqmily on the lips


She said boyfriend but also 28F. Also, ewwww, they show affection and his Mom put her arm around me!

WampaLord posted:

That dude is a basketball player in college and can't get laid?

Smdh.

"After one hangout they lose interest" probably because you didn't gently caress them, bro!

HardDiskD posted:

Me [19 M] with my girlfriend [19 F] 2.5 years, girlfriend doesn't like me masturbating

Jack Trades posted:

Aaargh! Come oon.
What's with all these women being intimidated to hell and back by porn and monkey spanking?

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hey! I'm 18 and a freshman in college. There is a guy [22m] that I think I might be kinda getting into a relationship with, he's really nice and we have a few interests in common and I like spending time with him and we are also into each other physically, but I don't know if I feel much different than I would with like, a good friend. I still think he's great, but is it a bad idea to enter a relationship without that kind of attraction? Im not really experienced when it comes to relationships, ive never been in an actual relationship (except for sexual ones)

tl;dr I think I might be getting into a relationship with a guy that I like, but don't know if I feel romantically attracted to

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Hi all, somewhat long post here since I am freaking out.

I have been going out with my girlfriend, Suzy, for about a year now. I really love her and we are moving in together soon.

Lately, though, I have started to feel paranoid about the relationship due to some discoveries I made about her authoring sexual stories. While helping pack up her things I found a series of papers that contained erotica written in her handwriting. The manuscripts weren't dated but they were in pretty good shape so I don't know how old they are. Not my proudest moment but I secreted them away so that I could read them myself; I thought that they would help me understand her kinks better.

The theme in every one of the stories is cheating/cuckolding. Like a typical set-up would be that the girl is dating a guy but gets restless and seeks out new partners.The new guy gives her sexual satisfaction while the old guy is totally clueless and thinks that the girl is faithful to him. The stories also focus on how the girl gets off on deceiving her boyfriend. Lots of "he had no idea," "it would crush him to find out but he never would," that sort of humiliating stuff.

If that weren't disconcerting enough, there was one really long story that seemed very...personal. It was written in third person about a girl who wrote cuckold erotica as an expression for her own fantasies. When she gets in a long relationship with a guy she starts cheating on him and getting off on the deception, etc. Basically this really long story is about how her fantasies were all surpassed by the "real life" experience of cuckolding her boyfriend and hiding it from him. There were also lines in there about how he didn't even know that she had those fantasies, etc.

I almost pooped myself reading this poo poo. It was so graphic in detailing the thoughts of these serial cheaters and how their bfs are getting aggressitvely cuckolded that I couldn't help but worry about whether they had any connection to reality. The last one in particular, though written in third person, really could describe our relationship. Like, I didn't think that I was getting cheated on but the stories are all about guys who got blindsided by this cheating stuff.

Should I be worried about this? Should I tell her I found the manuscripts? It would crush me to be cheated on but at this point all I have is suspicion. It's a horrible feeling that I could be being cheated on and after reading the stories it seems like it could totally be happening.

tl;dr I found erotica written by my gf; it's all about girls who get off on cuckolding and lying to their SO's. Should I worry about getting cheated on? Should I tell her I found the manuscripts?

Regulation Size posted:

GF [25 F] writs really aggressive cuckold erotica...should I [24 M] be concerned?

Regulation Size posted:

GF [25 F] writs really aggressive cuckold erotica...should I [24 M] be concerned?

DOMDOM posted:

[18] is it bad to enter a relationship with someone you don't have romantic feelings for?

brotato posted:

Man who the hell HAND WRITES their erotica, wtf? Way easier to throw it up on the Kindle marketplace when you're just typing it.

Bonzo posted:

Prep the heffer
http://www.mirror.co.uk/news/world-news/amorous-trio-who-sleep-together-9029654?ICID=ref_fark

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My boyfriend and his best friend (20M) have a funny relationship. Until recently I found it hilarious, and very much appreciated how close they are. Let me preface this by saying I am certain they are not gay; they just have an extremely close bromance. That being said, sometimes it makes me uncomfortable and I am not sure what to do. I recognize that I am 4-5 years older than them and this could definitely impact how I perceive their behaviour, but I do think some of it is objectively strange and inappropriate, regardless of age.

These are some examples of things they've done that I have never said anything about :

-They shower together after the gym and have touched penises naked in the shower and laughed about it (I find this immature but actually pretty funny)

-BF's friend will take his nutsack out of his sweatpants through a hole in the crotch and BF will poke it

-They will have sleepovers and share the same bed and spoon

-They will come over to my place and lay on my couch and one of them will put their head in the others' lap

The above in isolation are pretty unremarkable... I mean I have noticed it and found it peculiar, but it never truly bothered me. I'm happy my bf has this level of closeness with another person. They value each others' friendship greatly.

The following happened this weekend, and this is where I started to get uncomfortable. They came over before we went out to the bar. I was in the bathroom adjacent to my living room putting on makeup. I heard his friend say "I ate too much! Rub my belly" at which point my bf lifted up his shirt and started doing it. But it's not like they're laughing while doing this, like "ha ha this is so ridiculous"... they're dead serious. Then they switched and my bf's friend started rubbing his. But they were like, silent... I'm kind of having a hard time articulating exactly the vibe in the room. Not sexual, but like... tender? Like I'd expect my boyfriend and I to have that kind of vibe between us. By this point I had come into the living room and sat on the couch across from them and was looking at them with what was likely disgust and shock on my face. I knew I looked disturbed and I didn't do anything to hide it. My bf's friend, TWICE, said "what, are you jealous?" and then kept doing it. I said "no... I'm just very uncomfortable". I didn't ask them to stop or tell them it was inappropriate, I just told them it made me uncomfortable. Then a few minute later, his friend made a joke about how they were both going to "pick up chicks" that night. I was obviously upset - my boyfriend and I are in a monogamous relationship and even though it's a joke and I trust my boyfriend, his friend was clearly trying to upset me on purpose. That in conjunction with the weird behaviour had me start to realise how not okay I am with all of this.

Am I wrong to feel this way? Should I tell my bf it bothers me? I haven't brought it up with him at all. It's a new relationship so I'm kind of scared to. And honestly... I am not sure how much good it would do. I think at most, they will stop acting that way in front of me, but then they will still do it in private. Ultimately it's not my place to tell him how to behave with his friends. And I don't want to encourage this behaviour further by making it something they can "get away with" in private.
Does anyone have any suggestions for how to handle this?

tl;dr: Boyfriend and his best friend are extremely close and the extent of their physical touch with each other often makes me uncomfortable. I would love suggestions for how to handle this.

Edit: One thing I forgot to add is that we went to a rave on the weekend and his best friend was VISIBLY extremely upset for hours that night. Like, my bf and I were obviously doing drugs and extremely high and making out/grinding etc. His best friend seemed upset and kept leaving to go sit by the wall instead of staying on the dance floor. We assumed he had just had a bad reaction to MDMA ... and also assumed it was because he was lonely and wanted that for himself. Maybe he is in love with my bf and that's why he was upset? Honestly though I hate making assumptions.

WampaLord posted:

My (25F) boyfriend (21M) of five months is extremely close with his male best friend and their behaviour makes me uncomfortable.

turbomoose posted:

DeAnna Rivas, 27 had to plead with her husband Manny, 28, before he would allow 20-year-old Melissa James to join their household.

"...It took me four years to convince him but now we have MJ in our lives"

WampaLord posted:

My (25F) boyfriend (21M) of five months is extremely close with his male best friend and their behaviour makes me uncomfortable.

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Posting with a throwaway because family members know about my main reddit account.
My [24M] girlfriend/fiancée [24F] and I have been together for almost 2 and a half years and engaged for almost 6 months. My girlfriend/fiancée is in the military reserves and broke her nose overseas. It doesn't have any bumps or lumps but the bridge healed a bit crooked because she was at combat hospital and there was no plastic surgeon there. My mom [49F] thought my girlfriend/fiancée would be self-conscious about her nose at her wedding and bought her nose job surgery as an engagement gift. My mom's heart was in the right place and she just wanted to do something nice so she could nice at the wedding.
My girlfriend/fiancée was upset and felt insulted. She didn't even want to go to the consultation when my mom offered to take her. My mom is upset and feels insulted. I tried talking to my girlfriend/fiancée about maybe at least going to the consult but she doesn't want to go. He nose is cute enough but truthfully people do notice and I think it would improve her appearance if she chose to do it. It wasn't her fault it happened overseas where there was no plastic surgeon. I think she was rude to turn down my mom's gift and to tell her off when my mom insisted. Our lease is up at the end of the month and my girlfriend/fiancée is threatening to move out and not renew and call off the wedding. I do love her but I feel like she overreacted. She didn't even politely decline or thank my mon and my mom is still hurt. What do I do here reddit?
tl;dr My girlfriend/fiancée is in the military reserves and broke her nose overseas. There's no bumps but it healed a little crooked because it was a combat hospital and there was no plastic surgeon. My mom bought her nose job surgery as an egagement gift but my girlfriend/fiancée wants to keep her nose and turned down my mom. My mom is hurt because she insisted and my girlfriend/fiancée was rude. I don't know what to do about her behavior.