HardDiskD posted:

I think she meant "Sandra's nieces".

Bonzo posted:

From /r/personalfinance

I am 17 years old: my mother has 5 credit cards under my name and uses my name/SSN for her bills. How will this affect my future? What can I currently do as a minor?

Jack Trades posted:

Brb, making some kids so I can take out loans on their behalf and then run away to Cuba.
Seems like a great scam. What ruined lives?

loquacius posted:

Take them to Cuba with you, credit scores mean nothing in a true socialist paradise

Glenn Quebec posted:

Filial piety dictates that the son suffers silently as the mother runs rampant with his credit history.

tactlessbastard posted:

You're hosed, kid. Sorry.

Nissin Cup Nudist posted:

Getting cucked by your own dad has to be the worst.

I'm not sure who the worse person, the dad or the wife? And what on earth possessed the wife to tell him that now?

quote:

I met a girl about a month ago who seems perfect - which is weird to me, because "perfect" is something I never really believed in.

The only problem is she lives about 10 hours away. When I met her, she was in town visiting a family member, and was only here for about a week.

Since she left, we've texted day-in and day-out. We've done the whole "dirty" talk thing (which, to be honest, really does nothing for me - but she said it gets her going like crazy, so I'm more than happy to do it). She even started sending me pictures (which I didn't ask for, but again am more than happy to receive).

I asked if we could Skype chat, and she told me she is a bit uncomfortable with that. I guess she and an ex made a sex-tape once, and out of spite he decided to upload it to a bunch of websites (she had it taken down, but as you can imagine it left her pretty scarred). She said she hasn't done anything video-related since then - about five years ago.

Anyway, everything I learn about her makes me love her more. We have so much in common it's uncanny. And yet, over the past few days, she's slowed down in texting me. Every text I send it takes her a half hour or more to get back to me.

So at first I thought maybe I was texting her too much. But then when I looked back at our texts, I realized that she initializes stuff MORE than I do.

For example, yesterday she sent me a text saying poke at around noon.

I sent her back a text, less than five minutes later, saying "Anything you put in my general vicinity is liable to be bitten, licked, kissed, nibbled, caressed, fondled, stroked, or otherwise touched as I see fit. Just a fair warning."

Two hours later, I get back "You're so adorable." Two. Hours. Later.

And maybe she couldn't talk right then, fine. But then why even initiate? Why poke me if you can't respond right now?

What the heck is going on here!?

TL;DR - A girl I've been consistently texting with for the past month has slowed down, and I have no idea why.

WAY TO GO WAMPA!! posted:

https://twitter.com/darbypumphrey/status/417325338314960896?lang=en

quote:

She [28F] is taking longer and longer to respond to me [24M]

It's like the guy version of Rebecca Bunch

mind the walrus posted:

"I'm about to tank a casual relationship. Wanna watch?"

Benagain posted:

gently caress her parents, gently caress her boyfriend, but drat is it nice to see someone with that much self respect.

quote:

I've [24 F] have been sleeping with my coworker [32 M] for about a year. Should I tell his wife?

A little more than I year ago, I had my first breakup. I was devastated and my coworker befriended me and was there for me. Fast forward a few months, I am still depressed about my ex and had heard that rebound sex helps (it does not), and I trusted him, so I asked. He said yes.

So, we start doing this and I begin to notice things are a little odd. He tells me that he lives with his sister and that she has dinner ready every day at 6pm, so he needs to be home by then. He would also take calls and he would distance himself from where I was to answer it. He also told me that his sister dropped him off every morning. Stuff like that. I thought it was odd, but I brushed it off. I dropped him off somewhere and I saw his sister. Weeks later, I came across his sister dropping him off only to see that this was a completely different woman. I confronted him and he explained that he and his ex co-owned a car, and that he got it on certain days and times (he had to rush home to get his car, not for dinner). I was upset that he lied, but I forgave him. Then one day I boss had me clean out all employee files and I came across his. I noticed that his contact person was listed as his “wife.” I was livid. He told me that he used to live with this person when he first started working here, and that he never changed it. It made sense, so I stupidly let it go.

More months pass, and I still have a suspicion that something is off. I question his “single” status repeatedly and he finally comes clean. He tells me that he is married. He is married, but he doesn’t touch her. They “are a marriage with only the lovely benefits.” I am upset, sad, and miserable. He made me his mistress. At this point, my feelings for him had turned to love, so it really hurt me to learn this. He insists that it is a sham marriage, and, well, I…I knowingly became his paramour. I had my good and bad days. On my bad days, I recognized that I was a terrible person with no scruples, but on my good days I was in love….

Anyway, my bad days are becoming my life, and I want to end it. I feel guilty, and mostly, I am just tired of being his mistress. He is very controlling and I don't want to have to deal with this. I am not his wife. I want to say no more. But, do I tell his wife? I know that I am at fault for not ending it when I found out-this will haunt me for a while. I don’t want to ruin her life more than I have, but I, if it were me, I would like to know. I felt grateful to him because he helped me out when I needed it the most, but is keeping his secret the way to show my gratitude? I don’t know what to do.

TL;DR: Started sleeping with my coworker because i thought he was single, he was a wife, I become his mistress, I know that I am a terrible person, and I'm tired of it all. Do I tell his wife or keep it to myself?

Gaunab posted:

quote:

I met a girl onTinder, and she was gorgeous. She said upfront that she wasn't looking for a hook-up. I decided to ask her out to dinner, since she was so attractive, and she agreed. Low and behold, my car broke down on the way to pick her up. She ended up offering to pick me up as I was only a few minutes away from her house. On the way back to the car from the restaurant, I opened the drivers side door for her to get in, and noticed a machete with the cover on. It was sitting in the driver side door.

The date was great, she was great conversation and very interesting. But, I'm wondering if the machete is a deal breaker. I feel like only an extremely bat poo poo crazy girl would have a machete in her car. She was also Russian, and though I haven't met any other Russian women, the Russian men I've met have all been bat poo poo crazy (no offense to any Russians on here). I don't know, should this be a deal breaker, or am I making too big of a deal out of this?

tl;dr: Went on great first date with a beautiful woman, but she had a machete in her car, is this a deal breaker?

feedmegin posted:

Surely as a minor you can't legally enter into a contract anyway. The debts should be unenforceable (and any company that's letting her use his deets is on the hook for making an unenforceable deal with a minor without checking).

Jeffrey of YOSPOS posted:

My [13M] dad girlfriend [20F] threw a tantrum because he gave me $50. Now I need to share it with her

Jeffrey of YOSPOS posted:

I (26m) took a girl (22f) out on a date, is it a deal breaker that she had a machete in her car?

Richard M Nixon posted:

Oh gently caress this girl. Does she think her admitted rebound gently caress is a serious relationship? She's trying to mess up this guy's life to alleviate her uncomfortable feelings about him being married? I mean, he's a dick for cheating of course, but it's just dramatic for her to try and gently caress around further.

Lesson for him: go with someone older and professional who understands discretion.

gentle pete posted:

gentle pete posted:

My [30F] BF [29M] of 6 yrs is controlling in weird ways that really bother me.

I'll try to be short. I love my boyfriend. There is one issue though that is really beginning to bother me. He's never been a controlling person, but over the past year or so he has started to force me to do very trivial, annoying things.

For example, sometimes he will not let me out of rooms until I give him a "password". He won't stop following me around until I give him a high five, no matter how many times I say no. Basically, he won't stop some annoying or persistent activity until I meet his demands. There have been times I simply refused and tried to wait it out. Eventually he caves, but then he acts like I ruined his day by not playing along.

The most recent example I can think of is:

A church dropped off a religious brochure in our mailbox. He started reading the passages in a loud, mocking voice. We're both atheists so I wasn't offended, but he was being extremely obnoxious. I tried to ignore him, basically, because that is how I've learned to cope with purposely annoying things like this. But after a few minutes my patience ran out and I asked him (calmly) to stop. He said he'd stop if I pick a number 7-24, and he would read the passage with that number, and that he would stop. I found his request so annoying that I said no, just stop. He kept pressuring me to pick one for a few minutes, assuring me, "I'll stop if you pick! Just pick one! Just pick one please! Pick one!" I finally relented to just get it over with, since I was busy on the computer in the room and couldn't just walk away without disturbing my work. He read it, I weathered it, and then he started reading ANOTHER ONE. I asked him angrily what he was doing, and he said "you picked one, this is my pick now."

I told him he doesn't need a pick and just stop it. He got annoyed and basically stormed out of the room, saying "Why do you have to suck all the happiness out of me?" He was slightly depressed for the rest of the night.

That sounds absolutely ridiculous reading it now. It's almost embarrassing. I'm sure that these things are coming from some deep-seated issue where he feels as if I'm not paying attention to him, or he wants to exert some control over his life, but regardless it's coming out in super petty ways that are making me question if I can even deal with it anymore.

Coolness Averted posted:

She's dumb to have ignored all those red flags, and to bang a coworker, but you're kinda revealing stuff about yourself if you read that and think the OP is the bad guy, duder.

Captain Yossarian posted:

What on God's green earth is wrong with this dude? 29 years old

Jeffrey of YOSPOS posted:

Imagine spending 45 minutes trying to wring a high five out of your girlfriend and when she concedes, a pale shadow of her former self, quickly move your hand away and say "too slow".

Jeffrey of YOSPOS posted:

My [13M] dad girlfriend [20F] threw a tantrum because he gave me $50. Now I need to share it with her

Jeffrey of YOSPOS posted:

I (26m) took a girl (22f) out on a date, is it a deal breaker that she had a machete in her car?

Jeffrey of YOSPOS posted:

I (26m) took a girl (22f) out on a date, is it a deal breaker that she had a machete in her car?

Jeffrey of YOSPOS posted:

I (26m) took a girl (22f) out on a date, is it a deal breaker that she had a machete in her car?

quote:

So I went over to his house the other night and we eventually started hooking up. I was giving him a blow job and he wanted to transition to PIV. But, I stopped him because I was on my period. I've never been on my period in front of him before, oddly enough, so I wasn't sure how he'd feel about it. He said he felt bad if I didn't get anything and I was just like "it's ok" and continued giving him head.

A few minutes later he asked if I want to do PIV again so I was just like I'm down but it's up to you! He said "I can just wear a condom" so I went to the bathroom to take out my tampon and he went to his room, presumably to get a condom.

We met back up and I made sure all the lights were off so he didn't see anything. Then we had sex and afterwards he went to the bathroom and turned on the shower and was in there for awhile. I was kind of confused because I figured he had used a condom so he shouldn't need to wash his entire dick off? But I figured some blood must've gotten on his legs or something so I brushed it off. When he came out I asked if he had used a condom. He said yes so I was like cool. When I went to the bathroom, I didn't see a condom in the trash but I just brushed it off again.

ANYWAY -- then we hung out for a few more hours just drinking wine and talking and listening to music. I do really like him a lot. I eventually had to go home because we both had work in the morning and I have a puppy at home that I can't leave alone for the entire night (I would usually sleep over but I didn't for that reason). The night ended great, he gave me a huge kiss goodbye and was implying he wanted to start hanging out more (he just moved like 2 miles away from me last week -- before he used to live about 40 minutes away). I was really happy.

The next morning he texts me "hey" -- which excited me -- so I replied "hi I just woke up!" And then he was like "me too -- but I didn't use a condom or pull out so you should get a plan B." I just said thanks for telling me.

WTF this kind of pisses me off. He lied right to my face. I mean, at least he told me, but still. Also, I was on my period so I won't get pregnant (it was only like the 2nd day and my period lasted 8 days). I kind of understand why he lied the night before because we were having a great time and if he had admitted he didn't use a condom, it would have killed the moment and ruined the night.

He knows I'm not on birth control and he usually just pulls out and we don't use condoms very often. We do sometimes, but not usually. Then again, we've only had sex like 6 times since I went off birth control, so the pull out method is just a temporary thing -- if we start having sex more regularly since he lives so close now, I'll probably go back on the pill.

Anyway, should I be pissed at him or let it go? I mean, he told me eventually the next morning, it wouldn't have made much difference the night before in terms of taking the plan B. Also, I guess I had just assumed he had put a condom on because he had suggested it since I was on my period and I just figured he would WANT to use a condom. So I guess I could have confirmed it better before we started having sex.

tl;dr: FWB didn't use a condom but didn't tell me until the next morning.

WAY TO GO WAMPA!! posted:

Should I [24f] be angry at my FWB [24M] of 5 years for not using a condom like I thought he was?

Jeffrey of YOSPOS posted:

I (26m) took a girl (22f) out on a date, is it a deal breaker that she had a machete in her car?