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Gumbel2Gumbel posted:http://nymag.com/thecut/2015/07/what-open-marriage-taught-one-man-about-feminism.html Ugh, I finally finished reading this and the follow-up and I'm so angry with both of them for how ridiculous they are. Like: quote:How does it work? We take turns going out. Because we have small children (ages 6 and 3), one of us stays home. (We don’t like to use babysitters because it gives us a curfew; we’d rather go out unfettered than worry about turning into a pumpkin at midnight.) That's so sad. Of course you view the marriage being open as a better option if it's literally the only way one of you gets away from the kids. Parents go on dates (and get hotels) for a very important reason and if you're neglecting to nurture the relationship with your spouse because it's easier/cheaper for you to take turns dating, then no wonder you think sex with other partners is the solution. Then the part where she doesn't answer the phone for half the day because she fell asleep at the dude's house. These folks must forget the big part of dating (for women at least) where you give your best friend/roommate the place you're going and a good check-in time to make sure you're okay. You can sure as poo poo bet my roommate knew the last name of my date and had his MySpace (lol) bookmarked just in case. I was audibly eye-rolling through that whole article and when I brought it up to my husband,, he pointed out people seem to forget that for a lot of people, dating is finding the person you want to settle down with. So there's gotta be some misrepresentation to their "dates" about their relationship status. Of course, judging by how insufferable they both seem, the danger of someone falling for them seems pretty low.
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# ? Nov 3, 2016 23:23 |
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# ? May 28, 2024 14:14 |
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I don't think these guys think things through. It is extremely easy for women to get laid. The woman in an open relationship will universally have better luck than the guy. These guys are delusional.
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# ? Nov 3, 2016 23:23 |
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Leon Einstein posted:I don't think these guys think things through. It is extremely easy for women to get laid. The woman in an open relationship will universally have better luck than the guy. These guys are delusional. In this case, it wasn't the guy wanting to get laid. It was the guy believing monogamy was inherently patriarchal which is an absolutely insane mindset.
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# ? Nov 3, 2016 23:24 |
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SirSamVimes posted:In this case, it wasn't the guy wanting to get laid. It was the guy believing monogamy was inherently patriarchal which is an absolutely insane mindset. I think that's what really rankled my oysters. My husband and I consider ourselves feminists and him doing mental gymnastics to make it seem like they were doing it for The Womyn when his wife admitted she doesn't consider herself much of a feminist in the follow-up just...ugh. Like, please don't give Rush Limbaugh and his ilk more ammunition to make us look like ball-busting harpies.
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# ? Nov 3, 2016 23:35 |
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Another tool of Patriarchy dismantled. Checkmate monogamists!
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# ? Nov 3, 2016 23:38 |
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Gumbel2Gumbel posted:http://nymag.com/thecut/2015/07/what-open-marriage-taught-one-man-about-feminism.html Hahaha, oh jesus christ.
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# ? Nov 3, 2016 23:48 |
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I don't believe for a goddamn second that the kid who has been denied video games his entire life wants suddenly to rebel and play a particular Pokémon on a particular handheld
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# ? Nov 3, 2016 23:49 |
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tactlessbastard posted:I don't believe for a goddamn second that the kid who has been denied video games his entire life wants suddenly to rebel and play a particular Pokémon on a particular handheld Why not?
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# ? Nov 3, 2016 23:55 |
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Leon Einstein posted:I don't think these guys think things through. It is extremely easy for women to get laid. The woman in an open relationship will universally have better luck than the guy. These guys are delusional. Yet these guys will keep on suggesting an open relationship not realising that they won't be happy with it.
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# ? Nov 3, 2016 23:55 |
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tactlessbastard posted:I don't believe for a goddamn second that the kid who has been denied video games his entire life wants suddenly to rebel and play a particular Pokémon on a particular handheld what? I'm confused what you're saying? He probably (hopefully) has friends, and they have video games and therefore has played them, he's just reached a point in his life where he realizes mom and dad are dumb for denying him something that will not cause him undue harm in his life* *provided he doesn't sit and play games all day.
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# ? Nov 3, 2016 23:56 |
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This one's great. MY PENIS IS SO LARGE IT'S WRECKING MY LIFE/BUTTHOLES https://www.thesun.co.uk/living/2105595/my-penis-is-so-big-im-worried-girls-just-use-me-for-one-night-stands-its-wrecking-my-life/
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# ? Nov 4, 2016 00:05 |
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SirSamVimes posted:Why not? If he's totally locked down, then he probably doesn't have a smart phone. It seems to me that a teenager today without a smart phone is essentially neutered and would rebel against that. If he had a smart phone then he'd have plenty of access to games. Also, I could be wrong but it seems to me that Pokémon players are a crowd slightly younger than me who caught it when they were kids and are now the only market as young adults.
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Devian666 posted:This one's great. MY PENIS IS SO LARGE IT'S WRECKING MY LIFE/BUTTHOLES
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# ? Nov 4, 2016 00:08 |
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tactlessbastard posted:If he's totally locked down, then he probably doesn't have a smart phone. It seems to me that a teenager today without a smart phone is essentially neutered and would rebel against that. If he had a smart phone then he'd have plenty of access to games. Man, I don't think you grok "tiger" parents, which is how she described her own parents. It has been around forever as a parenting style but picked up its name from the Amy Chua book that came out like, five or six years ago, and made all sorts of parenting science types flip out. It's kind of interesting (but a little trite, and not super successful) as a philosophy, if you want to look it up. I'd bet $1000 that this girl's parents are conservative and traditional Asians, upper-middle class professionals, and have every aspect of her life on lock because the expectations put on her are so insane. She probably does have a phone, but has been instructed to use it only to talk to her parents and teachers, and that's just How It Is.
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tactlessbastard posted:If he's totally locked down, then he probably doesn't have a smart phone. It seems to me that a teenager today without a smart phone is essentially neutered and would rebel against that. If he had a smart phone then he'd have plenty of access to games. What? No dude pokémon is for kids. There are adults who play but they're not the target audience.
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# ? Nov 4, 2016 00:40 |
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Just read Picks awful story three pages go on my commute home and put her on ignore.
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# ? Nov 4, 2016 00:40 |
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Tender Bender posted:What? No dude pokémon is for kids. There are adults who play but they're not the target audience. So kids, then. Not teenagers.
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# ? Nov 4, 2016 00:41 |
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tactlessbastard posted:So kids, then. Not teenagers. I don't know why you're accepting of both adults and small children playing pokémon but the idea of someone in between is some kind of gamer catfish.
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# ? Nov 4, 2016 00:43 |
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Ash should've stayed monogamous with Pikachu but nooo, he wanted to open up their relationship so they could catch other pokemans but he forgot that Pikachu cannot catch any pokemon himself. You bastard, Ash. Truly, in a poly relationship there's always a loser. Stay monogamous, kids.
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Regulation Size posted:Man, I don't think you grok "tiger" parents, which is how she described her own parents. It has been around forever as a parenting style but picked up its name from the Amy Chua book that came out like, five or six years ago, and made all sorts of parenting science types flip out. It's kind of interesting (but a little trite, and not super successful) as a philosophy, if you want to look it up. Yeah that's what I assumed. And I don't think a kid like this is going to pull some huge 180 in college either, usually if things go bad it manifests in some kind of mental breakdown but not necessarily drug or sex binges. Frankly if I were a parent having a secret Gameboy would be a much bigger relief than something like pregnancy, drug addiction, shoplifting, etc.
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# ? Nov 4, 2016 00:55 |
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Stop biting off on the circular open relationship circle jerk or you assholes will close the thread. My [21F] boyfriend [23M] called me a "white trash disappointment" quote:I'm using this throwaway account because mine has too much information about me. Anyway. It's so 100% archetypical abusive rear end in a top hat, right down to "he's a complicated guy" and "he can be charming and sweet when he wants". My knee jerk reaction is fake, but this is a trope for a reason and people like this really do exist so...
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# ? Nov 4, 2016 01:08 |
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Glenn Quebec posted:Just read Picks awful story three pages go on my commute home and put her on ignore.
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# ? Nov 4, 2016 01:13 |
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He sounds like a total loving douche and she should follow the thread's de facto advice.
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# ? Nov 4, 2016 01:14 |
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Panfilo posted:Frankly if I were a parent having a secret Gameboy would be a much bigger relief than something like pregnancy, drug addiction, shoplifting, etc. I have a very distinct memory from when I was 16, where my parents got really really mad at me because I didn't want to wear dark socks with a khaki/sportcoat outfit for some special occasion or other, and I couldn't stop laughing because I realized all at once how loving white we were to be having that argument in the first place, let alone have it be considered something worthy of raising your voice over I was like "I have never even tasted alcohol " SirSamVimes posted:Edit: MY GIRLFRIEND and I like talking about the fantasy of bringing in another girl, but we both agree that we could never share. same, I think this situation is fairly common actually Sort-of related, one of my friends and her boyfriend once got in a huge fight because she wanted to have a threesome, he didn't, and she got drunk one night and tried convincing him, and for some reason the first name that came to mind as an example potential threesome partner was her ex-boyfriend. He did not like that one bit. Dirtbag Diva posted:I think that's what really rankled my oysters. My husband and I consider ourselves feminists and him doing mental gymnastics to make it seem like they were doing it for The Womyn when his wife admitted she doesn't consider herself much of a feminist in the follow-up just...ugh. Like, please don't give Rush Limbaugh and his ilk more ammunition to make us look like ball-busting harpies. Wait, I've been avoiding clicking those links because I cringe too easily Are you telling me that the feminism angle didn't come from his wife trying to subvert it to make him let her gently caress random dudes, he just sort of made it up himself as justification? Christ, these people
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# ? Nov 4, 2016 01:19 |
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Anony Mouse posted:Stop biting off on the circular open relationship circle jerk or you assholes will close the thread. I like how she downplays it to "boyfriend called me a mean name" instead of "my bf called me literal human garbage and I somehow havent broken up with him yet"
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# ? Nov 4, 2016 01:29 |
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Me [40/F] with my Fiance [43/M], 1 year together. My Fiance breathes deeply out of his mouth when talking on the phone and it drives me insane.quote:I recently noticed that my fiance breathes heavily when we are The mental formatting is the OP's, and I think it adds a charming poetic aspect to the post.
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# ? Nov 4, 2016 01:41 |
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White trash beautiful. Trailer park queen
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# ? Nov 4, 2016 01:47 |
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lazorexplosion posted:Me [40/F] with my Fiance [43/M], 1 year together. My Fiance breathes deeply out of his mouth when talking on the phone and it drives me insane. It's kind of beautiful. It reads like a really lovely haiku made by someone who's too old to care.
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Me (23F) and BF (27M) of two years. I am struggling with forgiving myself, and it is messing with my day to day life.quote:Hi, I have a tendency to be long-winded but I'm going to do my best to keep this shorter. My boyfriend and I have been through a lot but through tons of hard work and therapy, our relationship is amazing right now. I love him so very much, and he is truly the one I want to be with for the rest of my life. It is crazy that I am able to say that--I am usually so indecisive, especially about relationships, but I love him. However, it was extremely tough for us about two and a half months ago. I was stressed about some school-related stuff, as was he, and we were coming off the honeymoon phase hard after moving in together. I had pleaded for things to change for months, for him to be more expressive and helpful, but nothing changed and he remained unhelpful around the house, etc, and emotionally unavailable. This distance and resentment all culminated in one terrible, awful weekend, in which he and I both made tons of mistakes (he skipped my dad's 50th birthday for a funeral after telling me he would only be there for an hour--he stayed for 10 hours, got poo poo-faced and high and lied about it, hung up on me, left me alone in a neighborhood we didn't know in the middle of the night--I was shoved by a crazy drunk guy because of this, we missed a romantic weekend because of this and bailed on money, plans, and friends, he broke up with me while drunk, and I ended up fooling around with an ex after the break up & didn't tell him right away about that for fear that we wouldn't be able to fix things if he knew. I came clean a week later and we have worked on it since). We were very close to staying broken up over everything that happened, but after talking about it and realizing that all the mistakes had come because of the distance that had grown between us over the past few months, we doubled down on boundaries, being emotionally available for each other, communication, etc. I can honestly say right now that things are the best they have ever been with us--he is finally making some connections to what I like as far as romantic gestures and where communication is concerned and we are amazing lately, really--I mean that. A serial poster to /r/relationships and also /r/exmormon, go figure.
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# ? Nov 4, 2016 02:00 |
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lazorexplosion posted:Me [40/F] with my Fiance [43/M], 1 year together. My Fiance breathes deeply out of his mouth when talking on the phone and it drives me insane. Ah yes, I love my posts double spaced, MLA format. No citation page though so I can't accept it.
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lazorexplosion posted:Hi, I have a tendency to be long-winded but I'm going to do my best to keep this shorter... *writes galtse.txt*
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SirSamVimes posted:
Lady Sybil is a goddamn saint and I will loving cut you, Sir.
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# ? Nov 4, 2016 02:24 |
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The worst part about that self-important feminist faff is that there was no consent to her stepping out until she'd already kissed some peanut and resolved to "do more than kiss next time". From there, you can tell she has no respect for him; then the following mental gymnastics he used to make it all okay only prove he has no respect for himself. Christ almighty. He was so worried about the absence of his masculinity he decided that if he was a super-feminist he'd be too advanced to need it anymore. Also, content: Me [29F] with my boyfriend [30M] weird sims behavior quote:This will be quite a strange question but I never grew up playing video games so alas this is all foreign to me. We've been dating for a year and a half and its been great. Usually if I am at his apartment when he plays video games I'm in the next room reading a book, its our separate time. But today I walked in with food and I saw his sims family. It was a guy that looked like him and a woman that looked nothing like me. I'm a redhead and she was blonde. He was having sex with her in the game right in front of me like nothing was wrong and trying to romance her. Just wondering if I should be worried, it seems like he made the sim based on his own appearances... I ignored it but now I can't stop thinking about it. Is this just a normal sims thing? How upset do you think she'll be when she finds out he made her first then took the ladder out of the pool while she was swimming?
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Leon Einstein posted:I don't think these guys think things through. It is extremely easy for women to get laid. The woman in an open relationship will universally have better luck than the guy. These guys are delusional. I've always kind of assumed that guys who get fussy and pressure open relationships are just fussy that they haven't slept with enough women to meet their magical fictional quota and don't realize that central to this problem is they just can't take a loving chill pill and stop obsessing over "missed opportunities." The result of course being that their lovely attitudes about women and sex lead them to not being successful after the relationship opens up, while the relatively well-adjusted partner who doesn't have possessing worries about this is more successful. Et voila, partners meets other people and finds out the fussy child with weird sexual preoccupations is kind of offputting so of course the relationship is ruined. Like a chicken and egg thing maybe. tl;dr people who pressure their partners for open relationships are pathetic imo
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# ? Nov 4, 2016 04:57 |
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Anony Mouse posted:Stop biting off on the circular open relationship circle jerk or you assholes will close the thread. i wonder do you have to be really attractive to get away with being a humongous douchenozzle or just date someone really stupid
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Tolkien minority posted:i wonder do you have to be really attractive to get away with being a humongous douchenozzle or just date someone really stupid Spoiler most of these people are probably fat & dumb Girlfriend [25f] wanted to marry me just because her friend got married. I [28m] proposed. Girlfriend has now been complaining ever since that the proposal wasn't beautiful enough. quote:First of all, I do not want to hit the lawyer. Don't ask me to do that. "I don't mind if my lawful wife is you, we've been going out for awhile so, get married, don't get married, don't really care I guess, but you're being kind of annoying about it, so to calm you down about your wedding fever, here's this $10k rock. Shut up about Italy now." Nancy fucked around with this message at 05:11 on Nov 4, 2016 |
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Charles Get-Out posted:Girlfriend [25f] wanted to marry me just because her friend got married. I [28m] proposed. Girlfriend has now been complaining ever since that the proposal wasn't beautiful enough. there is no part of this title that is good
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# ? Nov 4, 2016 05:20 |
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Ugggghhhhh grossssss
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# ? Nov 4, 2016 05:29 |
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He should dump her, in Paris, at the top of the Eiffel Tower.
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