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I once read an article about how a man with a micropenis learned to be happy with his micropenis by developing a fetish for people making fun of how small and worthless his penis was. It is the same rationale--oh, I am being mistreated because of something I cannot change, because of the way I naturally am. Well, what if I just accept that, in fact, not just accept it, but pretend that I like it! Convince myself that I like it! Doesn't that solve the problem? And my answer in both cases is, no. You deserve someone who loves you for the way that you actually are. Tricking yourself into thinking that you enjoy the abuse, does not change that it is abuse. Real love comes from, well, love that is grounded in reality. You should not convince yourself that you are happily in love, when you are not and are you not being treated like someone who is loved.
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I think we might have a nice bumper crop coming up my [17f] boyfriend [16m] is scared of Hillary Clinton winning the election quote:hi reddit! excuse any formatting issues, i'm on mobile and this is my first time posting ever. i'm 17f, bf is 16m, we've been dating for 5 months (friends for 8 months beforehand, so we've known each other for over a year).
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Jeffrey of YOSPOS posted:still thinking about this....It's certainly common for guys to purposely go after "desperate women", but is it that often that they are self-aware enough to admit that it's their actual plan, let alone articulate it for others to read? Like, subconsciously choosing places to go where they might encounter the less-discerning happens every day I'm sure, but he's so straightforward, affixing "desperate" onto his preferences the way another might add extra cheese to their burger order. I think this is how damsel-in-distress rescue fetishes come to happen, and one day you wake up and realize you are dating heroin addicts, prostitutes, and the homeless. Chomp8645 posted:Is this what burlesque is???? If burlesque existed in a vacuum where fat girls just go to feel desirable and have fun, that would be fine. Everyone needs to feel needed sometimes, and everyone needs to have fun. Sadly, fat girls have spent their whole lives developing overpowering and horrifying fat girl complexes so now you get to see truly repugnant human beings dress up as Finn from Adventure Time and wobble their balloon-like badly-tattooed chest at you while telling "jokes" (i.e., reciting lines directly) from Homestuck or Bob's Burgers or whatever. I don't mean to sound like I'm down on women or women's empowerment, but burlesque attracts the worst loving people.
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Lockback posted:I think we might have a nice bumper crop coming up Becoming a client state of Russia is certainly a great way to avoid war with Russia
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Lockback posted:I think we might have a nice bumper crop coming up Jeb Lund isn't 16, what the heck?
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Not election related, but this woman seems like a rationale human being. Me [27 F] with my mindfulness group facilitator [31 M] met yesterday afternoon, I think I made a huge mistake playing hard to get! quote:Hi. I honestly think I met my soulmate yesterday afternoon at a mindfulness workshop I attended. He was the facilitator .. our eyes were locked almost the entire time and I kept making him blush, I'm sure I was blushing a lot too. He was basically caressing me with his eyes, I could see / feel it .. I just felt so connected to him but mostly his headspace, we have so much in common mentally it just was overflowing because we both obviously find eachother attractive too. So .. before leaving he said .. 'everyone leave your email address so I can send you the videos if you want ..' i didn't leave mine! I'm sure he thinks he'll never see me again but I plan to go next week. I hope he asked for my number then, I am almost certain he proposed leaving email addresses so he could contact me. At this point I'm embarrassed about him seeing through my foolish game. I am hoping that he likes me enough to look past it. My heart is really burning for him, I can't believe I walked away from things like that!
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quote:My [34M] wife [29F] cheated on me with her best friend's brother. I forgave her for cheating, but now she refuses to cut off contact with her best friend (who knew about the cheating).
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# ? Nov 8, 2016 22:40 |
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Wellllll...poo poo, that's a tough call.
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# ? Nov 8, 2016 22:43 |
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^^ sounds like shes already planning the wedding. Run mindfulness teacher, run.
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# ? Nov 8, 2016 22:44 |
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Lockback posted:Not election related, but this woman seems like a rationale human being.
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Tiny Deer posted:I always thought of it as rugby on skates. Is that accurate at all? I had no idea there even were men's leagues. Part of my heart wanted to believe roller derby was solely the province of hard-eyed punk lesbians. Eh there's hitting and stuff, it's a full contact sport and I've heard a lot more bones crack than I'd really like, but I don't know much about rugby to compare it to. There are five skaters on a track per team, one skater on each team tries to lap the opposing team's skaters to score points, and everyone else is trying to hit them and block them - but there's rules to how and when you can hit a skater and nearly as many refs at a given bout as active skaters on the track. There are definitely hard-eyed punk lesbians who wish it was a woman's-only thing, but that's even farther from the topic at hand than we started at. 54 40 or gently caress posted:Oh man yeah, it's intense! I can't remember the name but I caught the majority of a documentary on derby culture and it's is definitely interesting. I think the people your referring to are the ones who stay, my town isn't huge so it's definitely not the rule in anyway but there's a decently high dropout rate. Oh yeah, totally - like I said, it definitely attracts those people. The thing though is that roller derby leagues are (almost always) supportive, practically to a fault. Nobody there is actively trying to prey on people with low self confidence, they want to help you grow it! And if someone fades out and decides it's not their thing or not what they expected, that's fine too - but anyone you see on a track at a bout has at the very, very least passed a standardized minimum skills test involving a bunch of agility checks, safe falling and hitting procedures, several different types of stops, and skating 27 laps in five minutes. At that point, you can rest assured they're not really doing it to feel sexy or flash their boobs around - it takes dedication.
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# ? Nov 8, 2016 22:46 |
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I like women's hockey, seems like a real cool thing that brings a lot of athletic and self-confident people together. I think it has some similarities.
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Lockback posted:I think we might have a nice bumper crop coming up There is literally no way this impressionable 16m has read "most of" the leaked emails. I really don't think that's possible and if he did he is severely mentally ill. Lockback posted:Not election related, but this woman seems like a rationale human being. This girl is gonna be super disappointed when the facilitator does nothing because she has done nothing except for make eye contact and made the situation awkward. Like, I got my first relationship by starring a lot, but I was also 16 and dumb and at least said something. Pick posted:I once read an article about how a man with a micropenis learned to be happy with his micropenis by developing a fetish for people making fun of how small and worthless his penis was. It is the same rationale--oh, I am being mistreated because of something I cannot change, because of the way I naturally am. Well, what if I just accept that, in fact, not just accept it, but pretend that I like it! Convince myself that I like it! Doesn't that solve the problem? And my answer in both cases is, no. You deserve someone who loves you for the way that you actually are. Tricking yourself into thinking that you enjoy the abuse, does not change that it is abuse. Real love comes from, well, love that is grounded in reality. You should not convince yourself that you are happily in love, when you are not and are you not being treated like someone who is loved. This is a weird one for me because quite a bit of BDSM play revolves around humiliation. What separates this micropenis dude from a dyed-in-the-wool fetishist?
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# ? Nov 8, 2016 22:57 |
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If I was Noelle I probably wouldn't have told the guy either and it's weird how much he expects her to have. Also, what the hell, a mindfulness seminar?
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tactlessbastard posted:If I was Noelle I probably wouldn't have told the guy either and it's weird how much he expects her to have. I wondered the same thing. What do you get, an app that shrieks "Mind your manners! Brush your teeth! Clean your room!" every five minutes?
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I was under the impression mindfulness is what exceptionally suburban white women call meditation or awareness.
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food court bailiff posted:I was under the impression mindfulness is what exceptionally suburban white women call meditation or awareness. The nanny app would be more useful than that!
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# ? Nov 9, 2016 00:12 |
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Mindfulness generally refers to mindfulness meditation. It's pretty cool, helps you realize when you're doing stuff out of habit or routine among other things. Mindfulness itself is like, a state of generally being aware of what it is your doing at any given time. I like it, come at me. There's an e/n thread here: http://forums.somethingawful.com/showthread.php?threadid=3773224 Jeffrey of YOSPOS fucked around with this message at 00:14 on Nov 9, 2016 |
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quote:My [21F] boyfriend [24M] wants to break up because he doesn't like me enough to marry and have kids with me harmless enough. then she posts this in the comments: quote:Does it make a difference that we are in an open relationship? Just up until last week we were chatting and even sexting as normal. I just dont know what changed. ah yeah, that might've been helpful to note. i wonder what could have happened in your long-distance open relationship of six months
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I like the updated stories because they usually have somewhat of a conclusion.quote:Me [34M] with my wife [32F] of five years. I know she's cheating on me, I can't bring myself to confront her. quote:[UPDATE] Me [34M] with my wife [32F] of five years. I know she's cheating on me, I can't bring myself to confront her.
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Gaunab posted:I like the updated stories because they usually have somewhat of a conclusion. Glad the chocolatier gathered up his self-respect and ended that farce. Good for him.
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# ? Nov 9, 2016 01:54 |
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That's sad, as in sorrowful, but good for him (and her?) for being adult about it, change of pace from what normally gets posted
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# ? Nov 9, 2016 02:03 |
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Poor guy couldn't even get a blowjob while she was out for over a year sucking robs big ole dick gently caress why would she think for a SECOND that he would entertain getting back with her he must be loving ugly or something i guess
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# ? Nov 9, 2016 02:25 |
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And Rob must be really really good looking. I'm jealous.
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# ? Nov 9, 2016 02:26 |
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So, you guys are saying I should check out the local burlesque scene for some easy trim? Derby girls are probably more my type, but they could beat me up if I said something stupid.
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# ? Nov 9, 2016 02:30 |
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glad things worked out for the chocolatier cuckolatier
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# ? Nov 9, 2016 02:33 |
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Well if Rob is that handsome then the chocolate man should have thrown down into that 3F + 2M pile (Correct ratio to ensure chance of balls touching is low enough to be deemed an acceptable risk)
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# ? Nov 9, 2016 02:36 |
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My [20/f] date [25/m] turned out to be much shorter than it said on his profileDatingquote:I'm 5'8 so I'm pretty tall, and it's always a bonus when a guy lists his height on a dating profile because then I know if he's taller than me. This might sound shallow, but I don't feel too terrible about it. Some guys don't wanna date me cause I'm not athletic enough or for other reasons and that's just fine, everyone has preferences!
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Pvt.Scott posted:So, you guys are saying I should check out the local burlesque scene for some easy trim? Derby girls are probably more my type, but they could beat me up if I said something stupid. That's the best part!
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quote:Me [26F] with my b/f [28 M/F] together 2 years, basically he's telling me he will not commit to us if I do not get rid of my best friend (27m)
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# ? Nov 9, 2016 02:48 |
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does she ever explain what she means by [M/F] when shes talking about her boyfriend
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# ? Nov 9, 2016 02:54 |
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I know this is trite, but it's a truism for a reason: you simply cannot go below the waist with your friends and have poo poo not get weird. They did and things were probably ok for a long time, which is extraordinarily lucky. But now those chickens are coming home to roost, because to her boyfriend and every other person on earth, Tom isn't her BFF. He's her ex-gently caress buddy.
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# ? Nov 9, 2016 02:56 |
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I wonder how long she let him rub his boner on her butt.
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# ? Nov 9, 2016 02:58 |
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CharlestonJew posted:does she ever explain what she means by [M/F] when shes talking about her boyfriend
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Pick posted:Being involved in burlesque and etc is the biggest loving red flag. Empowered my rear end. It is about seeking validation that you are sexually attractive. If you were in a happy monogamous relationship, why exactly would you need that? I never thought I'd say this, but I agree with Pick. Chicks who get super into burlesque are sad and pathetic and looking for validation that they will never find.
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Pvt.Scott posted:So, you guys are saying I should check out the local burlesque scene for some easy trim? Derby girls are probably more my type, but they could beat me up if I said something stupid. Sounds right up my alley. Where do I sign up?
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# ? Nov 9, 2016 03:49 |
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lol just lol if you're a man and haven't experienced the euphoric pleasure of being savagely beaten by a plus size woman in a leather and/or rockabilly outfit.
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# ? Nov 9, 2016 03:56 |
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Goddamn people should really from people they've slept with but stopped seeing. Clean break, everybody moves on, next partner doesn't have to see your stinky exes hanging around, it's doing everyone a favor.
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# ? Nov 9, 2016 04:30 |
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update from lego boyfriend, to the surprise of absolutely no one he's a massive manchild My bf [25M], of two years claimed he couldn't travel with me [22F] because he wanted to save money. he just spent a tone of cash on toys quote:Sorry guys I can't seem to update normally, it gets locked out that it needs to be one update (it is the one/only update so not sure ?) and placing a link to the old post is also locking the post so please check history if you'd like to see it. quote:He has nothing against traveling as long as its to Europe.
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Tolkien minority posted:update from lego boyfriend, to the surprise of absolutely no one he's a massive manchild
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