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Gumbel2Gumbel posted:Wow. Prioritizing having children over your relationship is a sign that it's not a relationship worth having Speaking as someone that wouldn't have chosen to have kids and married someone that made it clear she wanted kids. We agreed on two and we're a day away from our ten year anniversary. beaten but oh well its on last page anyway.
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quote:My(F26) husband(M29) is going to fire my sister's(F27) husband(M33) tomorrow. How do I talk to her? I'm pretty sure that this is an O. Henry story in the making.
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# ? Nov 23, 2016 16:57 |
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I'm positive it's not the same line of work I was in, but I was told I needed to write up one co-worker and fire another whom I was friends with and I told management that it would create conflict in my personal life if I did so and someone else did it. I feel like that should be a rule everywhere.
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# ? Nov 23, 2016 17:04 |
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La Brea Carpet posted:I'm pretty sure that this is an O. Henry story in the making. While it sucks he's getting fired, he unleashed a torrent of racial slurs at a coworker and admitted to it.
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# ? Nov 23, 2016 17:14 |
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quote:My [21f] friend [21m] acts creepy with women, like following random girls around the campus at night. How can I tell him to stop?
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# ? Nov 23, 2016 17:15 |
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They should probably get someone else to do the firing if possible?
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# ? Nov 23, 2016 17:16 |
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Is it really that hard to say "what the gently caress do you mean you can't" and if he doesn't elaborate say "that's bullshit, stop doing it you loving idiot"
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# ? Nov 23, 2016 17:17 |
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This guy is definitely a rapist in the making
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# ? Nov 23, 2016 17:18 |
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Breetai posted:America. Man. We had our Thanksgiving get together at work and everyone was supposed to bring a dish. I brought a pecan pie, which is whatever. But someone brought some kind of...it was literally a bowl of canned peas, scoops of mayo and handfuls of shredded cheese. How do you even do this
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# ? Nov 23, 2016 17:24 |
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Gaunab posted:While it sucks he's getting fired, he unleashed a torrent of racial slurs at a coworker and admitted to it. True, but getting a guy hired and then firing him just before a holiday has to feel awful.
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# ? Nov 23, 2016 17:25 |
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zakharov posted:They should probably get someone else to do the firing if possible? Yeah, really. I once had a lovely job at the same place my (then) girlfriend worked. She made a pretty big mistake one day and faced disciplinary charges... and she worked directly under me. They made me do the disciplinary despite my request that my senior really should do it, given the obvious conflict of interest. That said, she just cocked up something that resulted in some money being lost. If she'd started spewing out a torrent of racial slurs I would've fired her and dumped her, because I'm not mental.
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# ? Nov 23, 2016 17:26 |
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Quote-Unquote posted:Yeah, really. I once had a lovely job at the same place my (then) girlfriend worked. She made a pretty big mistake one day and faced disciplinary charges... and she worked directly under me. They made me do the disciplinary despite my request that my senior really should do it, given the obvious conflict of interest. Sounds sexy. Whose a naughty girl who is being written up? Here, sign this please, we need a paper trail to complete the disciplinary process.
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# ? Nov 23, 2016 17:28 |
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54 40 or gently caress posted:Sounds sexy. Whose a naughty girl who is being written up? Here, sign this please, we need a paper trail to complete the disciplinary process. Don't do it again, or I'll finger you to completion a second time! E: I think our stalker may be hunting vampires.
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# ? Nov 23, 2016 17:30 |
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54 40 or gently caress posted:Sounds sexy. Whose a naughty girl who is being written up? Here, sign this please, we need a paper trail to complete the disciplinary process. If only. She was pissed at me for doing it
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# ? Nov 23, 2016 17:34 |
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Sounds like she needs a corrective disciplinary. With a penis, I mean.
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# ? Nov 23, 2016 17:39 |
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Maybe I am broken. I don't mind kids if they're well behaved and polite. And I have, at times, tolerated kids when they were being bratty/fussy but there have been times when I have failed to do so as well. (I'm working on it.) I am not a fan of screaming/misbehaving children and prefer not to be around them. However, a shrieking kid in my vicinity won't ruin my whole day or traumatize me forever. (Though I definitely have a bad time while they're carrying on.) And if the kid is young (3 or less) there really isn't much the parent can do to calm them or quiet then beyond the stuff they've always done which may or may not work. What bothers me the most about fussy/misbehaving kids, however, is that there is nothing I can do to help. I like to be proactive and try to solve/resolve my own issues. But there is nothing I can do in response to a screaming/tantruming child but grit my teeth and endure it or relocate myself. Because going up to either the parents or the kid, even if you know them very well or are family, and trying to help is a bad thing. I learned this when I tried to calm down my 4 year old cousin who was wailing and carrying on about wanting her mom when her mom was unavailable (because she was sick and trying to recover.) Her dad and closer family's solution of ignoring her or trying to distract her wasn't working and was only causing her to ramp up the volume and act out more. So I took the time to sit down with her and ask her if she had ever gotten sick, which she confirmed, and explained to her that sometimes moms get sick too and need some time to themselves to get better. While I was explaining this to her her dad interrupted me and was pretty upset with me saying poo poo like, "It's all about you, Jenner." And yeah, in hindsight even though everyone was miserable and nothing was working I should have stayed the gently caress out of it because the girl wasn't my kid to parent. My point is, even though I really suffer around kids who are being terrible and do not like them and really detest bad parents parenting bad I just draw the line at hating children and people who want to have children or choose to have children to the core of my soul. It seems really irrational and excessive to me. I kind of want to make some r/childfree posts where I detail my experiences with screaming children in restaurants where I just silently suffered through it while I finished my meal, paid for it, and left because JFC get over yourself.
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# ? Nov 23, 2016 17:41 |
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Jenner posted:I learned this when I tried to calm down my 4 year old cousin who was wailing and carrying on about wanting her mom when her mom was unavailable (because she was sick and trying to recover.) Her dad and closer family's solution of ignoring her or trying to distract her wasn't working and was only causing her to ramp up the volume and act out more. So I took the time to sit down with her and ask her if she had ever gotten sick, which she confirmed, and explained to her that sometimes moms get sick too and need some time to themselves to get better. While I was explaining this to her her dad interrupted me and was pretty upset with me saying poo poo like, "It's all about you, Jenner." And yeah, in hindsight even though everyone was miserable and nothing was working I should have stayed the gently caress out of it because the girl wasn't my kid to parent. Her dad sounds like a total loving rear end in a top hat. How were you making it all about you?
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# ? Nov 23, 2016 17:43 |
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The posting is coming from inside the thread!!
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# ? Nov 23, 2016 17:44 |
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WampaLord posted:Her dad sounds like a total loving rear end in a top hat. How were you making it all about you?
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# ? Nov 23, 2016 17:44 |
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Jenner posted:So I took the time to sit down with her and ask her if she had ever gotten sick, which she confirmed, and explained to her that sometimes moms get sick too and need some time to themselves to get better. While I was explaining this to her her dad interrupted me and was pretty upset with me saying poo poo like, "It's all about you, Jenner." And yeah, in hindsight even though everyone was miserable and nothing was working I should have stayed the gently caress out of it because the girl wasn't my kid to parent. what It sounds like you were the only person that actually knows how to deal with a child. Kids aren't totally dumb and most of the time if you take a while to actually explain poo poo to them they'll get it.
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# ? Nov 23, 2016 17:47 |
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Gaunab posted:guy who "can't" stop stalking women You know it's a good Reddit post when the most sympathetic explanation is "your friend is a tormented ghost, chained to this world by his sins, compelled to reenact his terrible life"
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Jenner posted:What bothers me the most about fussy/misbehaving kids, however, is that there is nothing I can do to help. I like to be proactive and try to solve/resolve my own issues. But there is nothing I can do in response to a screaming/tantruming child but grit my teeth and endure it or relocate myself. Because going up to either the parents or the kid, even if you know them very well or are family, and trying to help is a bad thing. That sounds like you did the right thing in the situation with the crying kid. Instilling a sense of empathy is the way to go. I'm sure her father was annoyed from all of the crying and upset that another family member had stepped in to help, but I'm fairly sure that didn't warrant a verbal reprimand. I'm not sure how helping a child understand their situation is "all about you" from the limited info here. I guess their default method was to just let the kid have at it and they saw you as stepping in because it was annoying as gently caress? (It was) Don't worry about being broken. Parents hate the screaming, crying, whining and arguing too, they just put up with it longer than seems feasible.
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# ? Nov 23, 2016 17:56 |
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Jenner posted:"It's all about you, Jenner. But enough about America's most famous transsexual...
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# ? Nov 23, 2016 17:59 |
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Danaru posted:Submitted 7 hours ago: The "ghoster" and the "dumper" are two different people.
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# ? Nov 23, 2016 18:00 |
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Quote-Unquote posted:what Looks heavily editorialised to me because the reaction the dad had is a complete non-sequitur from what OP allegedly calmly and empathetically explained to the kid from the goodness of their heart.
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# ? Nov 23, 2016 18:01 |
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Gaunab posted:There was a time when GBS had that kind on anti-child rhetoric. There was a time when GBS was full of the kinds of monsters that inhabit D&D. Fortunately, times change.
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# ? Nov 23, 2016 18:03 |
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Jeza posted:Looks heavily editorialised to me because the reaction the dad had is a complete non-sequitur from what OP allegedly calmly and empathetically explained to the kid from the goodness of their heart. Yeah, I don't want to derail but I'm not sure how good I was about dealing with the fussy kid before I intervened. On my end, I felt I was trying really hard to just grit my teeth and bear it and such but maybe I wasn't? I might have been cringing, squirming uncomfortably, or making other displays of displeasure at the situation. And while I can't recall ever voicing a complaint about the behavior but I can't for sure say I didn't. I do feel that out of everyone there I was the one who was suffering the most so maybe that is how it was "all about me"? (In that, my efforts to stop the problem behavior were all about me when everyone else was fine with it. I don't know.) I know I meant well and that I did the right thing but it wasn't my thing to do (and I definitely should not have asked her father to do it either because telling a parent how to parent their kids is just asking for a bucket of misery and drama.) In hindsight I should have asked her dad and gotten his permission to talk to/engage with his kid (and explained everything and my reasoning and such.) And even then that might have been a powder keg The general lesson seems to be that if they're not your kid stay out of it unless they're being abused. Anyway, creepy follower guy needs to explain why he "can't" stop following people because that's some lovely behavior. Jenner fucked around with this message at 18:23 on Nov 23, 2016 |
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Antivehicular posted:You know it's a good Reddit post when the most sympathetic explanation is "your friend is a tormented ghost, chained to this world by his sins, compelled to reenact his terrible life" My thought was "the Origami Killer is threatening to murder his son Shaun unless he completes trials to prove he is a good father, like for example The Trial Of The Huge loving Creep"
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# ? Nov 23, 2016 18:23 |
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RNG posted:Soon to be UN-friend just posted a pic of her little gently caress trophy TOUCHING Monet's Water Lillies in Paris. No shame. Bragging about it in facebook to her friends. I am seething, and must control the murder rage. OK so sorry to run back to this childfree Monet thing but it's bothering me because absolutely nobody comes out of this well. The parents are smug philistines, the OP is a hysterical, self-important nonsense. But to be honest, what's bothering me the most about this is that I had no idea how that painting has been framed. Talk about literally gilding the lily, gently caress.
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# ? Nov 23, 2016 18:27 |
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loquacius posted:My thought was "the Origami Killer is threatening to murder his son Shaun unless he completes trials to prove he is a good father, like for example The Trial Of The Huge loving Creep" https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DAhG9D9UO7c
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# ? Nov 23, 2016 18:29 |
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I [30/F] am having a lot of issues with my roommates [28/M, 26/F] who don't contribute and call me "Mom."quote:We're three nerds who share a nice three bedroom house in suburbia which my roommate "Tina"s [26/F] father owns. We'll call my other roommate "Sam" [28/M]. I met them about three years ago through a mutual friend and I moved in with them about three months ago. We all work and pay our rent/bills fine, there's no issues there, but things have been getting progressively complicated.
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SENTIENT HOUSEMEAT posted:OK so sorry to run back to this childfree Monet thing but it's bothering me because absolutely nobody comes out of this well. The parents are smug philistines, the OP is a hysterical, self-important nonsense.
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^what in the god drat hellSENTIENT HOUSEMEAT posted:OK so sorry to run back to this childfree Monet thing but it's bothering me because absolutely nobody comes out of this well. The parents are smug philistines, the OP is a hysterical, self-important nonsense. I actually didn't look at the pic the first time. It's still irresponsible but having held Wiggling Toddlers in the past, I wonder if the baby reaching out and touching it wasn't intentional. Like grandad or whatever wanted to take a pic of little gently caress Trophy (this term disgusts me) next to one of history's greatest artists lovely pieces and they just, reached out their hand to touch without being prompted.
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# ? Nov 23, 2016 18:38 |
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WAY TO GO WAMPA!! posted:I [30/F] am having a lot of issues with my roommates [28/M, 26/F] who don't contribute and call me "Mom." is all I can muster
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# ? Nov 23, 2016 18:38 |
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Soylent Grun posted:How soon is too soon to make the move to close the distance? Or, how do I judge whether doing so is too hasty? 1727 MILES OR-MN I cannot fathom the logic behind engaging in a 9 year long LDR. I was in a LDR for almost 1.5 years with my awesome girlfriend of over 2 years and I saw her about twice per month. It was still really goddamn tough and painful at times to be 220 miles away from her until we moved in together... and I'm blown away by some dude who proposes a LDR that loving long with nearly 2k miles between each other. The rest of the post is typical immature decision making, but man, that bit is totally insane and just unbelievable.
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54 40 or gently caress posted:^what in the god drat hell Yeah I agree with you in general, but OP's histrionics aside, it's a little difficult to figure a situation where you post that picture on Facebook without being comfortable with what happened. Having held Wiggling Toddlers as well, I feel like I would prefer to err on the side of caution and say "no photo with the kid who doesn't really understand where they are" than risk something unfortunate happening. Probably this is a perfect storm of smug parents and childfree tantrum and I guess nobody comes out of it too well.
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# ? Nov 23, 2016 18:53 |
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loquacius posted:Is it really that hard to say "what the gently caress do you mean you can't" and if he doesn't elaborate say "that's bullshit, stop doing it you loving idiot" I would do this but be carrying a hammer as I said it to him.
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# ? Nov 23, 2016 18:53 |
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Gumbel2Gumbel posted:I would do this but be carrying a hammer as I said it to him. and swinging it around erratically a bit too
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# ? Nov 23, 2016 19:40 |
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[25, F] My boyfriend [25, M] kicked me out of the car midway through a ride and made me walk home.quote:Ill try to be brief with all the relevant information. I've been dating James since last August. We have lived together since June of this year. We generally have a good relationship. I can be a lot to put up with because I'm pretty needy (but working on it) and he usually does a great job and has generally bent over backwards to make me happy over this time.
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Cough Drop The Beat posted:I cannot fathom the logic behind engaging in a 9 year long LDR. I was in a LDR for almost 1.5 years with my awesome girlfriend of over 2 years and I saw her about twice per month. It was still really goddamn tough and painful at times to be 220 miles away from her until we moved in together... and I'm blown away by some dude who proposes a LDR that loving long with nearly 2k miles between each other. The rest of the post is typical immature decision making, but man, that bit is totally insane and just unbelievable. I accidentally dated a girl who was in a weird LDR once. We went out to dinner a couple of times and after the second date we were making out at her place for a while when she suddenly stopped. She explained to me that she was cheating on her boyfriend, and I asked if it was anyone I knew as we had a decent amount of male friends in common and if it was someone I was friends with I would feel kinda bad. It was actually some dude from Ireland (we both live in the US) that she had never met in person before, but they had been "dating" for ~6 months. I told her do what she wants, and the next day she told me she wanted to make it work with him. They did that poo poo for 2 or 3 years while only seeing each other in person for probably 2 or 3 weeks out of the year. I talked to her room mate about how strange that seemed to me and her room mate informed me that at no point had either intended on moving to be geographically together. And thats the story of how a woman told me I'm worse than an LDR with an internet person.
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